Marriages have been full of disappointment when spouses realize that working to change their spouse is impossible which often leads to separation and divorce. Much like marriages, individuals feel that if they could change those around them to be more like themselves that life would be easier. This has been true throughout history but Paul has a very different take on the change that needs to take place in order to be able to make a friend. In the midst of persecution that often lead to death, Paul still encourages individuals to love their persecutor.