That Relationship Show
131 episodes - English - Latest episode: 27 days ago - ★★★★★ - 102 ratingsThe Couch offers an opportunity to hear experienced marriage counselors share what they've learned from decades of working with couples. If you and your partner are disconnected, unable to talk without arguing or wondering if you can save your relationship, Deb and Nao can help. Their warm, engaging way of talking about EFT can offer hope when all seems lost in your relationship.
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Episodes
Ketamine Assisted Couples Therapy
March 23, 2024 22:52 - 1 hour - 88.8 MBEFT Trainer Dr. Kathryn Rheem joins us to discuss what she's learned about Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy with individuals and couples, including her own personal journey.
Love, Aggression and EFCT
March 01, 2024 20:03 - 56 minutes - 77 MBWhat do we do when "Finally, I've found my person" becomes aggression and violence? Unfortunately this happens for many more couples than actually report it, because in many cases it can be successfully addressed. EFT Trainer Jef Slootmaeckers joins us from Belgium to share what he's learned about treating Interpersonal Violence in couples therapy.
The Inside Scoop on Therapy with Dr. Sue Johnson
January 29, 2024 01:27 - 1 hour - 106 MBDr. Sue Johnson, founder of The Emotionally Focused Therapies joins us for a fascinating conversation. From the development of EFIT to her own therapy, Sue brings a lively authenticity to every story she shares in this episode.
Say This, Not That (to keep your relationship secure & loving)
January 01, 2024 05:00 - 51 minutes - 71 MBEFT therapist, author and Instagram star Julie Menanno joins us to talk about her new book, Secure Love. In this fun conversation, she helps us understand how to transform our anger, pain or resentment into validating boundaried conversations that are likely to both get us what we want and protect our relationship bonds.
Everything You Wanted To Know About Emotions But Were Afraid to Ask
December 01, 2023 05:01 - 58 minutes - 80.4 MBAuthor and therapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel takes us through the meaning and importance of emotions. Using the visual of a simple triangle, she teaches us how to interpret and manage them so that we can feel more calm, content and able to enjoy our lives. To support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=51113687
The Habits of Happy Couples (or What To Do Between Sessions)
November 01, 2023 04:01 - 1 hour - 88 MBEFT therapists, business partners and married couple Tina & Michael LeBlanc join us to talk about their new book, The 10 Habits of Happy Couples. They offer specific skills that can be practiced between therapy sessions for deepening connection, making repairs after fights and protecting the relationship.
Cheating-The Deepest Cut
October 08, 2023 17:29 - 1 hour - 92.1 MBEFT Trainer Dr. Ting Liu joins us to deconstruct the layers of pain that result from affairs. She offers hope for healing from even the deepest cuts, and for inoculating our relationships from this pain.
The One About Family Addiction
September 04, 2023 18:30 - 1 hour - 111 MBWhen a loved one struggles with addiction, family members become involved. But attempts to fix, manage or control leave everyone hurting. Join us for a riveting conversation with Family Addiction Specialist Margaret Swift Thompson as she offers guidance for navigating these difficult waters.
Life on the Spectrum
August 01, 2023 04:02 - 1 hour - 102 MBDiagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder in adulthood, high school dropout John Elder Robison went on to become a successful business owner, best-selling author and neurodiversity scholar. Join us for this poignant and moving conversation about his life on the spectrum.
Maintaining Connection While Raising Kids
July 01, 2023 04:01 - 1 hour - 92.6 MBDr. Jordan Harris, LMFT joins us to discuss tips for couples to protect their bond while raising healthy, resilient children. With compassion and honesty he acknowledges how difficult modern parenting is, using his own experiences as a husband and father of three young children.
Adult ADHD in Relationships
June 01, 2023 04:00 - 57 minutes - 79.3 MBDeb & Nao welcome from Switzerland ADHD experts and EFT therapists Alexine Thompson-De Benoit and Ben Kneubühler. With their personal experiences and years of expertise, they share what they've learned about adult ADHD in relationships.
Healing & Reclaiming The Self
May 01, 2023 04:00 - 50 minutes - 69.9 MBReclaiming a loving connection to one's core self is pivotal for all other relationships, and paves the way for joy and connection. Psychologist and author SueAnne Piliero, developer of Core Self Reclamation Therapy joins us to share what's she's learned about this powerful process.
The Secrets of Contented Couples
April 01, 2023 04:01 - 59 minutes - 81.3 MBDeb & Nao welcome from the UK fellow therapist and author Anne Power to talk about her research on what the common factors are in contented couples. When the initial rush of falling in love subsides, how do we get to the lasting comfort of deep abiding love? Join us to find out.
Resilience
March 01, 2023 04:59 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBIn this uplifting episode, expert Linda Graham, LMFT shares what she's learned about resilience--why it matters, how our brains are wired for it and what individuals (and communities) can do to cultivate it and thrive, even when the road gets rough.
Dopamine Nation
February 01, 2023 05:01 - 1 hour - 92.8 MBWe take a deep dive inside the brain's reward center with Dr. Anna Lembke, physician-researcher and NYT best selling author to understand how addiction changes the brain. Join us for this enlightening episode and discover why a dopamine fast might be just the ticket to regain balance.
Letting Go of Childhood Wounds/Finding Your Place in Adulthood
December 31, 2022 17:59 - 1 hour - 110 MBDaniel Mate, co-author and son of Gabor joins us for a frank and engaging look at how adult children can learn to let go of injuries inflicted by their parents, and come to a place of authenticity and strength. Using his own complicated relationship with his famous father, he offers wisdom and hope for healing and growth.
The Externalizer, The Over-Explainer and The Folder
December 01, 2022 04:59 - 52 minutes - 72.7 MBDeb and Nao describe three common behaviors that fuel the negative cycle when we're triggered, and offer tips for change. By recognizing and exiting these modes, we are more likely to find the reassurance, comfort and connection that we need.
Healing CEN in Relationships
November 01, 2022 03:59 - 1 hour - 90.3 MBDr. Jonice Webb is back to help us understand how Childhood Emotional Neglect shows up in relationships, and what can be done to heal it. Whether with yourself, your partner, your child or your parent, she has tips for how to have productive conversations about CEN.
Parenting Tips for Emotion Regulation
October 01, 2022 04:02 - 55 minutes - 76.8 MBOne of the most important tasks for anyone to learn is to manage and regulate their emotions--yet this is not widely taught. Carly Soare, Certified Speech & Language Pathologist and Executive Function Coach joins us to offer her wisdom on how to help children become emotionally aware and adept.
How People Change
September 01, 2022 22:07 - 1 hour - 85.8 MBWhen we decide to change ingrained ways of behaving or learn new skills, there are many obstacles that can derail us. This applies to athletes, musicians, clients and therapists alike. Wesley Little, certified EFT therapist and supervisor joins us to discuss how Deliberate Practice can help us manage the process to keep our growth on track.
How People Change
September 01, 2022 04:00When we decide to change ingrained ways of behaving or learn new skills, there are many obstacles that can derail us. This applies to athletes, musicians, clients and therapists alike. Wesley Little, certified EFT therapist and supervisor joins us to discuss how Deliberate Practice can help us manage the process to keep our growth on track.
Betrayals & Other Violations of Trust
August 01, 2022 04:00 - 1 hour - 100 MBA betrayal by a trusted person can leave us feeling crazy and unable to find our footing. EFT Supervisor Kelly Bourque,LMFT shares what she's learned about healing after a betrayal and offers hope for re-building safety.
Communication Skills for Secure Love
July 01, 2022 04:00 - 57 minutes - 79 MBAuthor and EFT therapist Julie Menanno shares the communication skills that made her an Instagram phenom. With her clear and unassuming style, she shows us how to navigate the tricky places that block connection.
Life After Love
June 01, 2022 04:00 - 1 hour - 87.8 MBPsychologist Clare Rosomon joins us to discuss healing after relationship loss. Her new book uses an attachment lens to explore and bring healing from anger, pain and grief.
Sex and Attachment: Deepening the Bonds
May 15, 2022 17:41 - 1 hour - 100 MBDr. Laurie Watson takes a break from co-hosting the popular podcast Foreplay to talk with us about the intersection of sexual and emotional connection for couples. With her frank and engaging style, she shares what she's learned over three decades to help build empathy even for those couples who feel miles apart when talking about sex.
Healing from Religious Harm
April 10, 2022 00:28 - 1 hour - 90.5 MBPsychologist, author and religious trauma expert Marlene Winell joins us to discuss the impact of fundamentalist religiosity on individuals and relationships. She offers hope for healing and finding joy in this life.
EMDR & EFT: Powerhouses of Healing
March 26, 2022 01:18 - 1 hour - 110 MBInternationally renowned EMDR trainer and therapist Deany Laliotis, LICSW joins Deb & Nao to talk about the powerful healing that EMDR can provide. We talk about the intersection of EMDR and EFT, the importance of attachment and the value of paying it forward.
Parents & Teens: Repairing the Bonds
February 01, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 98.7 MBDrs. Nancy & Paul Aiken share their programs designed to help repair and strengthen the bonds between parents and kids. With warmth & humor, they share clips from an actual family, offering hope for anyone struggling to reach their teen.
Toxic Relationships
January 01, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 58.4 MBDeb & Nao discuss what makes a relationship healthy, unhealthy or toxic. Whether it's a romantic, friendship or parent/adult child duo, they offer tips for knowing when it's time to to dig in and work harder, set boundaries or just say "goodbye."
A Couples Guide to Yummy Sex
December 01, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 95.8 MBPsychologist and sexuality expert Dr Aline Zoldbrod joins us to explain why mercy sex should be kicked to the curb, how body mapping can help us and our partner find what we like, and why setting a date for sex can keep us connected even through the toughest of times.
Love in Times of Struggle
November 01, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 101 MBEFT Trainer and Psychologist Sharon Chatkupt Lee joins us to talk about the world we find ourselves in--as individuals, couples, and EFT therapists struggling to be better and do better. She offers suggestions for navigating our way in these challenging times.
Identity, Ethnicity and Couples: A Complex Equation
October 01, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 116 MBEFT Trainer and author Dr. Paul Guillory joins us to discuss his new book: EFT With African American Couples: Love Heals. He explains the many factors that go into racial identity, and how they can leave us "primed for negative" or more flexible. He emphasizes the importance of practicing cultural humility.
Beyond Addiction
September 01, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 85 MBDr. Nicole Kosanke, researcher and Director of Family Services at The Center for Motivation and Change joins us to discuss cutting edge research on the treatment of addiction. She shares what she's learned about how brains change, and offers help for family members who want to be supportive yet still take care of themselves.
Sex With Dr. Lexx
July 30, 2021 23:41 - 1 hour - 89 MBSexologist, author, educator and therapist Dr. Lexx Brown-James joins us for a lively discussion about sex, identity and healing from sexual shame to get back to pleasure in our physical relationships.
The Dating Episode
July 01, 2021 16:00 - 1 hour - 86.5 MBDating Coach extraordinaire Cora Boyd joins us to offer tips on everything from putting your authentic foot forward on dating apps to the art of flirting. Based on her years as a matchmaker and thousands of interviews, she offers a fun and hopeful lens to those who are looking for a great relationship or just a great date.
The Ultimate Self-Help Guide
June 28, 2021 00:38 - 47 minutes - 65.6 MBTherapist, author and researcher Deirdre Fay joins us to offer practical advice for helping yourself through life's most difficult and painful moments. With decades of experience she guides us with tangible tips to organize our minds, bodies and hearts, and move more securely in the world--no matter what comes our way.
Betrayals in Relationships
May 15, 2021 17:47 - 1 hour - 106 MBEFT Trainer Dr. Lisa Palmer-Olsen shares her expertise in helping couples who want to heal after a betrayal. She names some blocks to repair, and explains how she learned the importance of therapist self-awareness in developing her remarkable skills.
Forgiveness- Part 2
April 18, 2021 00:27 - 1 hour - 106 MBStanford Professor & Forgiveness researcher Fred Luskin joins us to offer practical tips for achieving peace of mind after we've been deeply wounded. From Monica Lewinsky to Northern Ireland, he shares his own journey that led to creating the most comprehensive research project on the process of forgiveness.
Forgiveness-- Part One
March 29, 2021 00:44 - 1 hour - 83.7 MBFor couples who have experienced breaches of trust or other injuries, repair, reconciliation and forgiveness can seem out of reach. Psychologist and EFT Trainer Dr. Sam Jinich joins Deb & Nao to offer pathways to healing, even when it means leaving a relationship.
Miscarriages, Infertility and Couples
March 01, 2021 01:31 - 53 minutes - 73.7 MBReproductive Psychologist Dr. Janet Jaffe joins Deb & Nao to talk about the tremendous impact that miscarriages and infertility have on couples. She explains the power of our reproductive stories, and offers ideas for meaning making and support during what for many couples is the most difficult issue they have ever faced together.
Waking up to Different Americas
February 06, 2021 19:38 - 1 hour - 102 MBWe welcome Workplace Success Group CEO Karen Hinds and professor of psychology Dr. Feion Villodas to talk about the two Americas. From overt to implicit racism, and the positions of privilege that have rendered them invisible to many, we explore what well-meaning folks in the majority can do to affect change.
What is EFIT? And How Does It Work?
January 09, 2021 23:11 - 1 hour - 91 MBRenowned EFT Trainer Dr. Leanne Campbell joins us to explain how Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy helps build resilience and increase self-awareness and self-compassion. With her warmth & wisdom, she helps us see the enormous impact these things have on our relationships.
Prince: Music Legend & Attachment Figure
December 03, 2020 19:28 - 59 minutes - 81.6 MBAttachment figures are those we turn to for comfort and support; including family members, mentors and spiritual or religious notables. But they can be found in other places as well. EFT therapist Monica McDonald describes how an introduction to the music of Prince in childhood led to his place as her cherished Attachment figure, even after his death.
Decoding Emotional Immaturity
October 24, 2020 19:06 - 1 hour - 106 MBHaving an emotionally immature parent or partner can wreak havoc on our sense of self-yet we are often unaware of what exactly is causing our pain in these relationships. Psychologist and ground-breaking author Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us for an illuminating and clarifying conversation on EI.
Strategies for Relationship Success
October 03, 2020 17:40 - 1 hour - 91.5 MBKathryn de Bruin, LMFT joins Deb & Nao for a fascinating mix of personal stories and neuroscience. She helps us understand how the strategies we develop as infants continue to serve us throughout our lives---and how we can change the bits that are no longer helping.
A Modern Approach to Addiction
September 12, 2020 19:25 - 1 hour - 94.8 MBWhen you add social media to the list of dopamine-inducing options that beckon us, it's hard to find anyone who hasn't experienced the pull of addiction. Therapist and film producer Hope Payson, LICSW joins us to unpack the complexities of addiction, and offers a path to recovery through a modern lens.
Transforming Sexual Narratives
August 23, 2020 23:36 - 1 hour - 95.2 MBIn this lively conversation, Dr. Suzanne Iasenza explains why we shouldn't let a theory developed by researchers in 1957 define our sexuality today. She offers hope to couples who want to transform their sexual relationships whilst working on or maintaining their emotional connection.
Hollywood, Bruce Lee & View of Self
August 02, 2020 22:35 - 1 hour - 97.7 MBAward winning filmmaker Bao Nguyen joins us to talk about his inspiration for the Bruce Lee biopic Be Water. From his own experience as the child of Vietnamese refugees to the blatant racism of the 1960's, Bao helps us understand the many factors that contribute to our views of self and others. Deb and Nao explain the impact this has on our relationships, and how awareness can help us avoid the negative cycle.
Learning To Live With the Unimaginable
July 13, 2020 00:35 - 1 hour - 82.7 MBIn 1986 the unimaginable happened to the Bias family when their basketball phenom son Len died from an accidental overdose that sparked the Reagan era war on drugs. Less than four years later tragedy struck again, this time claiming their beloved son Jay. In the years since, their mom Dr. Lonise Bias became an agent of change, helping others to prevent senseless loss and channel their grief towards positive outcomes. In this raw and revealing interview, she shares what she's learned about ho...
Racism in America- Leaning in to the Truth
June 28, 2020 22:11 - 1 hour - 117 MBIt's never easy to hold ourselves accountable--yet we ask this of our clients every day. Deb & Nao welcome Certified EFT therapist, author and Fulbright scholar Dr. Yamonte Cooper for a candid conversation about the history of racism in America, and how our own ideas of race were constructed.