007: Blogger Bruna Nessif on The Problem with Dating

Jennifer Gardner interviews former E! News writer & editor, and now independent blogger, Bruna Nessif, on her new entrepreneurial venture, The Problem With Dating.

“Tell me I can’t do something so I can show you I can." ~Bruna Nessif

In this episode, you'll hear about:

2:00 Bruna's career at E! Entertainment, how she worked her way up, starting as an intern despite people’s doubts that she could make it happen and her strategy to make herself an asset from the moment she stepped into the building.   “Your skill set is important but you can always improve that. What you can bring already finessed and finished and polished is your attitude and that’s just as important." ~Bruna Nessif   Bruna started out creating content for E! Online that was causing conversations in other forums (not the norm for an intern), went on to freelance and eventually work full-time covering weddings, divorces, baby births, breakups, makeups, and more. She interviewed celebrities such as Josh Duhamel, Alessandra Ambrosio, and Maggie Q.   11:00 How Bruna "broke up with" her job to launch The Problem With Dating blog and website because her interests and passions changed, and how it brought up a lot of self-doubt about stability, security and her own identity without the job that had been so wonderful and comfortable for her.   "It was like striking this little love affair that I knew I felt more aligned with but I was afraid to leave the “relationship” I was in because it did provide me stability and because it did give me security and because it was all I knew and I didn’t know who I was without it.” ~Bruna Nessif   15:25 The ego tension of discovering "Who is Bruna without E!?"   "At a certain point, I just had to stop feeding myself bs and letting my fears block my blessings." ~Bruna Nessif   16:30 How when looking at any work, friend, romantic relationship — it always comes back to YOU and how much faith or doubt you put into yourself.   “I can’t sit here an say 'Oh I want a man to bet on me. I want to find someone who will gamble on me and believe in me when I’m not doing that for myself.” ~Bruna Nessif   18:00 When the universe conspires to support and help you in living your purpose with the natural skill set you’ve been given and how once Bruna made The Problem With Dating her primary focus, opportunities to do interviews or connect with people who can help arose organically & effortlessly.   "Either you take the risk and you live it out and the universe will repay you for believing in it or you live a life where it’s constantly just nagging at you and you build resentment or regret because you’re not willing to pursue it." ~Bruna Nessif   20:30 How Bruna deals with moments of self-doubt by reminding hereself why she's doing what she's doing and that she will never let herself down, plus how crucial it is to have an amazing support system.   How Gabby Berrnstein inspired her to look for signs that she was on the right track for her highest good and how the owl became Bruna's sign.   24:00 Changing how we define success vs what other people’s expectations or values are.   Measuring success not by numbers (money & followers on social), but by being able to create content that is true to her and living an authentic life with which other people can resonate.   "I know that I’m going to win because at the end of the day I took the chance on myself to find out, and I feel like that’s winning in and of itself." ~Bruna Nessif   26:00 The NEED to write - how writing is therapeutic and important to Bruna regardless of who is reading.   Bruna never would have thought she’ d be a writer 15 years ago — she wanted to be a psychologist originally specializing in couples or relationship therapy, but then she switched her major in college to broadcast journalism because she realized psychology was just about being fascinated by human behavior and trying to figure people out.   Now, it seems, all these interests are meshing together in her path.   30:00 Bruna's big debut article in Cosmopolitan, I stopped having sex for a year and this is what I learned, how she pitched it, what happened when her social media blew up as a result and she made the cover of the Snapchat discovery page, the overwhelmingly positive response & the responsibility that comes with sharing her own personal experience.   Bruna's commitment that if she's going to write in the relationship and dating space, she needs to be okay with putting herself out there and being transparent and authentic.   "I know that whatever I’ve experienced, whatever I believe, whatever I’m dealing in my life, that story is mine and so you can’t take that away from me… that gives me the strength to put it out there.” ~Bruna Nessif   38:00 The importance of sharing your personal stories to inspire other people as a public service to let them know they're not alone.   How people are craving authenticity.   Bruna's Tweet: “I’m just trying to make feelings cool again.”   43:00 Bruna speculating on whether she's still going to agree with what she writes now 5-10 years form now -- and how it's okay because it is authentic and real in this moment.   Jennifer quotes Andre Dubus III, author of House of Sand and Fog.   49:00 The struggle of putting yourself out there in such intimate detail and whether Bruna thinks it has affected her dating life.   "I’m not going to change… because of who may or may not like it. If you don't support me and what I'm doing... then you’re not my man." ~Bruna Nessif   RoamHowl.com     The Problem With Dating   Bruna Nessif on...  Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube        

Jennifer Gardner interviews former E! News writer & editor, and now independent blogger, Bruna Nessif, on her new entrepreneurial venture, The Problem With Dating.

“Tell me I can’t do something so I can show you I can." ~Bruna Nessif

In this episode, you'll hear about:

2:00 Bruna's career at E! Entertainment, how she worked her way up, starting as an intern despite people’s doubts that she could make it happen and her strategy to make herself an asset from the moment she stepped into the building.   “Your skill set is important but you can always improve that. What you can bring already finessed and finished and polished is your attitude and that’s just as important." ~Bruna Nessif   Bruna started out creating content for E! Online that was causing conversations in other forums (not the norm for an intern), went on to freelance and eventually work full-time covering weddings, divorces, baby births, breakups, makeups, and more. She interviewed celebrities such as Josh Duhamel, Alessandra Ambrosio, and Maggie Q.   11:00 How Bruna "broke up with" her job to launch The Problem With Dating blog and website because her interests and passions changed, and how it brought up a lot of self-doubt about stability, security and her own identity without the job that had been so wonderful and comfortable for her.   "It was like striking this little love affair that I knew I felt more aligned with but I was afraid to leave the “relationship” I was in because it did provide me stability and because it did give me security and because it was all I knew and I didn’t know who I was without it.” ~Bruna Nessif   15:25 The ego tension of discovering "Who is Bruna without E!?"   "At a certain point, I just had to stop feeding myself bs and letting my fears block my blessings." ~Bruna Nessif   16:30 How when looking at any work, friend, romantic relationship — it always comes back to YOU and how much faith or doubt you put into yourself.   “I can’t sit here an say 'Oh I want a man to bet on me. I want to find someone who will gamble on me and believe in me when I’m not doing that for myself.” ~Bruna Nessif   18:00 When the universe conspires to support and help you in living your purpose with the natural skill set you’ve been given and how once Bruna made The Problem With Dating her primary focus, opportunities to do interviews or connect with people who can help arose organically & effortlessly.   "Either you take the risk and you live it out and the universe will repay you for believing in it or you live a life where it’s constantly just nagging at you and you build resentment or regret because you’re not willing to pursue it." ~Bruna Nessif   20:30 How Bruna deals with moments of self-doubt by reminding hereself why she's doing what she's doing and that she will never let herself down, plus how crucial it is to have an amazing support system.   How Gabby Berrnstein inspired her to look for signs that she was on the right track for her highest good and how the owl became Bruna's sign.   24:00 Changing how we define success vs what other people’s expectations or values are.   Measuring success not by numbers (money & followers on social), but by being able to create content that is true to her and living an authentic life with which other people can resonate.   "I know that I’m going to win because at the end of the day I took the chance on myself to find out, and I feel like that’s winning in and of itself." ~Bruna Nessif   26:00 The NEED to write - how writing is therapeutic and important to Bruna regardless of who is reading.   Bruna never would have thought she’ d be a writer 15 years ago — she wanted to be a psychologist originally specializing in couples or relationship therapy, but then she switched her major in college to broadcast journalism because she realized psychology was just about being fascinated by human behavior and trying to figure people out.   Now, it seems, all these interests are meshing together in her path.   30:00 Bruna's big debut article in Cosmopolitan, I stopped having sex for a year and this is what I learned, how she pitched it, what happened when her social media blew up as a result and she made the cover of the Snapchat discovery page, the overwhelmingly positive response & the responsibility that comes with sharing her own personal experience.   Bruna's commitment that if she's going to write in the relationship and dating space, she needs to be okay with putting herself out there and being transparent and authentic.   "I know that whatever I’ve experienced, whatever I believe, whatever I’m dealing in my life, that story is mine and so you can’t take that away from me… that gives me the strength to put it out there.” ~Bruna Nessif   38:00 The importance of sharing your personal stories to inspire other people as a public service to let them know they're not alone.   How people are craving authenticity.   Bruna's Tweet: “I’m just trying to make feelings cool again.”   43:00 Bruna speculating on whether she's still going to agree with what she writes now 5-10 years form now -- and how it's okay because it is authentic and real in this moment.   Jennifer quotes Andre Dubus III, author of House of Sand and Fog.   49:00 The struggle of putting yourself out there in such intimate detail and whether Bruna thinks it has affected her dating life.   "I’m not going to change… because of who may or may not like it. If you don't support me and what I'm doing... then you’re not my man." ~Bruna Nessif   RoamHowl.com     The Problem With Dating   Bruna Nessif on...  Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube