For some guys, they feel powerless all the time and don’t even try to connect to feeling powerful because they don’t believe it’s something they possess. Others, they gain their power through unbalanced control over their environment or the people in it. And both of these types of men, which make up the majority of men today, are essentially running a trauma response. Genuine power isn’t something you just have or don’t have and it’s not something you gain through trying to have control over everything. It comes from being able to be present with what you feel.