Seeking Connections Podcast

Finding Opportunities for Self Connection

June 15, 2021 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MB

This week on the pod, Kelly and Jessie start out talking about deepening self connection, talk about the wisdom of the tarot, and navigating life as an introvert (Kelly) and an extravert (Jessie).

We Finally Talk About Grief

June 08, 2021 04:00 - 51 minutes - 35.5 MB

Jessie and Kelly have been avoiding talking about grief for some time now, and they finally do a deep dive into the topic. Chock full of resources and permission to grieve any way under the sun, this episode finally tackles a concept that we actually face every day of life being humans.

Caretaking Explained - In even more detail than you might want!

June 01, 2021 04:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MB

This week, Kelly and Jessie continue to unpack the complex issue of caretaking, and reference the book "Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist" by Margalis Fjelstad, focusing in on the Caretaking Quiz and how to begin the healing process if you find yourself on the caretaker spectrum.

Grab bag - JUST KIDDING!!

May 25, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 41.5 MB

This week Kelly and Jessie start out planning to do a grab bag of listener questions, but end up talking about caretaking versus caregiving for the whole stinking episode! How do you know if you are caretaking in a healthy/appropriate way? When do you need to change your caretaking behavior? What does healthy caregiving look like? We cover all of this and more - with jokes.

Childhood Emotional Neglect

May 18, 2021 04:00 - 1 hour - 49.9 MB

This week, we delve into a listener question about raising kids when you are simultaneously trying to heal from generational trauma, and how not to pass that down through subsequent generations.

Friendships are messy and sometimes you build a wall together...

May 11, 2021 04:00 - 46 minutes - 32.1 MB

Kelly and Jessie talk about messy friendship times, fun friendship times, owning our stuff, how to relationally talk about when we are activated in friendship in a way that leaves both parties feeling more connected and less burdened, and probably many other things!

Therapisting in the wind down of the pandemic

May 04, 2021 04:00 - 54 minutes - 37.1 MB

The pod is back for a third season! This week Kelly and Jessie catch up with being a therapist at this moment in the pandemic, thinking about supporting clients and each other in the journey back to a more holistically healthy life. We explore coping with social anxiety challenges and thinking about building back slowly and with support - and how to check in with yourself to see how that’s working for you.

Season 3 Teaser!

March 30, 2021 01:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MB

That's right...Season 3 is right around the corner...and Jessie and Kelly are excited to share this preview episode with you in celebration of the launch coming May 4th! Today we reconnect and recap, catching you up on what's been happening since the end of Season 2.

Episode 10: Pop Up Party, Season 2 Final Episode

December 08, 2020 05:00 - 50 minutes - 34.9 MB

This week Kelly and Jessie review the season and say goodbye to 2020 and Season 2. Table Talk Connection Cards by Mama May I help us explore some ideas around mindfulness and appreciation, and we think forward to season 3 and Kelly’s vision of a pop up post-pandemic party in Love Park.

Episode 9: Self Care Playbook

December 01, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 50.7 MB

This week, Kelly & Jessie talk all things self care, including everything you're already doing to make it through the day, hour, minute, second. Perhaps offering a more unconventional approach to the brain mechanisms behind self care, Kelly & Jessie stay in the judgment free zone with explaining how to know when you're more in need of self care along with ideas for coping, and of course, real life examples.

Episode 8: Rosalynne Duff + Jessie

November 24, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 41.6 MB

This week’s guest, Rosalynne Duff, sits down with Jessie to talk about her work in addressing inequities in the education system and Cognitively Based Compassion Training. Rosalynne shares her wisdom about healing, racial equity, individual cultivation of empathy and systemic change. She offers a path toward wellness for each of us with the ultimate goal of offering the world the best and most abundant aspects of ourselves, in addition to resources and ideas for changing our education syst...

Episode 7: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

November 16, 2020 05:00 - 1 hour - 46.8 MB

This week, Kelly & Jessie follow up on a previous topic: narcissistic abuse...and talk all about healing, which involves: learning to trust yourself, allowing yourself to have needs and set boundaries, believing you are worthy of love, how healing can be worked on in relational therapy, and what self support looks like.

Episode 6: Jessie and Special Guest Kanjana Hartshorne

November 08, 2020 15:00 - 55 minutes - 38.2 MB

This week’s guest is Kanjana Hartshorne, LCSW, therapist, yoga therapist and founder of Healing Hearts Wellness. Kanjana is engaged in an impressive amount of impactful work helping individuals as well as therapists and other helping professionals heal through both mind and body work. She and Jessie talk about the power of yoga and body movement as part of therapeutic work, addressing cultural appropriation, providing body interventions for ALL bodies, and more! This conversation really i...

Post Election Minisode

November 08, 2020 15:00 - 17 minutes - 12.4 MB

Join Kelly & Jessie as they connect post election.

This week we welcome Kelly's husband, Seth!

November 03, 2020 05:00 - 58 minutes - 40.5 MB

We invited Kelly’s husband, Seth (yes, he’s real!) to record with us and speak to what it’s like to have your wife talk about you on her podcast, what it’s like to run a church organization during a pandemic, and what it was like for a childfree by choice couple to suddenly be co-parenting a 7 year old. Jessie discusses living with a couple as a single person, and we all comb through our relational dynamics.

Episode 5: Special Guest: Kelly's husband, Seth!

November 03, 2020 05:00 - 58 minutes - 40.5 MB

We invited Kelly’s husband, Seth (yes, he’s real!) to record with us and speak to what it’s like to have your wife talk about you on her podcast, what it’s like to run a church organization during a pandemic, and what it was like for a childfree by choice couple to suddenly be co-parenting a 7 year old. Jessie discusses living with a couple as a single person, and we all comb through our relational dynamics.

Episode 4: Narcissistic Partners

October 27, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 53 MB

This week, Kelly and Jessie continue to unpack the dynamic between Narcissists and Codependents and specifically discuss narcissistic partners. With a ridiculous amount of real life examples from their own lives, they dive into relationship red flags, and what emotional availability looks like.

Narcissistic Partners

October 27, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 53 MB

This week, Kelly and Jessie continue to unpack the dynamic between Narcissists and Codependents and specifically discuss narcissistic partners. With a ridiculous amount of real life examples from their own lives, they dive into relationship red flags, and what emotional availability looks like.

When Will Then Become Now: Narcissistic Parents

October 20, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 50.6 MB

This week, Jessie and Kelly begin to unpack what it means to have a Narcissistic parent, including the spectrum of narcissism, the impact it has on kids, and Adult Children of Narcissists. We weave in how addiction can mimic narcissism, and some healing strategies.

Episode 3: When Will Then Become Now: Narcissistic Parents

October 20, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 50.6 MB

This week, Jessie and Kelly begin to unpack what it means to have a Narcissistic parent, including the spectrum of narcissism, the impact it has on kids, and Adult Children of Narcissists. We weave in how addiction can mimic narcissism, and some healing strategies.

Episode 2: We Welcome our First Guest: Katie Langley

October 13, 2020 14:00 - 1 hour - 43.5 MB

This week we welcome our very first guest to the seeking connections podcast! Katie Langley is a speech pathologist, writer, healer and world traveler, in addition to being Jessie’s oldest friend. Jessie and Katie talk about Katie’s ongoing journey into intersectional feminism and how we can all understand and move toward dismantling oppression in our relationships with self, others and community.

We Welcome our First Guest!

October 13, 2020 14:00 - 1 hour - 43.5 MB

This week we welcome our very first guest to the seeking connections podcast! Katie Langley is a speech pathologist, writer, healer and world traveler, in addition to being Jessie’s oldest friend. Jessie and Katie talk about Katie’s ongoing journey into intersectional feminism and how we can all understand and move toward dismantling oppression in our relationships with self, others and community.

We're Baaaaaack for Season 2!

October 06, 2020 12:00 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MB

After a few months hiatus, Jessie and Kelly are back at it with a whole new season of episodes. This season, we delve deeper into client requests for episodes as well as have our first series of guests!

Episode 1: We're Baaaaaack for Season 2!

October 06, 2020 12:00 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MB

After a few months hiatus, Jessie and Kelly are back at it with a whole new season of episodes. This season, we delve deeper into client requests for episodes as well as have our first series of guests!

Pile of Pebbles

June 12, 2020 01:00 - 1 hour - 50.6 MB

This week marks the season finale for Season 1! Join Jessie and Kelly as they talk about intentional endings, therapeutic endings, and the importance of being able to process the anticipatory grief surrounding endings. Tune back in soon for Season 2 where Kelly and Jessie invite guests into the mix!

The Grief of a Nation

June 01, 2020 02:00 - 1 hour - 44.5 MB

This week, Jessie and Kelly record for the first time remotely, discussing the recent protests over the murder of George Floyd, among many other black people in the U.S. (Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor.........), the importance of acknowledging the immense grief of such violent, racist acts, and model how to talk about race.

I Freeze, You Freeze

May 24, 2020 00:00 - 1 hour - 46.1 MB

This week Jessie and Kelly unpack some common relational reactions: fight, flight, freeze. They offer personal accounts of how these contribute to personal "stories we tell ourselves", how these might show up in the therapy room, and do a general update on life during Covid 19.

Ask The Therapists!

May 13, 2020 13:00 - 32 minutes - 22.2 MB

This week, Kelly and Jessie take a break and dig into the archives to share with you some questions they answered in February prior to even publishing the podcast! Never before heard questions you might have always wanted to ask a therapist, including "Can you make anyone cry?", "Should I tell my therapist if they have something in their teeth?", and "What is it like to date a therapist?"

Boundaries Are Life!

May 06, 2020 02:00 - 1 hour - 43.7 MB

This week, Kelly and Jessie talk everything boundaries - what are boundaries, healthy vs. unhealthy boundaries, the boundary spectrum, rigid vs. flexible boundaries, what it feels like when boundaries have been violated, and give examples galore plus reference two excellent books about boundaries.

Everybody Has A Bikini Body

April 28, 2020 12:00 - 58 minutes - 40.2 MB

This week, Jessie and Kelly talk body acceptance and unpack the toxicities of diet culture. Specifically, they reference many anti-diet masters and discuss the importance of finding the helpers in the world. This episode is packed full of information on body acceptance with resources galore.

Who Is Your Grand Therapist?

April 21, 2020 12:00 - 58 minutes - 40.2 MB

In this week's episode, Kelly and Jessie discuss week 6 of physical distancing, our continued relational work as a newly blended family, handling conflict, and what to expect from a healthy relationship.

Everyone Has Such Weirdness!

April 14, 2020 12:00 - 43 minutes - 30.2 MB

In this week's episode, Jessie and Kelly discuss what it's like to have "life" continue during physical distancing (families with addiction, illness, and mental health issues), coping with overwhelm while being a therapist, and just letting ourselves have our feelings.

Bonus Episode: Week 4 of Physical Distancing

April 08, 2020 00:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

In this week's bonus episode, we answer a listener question about social media during physical distancing. We discuss parenting strategies during the epidemic while many attempt to work at home and home school simultaneously. We also offer concrete coping strategies.