In this brief episode, Dr. Shaw was inspired by recent personal losses to pose this question... would I live differently if every moment truly counted?  The answer is clearly a "yes," so why do we live the way that we do?   Regarding parenting, a corollary of that same question is what do we value?  And what are our definitions of success?  Her recommendations include providing clarity for the specific goals that we set for our children.  Not only should we set a goal, but we should discuss WHY that goal matters.  In a phrase, let's not take things for granted.