In this brief and personal episode, Dr. Shaw talks about the parenting dilemma of being overly enabling versus allowing our children to have experiences that sometimes can be very difficult.   She shares an illustrative example from her own life and friendships as she describes a parent experiencing their child in an abusive relationship.  Her philosophy is that as a parent, we can't judge or intervene sometimes... we have to help our children navigate their situations, but all we can do is pick up our children when they fall.  Sometimes, in fact, when they fall, there are important and hard lessons learned via natural consequences.   Our children need real life experiences to build their own independence, difficult as that may be to witness.