TheRuffLife
360 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 months ago - ★★★★★ - 9 ratingsStories and randomness, and a little peace protection. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
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The 3 Amigos responses to the article about 28 places women refuse to go on their first date.
October 27, 2023 20:42 - 26 minutes - 24.3 MBMe and my girls, Rachel and Kayatta aka Bird, take on the list of restaurants (28) we would/wouldn’t want to go to, on a first date. Is this list based on age? Who are the ladies that were surveyed and what are their ages? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Ranting, Singing, Lighting and Playing
October 27, 2023 17:45 - 11 minutes - 5.36 MBOn your self-care journey, hopefully, you will find things to do, that will help you increase your self-care. There are ways to help us along the way, and one of them is to STOP Ranting on social media. It zaps your spirit and gives no peace. Get somewhere and sat down. Sing a song that breathes life into your soul, and sing it loud. Also, I have found that scented candles help us relax and wind down from the days stresses. And if you have done the above, get yourself a dog/cat. Animals have ...
Letting Go, Correcting Others, and Choosing You
October 27, 2023 17:19 - 10 minutes - 5.11 MBAs young girls, we had lists of who we would marry, how many kids, etc., Some of us have held on to those lists, and cannot figure out why no one met the criteria. Try letting go of that list and just be in the moment. No one can be all the things you want and neither can you. Choose love, and don’t be afraid of being vulnerable, and getting your heart broke. While you are deciding whether or not you want to rid yourself from the list, remember that there are things about you that you have no...
SCFBW-Mentoring others, Checking your Spirit, and Learning to forgive yourself
October 27, 2023 16:37 - 9 minutes - 4.57 MBThere is always someone who needs information that we have, but finding that person may not know that they need what you have to offer. Make sure the person (mentee) wants to be mentored. Let us pass on that which was passed down to us. While becoming a mentor seems great, let us not forget to Check-in with our Spirit. We cannot walk around with an unwell Spirit, a cup that is half full. We need to make sure our Spirit is functioning well, then we can give from a good place because we have th...
SCFBW-Volunteering, Learning and Reading
October 25, 2023 15:43 - 9 minutes - 4.57 MBAs we continue on our journey of self-care, we will add to the list of things we do to practice our self-care. Some of things that we can do or improve on is Volunteering, Learning, and Reading. These things are ways we can help ourselves and others. Volunteering is a great way to meet others but more importantly, occupy ourselves, helping others and not focusing on our problems. As we volunteer, we will learn new things, which we can possibly use, but learning a “New” Language, is definitely...
SCFBW-Writing a Letter, Phoning a Friend, and Asking for Help
October 24, 2023 19:40 - 10 minutes - 4.94 MBSome cool ways to elevate our self-care are sometimes by writing a letter to our future selves, phoning a friend and by asking for help. Writing a letter can be a way of accomplishing goals that you have set for yourself as well as increasing your spiritual wellness. As we grow, we must not forget to phone a friend. Most people have someone to reach out to; someone who can help get us through some painful moments in our life. Lastly, but more importantly, we have to ask for help. Some of us c...
SCFBW-Healing Wounds, Finding a Hobby and Exploring Black Art
October 24, 2023 19:12 - 9 minutes - 4.45 MBHealing wounds are one way to start our self-care, is to heal our wounds, and healing our mother wound, is of the most importance. Healing is for us, and sometimes we must go through the process, to be able to move forward. Along our self-care journey, we need to find something fun to put our energy into. As we heal and find hobbies, we need to make sure we continue to explore black art. Black art tells a story, and some of those stories, we need to hear. So, as we continue on our self-care j...
SCFBW-Finding Joy, Writing Ambitions and Connecting Online
October 24, 2023 18:28 - 8 minutes - 4.25 MBIn a world that is not always kind to black women, we are told to find our joy. Learning that we do not have to earn the joy we seek, we must convince ourselves that it is already ours. While we are finding our joy, we need to write down any ambitions. Writing helps us to remember what we wrote. We need to look at our ambitions and as we achieve them, cross them out or burn them. After we’ve found our joy, and wrote our ambitions, we must remember to connect with like-minded black women, onli...
SCFBW-Stopping, Leaving and Joining
October 23, 2023 19:52 - 12 minutes - 6.09 MBStop dating people who only fetishize you. People who say you look exotic and they have never dated a black woman. Pick and choose your battles. Whatever you do, don’t forget the red flags. They are there to warn you of the signs of someone who doesn’t have your best interest, but their own. And talking about “red flags” working at a job that is unfulfilling and stagnant is as a red flag to move on or get burnout. Make sure you’re getting something out of the work place that is fulfilling to ...
SCFBW-Making, Celebrating and Showing
October 23, 2023 19:24 - 9 minutes - 4.35 MBSometimes we have to start putting things in place, especially when we have been given tools to assist us in feeling better about ourselves. So making a “gratitude “ jar is one way to show gratefulness. As we move along with the teachings of caring for ourselves, we must not forget to Celebrate the black women around us, including family members. Give these women their flowers while they live, it will make your relationships better, because we recognize that we have been supported by our wome...
SCFBW-Reconnecting
October 22, 2023 18:48 - 5 minutes - 2.81 MBReconnecting to Your Higher Power is of great importance because that’s where you find your vibration and peace. Reconnecting with Your Tribe and moving in a formation, specific to you, and for you can get you Grounded. Being grounded is what stability looks like. It’s that thing that informs you, that you are, where you should be. Take some time to reconnect, at any time, throughout this week, and tell me if being around your tribe, strengthened you. --- Send in a voice message: https://...
SCFBW-Traveling, Supporting and Building
October 22, 2023 18:13 - 11 minutes - 5.4 MBTraveling is a great way for black women or any woman can find themselves. You get to know yourself and see some things that might be good or not so good. Either way, learn to love on yourself and be okay with being with yourself. Supporting black businesses whether you live in a black neighborhood or not, is essential to generational wealth, and Building a “Healthy Sisterhood”. Being around women who motivate you and understand you is strengthening and builds up confidence. Traveling, Suppor...
SCFBW-Developing, Watching and Creating
October 22, 2023 17:50 - 9 minutes - 4.53 MBIf we want to change the way we think about wanting more, we need to develop a different mindset. We need to develop a mindset of Abundance. Also, Watching something funny allows us to not take life too seriously and just laugh. Laughing at yourself is a good place to start. And then we want to make sure we create a financial plan for the Abundance mindset we are developing. Ultimately, these things can move you into an abundance, financially. Get Ready to Grow!!! --- Send in a voice mess...
SCFBW-Releasing, Changing, and Visiting
October 18, 2023 17:56 - 9 minutes - 4.53 MBRelationships that are unhealthy for us, must come to an end. If we are carrying someone else’s burdens and not dealing with our own, we need to breakup with that person, so that we can continue on our self care road. Also, sometimes it’s our environment that is holding us back. When we see this, we need to trust our intuition and make that move. When we move, we should take into consideration, what this place offers us. Beaches can help us to heal. So let’s take care of ourselves by leaving ...
SCFBW-Dating, Planning, and Buying
October 18, 2023 17:36 - 10 minutes - 5.11 MBDate yourself, by spending time alone, doing what you like doing. Plan a girls trip and make sure you do at least one group event. But do not forget to buy a plant for your house, room, etc..it will help you to decrease stress and improve your mood --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Friendships, Riding, and Mentoring
October 18, 2023 17:17 - 10 minutes - 4.95 MBWe need to make time for our friendships. This might mean scheduling time to hang out. We all need someone who we can connect with and laugh with . While scheduling time, make sure this person respects your time and that you cannot and will not be her ride or die. Like, what does that entail anyway? And last but definitely not least, find yourself a mentor to help with work and your relationships. You will feel better, when you take care of yourself and make better decisions. --- Send in a...
SCFBW-Listening, Relaxing, and. Visiting
October 18, 2023 16:55 - 13 minutes - 6.37 MBListening to your intuition is a good thing to do. Don’t let others make decisions for you and if you do, conduct a pros vs cons list to help you with decision making. Relaxing is a must but adding some essential oils could help you to feel better. Visiting your ancestral land might answer questions you need answers to. Also, your ancestral land might be in another state, versus going to another continent, where we know all black people originated from. Listening to yourself, Relaxing, and Vi...
SCFBW-Family History and a Morning Playlist
October 18, 2023 16:09 - 11 minutes - 5.33 MBWhere we come from is just as important to where we are going. We need connect with our ancestors. We need to gather historical information so that we can understand who we are. Also, creating an environment that boost your mood is important, because it sets the tone for your day. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Caffeine Consumption and Hugging
October 05, 2023 14:34 - 6 minutes - 3.3 MBDrinking too much coffee is not good for getting a good nights sleep, so let’s scale back and enjoy a nights of sleep. Also, hug someone, it will do your body and their body good. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Treating Ourselves and Planning
October 05, 2023 14:23 - 6 minutes - 3.36 MBWe owe it to treat ourselves to some fun and what better way than to get pampered at a nail salon. If we plan a self care day, we prioritize us and our needs. Don’t be afraid of taking time for yourself, I’m sure you deserve it. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Lotion and Fasting
October 05, 2023 13:53 - 8 minutes - 4.3 MBLotion is for everyone, especially for those who think don’t need it. Check your heels. Fasting is a good for helping you to stay focused, make decisions or even lose weight. Try it, you might like it! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Communications and Braided hair
October 05, 2023 13:34 - 7 minutes - 3.82 MBTake some time out to get your thoughts together, so you can communicate your needs. Practice going over what your needs are, so you will be able to communicate, effectively. And, while you’re practicing your communication, go get your hair braided, to help make your daily routine, better. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Humidifier/Cute Pjs/Communication/Braided Hair
October 05, 2023 13:16 - 11 minutes - 5.53 MBTaking care of yourself can be one of the most important things to do. You can’t pour from an empty cup. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW- Swim/Massage/Teeth/Breast
August 16, 2023 20:40 - 13 minutes - 6.62 MBTaking preventive actions, as it relates to our bodies, will prove helpful & healthy, in the long run. Don’t short change yourself. Do things that will increase your wellness. Take care of yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Yoga/Burnout/Hair
August 09, 2023 21:35 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MBTry yoga, take care of your hair and watch out for burnout! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Skincare and Sleep
August 09, 2023 19:58 - 6 minutes - 6.13 MBStart a nighttime routine of cleansing your face, washing the days dirt off of you. While you're preparing for a night of sleep, make sure you have a silk pillowcase, because you already know your bonnet is coming off, and why Noyola be prepared. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Skincare & Sleep
August 09, 2023 19:58 - 6 minutes - 6.13 MBStart a nighttime routine of cleansing your face, washing the days dirt off of you. While you're preparing for a night of sleep, make sure you have a silk pillowcase, because you already know your bonnet is coming off, and why Noyola be prepared. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
Clean and Listen
August 09, 2023 19:36 - 7 minutes - 3.45 MBKeeping a neat house/home and listening to our bodies is beneficial to us all and will do wonders for your health (mental & physical). Take care of yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Sugar and Vacation
August 03, 2023 17:26 - 8 minutes - 4.01 MBWe need less sugar and more vacation days. Everything in moderation. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Sugar & Vacation
August 03, 2023 17:26 - 8 minutes - 4.01 MBWe need less sugar and more vacation days. Everything in moderation. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Bed & Clothes
August 03, 2023 16:26 - 6 minutes - 3.26 MBIf you are not already doing it (making your bed), start today. Creating a routine is good thing. Also, as most women will tell you, retail is a form of therapy, :). Moderation is the key to participating in retail therapy. Don’t spend above your means. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Bed and Clothes
August 03, 2023 16:26 - 6 minutes - 3.26 MBIf you are not already doing it (making your bed), start today. Creating a routine is good thing. Also, as most women will tell you, retail is a form of therapy, :). Moderation is the key to participating in retail therapy. Don’t spend above your means. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Sunscreen and Takeout
August 03, 2023 16:11 - 6 minutes - 3.12 MBYes we need more sunscreen and less takeout. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Sunscreen & Takeout
August 03, 2023 16:11 - 6 minutes - 3.12 MBYes we need more sunscreen and less takeout. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Plants
July 28, 2023 23:06 - 6 minutes - 3.05 MBEat more green plants, it will do wonders for your health (mental & physical). You’re Welcome!!!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Water & Sun
July 16, 2023 15:42 - 8 minutes - 4.01 MBStaying hydrated and the amount of Sun we take in, is essential to living a healthier life. Know the signs of dehydration and Sun exposure. Take care of yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Water and Sun
July 16, 2023 15:42 - 8 minutes - 4.01 MBStaying hydrated and the amount of Sun we take in, is essential to living a healthier life. Know the signs of dehydration and Sun exposure. Take care of yourself. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Advocating & Supplement Plans
July 12, 2023 16:11 - 8 minutes - 4.25 MBWe must advocate for better healthcare. No one knows our bodies better than us. Tell your physician the truth, about the issues your having, so you can get the necessary help. And while you’re getting help, talk to your primary doctor about what supplements would be beneficial for you. Ultimately, it’s your body, and your health. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ru...
SCFBW-Advocating and Supplement Plans
July 12, 2023 16:11 - 8 minutes - 4.25 MBWe must advocate for better healthcare. No one knows our bodies better than us. Tell your physician the truth, about the issues your having, so you can get the necessary help. And while you’re getting help, talk to your primary doctor about what supplements would be beneficial for you. Ultimately, it’s your body, and your health. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ru...
SCFBW-Exercising & Napping
July 12, 2023 15:24 - 7 minutes - 7.07 MBTwo of the most essential things to do, to help with your mood, weight, health, are exercising your body and redo your body. These two things can be game changers as it relates to you being your whole self. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Exercising and Napping
July 12, 2023 15:24 - 7 minutes - 7.07 MBTwo of the most essential things to do, to help with your mood, weight, health, are exercising your body and redo your body. These two things can be game changers as it relates to you being your whole self. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW- Reclaiming our bodies
July 09, 2023 01:35 - 5 minutes - 2.76 MBWe are all Unique; no one is the same. Free yourself from the stereotypes and love yourself, so you can love others. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Bubble Baths and Natural Hair
June 27, 2023 15:40 - 8 minutes - 7.52 MBNot everyone enjoys taking a bath, nor wearing their natural hair, for their own reason(s). But, they both have some positive benefits. Even if you only take 5-15 minutes, because that’s when the water will begin to get colder, taking a bath will free you of the days stress. And wearing your hair natural is not such a foreign thing, like it used to be. I challenge you to do one of the two things or both, and see if you can feel the difference. Radical self care is a must. --- Send in a voi...
SCFBW-Walking and Cooking
June 23, 2023 20:52 - 8 minutes - 4.07 MBTwo strategies that will help you reduce stress. 1) Exerising is essential to combating stress. Long walks will release the endorphins you need to feel better. 2) Cooking allows us to eat what we like, and it helps us to feel like we have accomplished something. Soooo, let’s be good to ouselves. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Walking & Cooking
June 23, 2023 20:52 - 8 minutes - 4.07 MBTwo strategies that will help you reduce stress. 1) Exerising is essential to combating stress. Long walks will release the endorphins you need to feel better. 2) Cooking allows us to eat what we like, and it helps us to feel like we have accomplished something. Soooo, let’s be good to ouselves. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Art & Stretching
June 22, 2023 23:51 - 12 minutes - 6.06 MBLet’s make art (any form). Let yourself go and don’t let anyone stop you, you’ll be amazed at what you like and are good at. A time for you to de stressing and stretching; all to relax. Put yourself in a space of wellness. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Art and Stretching
June 22, 2023 23:51 - 12 minutes - 6.06 MBLet’s make art (any form). Let yourself go and don’t let anyone stop you, you’ll be amazed at what you like and are good at. A time for you to de stressing and stretching; all to relax. Put yourself in a space of wellness. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW-Our Femininity & our Scalp
June 22, 2023 23:37 - 6 minutes - 3.31 MBLoving ourselves the right way. Use what you got!!!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
SCFBW- Part 2: Body
June 15, 2023 17:35 - 6 minutes - 3.25 MBWe need to make sure we have a doctor who is for us and would like us to be physically well, as well as finding our voice through protesting. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support
My PEACE
June 14, 2023 18:21 - 55 seconds - 497 KBA poem about my PEACE. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/phyllis-ruff/support