Giving and Receiving Actually Useful Advice

YouTube and Twitter are full of “things developers should never do”. There's an endless demand for simple advice that applies in all situations.
And that's not a bad thing. If there's a simple solution that works 80% of the time, this is valuable information. More practical than just "it depends."

But advice-givers and advice-getters can do better. The best advice doesn't just solve an immediate problem. It tells you when to ignore this advice, and what to do if the problem isn't solved.

I share a very old story about when I needed help sizing a connection pool, the advice I got, and the advice I now wish someone had given me.

P.S
Sorry about the audio quality. I had to record outside, and my lav mic wasn't as good as my desk mic.