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Tell Me About Your Kids

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Be a fly on the wall of unfiltered 1 on 1 counseling sessions as Bonnie Harris, 30 yr. veteran of Connective Parenting, author and counselor helps parents navigate their daily challenges and weaves her compassion and empathy for parents as she builds their capability to turn their frustrations into opportunities to connect with their children.

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Puzzle Pieces # 17 - Thank You for Telling Us About Your Kids

June 22, 2023 04:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MB

Can you believe that Bonnie and Adam have created 150 episodes of “Tell Me About Your Kids” over the last 3 years?! In this episode, they reflect on the experience, as well as what they’ve both come to understand about Connective Parenting and the universal struggles of parenthood.  From punishment to being friends with your kids, to loving but sometimes not liking them, to wondering how life would be if we’d never had them, to the effects of generational trauma, Bonnie and Adam touch on ma...

How to Hold Your Children Accountable - Without Blame

June 15, 2023 04:00 - 50 minutes - 34.7 MB

When little kids fight and hurt each other, it’s all a parent can do not to grab, yell, blame and ultimately shame the hitter. Lee and Andre are learning how to hold their 3-year-old hitter accountable without all that. Instead, Celine learns the natural consequences of her behavior (a lost opportunity with blame) and how to develop her brain to think ahead—as long as Lee and Andre can alter their mindset and therefore their automatic reactions. The key to raising responsible, respectful peo...

Community Pieces # 9 - Growing Up Online: How to Make It Safe for Our Kids

June 08, 2023 04:00 - 40 minutes - 27.6 MB

There is nothing more urgent for parents today than what their children are or will be doing on social media. Fears run rampant and get in the way of effective communication with children. Devorah Heitner, Ph.D. author of the best seller “Screenwise”, talks with me about our children’s public lives online that she explores extensively in her upcoming book, “Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World”. We cover everything from “sharenting” to sexting to surveillance apps at home a...

Respecting Your Teen's Sexual Boundaries

June 01, 2023 04:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MB

Hannah grew as a person and a parent when she learned the hard way to pay attention to her daughter’s experience and not compare it to her own. What 13 year old Josie has learned to be comfortable with is all new territory for Hannah. In her eager attempt to prove her support for her daughter, she was actually taking care of herself instead. Listen in for first-hand evidence of the power of mutual respect and strong boundaries from the early years on so that the inevitable hard stuff is not ...

How Can I Trust When Agreements Are Broken?

May 25, 2023 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.4 MB

Even when connection is strong with her two boys, 14 and 6, screens pose problems for Anne. Her intentions are on track to support the boys’ self-regulation skills but when agreements are broken and sleep is lost, worries take over and tempers rise. Two entirely different temperaments require different expectations. The expectations for her Harmony Child can easily rise and create more pressure than Anne realizes. Choices and boundaries—understanding whose problem is whose—will help the self...

“Nobody ever listens to me!”

May 18, 2023 04:00 - 49 minutes - 34 MB

When past learned behaviors pop up and derail connection with her two children, Ellie’s default is to blame herself. She feels so discouraged when they won’t do as she asks. Why can’t I get this right is what echoes in her head until she starts stressing and yelling to get them to do it right. Just by understanding where her thinking comes from is the beginning of de-fusing that button that gets pushed so she can have the connection she wants. She is so close.  Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., direct...

The Unintended Consequences of Blame and Criticism

May 11, 2023 04:00 - 46 minutes - 31.6 MB

Harry, 9, is an impulsive, Integrity kid* reacting, as kids do, to how he has come to view himself—not good enough, not as loved as his sister, a problem, bad. His parents have raised him by the common myth that ordering and criticizing a child for bad behavior will cause that child to change that behavior—and that one should never give positive attention to negative behavior. Harry has developed a strong defense of clownish yet aggressive and hurtful “silliness”—a defense that protects his ...

Anger is the Cover Up to Feeling Rejected

May 04, 2023 17:00 - 49 minutes - 33.9 MB

Hallie and her now ex-husband adopted their first child, Kyle. Subsequently she got pregnant with her second son, Kayden, the subject of much resentment for Kyle. In this episode we dig into the many causes of Kyle’s anger as well as his “I don’t care” attitude. Adoption is complicated for a child, and in this case, Kyle feels the rejection twice over. Traditional parenting with punitive consequences has made things worse for him. Now is the time for healing deep-set wounds. Listen in for ti...

Tip #17 – The No-Blame Solution

April 27, 2023 04:00 - 17 minutes - 11.9 MB

Blame is what turns sibling fights into sibling rivalry. Rivalry brings with it pretty constant anger and resentment at least from one child toward another. But it’s hard not to blame the child who hits or deeply hurts another. The parents job is to help children thru their own tough times—not do it for them and not put them down for doing it wrong. Blame never teaches what you want. Learn how to use the No-Blame Solution to teach your children not only to stop resenting each other but to ca...

Tip#16 - What To Do About Sibling Rivalry

April 20, 2023 04:00 - 12 minutes - 8.46 MB

Siblings are going to fight. They are too close to each other not to. It’s tricky to allow their fights without turning them into sibling rivalry. Rivalry is the key word here. Your kids become rivals for your approval. That is unless you are always able to keep your approval neutral and stay out of their fights. That’s the hard part when you see one of them treating the other unfairly. Get on board with these tools so you can keep their arguing and bickering far away from any rivalry. Bonn...

From the archives: Episode 66 Community Pieces #5: “Denial is the heartbeat of racism” – a conversation on how to talk to ALL kids about race

April 13, 2023 04:00 - 38 minutes - 26.7 MB

No matter what your race, do you know how to talk to your kids in a coherent, age-appropriate way about race and racism? Were you brought up ignorant about racism, thinking it was only about someone else? I talk with Emma Redden and Grace Aldrich about their work in helping people discover their own histories in order to help their children understand theirs. Grace and Emma are community educators and work with groups of teachers, parents and caregivers. If you are interested in working wit...

Our Best Parenting Tool is Our Own Healing

April 06, 2023 04:00 - 49 minutes - 34.3 MB

Camille’s early childhood trauma still asserts itself through her body language when she bites her lip. Because of the work Camille has done, her 9 year old daughter, Aria, can call her on it. But that lip still betrays Camille whenever she feels those old triggering emotions. Listen in to learn how to become aware of what your body, if not your words and emotions, may be telling your children and how to neutralize the effect, so you don’t pass on the anxiety of your own traumatic experience...

Does Your Child See You as the Enemy?

March 30, 2023 04:00 - 48 minutes - 33.7 MB

Katherine wants her 9 year old to be able to stand up for herself and eventually save the world with her strength of spirit. But in the meantime, she unintentionally undermines that strength by not accepting it right now. Zelda perceives her parents as the enemy because she believes she must fight them to be heard. Her difficult “integrity” temperament worries her parents who get angry when they think she ignores them or says they’re mean. They try to explain, but the fight comes, not when Z...

When Your Best Friend Parents Differently

March 23, 2023 04:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MB

What would it mean for Erica to allow her friend to find her own way thru parenting that works for her? What does she need to give up to be the loving, compassionate friend she wants to be? These are the questions that get answered as Bonnie looks into the critical role of boundaries to determine what is Erica’s business and what is her friend’s. With the intention of helping her 13 year old daughter and friend get unleashed from a 5 year old’s tantrums, Erica wants to impose her better way ...

When Your Child Believes He’s Not Enough

March 16, 2023 04:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MB

How do you reconnect with a child who has pushed you away because he believes he has failed you? How do answer an angry child who yells, “If yelling at you is the way I express my anger, why shouldn’t I be allowed to do that?” Ginger has long suffered from depression and when it hit rock bottom, her life turned upside down. Her ex got custody of the kids and now she’s fighting to get them back. The divorce, depression, and hospitalization understandably provoked fear and anger in her 9 and 1...

Puzzle Pieces #16: Question your assumptions about sibling rivalry

March 09, 2023 05:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MB

We all want our kids to stop fighting. But even our best intentions usually set up the next fight because we don’t understand what the bottom line really is. If we don’t truly get why siblings fight with each other, what they are really after and how we can fulfill that, we’ll never be able to use the necessary communication skills effectively and end the fighting once and for all. It’s common sense, but it requires a very different mindset. Tune in to hear Adam and Bonnie discuss how anger ...

Are You Normalizing Your Children's Fears?

March 02, 2023 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.6 MB

All children feel afraid of things they perceive out of their control. Feeling scared, nervous, upset is all perfectly normal. Jess’ 7 year old daughter Lily is dealing with normal fears of a quiet, cautious child Jess worries is stuck in anxiety. Jess’s childhood fears were dismissed by an inconvenienced mother with little to no empathy. It’s no wonder Jess wants to rid her daughter of any of the fears that left her feeling alone, frightened and unsafe. To this day she gets triggered when s...

When you’re triggered, try opening your heart

February 23, 2023 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MB

Ruthie’s 14 year old daughter makes a lot of emotional noise which leaves her mother feeling bulldozed. Whenever Olivia is emotionally charged, Ruthie is triggered to backdown and block out the oncoming chaos of her daughter leaving Olivia without support. But this sensory overload is familiar to Ruthie. As a child, she learned to numb her exterior to protect her sensitive interior from the criticism and ridicule from her parents. Her hardened exterior developed to protect her scared interio...

The Fallout from a Contentious Divorce

February 16, 2023 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MB

Kristen is working hard to navigate her 50/50 parenting time, leaving her feeling unable to deal with her two children’s aggression toward her and each other. The highly structured life her 10 and 6 year olds have with their father provokes Kristen to compensate at the other end of the spectrum putting her needs on hold. Chaos leads to daily crisis. Kristen is too tired for strategies and worn down by the judgements when she hears, They never behave that way here. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., dir...

How to Motivate Kids in the Face of Tough Emotions

February 09, 2023 05:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MB

Katie has put a lot of time into her positive parenting. The problem is she can be a little too positive when trying to motivate her 5-year-old. Understanding her daughter’s temperament is a must for Katie to set appropriate expectations so as not to be inconsiderate of her needs. Katie would never intend to be inconsiderate, but when we break it down what happens, that’s what it is. This episode is a great lesson in what I call Connective Communication (the updated version of How to Talk to...

Community Pieces #8: Understanding Your Child's Unique Brain Development

February 02, 2023 05:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MB

Is your child’s behavior more than just annoying? Is it a mystery with seemingly no clues? Are you worried his development is off track? Is she having difficulty performing at the level of her peers? Do think he needs more support than you can give? Do you get angry when she “never listens”? Tune in to hear clinical psychologist Dr. Lara Kroodsma break down the various tests available to us now to learn how your child’s brain works and understand his unique development. Behavior is usually t...

How To Raise Responsible Kids Without Punishment

January 26, 2023 05:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MB

Camilla is mother to four children ranging from 18 to 25. She has raised her children with a connected approach and is here to tell the results at the stage of launching into adulthood. Here’s what it means to raise kids with no punishment (that includes unnatural consequences) but only kindness, respect, firmness and focus on relationship above all else. If your fear is—How do they learn to do what you want? They’ll be entitled, disrespectful people. They won’t learn that real life has cons...

“… but you can’t make them do it.”

January 19, 2023 05:00 - 44 minutes - 30.7 MB

Kate’s 2 yr. (her third child) needs to wear glasses. Ever tried to get a toddler to do what she must but what she hates? This is a problem that goes on throughout development—when you have to insure your child does something she refuses. Finding the balance between motivating and loosening up is the only way to stay out of power struggles and the only hope of gaining cooperation. Listen in to learn how to say no without saying no and to empower your child to begin to take responsibility for...

The Jealous Sibling

January 12, 2023 05:00 - 40 minutes - 27.6 MB

 Anne is the mother of two tween boys 11 and 12. Being an Integrity kid, Brooks, the younger, is reacting to years of blame and punishments from parents who wish he was more like his brother. His defenses arise when he perceives that his brother James has an easier, happier life. His natural aggression has turned angry and violent. He wants to punish back. Gratitude is out of his reach. Listen in to learn what is underneath Brooks’ retribution and how empathy can change everything. Other po...

“Is that you or your gremlin talking?”

January 05, 2023 05:00 - 42 minutes - 29.3 MB

For 5 yr. old Aiko, “everything goes in really big and comes out really big”, says his mom, Janneke. Part of that ‘really big’ comes out at his 10 yr. old brother when Aiko’s jealousy rears up. Calling Noa a dummy over and over has become a habit for Aiko, and sensitive Noa takes it as fact. Breaking the habit requires a new frame for Aiko—instead being told again and again that it’s not ok. Listen through to hear Bonnie’s Gremlin exercise which can help that reframing process—that, and no m...

From the archives: From Power Struggle To Relationship

December 29, 2022 05:00 - 48 minutes - 33.6 MB

We're ending 2022 with an episode from the archives. We figured it's always a good time to get a lesson on relationship. Tracy’s children are not too young to begin this important process. Most parents naturally get hung up on what is important to teach and get stuck in the minutia of daily life and chaos with young kids. We forget that the main thing we want our children to learn is to be respectful and considerate. Tracy gets a reminder of this important aspect of parenting and how her iss...

From Power Struggle To Relationship

December 29, 2022 05:00 - 48 minutes - 33.6 MB

We're ending 2022 with an episode from the archives. We figured it's always a good time to get a lesson on relationship. Tracy’s children are not too young to begin this important process. Most parents naturally get hung up on what is important to teach and get stuck in the minutia of daily life and chaos with young kids. We forget that the main thing we want our children to learn is to be respectful and considerate. Tracy gets a reminder of this important aspect of parenting and how her iss...

Puzzle Pieces #15: How can we be more connected with the kids in our lives

December 22, 2022 05:00 - 49 minutes - 34 MB

After my interview on Safe Home Podcast with Beth Syverson, I decided it would make a perfect puzzle piece, because it turned out to be a great overview of connected parenting. I discuss the principles of connective parenting and how they were developed thru learning about myself. The primary focus is on the relationship between parent and child and the responsibilities of the parent. There is also a great description of the Integrity and Harmony children, terms we use a lot on this podcast ...

When It Feels Like You’ve Lost Control without Punishment

December 15, 2022 05:00 - 51 minutes - 35.1 MB

From backtalk to “drive-by hitting”, to stepping on his baby brother, four year old Pacey is trying to tell his parents, Lauren and Matt, about his very complicated feelings. Having been brought up by authoritarian parents who used physical punishment, Lauren and Matt are working hard to shift their mindset to a connective approach but still see Pacey as intentionally trying to get their negative attention. Listen in and learn how to interpret the information provided by a child’s behavior a...

“I don’t have time for this!”

December 08, 2022 05:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MB

Amy and Rick have two children, 7 and 4 ½. While Rick is quite laid back, Amy is the one dealing with an often debilitating amount of stress and overwhelm when the kids are demanding. She either withdraws or gives in to avoid having to deal with the situation at hand. Her go-to is, “I don’t have time for this,” which really means she can’t deal with the pain that their behavior triggers from her childhood experiences. Use this link to purchase Bonnie's audiobook When Your Kids Push Your But...

Hearing Your Harmony Kid Over Your Integrity Kid's Noise

December 01, 2022 05:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MB

James and Shan have four kids from 15 to 7. Their 15 yo has gotten quite far off track and their 13 yo Harmony son is experiencing the fallout. He tries to take the reins when his parents don’t stop the madness and chaos with his sister that causes him distress. They try to tell him it’s not his responsibility, but he has to do something to help himself. Listen in to hear some ways they can honor his frustration and help him deal in the moment. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective ...

Broken Trust and Fallout from Family Secrets

November 17, 2022 05:00 - 52 minutes - 36.3 MB

Betrayal, isolation, anger, and dismissal plague Carly, mother of three children, after discovering the family secret everyone else was in on but her. At 39, Carly accidentally learned that her father was not her biological father. Her mother’s attempts to get Carly to get over it and move on, along with her refusal to get the help she needs, leave Carly hanging off the cliff feeling uncared for and alone. Trust has been decimated. Their relationship, once thought to be close, is in peril. ...

Community Pieces # 7: How getting an evaluation for your child can boost self-esteem

November 10, 2022 05:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MB

We all want our children to be able to reach their potential. Along with a connected relationship, many, many children have neuro-diverse needs that affect their daily learning. When your child is identified with a learning difference, the question of evaluating may be raised. What then? As scary as it can be to get a diagnosis for your child, what’s best for the long-haul development is awareness of strengths and weaknesses so success is assured. Educational consultant, Shannon McNamara, he...

The Importance of Giving Your Teen Space for His Life

November 03, 2022 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MB

April has had a long and close relationship with her now 16-year-old. Yet, for the past year, since he has been in a significant relationship, he doesn’t want to hear one word from his mother about it. He tells her to stop “inserting herself where she shouldn’t”, that he doesn’t need parenting, among other edgy remarks that have left her hurting. Listen in while Bonnie and April pull apart what is possible to understand where he might be coming from and determine the best route to follow now...

The Importance of Giving Your Teen Space for His Life

November 03, 2022 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MB

April has had a long and close relationship with her now 16-year-old. Yet, for the past year, since he has been in a significant relationship, he doesn’t want to hear one word from his mother about it. He tells her to stop “inserting herself where she shouldn’t”, that he doesn’t need parenting, among other edgy remarks that have left her hurting. Listen in while Bonnie and April pull apart what is possible to understand where he might be coming from and determine the best route to follow now...

Tip #15: How to Manage a Meltdown

October 27, 2022 04:00 - 19 minutes - 13.7 MB

Meltdowns in kids any age are tough. We think they’re bad and must end and that children need to learn to control themselves, certainly after five or six, and not be subject to meltdowns. A meltdown is your signal of your child’s pent-up unexpressed emotions that need to come out. Ever had a “good cry”? You feel better afterwards, right? Listen in to hear why meltdowns should be allowed at any age, how to approach them and see them as a good thing. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connect...

What to do When Sibling Bickering is a Button Pusher

October 20, 2022 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MB

Kristen, mom to boys 8 and 11, gets triggered by what she considers stupid and unnecessary squabbles. Her anger erupts when the boys’ bickering disrupts the harmony she expects in her family. But it’s not about the bickering, it’s about Kristen’s fears about the bickering. Kristen takes full responsibility for the family dynamics and believes it is her responsibility to get to harmony. The family disruption she imagines is her problem, not the boys’. Roots into her past shed light on her sis...

When Negative Sibling Energy Gets Loud and Dramatic

October 13, 2022 04:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MB

Rachel is in turmoil over the negative energy from her 6 year old. When he’s not screaming at his sister, Ben admits he feels like nobody loves him. It all started when his sister was born four years ago. He immediately showed signs of aggression toward her. He still dumps his deep resentment on her with harsh name-calling. “Did I birth a sociopath?” Rachel feared when her reasoning with him didn’t work. Listen in for lots of Bonnie’s suggestions with tools to help Rachel help her son feel h...

Puzzle Pieces #14: Have You Had the Sex Talk Yet?

October 06, 2022 04:00 - 31 minutes - 21.6 MB

Bonnie and Adam have an in-depth discussion about the ins and outs (pun intended) of “the sex talk”—the optimal time to have it with your kids, and why honesty is always the best policy. The talk can be really tough for parents who feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. Too often parents wait until embarrassment is high on both sides, so it never happens. Enter the internet. Embarrassment gets in the way of providing good, healthy, honest information about perfectly normal things that happen to...

Controlling Your Fears So They Don’t Control You

September 29, 2022 04:00 - 37 minutes - 25.6 MB

Frannie and her husband have four children 7 and under. Frannie is getting a handle on not pushing her food values onto her kids but sometimes she feels like she’s “dying on the inside” while biting her tongue. She fears the influence from outside the bubble of her kitchen, where she can control, which leads her to feeling out of control of her children in many areas. Bonnie discusses the important difference between influencing our children as opposed to controlling them. Bonnie Harris, MS...

Breaking The Trauma Cycle So You Don’t Pass it On to Your Kids

September 22, 2022 04:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MB

Kelly and Kory have been hard at work to recognize, acknowledge, and stop the trauma they experienced as children. The messages they learned about themselves dug in and led to the kneejerk, in the heat of the moment, reactions they hate with their three children. They are learning that connection is the path forward.  The terms Integrity and Harmony are used often in this podcast by regular listeners. To learn more about what these terms mean, listen to some of these other episodes: Episod...

How to Hold onto Your Energy with a House Full of Rowdy Boys

September 15, 2022 04:00 - 43 minutes - 29.6 MB

Kat has had it with her two rambunctious boys interrupting, taking charge, and monopolizing conversations. As well as many tips for interrupting kids, Bonnie shows Kat why she needs to hold onto her energy and stop expecting her boys to “give her the room”. Instead of thinking they are taking her energy, Kat can take responsibility for herself and be better able to set limits. Her childhood plays a big part in how much she deserves her energy.  Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective ...

How to FINALLY Stop Feeling Like You're a Nag

September 08, 2022 04:00 - 50 minutes - 34.6 MB

When you find yourself nagging, what do you look for, and what are next steps? After unforeseen circumstances that literally took Rachel away from her then 8-year-old daughter, not to mention the effects of Covid over the last two years, Rachel needs to take those steps to reconnect with her “feisty” strong-willed 10 y.o. We discover that an allowance will help as well as setting appropriate boundaries, so Rachel no longer depends on her daughter responding the way she expects her to.  Bonn...

The Season Of Survival

September 01, 2022 04:00 - 5 minutes - 3.84 MB

Bonnie and Adam riff a bit introducing the coming season which will start with the Sept. 8th episode. They share how completely different their respective summers were—one with a baby and one with an angry camper. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents.  https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com  Email: [email protected] Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch  www.echofinch.com

The Season Of Survival

September 01, 2022 04:00 - 5 minutes - 3.84 MB

Bonnie and Adam riff a bit introducing the coming season which will start with the Sept. 8th episode. They share how completely different their respective summers were—one with a baby and one with an angry camper. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents.  https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com  Email: [email protected] Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch  www.echofinch.com

Tips #14 Are You Stressed? Change Your Mindset

August 25, 2022 04:00 - 13 minutes - 9.24 MB

All parents are stressed and most kids are too. How do you help your kids navigate their stress. And how do you navigate yours? It helps to be aware of the mindset in which you perceive stress. Then change your mindset and change your experience.  Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents.  https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenting Website: bonnieharris.com  Email: [email protected] Produced, mixed, and scored by Ec...

Tip #13 – How to Make a Repair after You Lose It

August 18, 2022 04:00 - 9 minutes - 6.8 MB

Wish you had that blow-up to do over again? Well, actually you do. All you need to repair a regrettable situation is your willingness to admit making a mistake (even if your child made a worse one) and taking some time to think about what you would have done instead had you had your thinking brain online. Bonnie goes over the Do-Over with dialogue to help you understand how easy the process is. Your child will appreciate it and likely make amends as well. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of ...

Tip #12: How to Stop Yelling

August 11, 2022 04:00 - 20 minutes - 13.9 MB

When your button has been pushed, nothing can rescue you in the heat of the moment. You feel out of control and say and do things you wish you hadn’t. In this Tip episode Bonnie explains what it is that happens to you in that moment and how to put 6 easy steps into practice to change your reactions—and be the parent you always hope to be. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents.  https://linktr.ee/bonnieharrisparenti...

Tip #11: Your Child Always Wants to Get It Right

August 04, 2022 04:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MB

Your child always wants to do the right thing and please you. So, how come he does the opposite and makes you see red? When he screams obscenities, throws a block at you or his sister, or hits in anger, that means there is an obstacle in his way of doing it right. Your job is to figure out what the obstacle is. When you can see this, it will change your perspective of your child and his behavior. In this Tip, Bonnie walks you through the first and most important principle of Connective Paren...

Puzzle Pieces #13: Getting Your Partner on the Same Page

July 28, 2022 04:00 - 27 minutes - 19.1 MB

Do you struggle when your parenting partner—or family members—respond/react to your children in ways that drive you nuts? Do you wish you could change how your partner talks or yells at your kids (even when you do the same) and worry your children are being traumatized? When it comes down to it, most of us want the other parent to do what we do. Listen in to Bonnie and Adam as they discuss this almost universal issue. Discover that being on the same page is not necessarily the best thing for...