In this brief but important episode, Dr. Shaw addresses the issue of avoiding the discussion of negative behavior by a child.   She uses an example from her real and recent experience where her family was honoring a child who was celebrating a birthday.   During the celebration, some family members simply said "I love everything about you." Dr. Shaw believes that expressing such universal positivity is unhealthy, because there will always be things about a child's behavior that are not completely loveable.   To avoid addressing the negativity is to avoid promoting a growth experience.   She says that there needs to be balance between complimenting a child and presenting scenarios that challenge them to grow to be a better person.