Situationships Podcast
47 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 39 ratingsEvery mistake is an opportunity to learn. Even those whack exes and lame situationships you endured.
Situationships Podcast is a space for black millennials to have honest conversations about the mistakes we're all making in dating.
Join me, Randi, as I talk with black millennials about the dating lessons they’ve learned and the mistakes they never want to make again.
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Introducing 'Textured Tales'
March 04, 2021 01:00 - 1 minute - 1.52 MBBlack folks often have an intimate yet complicated relationship with our hair. From sitting through burning relaxers trying to get bone straight hair, to learning to rock a TWA because you just couldn’t wait any longer to go natural, to slathering on castor oil and praying your hair edges come back -- we have endless experiences with our hair. Some experiences are empowering, others may be painful. We also understand that society has a lot to say about our hair. Navigating the expectations...
Mr. Right vs. Mr. Right Now
October 07, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 83.6 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Corey from the podcast Brunch with the Bros (@_brunchwiththebros). Corey drops hella gems as he shares about his 7-year on-again-off-again relationship with his ex. He talks about the unrealistic expectations his ex had of their relationship based on what she saw on social media. Their inability to meet her #relationshipgoals led her to explore options with other men. In the Do Better Corner, we talk about whether or not ghosting is "petty". Enjoy the ...
Religious Objection
September 30, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 121 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with CJ Jackson from the podcast 6IX & Friends (@6ixandfriendspod). CJ and I talk about his experience dating women who have stopped dating him because he’s not Christian. Because CJ primarily dates Black women who are often Christian, he’s had to adapt his mindset and approach to dating. We switch up the Do Better Corner today and CJ shares a petty story of when his ex-girlfriend tried to claim he was the father of her child. It’s definitely a good one! Enjoy...
Loving Without Injury
September 23, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 84.1 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with photographer, visual designer, and brand manager, Stephen Miller (@stephenlamiller). In a world full of ghosting and blocking Stephen shares his perspective on healthier breakups. Newly single after a 4 year relationship, Stephen shares how he's approaching dating right now and what dating app he's using to get back out there. Enjoy the episode!
Summer Situationship
September 16, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 119 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with violinist and music instructor, Kendall Isadore. We chat about Kendall's brief summer situationship during quarantine. She met a fellow teacher who seemed to have his shit together emotionally, but their budding romance quickly devolved once financial troubles and inattentiveness started to creep in. Enjoy the episode!
A Sunday Kind of Love ft. Alanah Nichole
September 09, 2020 05:00 - 41 minutes - 56.7 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Baltimore based performance artist, non-profit and small business consultant, organizer and mother of two -- Alanah Nichole (@alanahasenteredthechat). Alanah and I discuss her experiences with unrequited love, whether or not millennial men and women want the same things in dating, and how she’s navigating being in love with her best friend. And Alanah doesn’t disappoint in the Do Better Corner ;). Enjoy the episode! -- Find more from Alanah Nichole: https...
Season 4 Coming Sept. 9
September 02, 2020 19:17 - 2 minutes - 3.88 MBSeason 4 is dropping September 9th!
Dating Diary #3 (Season 3 Finale)
May 06, 2020 09:00 - 7 minutes - 10.9 MBThis week I’m hitting y’all with another dating diary episode. It’s also the season 3 finale. But don’t worry, I’ll be back with more relatable stories and dating gems in season 4. Enjoy! Thanks for listening to this episode of Situationships. If you learned anything in this episode, please share this episode with a friend. Get Situationships Podcast merch and early access to podcast episodes by becoming a Situationships Podcast Patreon at patreon.com/situationshipspod. You know that ...
Barriers to Vulnerability ft. Penda N’diaye creator of the Pro Hoe Podcast
April 29, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 90.9 MBOn this week’s episode, I have something a little different for y’all. It’s a crossover episode with Penda from the Pro Hoe Podcast. How do you distinguish between an emotional boundary and a resistance to vulnerability? Penda -- the creator of the Pro Hoe Podcast (@improhoe) -- and I discuss this question and many other topics around barriers to vulnerability in modern dating in our crossover episode this week. It was truly a delight talking with Penda and I can’t wait for you to h...
Lack of Attraction
April 23, 2020 04:05 - 57 minutes - 78.7 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with fan favorite… and my best friend, Alishia. We kept it pretty light. She shares about a recent experience dating someone who was great on paper, chemistry was poppin’, but the attraction just wasn’t there. We all know that chemistry and attraction aren’t everything, but that shit matters. Hear about some of the back and forth she went through deciding how to proceed and how things ultimately ended. Enjoy! Thanks for listening to this episode of Situation...
Moving on from a 10-Year Situationship
April 15, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 83.3 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Cara — a single 30-year-old woman who told me about her experience in a 10-year off again/on again situationship. After meeting in college and experiencing a feeling freedom and comfort she had never experienced before, completely untangling her life from a situationship that she knew would never turn into more became difficult. Over the 10 years, Cara entered several other relationships and even got engaged. She shares how her experience in the situati...
Taking a Break from Dating
April 08, 2020 09:00 - 49 minutes - 67.7 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Saneeta — a 34-year-old woman living in New York City who’s taking an indefinite break from dating. She’s met her fair share of duds and instead of being up front when she’s ready to move on, Saneeta tends to keep her feelings to herself and let things drag on much longer than she’d really like to. Saneeta shares a story of dating a dude who took advantage of her kindness (and her wallet…) and another story of a guy who got SLOPPY drunk and ruined their ...
Dating Lessons from a Single 34-Year-Old
April 01, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 86.9 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Yewande — a 34-year-old who has never had a serious, committed relationship. For me, her situation was super relatable. She shares her experience navigating a variety of failed situationships and how “going with the flow” has led her to be perpetually single. We talk about the need for vulnerability, clear expectations, and trusting your gut as you enter and navigate dating. Enjoy! -- Thanks for listening to this episode of Situationships. If you le...
Ending an Engagement
March 25, 2020 09:00 - 52 minutes - 72.3 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Ashley — a 33-year-old who shares her experience ending her engagement and relationship 6 months before her wedding. And get this… everything was already paid for. I know… shocking, right? We talk about what led her to make that decision and how she went about ending their 4-year relationship and engagement some. We also talk about how she’s tackling her life as a single woman and why she’s team #neversettle. Enjoy! Thanks for listening to this epis...
Rebound Relationship
March 18, 2020 09:00 - 52 minutes - 72.4 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Rishea — a 31-year-old who shares her experience entering quickly into a relationship with someone who was recently out of a relationship and still teasing his life apart from his ex. We talk about why being a rebound usually ain’t it and the role of self worth playing in setting and enforcing boundaries in dating. In the Do Better Corner, Rishea shares an instance where she may or may not have been waiting on the front porch for a nigga to get home. En...
When Your IBM Breaks Your Heart
March 11, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 133 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Ebony — a 32-year-old who shares her experience dating an IBM (ideal black man) in college, only to be left broken-hearted and extremely jaded. The incident created a dynamic within Ebony of trying to prove herself worthy to potential partners, while keeping enough distance to prevent anyone from hurting her again. It’s a wall Ebony is still working on tearing down as she navigates vulnerability in her current relationship. Ebony shares honestly about t...
Radical Honesty
March 04, 2020 10:00 - 54 minutes - 74.5 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with DeJa — a 35-year-old who talks about practicing radical honesty in her year and a half long relationship. DeJa learned from failed relationships the importance of communication and despite their practice of radical honesty in her current relationship, she’s not sure it's for everyone. You’ll get to hear what radical honesty looks like in her relationship and why it might not be for you and your boo. And as a self-proclaimed “petty person”, you’ll hear how...
Dating Needs Gone Unmet
February 26, 2020 10:00 - 48 minutes - 66.8 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Keyana — a 32-year-old who shares about her experience learning just how important it is to set boundaries and expectations early on in dating. We talk about how self-worth plays an integral role in asking for what you want in dating and what it feels like to have your needs go unmet in dating. Enjoy! Thanks for listening to this episode of Situationships. If you learned anything in this episode, please share this episode with a friend. Get Situation...
An Over-Extended Situationship
February 19, 2020 10:00 - 1 hour - 93 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Sheun — a 32-year-old who spent a good chunk of his 20’s in undefined and complicated situationship. You’ll hear how things started off slow, built up, and then devolved into a confusing situation that left Sheun in an unhealthy place improperly viewing himself and the situation. We also get into our current definitions of love and how he’s using his definition of love to build a life with his fiance. Enjoy! -- Thanks for listening to this episode of S...
Digital Get Down
February 12, 2020 10:00 - 1 hour - 95.2 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Hawi — a 26-year-old who grew up as the baby of her family who got any and everything she wanted. As a result, when Hawi started dating, she hadn’t yet learned how to effectively communicate her wants and needs. She developed a bad habit of threatening to or actually breaking up with men she was dating whenever she didn’t get her way. One specific incident with her now ex taught her that not everyone gives and receives information in the same way as she di...
Dating Diary #2
November 21, 2019 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21.4 MBThis episode is the season 2 finale! So, I decided to give you all an update to the story I shared in the last Dating Diary episode. I also share some of the things that have been on my mind lately with regard to love and relationships and how I’m hoping to go into 2020. Enjoy!
Girl, Go
November 07, 2019 10:00 - 45 minutes - 61.8 MBOn this week’s episode, I talk with Laci — a 26-year-old who’s been with her college sweetheart for the last 5.5 years. We talk about some of the challenges she faced earlier on in her relationship and the challenges that she’s facing now as she tries to figure out who she is and what she wants independent of her relationship. We talk about having a go-getter mentality and how that can be hard to manage if you have a more risk-averse partner who may not be quite as career-driven.
Love is a Drug
October 24, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 92.1 MBThis week I had a conversation with my friend who shared some of the lessons he thought he learned, but ended up repeated in later relationships. I think a lot of us are familiar with rushing into a relationship, being overcome with the rush of emotion that comes with falling for someone, and not necessarily learning our lesson the first time around, so I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to some, if not all, of Justin’s experience.
Dating Diary #1
October 10, 2019 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.3 MBThis week I have something a little different for y’all. I’ve turned the mic on myself and shared about a recent experience I had that allowed me to see the power I hold when it comes to dating and dealing with potential romantic partners and it provided me the opportunity to practice exercising that power.
The Three E's to Boundary Setting
October 03, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 84 MBIn this episode, Alishia shares about her most recent situationship. Against her better judgment, Alishia got involved with a charming, ambitious 24-year-old -- 6 years her junior. She talks about the red flags that she saw, but chose to overlook, as the situationship developed. Alishia also drops some gems with her ‘3 E’s to Boundary Setting’. It’s genius, y’all. We finish the episode with Alishia sharing an EPIC petty moment in the ‘Do Better Corner’.
Millennial Dating Series (Pt. 4)
September 26, 2019 09:00 - 36 minutes - 50.3 MBOn this episode, we hear from Ebony, a Baltimore native with two Masters degrees, who’s been in not one or two but SEVEN weddings and has been a maid of honor 3 times (I don’t even have that many friends, y’all…) She talks about her experience watching millennial relationships build and devolve, as well as her experience trying her luck (mostly unsuccessfully) on a range of dating apps.
Millennial Dating Series (Pt. 3)
September 19, 2019 09:00 - 1 hour - 84.7 MBOn this episode, we hear from Christina, a married professional living and working in Baltimore. As a married woman who has been with her partner for over 6 years, Christina provides her perspective on dating from her past experience and from being an onlooker to the dating adventures of her girlfriends and siblings.
Millennial Dating Series (Pt. 2)
September 12, 2019 09:00 - 54 minutes - 74.3 MBThis is part 2 of the Millennial Dating Series. On this episode, we hear from Akil, a chemist and teacher out of Minneapolis. Akil shares some really thoughtful perspectives on dating and relationships for black millennials. And considering I’ve known Akil for almost 8 years and have seen his tomfoolery over that almost decade, his perspective really has come from a lot of maturing, learning from others, and self-reflection. I really think you’ll enjoy this interview. Enjoy! If you liked th...
Millennial Dating Series (Pt. 1) ft. Justin Casselle
September 05, 2019 15:26 - 55 minutes - 76.7 MBOn this episode, we hear from Justin Caselle, the Director of ‘The Right Swipe’ a dope new web series created by and starring Kyra Jones and Juli Del Prete. ‘The Right Swipe’ puts a modern spin on the traditional rom-com by highlighting the dating experiences of individuals from marginalized communities.
An Invitation to Breakup
August 29, 2019 09:01 - 53 minutes - 72.9 MBOn this episode, Phoenix shares a story from her early twenties when she was dating someone seriously and found out in the worst way possible that he had moved on. Phoenix drops allllll the gems on this episode and shares her unabashed truth that got her to the place of growth and maturity that she’s in now.
Lady Tinder
August 22, 2019 09:01 - 57 minutes - 78.8 MBSituationships Podcast shares the stories of black millennials from across the relationship spectrum (from singledom to divorced) to uncover hard-learned lessons of love. Each week host, Randi, chats with a guest to dig into their real-life experiences in the pursuit of love that led to insight and growth. Listen each week to learn from the mistakes and successes of others so you can do better, have better, and be better in your love life.
Bugaboo
August 15, 2019 09:01 - 56 minutes - 77.1 MBSituationships Podcast shares the stories of black millennials from across the relationship spectrum (from singledom to divorced) to uncover hard-learned lessons of love. Each week host, Randi, chats with a guest to dig into their real-life experiences in the pursuit of love that led to insight and growth. Listen each week to learn from the mistakes and successes of others so you can do better, have better, and be better in your love life.
Single Dad Dates
August 08, 2019 09:01 - 50 minutes - 69.2 MBOn this episode, Malcolm shares with us his experience dating as a single dad and shares about his first time introducing a woman he was dating to his son. We get a little deep talking about open communication, deciding on whether to have kids, and how long-term marriages last. Enjoy! If you liked this episode, please leave a 5-star rating and review on Apple Podcast. Become an official Situationships Podcast boo-thang by donating to the podcast Patreon page – Situationships Podcast. Don...
REWIND | The Swirl
August 01, 2019 09:00 - 43 minutes - 59.4 MBThis a rewind of episode 8 of season 1. On this episode, I talk to a 32-year-old married woman who tells me about how she committed to a 'Year of 100%' and it got her a #whitebae. She shares some advice for online dating and interracial relationships.
REWIND | Real N*gganess
July 25, 2019 09:01 - 36 minutes - 50.2 MBThis is a rewind from season 1. On this episode, a 35-year-old straight man who's in a relationship tells us about how he was able to get his woman by using one of these apps... and it may not be the one you think. Enjoy!
REWIND | Club Goin' Up On a Tuesday
July 18, 2019 15:00 - 30 minutes - 41.9 MBSituationships Podcast shares the stories of black millennials from across the relationship spectrum (from singledom to divorced) to uncover hard-learned lessons of love. Each week host, Randi, chats with a guest to dig into their real life experiences in the pursuit of love that led to insight and growth. Listen each week to learn from the mistakes and successes of others so you can do better, have better, and be better in your love life.
Coming Soon! Situationships Season 2
July 11, 2019 17:45 - 3 minutes - 4.87 MBHey y'all! I know it's been a minute... but Situationships is coming back August 8th! Subscribe to make sure you don't miss any of the dating gems dropped this season.
Coming Soon! Situationships Season 2
July 11, 2019 17:45 - 3 minutes - 4.87 MBHey y'all! I know it's been a minute... but Situationships is coming back August 8th! Subscribe to make sure you don't miss any of the dating gems dropped this season.
Ep. 8 | The Swirl (Season 1 Finale)
April 13, 2018 05:44 - 40 minutes - 55.5 MBOn the season 1 finale of Situationships, I talk to a 32-year-old married woman tells me about how she commitmented to a ‘Year of 100%’ and it got her a white boo. She shares some advice about online dating and interracial relationships.
Ep. 7 | Shrimp Shack
April 13, 2018 05:32 - 1 hour - 120 MBOn this episode, a 26-year-old single woman tells us about her short-lived situationship with someone who tall, dark, and handsome, but left a little to be desired in the bedroom… 👀
Ep. 6 | Real N*gganess
April 13, 2018 05:32 - 34 minutes - 47.8 MBOn this episode, a 35-year-old straight man who’s in a relationship, tells us about how he was able to get his woman by using one of these apps… and it may not be the one you think.
Ep. 5 | A Quick Tea
April 13, 2018 05:31 - 20 minutes - 28.6 MBOn this episode, a 28-year-old gay man, Ron AKA RJ, tells us about a very important lesson he learned early on in his dating life… pay attention to how someone treats you early on in courtship.
Ep. 4 | Put a Ring on It
April 13, 2018 05:29 - 19 minutes - 26.8 MBOn this episode, a 28-year-old straight man, “Jacob”, tells us about how he proposed to his now fiancé, and some of the shade he had to catch along the way.
Ep. 3 | Meet the Naija Parents
April 13, 2018 05:23 - 18 minutes - 16.5 MBOn this episode, a 30-year-old engaged, straight woman tells about the time she brought her then-boyfriend, now-fiance to meet her Nigerian parents for the first time. On the next episode, “Jacob” will also share a story about their #blacklove.
Ep. 2 | More Than Friends
April 13, 2018 05:21 - 16 minutes - 22.8 MBOn this episode, a 30-year-old single, straight man, Dante, tells about the time he reconnected with a friend from college on a weekend visit and their friendship turning into much more.
Ep. 1 | Club Goin' Up on a Tuesday
April 13, 2018 05:01 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBOn this episode, 29-year-old woman, Alishia, tells us about a first date in which she drank ENTIRELY too much and had the club goin' up on a Tuesday.
Situationships Podcast | Coming Soon
April 12, 2018 16:26 - 2 minutes - 2.86 MBOn each episode of Situationships, the (30 and single AF) host, Randi, engages in conversation with Black Millennials to swap dating stories and advice in the hopes of uncovering a few gems of dating wisdom.