The Well Minded Podcast with Master Therapist Lynn Matti

Is Jonah Hill Right? Understanding What Boundaries Are and How to Set Them for the Best Outcomes.

A person with strong boundaries understands that it’s unreasonable to expect two people to accommodate each other 100% and fulfill every need the other has. A person with strong boundaries understands that they may hurt someone’s feelings sometimes, but ultimately they can’t determine how other people feel. A person with strong boundaries understands that a healthy relationship is not controlling one another’s emotions, but rather each partner supporting each other in their growth and path t...

Social Fitness, The Most Recommended Type of Exercise to Help You Live Longer

If you’re looking to reboot your health this year, you might sign up for your first triathlon, kickstart a meditation habit, or cut down on ultra-processed foods. But the latest science suggests the best way to improve long-term health isn’t physical, it’s social: connection. Strengthening relationship ties by exercising what experts call “social fitness” is the most influential brain and body hack. Like weight training staves off bone density loss as you age, social fitness counters the d...

Strengthening Your Well Mindedness and Learning How to Establish a Healthy Ritual or Routine

The Importance of Ritual to Mental Health In a world that often feels chaotic and unpredictable, developing personal rituals can help us feel in control over our own lives. Rituals are actions that have special, personal meaning and that become a regular part of our life. They benefit our mental health deeply.

10 Surprising Facts About How Our Mind\/Brain Works and What These Things Can Teach Us.

If you want to be able to manage your mindset, it helps to understand something about what’s going on inside your head.   You don’t have to be a brain surgeon or neuroscientist to be curious about the contents of your skull. The human brain is the most complex thing in the universe and you get to own one – how amazing is that?

The Comparison Game and 5 Ways to Stop Judging Today!

Let’s be honest. We all do it. We compare our lives, our businesses, our bodies, our families, our kids, our houses. And even though we hate how the comparison game makes us feel, we do it anyway. For many of us, the comparison game has become almost like second nature. Let’s look at what the comparison game is, how it affects us and how to overcome it.

The Power of Learning to Be Your Most Authentic Self

Living authentically by knowing yourself, being able to understand, accept and express your emotions, follow your own intuition, and trust in your ability to make the right decisions for yourself and your life can have significant positive impacts on your health and well-being. Research shows that people who live more authentically are prone to greater psychological well-being.  Greater mental health generally equates to greater physical health too. When one cannot live from this true plac...

What Alcohol Does to Your Brain, Mind and Body

In this episode, Lynn explains the science behind what happens when you use the most dangerous drug on the planet, alcohol. She lays out several ways to cope with problematic alcohol use. 

How To Reduce Your "Negative Nelly" Thoughts And Build Self-Awareness

In this episode Lynn discusses rumination which is caused by lack of awareness of mostly subconscious negative thoughts.  Using her excerpts from her book "5 Weeks to Self Confidence, A Guide to Confronting Your Inner Critic & Controlling Your Relationship with Your Thoughts", you will learn the healthy coping skills of introspection and self-distancing.

Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) The Hidden Trauma of Our Time

In this episode Lynn talks truth about the epidemic of Childhood Trauma, Childhood Emotional Neglect. Its origins, symptoms and how to cope with it as adults.

The Well Minded Podcast Trailer

Hi, I'm Lynn Matti. Are you struggling with low self-esteem or a lack of self-compassion? Do you often feel self doubt long with anxiety and worry? Do you avoid difficult conversations? Is your inner voice often critical? I help people understand themselves better, make sense of their thoughts and feelings, learn from expectations and resentments by using a heart-centered and modern approach.  We all want and need to live an authentic and fulfilling life...sometimes we just need a little...

201: The Sober Therapist Final Podcast

200: 4 Years, a pandemic and well, let's just say we did it!

Lynn shares BUNDLES of episodes categorized for you. "Neuro Nerdy", "Just Starting Out", Skills Building, Society-Culture-Interviews-and "Trauma and Mental Health". With a special message about our times at the end.

Ep. 199: Why Do So Many of Us Feel Overwhelmed?

In today's Episode, Lynn goes deeper into why we are all feeling so stressed, unhappy and overwhelmed.

199: Why Do So Many of Us Feel Overwhelmed?

In today's Episode, Lynn goes deeper into why we are all feeling so stressed, unhappy and overwhelmed.

198: Needs and Wants...How To Get Them All Met

Lynn talks about what it takes to get your needs and wants out of life.  Why is it so hard and confusing?

197: Do You Feel Unheard, Unvalidated, Unloved? Join Lynn Today to Find Out How to Start a New Course for Self Love.

In this episode, Lynn takes a deeper dive into our layers of miscommunication and codependency in relationships.  Find out how to be your most authentic self.

Episode 197: Do You Feel Unheard, Unvalidated, Unloved? Join Lynn Today to Find Out How to Start a New Course for Self Love.

In this episode, Lynn takes a deeper dive into our layers of miscommunication and codependency in relationships.  Find out how to be your most authentic self.

196: Are You Codependent? Who Do You Spend Your Time With and Why?

Lynn takes you into the world of codependency in 2022.  What does it look like to be codependent and what can you do today to feel better.

195: How Do You Define Happiness? Let Me Re-Introduce Myself

How do we human? Why do we seek pain relief? What are we searching for? What is happiness?  All really good questions. I won't answer them definitively in this podcast, but you will learn how I answered them for myself and how I help others with the common issues we all have today.

195: What is the most common mental health issue we have humans?

How do we human? Why do we seek pain relief? What are we searching for? What is happiness?  All really good questions. I won't answer them definitively in this podcast, but you will learn how I answered them for myself and how I help others with the common issues we all have today.

194: Your Brain on Resentments: The Power of Knowing Your Feelings and Emotions.

Emotions are the commanders of our actions as well as the cause behind mental issues. Resentment is especially intriguing because of its secretive quality, its connection to violent acts and trauma, and its large role in interpersonal relationships.

193: Fun in Sobriety and Recovery: How Dancing Helps Your Mental Health.

In this episode Lynn talks about Living Room and Kitchen Dancing along with the many other ways dancing is making it onto the recovery radar screen.

193: The Neurobiology of How Dancing Helps Your Mental Health!

In this episode Lynn talks about Living Room and Kitchen Dancing along with the many other ways dancing is making it onto the recovery radar screen.

192: Are You a People Pleaser? Have Difficulty Saying No? Learn Why You Do This in Today's Episode

Lynn shares what she has learned about the newest identified trauma response, fawning.

191:The Evidence is Clear, We Need to Talk More About Trauma.

I know it is not fun.  Yet we know the best way to heal is through.  Really that is it.  We must learn a healthy way through.  At least that is my preference, because too many of us don't know to talk about our feelings. Which makes it difficult to know what we need.

190: What are the Different Types of Trauma and Do Have You Experienced Any?

Lynn talks about the confusion today regarding what is trauma and do I have some?

189: Are You Practicing Self Reflection? What Is It and Why We All Need It.

Lynn shares the necessary practice of Self Reflection, tips and ways to learn it today.

188: Interview with Veronica Valli of Soberful and Author Soberful: Uncover A Sustainable Fulfilling LIfe Free of Alcohol

In this episode we have a ball discussing the joys of sobriety and recovery along with Veronica's Five Pillars of Sobriety and Emotional Sobriety.

187: What is Emotional Intelligence and How Does it Help Me to Better Emotionally Regulate?

Lynn talks about research and practice around EI and ER and how to be more mentally fit and flexible. 

186: I'm Back! Let's Talk About Moving Through 2022 With Honesty, Meaningful Coping Skills and a Massive Dose of Self Compassion.

Lynn talks about what she learned about herself over the break and how to focus on what you need in the coming year.

185: Looking for Good Episodes to Listen To?

Lynn identifies several of her top episodes to take you into 2022!  See you in January!

184: Celebrating Your Sobriety and Recovery: How to Do It Without Relapsing.

Ask yourself things like: Who will be at the party? Is there anyone there who will try to compromise my sobriety? Who can go with me that supports my sobriety? What will I say when someone offers me a drink? What will I order to drink while there? Where is the party? Is it an environment I can handle at this time? How will I get home in the case I feel uncomfortable and need to leave? What are possible relapse triggers? What is my escape plan if I feel a craving or urge come on?

183: Want To Slow Your Racing Thoughts? Best Anxiety Tool Decoded

In today's episode Lynn talks about how folks confuse meditation with mindfulness and often take the fun out our being in the present moment. 

182: Survival Guide For Your First Days Sober or in Recovery

Many people aren’t sure what to expect when getting sober or entering into Recovery, even with some research. The first days of sobriety are full of challenges and opportunities to strengthen recovery. Getting an idea of what it’s like can help you or your loved one navigate this time more successfully.

181: NeuroNerdy Topic Alert!! Talking About How We Talk About Addiction and Mental Wellness

Lynn takes a neuronerdy dive into one of her favorite recovery resources for information on our brain and how better understand what goes on within it.

180: 6 Things We Still Get Wrong About Substance Use and Addiction.

Lynn shares her top 6 things that folks are still messing up about addiction, substance use and recovery!

179: Emotional Boundaries and Detaching With Love: Warning, May Bring Relief and Happiness.

Learn how to set boundaries big and small.

178: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

In this episode Lynn share a helpful resource for providing relief from confusion and emotionally suffering that some parents arouse in our early lives.

177: Alcohol, Sobriety, Recovery and Sleep: Learning About The True Effects of Substances.

Lynn shares on what alcohol and other drugs deprive us of, how they work against and not for healthy relaxation and sleep.

176: How Do You Define Happiness and Ways to Get More Sooner.

Lynn explores why happiness seems so hard to get and how to figure out your own happiness goals. When most people talk about happiness, they might be talking about how they feel in the present moment, or they might be referring to a more general sense of how they feel about life overall.

175: Want to Reduce or Moderate? Here Is a Healthy Way to Experiment.

Today Lynn talks about what most of us who have a problematic relationship with substances want to do, sometimes desperately.  There is a way to experiment with moderation to find out if it's for you.

174: Let's Talk About Pride and Humility

In this episode Lynn shares the raw pivotal moment during early sobriety when she was faced with a huge block to her own recovery, her pride.  

173: Healing Relationships in Sobriety and Recovery

Lynn shares steps you can take today to improve and heal broken and hurt relationships.

172: Drinking Too Much? Overwhelmed? Worried? Stressed?: Learn Where to Start

Lynn talks about what to do if you are feeling out of control even just a little bit.

171: The Upstairs and Downstairs Brain: Learn to Integrate Your Brain

In this episode Lynn discusses why we need both the upstairs and the downstairs brain and why we need them to work together. 

170: How To Truly Rest: The 7 Types of Rest We All Need

Are you tired much of the time? Getting the proper type of rest requires ID’ing what, exactly, you're missing, especially in early sobriety and recovery.  Learn what you don't know about resting in today's podcast.

169: Taking a Summer Break Back July 12th!

We all need breaks, especially summer breaks!  Do you have something planned?  Take a listen to a previous episode and let me know if you want me to cover a specific topic!  xo Lynn

169: Taking a Summer Break Back in August!

We all need breaks, especially summer breaks!  Do you have something planned?  Take a listen to a previous episode and let me know if you want me to cover a specific topic!  xo Lynn

168: Focus On Your Strengths To Improve Your Sobriety, Recovery and Mental Health.

Lynn shares a great research and techniques to dive deeper into self improvement and recovery with your personal strengths. 

167: Let's Talk About Trauma and How To Heal From Trauma.

Lynn shares up to date information, definitions and solid ways to cope with your particular type of trauma.