The Traveling Introvert

How to know if you are micromanaging yourself

How to work with Extroverts

Do you struggle to be heard at work? Many introverts do. Maybe you are compromising your authenticity. Maybe you feel it affecting your health, happiness & family time. I help introverts find their voice while being true to themselves. Visit the latest podcasts (an oldie but goodie - rerun from November 2020, and download the worksheet to explore where you are on the journey to being heard.    

How to make yourself visible at work

I'm grabbing another one from the archives for you this week, and this is a classic one to talk about how you can make your work visible, as well as doing sort of a mini skills assessment to see your areas of strength and your areas of growth so you can access this free four part mini assessment. And let's start by making you the star you deserve to be seen. Grab the free assessment here Hello and welcome to the travelling introvert, or the not so travelling introvert. Today I'm going to...

Put yourself first

This is a great one for the archives and it's currently what I'm doing right now. I would love to know how you prioritize yourself. What things do you put in place to put yourself first? Be it your needs for recharging, be it your needs for creativity, be it your needs for just being able to get 8 hours of sleep. So how do you prioritize yourself first? And please go ahead and let me know in the poll. Do you, number one, engage in self-awareness and development through digital content? Kind ...

Ways to say NO

I said no this month. When's the last time you said what you really wanted to say? No. I said no this month and yes to myself. I'm doing a little bit reworking on my programming and so using this time to bring back some of the most popular episodes from the archive. Now, this particular one is about saying no. You might need to say no to request for your time, to borrow your work, to borrow your materials, or even just wanting someone invading your personal or office space with an in person ...

Stop feeling guilty about self care

Things to do for your staycation

Speaking up is hard do

The lies we tell ourselves

Being sick as an introvert

How to survive public facing roles

Hello and welcome to the not so the travelling introvert. Today, I want to talk about people or client facing jobs. A lot of the time, the assumption is as introverts, we can't do client facing or public facing or high touch jobs. And that is not the case. I know I've spoken about how I used to work in casinos, and that is very much a people skills job, but I want to just talk about some ways that could help you through when you're thinking about jobs or you're in a job that is a people faci...

Quick networking tips

Quick Networking Tips   Networking lets you connect to a variety of helpful people — everyone from potential business partners to new customers — and promote yourself. It doesn’t come easily on learning how to network and build relationships with smart, successful people. But when done right, networking is genuine, comfortable, and extremely valuable for both parties. But how do you get started? And how to do it effectively.   I’m sharing the following insights on this episode. How ...

Why constructive criticism is important

Why constructive criticism is important?   Have you ever wanted to give constructive criticism on something, but held back from doing so because you did not know how to convey your ideas across? Let’s face it, it can be hard to give or receive criticism no matter how it is delivered. But getting comfortable with offering and receiving practical, constructive criticism is helpful to deliver better results, find motivation, and strengthen relationships.   In this episode, I will discus...

How much approval is too much

How much approval is too much   People pleasing doesn’t have to be a life sentence.  But, it can be common problem. This can be normal as we are part of a social and professional system that requires a very wide range of inter-relational skills for us to be happy, appreciated and successful. So, you might be wondering:  what makes a people pleaser? How people-pleasing shows up in your work, social life and more. In fact, every area of your life. And what you can do about it.   I will...

You are not alone in your introvert struggles.

You are not alone in your introvert struggles   In today’s world, it can be hard to be an introvert. Introverts face many struggles, as we navigate extrovert-biased workplaces and social situations. Often, introverts feel exhausted and overwhelmed by the sheer pressure to be more extroverted and like to have ample alone time to recharge and feel at our best. Unfortunately, not everyone understands this.   In this episode, I will share with you the following: Understanding the strugg...

Client privacy

Hello and welcome to the not so travelling introvert. Today I want to talk about client Privacy. So many times there are Facebook groups, popup Facebook groups or posts on social media celebrating that this person and that person and the other person has joined this particular coaching group or coaching program. Or there is a group in Facebook and people join and there's a welcome to the group and listing all the names on that particular post. So here's the thing.   A lot of people who r...

The Continuum of Anger

Hello and welcome to the not so travelling introvert. Today we’re gonna talk about the different facets of anger. Different facets of anger. So more than one way to, I’m angry, that's all it is. This thing happened and I got really angry.   But angry, anger, I should say, is nuanced. There are different things to go through and feelings as far as anger. So how anger grows? Anger and irritation are normal human emotions that we all go through. But it's not something that you need to think...

7 Key Steps to Handle Any Difficult Situation

Have you found yourself in a difficult situation lately? Have you dealt with a difficult client or customer? How do you deal with your customers after a rough start to your day?    In today's episode I discuss:   The 7 steps to handling any difficult conversations or situation.    Remaining calm Listening  Wait until the other person is calm  Apologizing  Find common ground  Move towards an endpoint Next Steps     The Traveling Introvert - About the show The Career ...

Where is home for you?

In today's virtual world it’s all about virtual meetings. In these meetings, there's the age-old question “Where are you from”? This can be a difficult question to answer.    In today's episode I discuss:   Why you don’t want to ask, people “where are you from?”  How to be more inclusive in the way you ask questions.  How to better frame your questions for today's internationally connected world.  Staying conscious about appropriately networking questions.  The Traveling Introv...

Who Do You Find Difficult

Do you have people in your life you find “difficult”? Do you find yourself getting frustrated with the difficult people in your life? Are these negative situations affecting your personal or professional life?   In this episode I discuss:   How to identify patterns in the situations that frustrate you. Identifying your feelings with each difficult situation. What to do with your newly gained insight about your frustrations.   The Traveling Introvert - About the show The Caree...

How Procrastination Will Hinder Your Success

Are you someone who is always pushing tasks off until the last minute? Do you find yourself constantly procrastinating tasks in your personal and professional life?    In this episode I share:   How procrastination can hinder your success.   How procrastination can negatively affect your health.  Why procrastination is the key to destroying your confidence.  How procrastination affects your reputation, trust, and credibility with others.  Why procrastination is making you lose...

How public is public

Do you feel like you have to tell all your friends and family about what you do? Have you heard people say that you should tell everyone about your business ventures because you never know who they know? Are you someone who’s reluctant to share much of your personal life on the internet?   In this episode, I share:   Avoiding the pressure of being everywhere online. Why it’s okay to not share everything about your work or career with everyone in your life.  How building a communit...

Why you should interview even if you have a job you love

Are you someone who is happy with their job, and have no intentions of leaving? What are the benefits of interviewing, even if you’re not looking for a new job?   In this episode, I share:    Why you should interview for jobs even when you aren't looking to move.  Why keeping up to date with the most current interviewing information and interview styles is important.  How interviewing can be a great way to learn more about an organization  How practicing interview skills can be ...

Why you should dream

We have forgotten how to truly dream. The world is full of opportunities, and everything can be reshaped. Sometimes dreamers are seen as abstract creators with a train of thought that's hard to follow. Having a dreamer mind seat doesn't mean you are void of reality. A lot of dreamers are very practical. Here are some benefits to being a dreamer.   Dreamers take nothing as certain or definite. They let their imagination breathe, keeping in mind that your current situation is just a tempor...

Solo Adventures for Introverts

Why would you want to go on a solo journey? Most of us enjoy travel, and that comes in many forms, from a weekend trip or a year-long trip. Most times, we tend to travel with others. But there are reasons to consider traveling alone.    Silence and solitude: our lives are filled with noise and stimuli from the start of our day. Rarely do we get silence and solitude. These are the best times to slow down and reflect. Experiencing retreats alone by yourself in nature can have great benefit...

Focus Boosts

Focus Boosts

How to be more assertive

How to be more assertive   Being assertive doesn't have much to do with being an introvert.  Assertive communication helps you get your message across in a clear, respectful, and direct manner regardless of being an introvert or an extrovert. Assertive communication is a valuable skill to have. It helps you lead with confidence and enables groups to work more effectively as a team. Additionally, assertive communication reduces stress, anger, and depression. Good communication skills prov...

Finding your niche within your job

First 90 days on the job for introverts

Let’s talk about some things that can help you ease into a new job and avoid feeling overworked for those first 90 days and ways to help you avoid burnout.    If possible, look at a calendar, and at 90 days mark, schedule at least a three-day weekend. It’s often the case that at a new job, the new mental processes and all the new learning will have you feeling burnt out at about 90 days. Also, consider the same for 30 days and 60 days if your job allows. Keep federal holidays in mind and...

Employer red flags

Today let’s talk about employers and red flags. There are tell-tell signs from employers that might indicate to you that it’s best not to accept a job offer from them or look for a new job if you are with the company currently.    The first one is the sink or swim method. At first, it might seem like the company has a good onboarding process, but once work starts, you are left to your own devices to succeed or fail on your own. Avoid companies like this because if you are not appropriate...

having a bad attitude can affect your job performance

Let’s talk about how your attitude or mindset can affect your performance.    Studies show a positive correlation between a positive attitude and performing your best. Multiple studies back the idea that a negative attitude leads to poorer performance and quality in work.    A positive attitude encourages constructive thinking, gives you a more optimistic look on life, and it can lead to more energy and motivation to reach your goals. Practice positive thinking, and you should see a ...

Scheduling fun

Let’s talk about making time for fun and creativity.    It’s easy to block out time for work and events you know are happening, and it’s even easy to block out time for rest. But are you also blocking out time for fun? Not vacations or parties. But just something you find to be fun.    Start allowing for some mental white space in your calendar. This time is for sitting, daydreaming, and being creative without distractions from your phone, work, or social media. Truly just sitting wi...

Self compassion

Self Compassion   Let’s talk about the importance of showing self-compassion. It is important to remember that everyone is going through something, whether we know it or not, and we need to learn to be more compassionate towards others and ourselves.   There are times in our lives where we are hard on ourselves. When you do this, you lack self-compassion. The way your inner critic speaks to you would never be an acceptable way to speak to others. Don’t allow yourself to speak that wa...

Creativity boosts

Creativity    We as humans all think of different ways of doing things, we daydream, we work in or out of the home. So even if you don't consider yourself a creative person, we all are all creative by nature.   Solutions start with creativity. The ability to form an idea that brings new and different value to a problem is creativity. There is no need to reinvent the wheel, but thinking of creative ways to help you and those around you daily can be of great benefit. Here are some idea...

Remote leadership tips

Tips for remote team leaders   Let's talk about some ways to be a better remote leader.    First, hire people who can work independently. There is no need to micromanage a team when you can trust that they are getting the job done. Hire candidates who have taken ownership of their work in the past.    Over communicate, and encourage others to do the same. Communication is different when working remotely. Consider a shared google calendar for the entire team (including CEO). Find ...

Traditions

Let's talk about traditions.  What are some things you do during the holidays or the year solely because other people have done them before you, whether alive or dead?   Traditions can be held dearly to us.  But they should be able to grow and change in a way that best suits our lives. Like themes, they should be flexible. When we learn more, we should change the way traditions fit into our lives.    For example, instead of holiday cards this year, I chose to send voice memos with ...

Themes for the new year

We are coming to the end of 2021, and it’s a great time to talk about Themes. These aren’t goals or resolutions for the New Year. But instead, overarching themes for your New Year or even next season.    Traditionally you might start a New Years’ resolution, but these goals tend to be strict and ridged on the intended action. Say “work out every day” or “lose 10 lbs by x date”. And when we miss a day or don’t achieve our goal, it derails the entire resolution, and we then have “failed.” ...

You are the best person for the job

Are you having feelings of imposter syndrome when applying for jobs or when at a new job?   Imposter syndrome at work is especially damaging and can affect you in many ways. Holding you back from promotions, being known as the person that can't be handed an extra task, long hours at work, and overall added stress. Imposter syndrome needs to be dealt with before it derails your career entirely.    Almost everyone has suffered from imposter syndrome at one time or another.    When ...

The lost art of doing nothing

The lost art of doing nothing   You should be scheduling time out to do nothing.    On your days off, you might find that you have lots of things to get done. Whether it is doing chores, seeing people, side projects. You might often find yourself scheduling out your days off instead of allowing yourself to go with where the day takes you.    Due to the nature of technology nowadays, with notifications and easy access to our phones, we gravitate toward that instant gratification, ...

Prioritize yourself

Prioritizing yourself   One of the worst things you can do is feel guilty about prioritizing yourself. Prioritizing yourself is a need, and you should not feel guilty about your needs.    People who care about you will respond healthily to you putting yourself first.  Set boundaries or time for yourself and explain why this designated time is important to you. It May take time, but the people around you that care about you will understand why this time is important to you.    S...

Balancing self-esteem

Balancing self-esteem  Having healthy and balanced self-esteem is key to a happy and healthy life.    Sometimes people assume that introverts don’t have high self-esteem or even that they have low self-esteem. And then, there are times when self-esteem morphs into ego or overconfidence.    There is healthy self-esteem. Here you have the confidence to be honest with yourself. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and you love yourself. Healthy self-esteem encourages you to live y...

Benefits of alone time

As an introvert, you likely like to have alone time.  There are benefits to spending time alone.   Schedule into your days alone time. Here are some benefits to a healthy amount of alone time.   It is important to enjoy your own company, alone time enables you to just be in the moment with yourself. This will overall give you more peace and can make you a better friend    Time alone can encourage creativity. When you are alone and centered you will find that this is when your b...

The problem with multitasking

We all multitask, so being aware of when you are multitasking and why can be very helpful.  Everyone might think they are good multitaskers, but our brains are not wired to multitask; it's not designed for it.  It is important to avoid multitasking when doing specific tasks. (ie. Reading, driving, learning, writing).  What we call "multitasking" is actually task switching. Meaning you go back and forth between tasks. You aren't really doing both at the same time, more so not focusing o...

How to create a time management plan

Have you been thinking about time management and how you block out work time? Are you blocking out your week, month, quarter, year? One of the most important things when planning is creating a time management plan. A time management plan helps you avoid procrastination and make the hours you have count. It can alleviate pressure and let you enjoy your downtime because you know you have put in the hours needed to get your tasks done.  Having a plan ensures you get things done more quick...

Trusting Yourself to Make Good Decisions

We only have the capability to make so many decisions in a day. Little daily tasks like choosing outfits or meals count towards this capacity to make decisions.  It is important to cultivate an environment where you trust yourself to make good decisions.  If you trust your decision-making, you know that everything will be alright or that a good lesson will come from a bad decision.  Here are some ways to start trusting yourself.    Connect with your gut instinct, quiet your mind, fin...

Productivity breaks

Do you have trouble with productivity consistency?  Some days you can get a lot done and then other days you lack the energy to get small tasks done?  A reason for this could be the type of work you are doing or that needed to be done the next day. It could also be mental fatigue. You could be pushing yourself too hard past your work stopping point. Your mind like your body can’t work all out, all the time. Slow and steady will give you a better average of work completed. Get into a good r...

Why problem solving is important

Problem-solving is a crucial skill. All success comes with challenges and obstacles to overcome.  Tips on how to problem solve  1) Be able to adapt and learn: No one has all the answers. Focus on what you have to do to learn the answers using your " Research Mindset." You will need different approaches for different problems.  2) Be confident in your abilities and welcome challenges: Success stories have obstacles to overcome. Remember that the challenge will help you grow and develop ...

How to Relax More at Work, and Why

Hello and welcome to the Not So Travelling Introvert today I want to continue a conversation I started having actually at an event I was part of talking about work productivity, but more like how to relax and refresh and recharge at work and why so nearly 80% of work as a reporter to feel that they feel stressed at work and roughly half of them need help managing it and the other half just think that's the way it is and it doesn't have to be. Stressful. Environments do not breed positive pro...

Do you have a research mindset?

This week's topics: Making extra time and having a research mindset   Are you not scheduling time to review and do tasks after meetings?  Sometimes meetings require you to block out additional time after the meeting to review the slide deck or task for that meeting.  Are you going about your work with a research mindset? Doing so will eliminate the possibility of letting your assumptions guide how your work. Instead, when going about your work, confirm or research your assumptions....