Ruwando Podcast: Exploring the Unconscious and the Game of Life
141 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 4 years ago - ★★★★★ - 10 ratingsExploring the Unconscious with Ruwan Meepagala and curious characters. Archetypal Psychology, Relationships, Intimacy, Wellness, Masculinity, Philosophy.
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Antidotes to Nice Guy Syndrome
July 23, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 80.4 MBNice Guy Syndrome is a set of maligned characteristics that have been conditioned into most men to some degree. It usually shows up in dating, relationships, and work. For a man to be personally fulfilled, but also useful to others he needs to get over this. In this episode I work off of previous conversations I've had with Dr. Robert Glover and Dr. Michael Pariser in an analysis of Nice Guy Syndrome. #niceguysyndrome #dating #masculinity #nmmng #herosjourney
088 Michael Pariser: Nice Guy Hero's Journey
July 16, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 70 MBMichael Pariser, PsyD is a therapist and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Hero's Journey ( https://amzn.to/2O1FfUb ) , a guide that takes men through a process of overcoming 'Nice Guy Syndrome'. In this episode we break down male psychological tendencies, develop intimacy techniques, and even analyze my bad relationship patterns. Get Michael's book and receive a link to his interview with NMMNG author, Robert Glover: https://amzn.to/2O1FfUb https://drparisertherapy.com/ Want to discuss ...
089 Laurie Handlers & Om Rupani: Tantra Meets BDSM
July 15, 2020 14:17 - 1 hour - 57.5 MBLaurie Handlers and Om Rupani teach Tantra Meets BDSM, a class for real intimate polarity (something many are particularly challenged by in quarantine). We speak about sexual archetypes, creating trust, and topics critical to real intimacy. Their class is this weekend (18-19 July): http://omrupani.org/courses/tantra-meets-bdsm-levei1-july Use the code RUWANDO for $50 off. (The price is for TWO people.) #tantra #bdsm #relationshipskills
087 Jeremy Lipkowitz: Rewiring the Mind, Addiction, Mindfulness
July 09, 2020 19:00 - 56 minutes - 52 MBJeremy Lipkowitz is a meditation teacher and emotional intelligence coach. We speak about his journey from porn addiction into discovering mindfulness, rewiring the mind, and one's internal relationship. You can find his work at jeremylipkowitz.com ( https://jeremylipkowitz.com/ ) If you're interested in learning how to transmute your arousal instead of being a slave to it, check out my free series arousalcontrolsecrets.com ( https://arousalcontrolsecrets.com/ )
Dark Masculine: How To Overcome Sexual Shame
July 08, 2020 19:00 - 1 hour - 83.8 MBInternalized shame is a killer of self-esteem, libido, and a person's spirit. More than ever before, collective morality shames authentic masculinity. The 'Dark Masculine' is the archetype of removing shame and returning to true form. In this episode I speak on 3 levels: 1. Redefining beliefs around individual vs. collective "morality" 2. The 2 types of male-specific shame, and biological roots 3. How to unearth the 'Dark Masculine' archetype and heal shame This was inspired by the posts...
Overcoming Compulsive Behavior: Porn Addiction, "Laziness", etc.
July 07, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 77.6 MBCompulsive behavior is anything that you do against your higher intentions. (Doing what you don't want or not doing what you do want.) These behaviors are often involuntary because they run on primal biological drives... but that doesn't mean you need to be a slave to them. In this episode we speak specifically on porn addiction and "laziness" as they show the different extremes of compulsion. We cover the biology of desire, behavior-hormonal correlation, and practical actions for overcoming...
Reality Dominance
July 02, 2020 12:00 - 1 hour - 83.2 MBRuwan discusses Reality perception in this live discussion.
086 Ivan Zoric: Mixed Movement Arts
June 25, 2020 14:00 - 49 minutes - 44.9 MBIvan Zoric is a movement mechanic and founder of Momentum Phangan, a movement gym/placespace in Koh Phangan. We speak about his 4 Corners philosophy for strength and mobility training. Ivan's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcbCGYBpWsUK7_6IbRrEIyg/featured IG: @momentumphangan
085 Mantak Chia: MultiOrgasmic Man, Universal Healing Tao
May 27, 2020 18:00 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MBMantak Chia is the grandmaster of the Taoist lineage of energy cultivation. He is the author of over 50 books including The MultiOrgasmic Man. In this episode, we speak about the Tao, spirit, energy cultivation. For the video version of this podcast, click here: https://youtu.be/x3_4ZahkTTQ ( https://youtu.be/x3_4ZahkTTQ ) See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
084 John Gray: Beyond Mars and Venus, Hormones, Polarity
May 20, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 62.5 MBOn the threshold of my recent breakup, a friend lent me the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. At first, I resisted at it. I knew the book. I remember my mom watching the book's author, John Gray, on Oprah when I was 7 years old. I figured that a 27-year-old book couldn't possibly still be relevant. I was wrong. In many ways, it was refreshing to see how fundamentals truths remain so, even though societal change. That said, the world has changed a lot. How people perceive relati...
083 Marc Lewis, Ph.D.: The Biology of Desire
May 13, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 56.1 MB2012 introduced me to the darkness of the unconscious. I fell in love with a hardcore drug addict. I didn't understand addiction. I thought she just an issue with willpower. All I knew was that possessed a joie de vivre, a passion for life, a willingness to follow her instincts with the full abandon that I myself was intoxicated by. She went off to rehab and I joined a cult called OneTaste. (See my podcasts on 'When I was in a matriarchal sex cult'.) Ironically (or synchronistically), OneT...
082 Carolyn Elliott: Existential Kink
May 06, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 63.6 MBCarolyn Elliott is the author of Existential Kink, a method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't. She and I met in OneTaste many moons ago. We talk about 'practical magick' (tinkering with the unconscious for positive effect), darker paths to enlightenment, Jedi mind tricks for happy relationships, and of course, her method of existential kink to 'manifest' some pretty wild things... Existential Kink is available on Amazon and Audible. https://www.CarolynGraceElliott.co...
Rick & Morty & Archetypal Masculinity
May 05, 2020 18:00 - 44 minutes - 40.8 MBRick and Morty is one of the most popular TV shows due to great writing and clever plotlines. But one of the reasons for its diehard male fan base maybe how the show demonstrates elements of the male psychodrama. In this episode, Ruwan discusses a few elements of the masculine unconscious that is portrayed in the show. Music by @collin_stanley ( https://www.instagram.com/collin_stanley/ ) For the video version of this podcast, click here: https://youtu.be/gWdvZN9dgro ( https://youtu.be/gWdv...
Prometheus Rising: 4 Neural Circuits of Consciousness
April 30, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 103 MBDrawing from Robert Anton Wilson's Prometheus Rising, we dig into Timothy Leary's Eight Circuit Model of Consciousness. The first four circuits (bio-survival, emotional-territorial, semantic, and socio-sexual) are present in all humans. Most human behavior, individually and collectively, is unconsciously driven by these circuits. Understanding them allows us to explain and predict behavior in politics, personality, and response to the environment. Much of this episode relates to the earlier...
Why Amoebas Wiggle: The Role of the Ego and Unifying the Unconscious
April 28, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 57.1 MBWhat is the point of an ego? Many spiritual folks demonize the ego as this thing to 'transcended'. But the ego is one of the most important (and human) parts of the psyche. An expressed ego is necessary to unify your unconscious elements towards creativity and away from self-sabotage. We continue today through the Hero's Journey from the Mother Complex and Father Wound to what the formed ego is "supposed to do" once it has formed. We explain how the ego evolved alongside the evolution of li...
081 Lt. Col. Dave Grossman: On Combat, On Killing
April 13, 2020 20:00 - 1 hour - 86.8 MBLt. Col. Dave Grossman is a retired Army Ranger and the author of On Killing, On Combat , and a number of other books on the psychology of violence. His first book greatly influenced Ruwan when he was an officer select in the US Marine Corps. We discuss the Warrior archetype, trends affecting male mental health, how to prepare yourself for the worst, and stoicism. Grossman's work: https://www.Killology.com Access your inner Protector in the Masculine Archetype Challenge: https://www.Ruwanod...
080 Dr. Steve G. Jones: Is Astral Projection a Thing?
April 08, 2020 18:00 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBDr. Steve Jones is a clinical hypnotherapist and has been on TV a lot. I brought him on to speak on Astral Projection: the subjective act of leaving the body. He shares some hows and whys along with some interesting takes on reality. Free hypnosis download on his website: https://www.stevegjones.com For the video version of this podcast, click here: https://youtu.be/jVNj3vl6ldg ( https://youtu.be/jVNj3vl6ldg ) See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out info...
Father Wound & Secondary Father
April 07, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 60.8 MBThe Father Wound are insecurities that come from the shortcomings of our primary role model. Many myths show slaying a father figure (i.e. Luke Skywalker vs. Darth Vader) because it represents a man being able to separate from his paternal shadow. Healing the wounds, and expressing dormant masculinity happens through what Joseph Campbell calls the Secondary Father. * What it means to 'slay the dragon' in your mind * 'Saving the princess' myths and your own Anima * How to heal your Father Wou...
079 Brett Jones: StrongFirst, Kettlebell Training
April 01, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 61 MBBrett Jones is the chief instructor at StrongFirst, accomplished strongman. We speak about strength from the cellular level all the way up to the mindset required to apply force. Aside from the useful strength tips, this episode is chock full of metaphors for growth in life. Check out his work at AppliedStrength.com ( https://www.appliedstrength.com/ ) and StrongFirst.com ( https://www.strongfirst.com/ ) The Masculine Archetype Challenge now includes a complimentary video call with me again...
Medusa & the Son of Swords: Overcoming the Dark Feminine/Mother Complex
March 24, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 80.7 MBThe Mother Complex is an early obstacle in the individuation of masculine consciousness. It affects one's ability to relate to the Feminine aspect of the psyche in all its forms: Women (in dating), your own emotions and creativity, and your social environment. This episode covers it on 3 layers: * How to overcome the Dark Feminine's challenge to your individuation (The internal Hero's Journey) * How it maps to anthropological evolution, from our neolithic ancestors to modern Homo Sapiens * ...
Completing Psychological Adolescence
March 03, 2020 19:00 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBHow to evolve out of 'boy psychology': How individual consciousness correlates with collective, manic pixie dream girl/great mother, dark triad traits and completing cycles, Freud's sexual theory. For the video version of this podcast, click here: https://youtu.be/uXe3SVWlaGc/ ( https://youtu.be/uXe3SVWlaGc/ ) #ArchetypalMasculinity #DominancePsychology #HowtoAttractFeminineWomen #ArousalControl #ManicPixieDreamGirl #JungianPsychology #DakrTriad #RedPillPsychology #Archetypes See acast.com...
078 Matt Bowden: Adventures with Drugs and Manifestation
February 19, 2020 00:00 - 1 hour - 69.4 MBMatt Bowden is a musician and visionary who created safe alternatives to drugs in New Zealand. He is featured in a VICE documentary on the legal drug trade. We speak about intuition, spirituality, and of course, drugs. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Infinite Play: Coming of Age in the Matriarchal Cult of Orgasm
February 14, 2020 12:27 - 6 minutes - 5.79 MBThis is the opening chapter to my memoir on my time in the sex cult. To keep up to date with the book and to learn more, make sure you're on my email list. Join at Ruwando.com See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
077 Om Rupani: Masculine Resilience
February 12, 2020 00:00 - 53 minutes - 48.7 MBOm is a D/S instructor who has been on the podcast quite a few times. I recently watched the Red Pill documentary and wanted to speak with him on the male response to hardship. Om has a few workshops this year and will put up the dates as they are confirmed at omrupani.org You can get $50 off by using the discount code RUWANDO. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Cult Psychology Principles and Tactics
February 11, 2020 00:00 - 1 hour - 57.8 MBWe speak about the Dark Arts... How cults/advertisers/propangandists shift collective reality; How to recognize and avoid unconscious negative influence; How to use it positively in leadership, relationships, family, and social situations. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Follow Your Passion and the Money Will Follow Is Not the Full Story
February 10, 2020 00:00 - 2 minutes - 2.15 MBThis was originally a Facebook post that many people on an artistic path found useful. Enjoy. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Colossus vs. Wolverine: 2 Strategies on Experiencing Emotions
February 07, 2020 00:00 - 4 minutes - 4.47 MBArticle from 2018. Common ideological battle in men's development. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
When Kali Trampled Shiva: A Parable for Men About Difficult Women
February 06, 2020 00:00 - 14 minutes - 13.1 MBRecording of my most shared article from last year. I referenced back to it recently after listening to a bit by Jordan Peterson on how "there's nothing men can do when a woman is irrationally upset." I like JP, but that's simply not true. Handling a woman's emotions is part of being a complete man and an opportunity for growth. The 21 Day Archetype Challenge is back: Ruwando.com/archetype See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
076 Jordan Luke Collier: Subjective vs. Objective Beauty
February 05, 2020 00:00 - 1 hour - 67.9 MBJordan is the head instructor of Ars Amorata. We philosophize on beauty as a heuristic for navigating life. Access my 5+ years of content archives for free by joining my list at Ruwando.com See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Drive Your Own Bus: On"Self-Love" and Filtering Reality Properly
February 04, 2020 14:24 - 44 minutes - 40.3 MB"Self Love" is a phrase thrown around a lot, but it means something different for men and women. This episode covers what Masculine self-love is and how it relates to reality creation. Critical for being a powerful husband/bf, father, leader. And also simply being a happy fulfilled individual. Archetype Class: Ruwando.com/archetype See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
The Virtue of Male Aggression
February 03, 2020 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MBArticle from early 2018. This one got me kicked off The Good Men Project for being "too volatile." My archived content now available free when you put your email in at Ruwando.com See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
The Devils Inside Us: How Sexual Archetypes Help Individuation
January 30, 2020 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12.5 MBThis is one of my denser articles, so I thought it would be good in audio format. We dig into the rape fantasy and how it reveals opportunities for healing in relationships and in the Self. Take the 21 Day Masculine Archetype Challenge at Ruwando.com/archetype See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
075 Christina Berkley: Orgasm, Money, Potatoes
January 29, 2020 05:57 - 59 minutes - 54.2 MB“Money is like potatoes,” she said. Christina Berkley helps coaches build stunning practices and edge-walkers live stunning lives. I met her that time I was in a matriarchal sex cult where she was once a lead instructor. Her journey is a synthesis of mysticism and practical life creation that has had a very positive impact on my life. Her work: christinaberkley.com ( christinaberkley.com ) Her new project: https://www.facebook.com/groups/edgewalker/ ( https://www.facebook.com/groups/edgewa...
Reshaping Emotional Patterns, Trauma
January 27, 2020 16:00 - 48 minutes - 44.7 MBOne of the most frustrating things is when you intend to do one thing, but end up doing the opposite. This happens a lot in emotionally-charged situations like in dating, intimacy, or creative purpose. Much of our behavior can seem like pre-patterned response. We resort to the "shapes" that our psyche has developed into. Luckily our psyche is plastic, meaning it can be reshaped into new forms. In this video I share two major principles for reshaping your psyche. See acast.com/privacy ( http...
074 Matt Cone: The Abundance Model
January 22, 2020 00:00 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MBMatt Cone is a philanthropist and philosopher. I met Matt on a retreat in Thailand 2 years ago. He shared something called 'The Abundance Model', a philosophy and system for dealing with money. I was a bit skeptical at first, but practiced it anyway and found that 1) My wealth increased greatly, 2) I felt totally different about money. It's actually less about money and more about your view of the future. This model has inspired today's episodes 'sponsor', TheNeighborFund.com The Neighbor F...
073 Iain Armstrong: Taoism and Kung Fu
January 15, 2020 11:54 - 1 hour - 87.1 MBIain Armstrong is a Kung Fu master in Thailand and the lineage holder of Nam Yang Kung Fu originated in Shaolin. We speak on Taoism, the mind-body connection, and understanding ‘qi’ in relation to physical fitness and longevity. Check out his work at https://kungfuretreat.com/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
073 Iain Armstrong: Taoism and Kung Fu
January 15, 2020 11:54 - 1 hour - 58.1 MBIain Armstrong is a Kung Fu master in Thailand and the lineage holder of Nam Yang Kung Fu originated in Shaolin. We speak on Taoism, the mind-body connection, and understanding ‘qi’ in relation to physical fitness and longevity. Check out his work at https://kungfuretreat.com/ See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Alchemy of the Psyche: Anima & Animus in Intimacy and Creative Expression
January 14, 2020 00:00 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MBWe all have a masculine and feminine aspect to our psyche. The ability to integrate theses archetypes directly our intimate relationships and creative expression. See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Individuation vs. Collective Unconscious
January 07, 2020 00:00 - 1 hour - 60.6 MBThis episode was inspired by some synchronistic events: a coaching conversations, ponderings on my new tattoo, and an essay by Carl Jung. Video version: https://youtu.be/eDRgEWIpxFQ ( https://youtu.be/eDRgEWIpxFQ ) Rites of passage were once an important piece of psychology development in men that both helped one access his unique gifts and potency, but also aligned his power with the needs of the tribe. Due to post-agricultural/industrial/consumerist developments, we've largely replaced th...
Sex Transmutation, Explained
December 31, 2019 03:15 - 45 minutes - 41.3 MBNapoleon Hill's term for "channeling sexual energy" is often talked about, but rarely in a way that is practical. In this video I speak on a workable model for how to use "sexual energy" towards well-being and materialization of goals. Referencing: - Freud's sublimation - Jung's Instinct - Wilhelm Reich's muscular armoring and orgastic potential - Mantak Chia's microcosmic orbit, ejaculation control - the shortsightedness of NoFap - a workable metaphor for transmutation - Satanic sex ...
On Fearing Beauty, How to Handle Involuntary Response
December 24, 2019 02:47 - 22 minutes - 20.8 MBMen often fear beauty because it puts us into an involuntary state-- one where we can't easily control our emotions or reactions. But the involuntary state is what makes life worth living... ArousalControlSecrets.com See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Your Personal Development is a Genre of Entertainment
December 17, 2019 09:35 - 26 minutes - 24.4 MBYour Hero's Journey is the best story there is. In this episode I speak on how to invest your attention to get the most momentum in the movie that is your life. Ruwando.com/archetype See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
Hacking Synchronicity:
December 09, 2019 13:09 - 49 minutes - 44.9 MB"Reality is a like a woman. She either moves towards you or runs away from you, depending on how you engage with it." 'Synchronicity' is a term coined by psychologist Carl Jung and often misused by spiritual folk. But even as a subjective experience, it is critical in our ability to create our reality. In this live episode we speak on: + Actual Jungian definition of synchronicity + How the 'Call to Adventure' shows up YOUR personal life journey + How to speed up subjective time, and de...
Hacking Synchronicity:
December 09, 2019 13:09 - 49 minutes - 44.9 MB"Reality is a like a woman. She either moves towards you or runs away from you, depending on how you engage with it." 'Synchronicity' is a term coined by psychologist Carl Jung and often misused by spiritual folk. But even as a subjective experience, it is critical in our ability to create our reality. In this live episode we speak on: + Actual Jungian definition of synchronicity + How the 'Call to Adventure' shows up YOUR personal life journey + How to speed up subjective time, and dens...
072 Leslie Selene: Witchcraft and Initiation
December 04, 2019 12:00 - 58 minutes - 53.2 MB“Sex is the poor man’s meditation.” ~ Leslie Selene Leslie Selene is a spiritual medium, meditation teacher, and author. She was introduced to me many years ago as a ‘Witch Doctor’ when I was in a cult... Many things she told me back then finally clicked in my head five years later. We speak about her take on mysticism from different cultures, trauma and spirituality, sex work, and her various initiations in sexuality and mysticism. You can find Leslie on Facebook. Her books, Inviting Her In...
071 Melanie Curtain: Dear Men, Sex Research
November 27, 2019 12:00 - 52 minutes - 47.8 MBMelanie Curtin is a writer, sex researcher, and the host of the podcast Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships. She shares some of her interesting data points on male-female sexuality, tips for increased intimacy, and the importance of cougars for younger male sexual education... "God bless cougars" said Melanie. (And I agree. :)) You can get $200 off her course at http://www.PleaseHerInBed.com/ ( http://www.pleaseherinbed.com/ ) with the discount code: RUWANDO https://www.M...
On Dating Multiple Women, Open Relationships, and Growth as a Dude
November 26, 2019 08:33 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MBOne the most common dating goals I hear from guys is "I want to date multiple women who are all okay with it". Even if it's partially ego-driven, it's actually a great goal as it forces you to grow as man. Here's what you need to know. 21 Archetype Challenge: bit.ly/21archetype http://forum.masculineunderground.com See acast.com/privacy ( https://acast.com/privacy ) for privacy and opt-out information.
How Emotions Affect Arousal Response: Between Couples & For Individuals
November 24, 2019 18:00 - 9 minutes - 9.09 MBAudio version of this week's video. To watch visit Youtube.Ruwando.com ( http://youtube.ruwando.com/ ). Our ability to feel physical pleasure is affected by how we process emotions. When I was a Libido and Relationship Counselor I found one key cause in BOTH individual psychogenic sexual dysfunction (erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, anorgasmia) AND when couples can't enjoy sex with each other. Join the Men's FB Group: Forum.MasculineUnderground.com ( https://app.pippa.io/shows/5...
Before you try 'Jelquing'... Truth About 'Male Enhancement'
November 23, 2019 18:00 - 6 minutes - 5.55 MBAudio version of last week's video. To watch visit Youtube.Ruwando.com ( http://youtube.ruwando.com/ ). Does jelquing work? Kind of, but not in the way you may expect. Here what you really need to know about the quest for enlargement. Learn more about ninja bedroom skills at ArousalControlSecrets.com Join the Men's FB Group: Forum.MasculineUnderground.com ( https://app.pippa.io/shows/5c7ff0db94df953502804fee/episodes/Forum.MasculineUnderground.com ) 21 Day ♂Archetype Challenge: bit.ly/21a...
Finding Direction, Psychogenic Sexual Dysfunctions, Penetrating Sensual Plane, Reality Dominance
November 18, 2019 06:33 - 34 minutes - 31.8 MBWe got some seemingly disparate topic requests in the forum.masculineunderground.com this week: finding life direction, psychogenic premature ejaculation, traversing from non-sexual to sexual communication. But they actually have similar principles that are foundational to masculinity: 1:11 Finding your life direction 11:41 psychogenic sexual dysfunctions/ premature ejaculation 20:10 escalating from nonsexual to sexual communication 27:09 Embodying the dark masculine/dominance in the bedr...