Sexual Addiction:Strength/Hope/Recovery
472 episodes - English - Latest episode: 22 days ago - ★★★★ - 83 ratingsSexual Addiction requires that you know the tools to seek and manage recovery. Learn the strategies to restore your life.
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Women Who Struggle with Sex, Love and Porn Addiction with Carol the Coach
March 28, 2024 18:00 - 47 minutes - 21.1 MBEddie Capparucci and his colleagues Heather Cronemiller and Lacy Alajna Bentley have collaborated on a book for women struggling with sex, love, and addiction. Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction is based on Eddie Capparuci's Inner Child Model for treating sex/ addiction. This Inner Child Model has been helpful to many men over the past 4 years and now the authors have specifically formulated it for women!
Sex Addiction 101 with Carol the Coach
March 11, 2024 16:00 - 46 minutes - 20.7 MBToday Carol the Coach will be talking to Josh and Charlene Lewis who are co-founders of programing for both the partner and the addict that have foundations in the works of Patrick Carnes.They have an intensive that is remote and they believe in making it easy for their clients. On this podcast they will be sharing their own hope, strength and wisdom that built their programing to get you the right tools to manage recovery and betrayal.
What Is Sexualized Drug Use with Carol the Coach
March 04, 2024 19:00 - 42 minutes - 19 MBToday Carol the Coach is interviewing Dr. David Fawcett who has written a new book called Under the Influence about the deadly effect that substances have in combination withcompulsive problematic sexual behaviors. When sex and drugs are combined repeatedly and compulsively, there is a high risk of developing what Dr. David Fawcett calls sexualized drug use. This condition is also referred to as paired substance and sex addiction or addiction interaction disorder. Unfortunately, the response...
Working Through the Devastation of Betrayal w/ Empowerment with Carol the Coach
February 26, 2024 18:00 - 42 minutes - 19 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Amie Woolsey who has created a program for women who have experienced sexual betrayal and have decided to divorce to and move on to their next chapter. She teaches about the three pillars - Awareness, Acceptance, and Agency - when applied to a partner's healing journey, to enable empowerment and choice. She has offered a free workbook to get you thingking and to remember. that you have choices. She tells her partners, "Whether you're in the "Shoul...
Passport to Shame---Ticket to Shame with Carol the Coach
February 05, 2024 22:00 - 44 minutes - 20 MBToday, Carol the Coach is interviewing Sam Louie who authored Passport to Shame From Asian Immigrant to American Addict. Sam explains that "Asian cultures are rooted in shame. They are known as shame-based societies because the lives, families, and mindsets of these cultures revolve around some aspect of avoiding shame to preserve familial and cultural honor. In Chinese culture alone, there are more than 100 different ways to describe shame. While some of them overlap with English versions of...
Learn to Facilitate Disclosures from the Gurus with Carol the Coach
January 24, 2024 23:40 - 44 minutes - 20 MBToday Carol the Coach will be interviewing Janice Caudill and Dan Drake, who created his and hers, step-by-step, companion workbooks for helping couples prepare for, complete and heal after a full disclosure process. Since the books came out they are now training professionals to navigate these difficult waters with their clients, helping them to understand the infrastructure that underlies the Restoring Truth Model so that the disclosure can become the starting point for cultivating safety,...
How Can An ERCEM Workshop Change Your Life with Carol the Coach
December 23, 2023 14:00 - 36 minutes - 16.4 MBWhen betrayal has occurred, it's natural for couples to seek out marriage counseling in a desperate attempt to repair the relationship, only to be frustrated because he doesn’t know how to show empathy for the pain the betrayal he has caused her and she doesn’t know how to feel safe with someone who violated her trust so deeply. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Sherri Courtney and Laura Fisher who offers couples a solution that bridges the gap between the discovery of betrayal and coup...
The Many Types of Gaslighting with Carol the Coach
November 01, 2023 16:00 - 44 minutes - 20 MBToday Carol the Coach will be interviewing Joshua Nichols who has developed 12 Types of Gaslighting and 4 Types of Vulnerability Exploitation to help you both identify these maladaptive coping skills to make healthier choices.
Staying in this Sober Living Home Seems to Have it All with CTC
October 27, 2023 14:00 - 43 minutes - 19.4 MBToday Carol the Coach interviews Lisa and Andrew Reichel from Room to Heal. Room to Heal is a recovery residence in Charlotte, NC for men battling sex and addiction that breaks the mold of traditional sexual addiction recovery by offering men a more affordable option for immersive healing while providing intentional time apart for couples. They have a relationship-centered approach where both individuals receive coaching support while the addict is away and those coaches work as a team to ke...
Three Day Intensives are a Dealbreaker with Carol the Coach
October 09, 2023 17:00 - 37 minutes - 16.5 MBToday Carol the Coach interviews Tina Wehner President of Hope and Freedom Counseling Services and Intensives. Tina will be explaining how going to a 3 day intensive can benefit the couple as they work at restoring their relationship.She explains that Intensives provide transformational results. She explains that "While we cannot cure sex addiction or heal from it's damage in 3-days we can help you uncover the roots of the spouses addiction, give the couple tools that include: 1. For the ad...
How to Handle Difficult Sexual Conversations with Our Kids with Carol the Coach
September 25, 2023 15:00 - 46 minutes - 20.9 MBDo you ever feel like you need a guide for what to say to your children about the most important topics in their childhood? Do you want to understand why our society struggles with crucial conversations about consent, body safety, sexuality, masturbation, ography, and social media, and smart devices? Well today, Clint Davis, Counselor and Father, guides us through the how's, why's, when's and how to have these daring and pivotal conversations. Sexual trauma and overexposure to damaging conten...
How Does Betrayal Effect Male Partners with Carol the Coach
September 11, 2023 18:00 - 47 minutes - 21.4 MBToday, Carol the Coach speaks with Jesse Pyles, whose niche is the underserved male partner. He believes that male hetersexual partners have a lack of resources and as a result likely deal with the fear, anger and sadness and loss alone. In this episode he shares the common myths a male may hear if his betrayal is shared. Join us for a fascinating conversation about the nuances of men who have been betrayed!
Addicts Require Working From 2 Perspectives with Carol the Coach
September 05, 2023 18:00 - 49 minutes - 22.2 MBToday, Carol will be interviewing 2 professionals who have developed a program that speaks to the emotions that drive unwanted sexual behavior. Dr. Anthony B. Walker has a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Science, is an APSATS candidate and works as an addiction recovery life coach and recovery group facilitator with Choose Recovery Services and Luke Gordon, is a Certified Addiction Recovery & Betrayal Trauma Coach and APSATS candidate. He is professionally certified through iPEC, traine...
Enhance Your Partner Recovery in India with Carol the Coach
August 14, 2023 12:00 - 41 minutes - 37.2 MBAarti Chidambaram is Asia's sole APSATS-certified partner specialist. As a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), she works with Partners of Betrayal Trauma. She is also on the Board of APSATS. Her approach to working with partners from “Discovery to Recovery©” focuses on practical tools to deal with complex issues. Facilitating one of the longest-running support groups in Singapore- and maybe in Asia, she is dedicated to helping partners find their voice and strength in the aftermath ...
When Do Partners Need a Retreat to Deal with Grief and Anger w/Carol the Coach
August 08, 2023 18:00 - 42 minutes - 18.8 MBTodday Carol the Coach is interviewing Tera Brown who is a trauma informed Coach and Speaker. As an APSATS trainee, she specializes in helping people who have endured relational trauma create personal safety, emotional awareness and peace. She woke up from a lifelong pattern she wasn’t even aware of when after 16 years of marriage her husband disclosed his addiction, infidelity, and struggles. Tera saw how she learned to avoid her emotions and began her personal journey of growth and recovery...
How Do You Cope with Gaslighting and Other Forms of Abuse with Carol the Coach
July 31, 2023 19:00 - 30 minutes - 13.6 MBAs a trailblazer and thought-leader in the field of GASLIGHTING, Sarah Morales found the "traditional" definition was leaving people MORE confused about what IS and IS NOT GASLIGHTING; it was stigmatizing; it was perpetuating fear and a sense of powerlessness. SHE FOUND THAT THIS WAS NOT HELPING ANYONE! Her work in this field over the past decade has led her to create her OWN definition of GASLIGHTING - one that has helped her clients SEE THEMSELVES; one that has helped shift the power BACK I...
Thriving, Not Just Surviving: Possibilities for Love with Carol the Coach
July 10, 2023 18:00 - 47 minutes - 21.1 MBCarol the Coach believes that couples can get through partner betrayal and find post traumatic growth. Today, she interviews authors Joanna and Matt Raabsmith who along with Dan Drake, wrote Building True Intimacy:Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. In this book they describe about how couples can navigate some of the later stages of betrayal recovery as a team. Their roadmap helps a couple tackle issues like forgiveness and grieving, sexual reintegration, and building a thri...
Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy Can Make A Difference with Carol the Coach
June 19, 2023 18:00 - 42 minutes - 19.1 MBToday, Carol the Coach, Mary Kay Cocharo who wants to educate our listeners abou a new type of support and intervention.Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy is an integrative relational model at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology, and relational neurobiology. It aims at assisting couples to experience the most alive and joyful connection with each other while helping each other grow and develop their relational intelligence on the path to relational matu...
Complex Partner Trauma with Carol the Coach
June 13, 2023 13:00 - 45 minutes - 20.5 MBToday, Carol the Coach is talking to Hope Ray, the founder of the Betrayal Violence Institute. Hope has created new terminology and conceptionalization for professionals and couples when complex partner trauma and betrayal violence has been identified. She has created hope for society to better understand betrayal violence starting with the experieences of women in relationship with men who betray and lie about the addiction. In this interview you will hear Hope discuss why she feels that a ...
The Porn Solution with Carol the Coach
June 05, 2023 18:00 - 45 minutes - 20.5 MBToday, Carol the Coach interviews Sandra Shachar PhD, who has just released The Solution, Relationship Repair After ography Betrayal. In her book she realizes that can fracture a couples relationship. She writes, "It is likely that your relationship is in crisis following the discovery of hidden ography use. If you, as the discovering partner, accidentally learned about your mate’s ography habit, you may be in a state of shock and disbelief. Perhaps you did not know they were looking at at...
Some People Don't Even Think Sex Addiction Exists with Carol the Coach
May 06, 2023 19:00 - 47 minutes - 21.4 MBThe American Foundation for Addiction Research (AFAR) is a public non-profit that funded research into understanding and effectively treating addiction, with a special focus on sex addiction. Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Tim Stein, a colleague who wants the putblic to be aware of the research behind sex addiction and the important co-morbity that occurs when people suffer from untreated sex addiction. We will explore some of the value information we have gained from past researc...
Adult Children of Sex Addicts with Carol the Coach
April 03, 2023 18:00 - 49 minutes - 22.1 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Ken Adams who has co-authored a groundbreaking book A Light in the Dark: The Hidden Legacy of Adult Children of Sex Addicts detailing the unique issues experienced by adult children who grew up with a sexually addicted parent, and offering a path to unburden their shameful legacy and embrace sexuality and intimacy without the intrusion or constraints from the past. Adult children who grew up with a parent who had a sexual addiction are left confuse...
The Betrayal Bind with Carol the Coach
March 06, 2023 19:00 - 43 minutes - 19.6 MBBetrayed partners need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S, who is an expert at helping partners work through sexual betrayal. An expert in the field, her new book clearly delineates how partners can heal and find their life again or perhaps for th...
A Male Partners Story with Carol the Coach
February 22, 2023 21:00 - 41 minutes - 18.7 MBToday, Carol the Coach interviews a Male Partner who is in Post-Traumatic Growh. Listen as he tells you how he got there!
The Addict is Traumatized Too with Carol the Coach
February 13, 2023 19:00 - 40 minutes - 18.3 MBWhen a couple seeks therapy after discovering one of them have been living a secret and harmful life of betrayal. The usual treatment plan will most likely focus on the betrayer becoming sober and learning to live a life of integrity, and the betrayed partner beginning a path of healing from the PTSD symptoms of betrayal trauma. This is a well researched and proven approach. However, the addict is also traumatized by the discovery that turns their world upside down. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck ...
A Partner Shares How She is Healing Herself with Carol the Coach
January 23, 2023 19:00 - 43 minutes - 19.3 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Corinna Kaufman who is a partner who is in the middle of transformation. She is speaking, writing and sharing her message of self empowerment and change.
Are You Ready to Move On In Your Life Carol the Coach
January 09, 2023 20:00 - 42 minutes - 18.9 MBIt is so exhausting to deal with the collateral damage of being a partner. It is just so unfair! You didn't ask for the betrayal with all of its emotional wounding and many partners wonder if they will ever be able to recover. To make matters worse, partners put themselves on the back burner. Partners have options to get intense help but they delay it because: They resent that they need to make space for this "_____." They resent that there is a need for this support and that it would take ...
A Partner Shares Her Story with Carol the Coach
December 28, 2022 19:00 - 39 minutes - 35.3 MBWhen a partner feels Post-Traumatic Growth, she is much more likely to want to share it with other women who need the encouragement! Listen as Carol the Coach, interviews a partner to find out how she got healthy and what she learned about herself!
Why Does Your Man Cheat with Carol the Coach
December 18, 2022 14:30 - 34 minutes - 15.3 MBToday Carol the Coach will be interviewing Floyd G. Potts who has written Why Your Man Will Not Stop Cheating Until He Does This. In his book Floyd unlocks the key to sex addiction recovery and he wants to tell you about it today. This is Floyd's life story and he wants to help others heal.
Finding Your Safe Space with Carol the Coach
November 28, 2022 21:00 - 42 minutes - 19.2 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing the founder of Safe Space who created it as a resource for women who needed perspective and healing due to the destructive impacts of a romantic relationship. Having experienced an intensely destructive and confusing marriage, she knew how overwhelming, frightening, and heartbreaking it can be. She explains in our interview, "I left that marriage terrified, disoriented, and very, very broken. It took me a long time to put a lot of the pieces tog...
Brainspotting Can Work Through the Impasses in Couples Work with Carol the Coach
November 22, 2022 20:00 - 40 minutes - 18 MBListen as Carol the Coach interviews Julie St Onge as she talks about how brainspotting can assist couples in their relational struggles. Brainspotting allows the emotional brain to reprocess trauma and reorganize it into the cortex or logical brain. It expedites the healing process. It is a process that involves using the optic nerve direction and bilateral music. We tap into where the trauma is and allow it to reprocess and reduce. This is not exposure therapy. The benefit to couples spot...
Discussing How to Implement A Therapeutic Separation with Carol the Coach
November 07, 2022 19:00 - 43 minutes - 19.7 MBCarol the Coach interviews Dr. Jill Manning, the creator of a Therapeutic Separation Planning Guide. This one-of-a-kind guide provides clinicians, coaches, and couples with a highly structured, worksheet-style resource for planning a customized therapeutic separation. Over 120 open-ended questions cover key topics for separating couples. In addition to a visually appealing layout, expert tips, research data, and quotes are included to assist couples in organizing a therapeutic separation that...
GRACE BASED RECOVERY GROUPS AND LEADERSHIP TRAINING WITH CAROL THE COACH
October 31, 2022 18:00 - 44 minutes - 19.7 MBListen as Carol the Coach interviews Maurice Crane who is forming a new outreach for men who are struggling with sexual integrity. Grace Based Recovery is the foundation of Be Broken Ministries in San Antonio Texas. Be Broken Ministries is a ministry to men, wives, families with an emphasis on recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors, otherwise known as sex addiction. Be Broken's flagship outreach is the Gateway to Freedom Weekend Workshops held in San Antonio, TX, Orlando FL and Mt. Bethel ...
The Body Bears the Burden with Carol the Coach
October 23, 2022 21:00 - 46 minutes - 20.7 MBPartners who experience berayal trauma can learn how to deal with the impact it has on their health. Today, Carol the Coach, interviews 2 partner betrayal specialists who have helped with other specialists to create a workshop for women who need to reclaim their lives. In this workshop, women will be able to : 1. Learn from partner betrayal trauma and behavioral health specialists 2. Grieve the losses with other women on a similar journey 3. Claim and give voice to their Body Bears the Bu...
What Happens If They Both Have Cheated with Carol the Coach
October 17, 2022 17:00 - 47 minutes - 21.3 MBToday, Carol the Coach interviews a listener who is confused about his status and his spouses status.There has been many types of betrayal by his partner and he wants help navigating how to keep himself safe. He has much resentment about the betrayals that she was a part of and wants some clarity from Carol the Coach.
Recovery Coaching Might Help You Find Sobriety with Carol the Coach
October 10, 2022 18:00 - 46 minutes - 20.9 MBTony Blevins and his wife Rebecca recently started a coaching practice with a two-fold mission: to help men recover from sex addiction and provide resources to their spouses who experience betrayal trauma. Tony uses motivational interviewing techniques to help men develop and maintain effective sobriety plans so they can lead a healthy sеxual life free of compulsive urges and unwanted behaviors. Rebecca writes her blog for two reasons. It is healing for her to share her feelings and experien...
Emotional Safety with Carol the Coach
October 02, 2022 20:00 - 50 minutes - 22.5 MBToday Carol the Coach will be talking to Alex A. Avila, who has written a new book that will come out 10.8.22 callEmotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships. He will talk about the need for emotional safety so that you can build on a foundation that is required tocreate a new relationship. This book and our discussion will help us understand the emotional pain and distance we experience from others and how to navigate that gap...
Creating a Community for Partners
September 18, 2022 20:00 - 46 minutes - 20.7 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Melissa Ruff who has developed livefreewives.org to serve woman who want to be free of the anxiety and fear that accompanies partner betrayal.She is going to share with partners how they can REALLY tell if theri husband is in true recovery or white knuckling it.
What is Help Them Heal with Carol the Coach
September 04, 2022 14:00 - 33 minutes - 15 MBToday Carol and Kim talk about the ERCEM Model and the book that came out to guide you through your healing.
When To Stay or Leave a Relationship with Carol the Coach
August 29, 2022 18:00 - 40 minutes - 18.2 MBHow to tell if your partner is slipping or you are? There are many reasons to stay in a relationship, from family, finances, and most importantly love. But staying in a relationship where both parties are figuring out the next steps after the discovery of SA isn’t easy. What if they cheat? What if I can never trust them again? How will I be able to tell if we can move past these issues or if our relationship is doomed? Sometimes, the problem isn’t your partner. In this podcast, Carol the...
Raped by Her Husband and Misguided by the Church with Carol the Coach
August 09, 2022 14:00 - 42 minutes - 37.8 MBToday, Carol is interviewing a resilient woman who was raped by her husband and misguided by the church. She talks about her confusion about his actions and how they tried to find guidance with the church. She lived years in that confusion until she started to focus on herself which started the road to recovery.
The My House Workshop for Men with Carol the Coach
August 04, 2022 18:00 - 42 minutes - 18.9 MBCarol the Coach will be interviewing Michael Ciaccio who will be sharing the origins of The Center for Healing and their specialized program, the My House Workshop to help sex addicts and church leaders heal from sex addiction. The Center for Healing is a clinical group practice working with those struggling with attachment wounds, trauma and sexual brokenness. The Center was founded in 2013 and has 5 clinical therapists working with clients daily. He will share the powerful story behind th...
A Partners Story with Carol the Coach
July 27, 2022 15:00 - 42 minutes - 18.9 MBThis is a partner's story.
A Survivors Guide to Male Sexual Abuse with Carol the Coach
July 25, 2022 18:00 - 44 minutes - 19.7 MBSexual abuse is the secret shame that lies deep within. Men hold onto this secret shame for an average of 25 years before they disclose the hurt and pain they have endured and carried by sexual abuse perpetrated by another male. So many men and their spouses wonder how male sexual abuse has affected the survivor. Today Carol the Coach talks to Doug Carpenter who wrote a riveting book call:. The book contains over 40 reasons why men don’t tell. The degree of shame is significant and it ofte...
Help Them Heal Workshop Coming Up October 8th with Carol the Coach
July 20, 2022 17:30 - 12 minutes - 5.11 MBCarol has a new workshop that she wants you to be aware of if you are looking to heal from the sexual betrayal that occured as a result of sexual addiction.
A Community for Couples with Carol the Coach
July 18, 2022 18:00 - 50 minutes - 45.1 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marnie Breeker who co-founded Helping Couples Heal with her colleague Duane Osterlind who knows how helpful it can be for couples to be able to support each other. Listen as she talks about their new community and the benefits of not doing it alone.
What is the Sober Way of Life with Carol the Coach
July 11, 2022 18:00 - 40 minutes - 17.9 MBToday Carol the Coach interviews fellow podcaster, Rhys Pasimio who is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Counselor, and Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor, as well as a soon-to-be certified IFS practitioner. Rhys is in recovery and produces the Outer Circle Inner Stillness Podcast. He believes recovery is about much more than just behavior change. It is a whole person, whole life transformation, mirroring the conversation experience in a spiritual journey. He will...
Move from Powerless to Empowered in Your Relationships with Carol the Coach
July 05, 2022 14:00 - 43 minutes - 19.6 MBIn 2019, Charlen Benson, wrote the book Unstuck book. She has added a missing piece to the book and wanted our viewers to know that she has created a Study Guide which offers thought provoking questions, easy-to-follow checklists, road-tested tips, healing exercise, insightful writing prompts, and profoundly moving prayers. She explains to Carol the Coach, "When we are ‘on the road’ in our relationship, we get along fine and are able to navigate amicably our varying interests and desires. ...
One Man's Journey from Trauma to Triumph with Carol the Coach
June 28, 2022 13:00 - 52 minutes - 23.6 MBToday, Carol the Coach is interviewing Nathan Spiteri who is brutally honest about how sexual abuse affected his life,The episode at the swimming pool was day one of what would become a three-year relationship between an eight-year-old boy and a paedophile in his early 40s, living just streets from each other in the same small town. Nathan experienced traumatic bonding; a strong emotional attachment between a victim and their abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of violence. The sexual ab...
Is Trauma Getting in the Way of Your Recovery with Carol the Coach
June 20, 2022 18:00 - 46 minutes - 20.8 MBHealing trauma using somatic experiencing (SE), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS). When is it addiction and when is it trauma? Many people who accept their sex addiction issues embrace that their focus must be on recovery. What if you’re in recovery and working your program, but life isn’t improving? What if old behaviors keep creeping up or your relationships are still suffering. What if relapses, near slips, and shame start to tank reco...