Relationships Made Easy
313 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 11 hours ago - ★★★★★ - 360 ratingsWhat’s the secret to a happy life? The research says it’s your relationships! But how do you create the connection, joy and ease you crave? You’ve got to think about your relationships in a whole new way. Armed with humor, a ton of research and over 30 years of hands-on experience Dr. Abby Medcalf will teach you simple, actionable tools and strategies that you can use today to make all your relationships the best they’ve ever been (including the one with yourself)! Abby’s a Relationship Maven, best-selling author and psychologist, who loves telling you what to do each week on her Relationships Made Easy Podcast. In her free time (what’s that?) Abby’s invested in loving up the people in her life whether that means cooking for them, spending quality time, or trying to control them (hey, she never said she was perfect). Learn more about Abby, sign up for the newsletter, read the blog, listen, take a course, or connect directly at www.abbymedcalf.com.
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283. How to Forgive Yourself: Five Tips to Let Go of Guilt, Shame and Past Regrets
April 15, 2024 23:00 - 47 minutes - 65.4 MBYou messed up, or at least you think you did. Maybe it was a job you quit in the heat of the moment, not finishing your education ten years ago or cheating on your spouse. We can perceive big or little things as crimes that need to be punished in perpetuity. Many of us can easily forgive others, but when it comes to forgiving ourselves, we’re not so generous. But learning to forgive ourselves is crucial to creating balanced, healthy relationships with others as well as leading a life of sere...
282. The Five Steps to Know if an Open Relationship is Right for You
April 08, 2024 23:00 - 34 minutes - 47.1 MBWhether you call it a consensually non-monogamous relationship or ethical nonmonogamy, open relationships can be hard to define. It’s not cheating or swinging, and it’s not polyamory. So, what are open relationships and do you want to consider it? Today I’m sharing my five-step process for knowing if an open relationship is right for you. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-five-steps-to-know-if-an-open-relationship-is-right-for-you Grab m...
281. How to Take a Healthy Relationship Break: The Three Questions You Need to Ask
April 01, 2024 23:00 - 52 minutes - 71.9 MBIf you’re like me, when you think of a relationship break, you’re remembering Ross Gellar on the show Friends, screaming, “We were on a break!” Well, let me tell you, that was not the right way to take a relationship break. But there is a healthy way to take a relationship break and you do it by asking (and answering) three important questions. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-take-a-healthy-relationship-break-the-three-questions-you-nee...
280. How to Effectively Deal with Triggers in Your Relationships
March 25, 2024 23:00 - 52 minutes - 71.4 MBDoes your mother make a comment about your haircut, and you blow up? Does your partner casually mention that they’re going out with friends after work, and you get upset and withdraw? When you’re triggered, you have a strong emotional reaction to something that isn’t equal to the situation. Today you’ll learn how to identify when you’re having a trigger and my top tools to effectively deal with triggers in your relationships. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://a...
279. Do You Have an Adjustment Disorder and Don’t Know It?
March 18, 2024 23:00 - 38 minutes - 53.4 MBAdjustment disorders are basically having excessive reactions to some stress (or stressors) in your life that result in overly strong emotions, increased negative thinking and some sort of change in behavior. The key is that the reaction to this event is way more intense than would typically be expected. As you might imagine, this can cause a lot of problems in your relationships, work or school. Today I’ll teach you what adjustment disorders are, the signs you might have one, and how to tre...
278. Relationships and Money: How to Have Effective Conversations About Your Finances
March 11, 2024 23:00 - 51 minutes - 71 MBThe vast majority of people find it difficult to talk about money with partners, friends or family. At the root of this issue is something called money shame. To have effective conversations about finances with others, we have to understand money shame and how to overcome it. Today, I’ll not only be discussing money shame, but we’ll also talk about financial incompatibility, the beliefs you have about money that are getting in your way and, as always, my top tips for moving past all that and...
277. How Do You Know if You’re Making the Right Decision/Following Your Gut?
March 04, 2024 18:34 - 50 minutes - 69.3 MBI’m not going to keep you in suspense on this one. You know you’re making a “right” decision, or following your “gut,” when you’re acting from the rational part of your brain, not from the fear part of your brain. What I’m going to help you with today is learning the difference between the two and my top five tips for knowing if you’re making the right decision and listening to your gut. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-do-you-know-if-your...
276. Is Toxic Shame Hurting Your Relationship and You Don’t Realize It?
February 27, 2024 00:00 - 44 minutes - 66.7 MBShame doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter if you’re fat or thin, rich or poor, tall or short: shame is an equal opportunity emotion and it’s amazingly destructive. Research has linked it to violence, addiction, depression, sleep problems, eating disorders, bullying and anxiety. But what’s the difference between guilt and shame? And then what the heck is toxic shame? Today I’m answering all your questions and coming at you with my top tips for recovering from toxic shame. ______________...
275. Jealous of Your Partner’s Past Relationships? What Retroactive Jealousy is and My Top 5 Tips to Make it Stop
February 20, 2024 00:00 - 43 minutes - 67.7 MBJealousy in a moment happens when you perceive someone or something else as a threat to your relationship. Retroactive jealousy is different because you feel threatened by something or someone in your partner’s past but there’s no current situation happening that’s triggering this feeling. Today I’m going to talk about the signs of retroactive jealousy, why you act this way and my top five tips for making it stop. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf...
274. Three Steps to Having an Amazing Valentine’s Day (Even if You’re Single)
February 13, 2024 00:00 - 38 minutes - 60.5 MBMy name is Abby, and I don’t like Valentine’s Day. There. I said it. But across the US and all around the world, people are celebrating Valentine’s Day either today or on another special date (depending on the country). Today I’m going to share the three steps for having a Valentine’s Day filled with connection, love and joy, whether you’re single or shacked up. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/three-steps-to-having-an-amazing-valentines-day-...
273. Do the Love Languages Really Work?
February 06, 2024 00:00 - 34 minutes - 55.7 MBWith Valentine’s Day around the corner in about 30 countries around the world, I thought it would be an excellent time to talk about Gary Chapman’s love languages. Let me say first that I’m not a Gary Chapman hater, and I think the Love Languages quiz can be fun and a little informative. However, this is not a one-size-fits-all theory and I’ve definitely found times that it’s even been detrimental for my clients. Today I’m going to answer your burning questions about the five love languages....
272. Being Curious Will Improve All Your Relationships: Here’s How to Do It
January 30, 2024 00:00 - 39 minutes - 61.8 MBI know you’ve heard that curiosity killed the cat, but that negative spin is all wrong! We know from the research that curiosity will help with everything from improving your relationships, to coping better with rejection to feeling happier and more fulfilled in your life. In the last thirty years, we’ve amassed a lot of great research illustrating the benefits of curiosity. In fact, describing a day you felt curious will boost your mental and physical state by 20% more than if you told me a...
271. Ask Dr. Abby: When You Feel on the Outside with Your Partner, Their Ex, and Their Kids
January 23, 2024 00:00 - 36 minutes - 57.5 MBWhat do you do when your partner gets along great with their ex and wants to spend all holidays and main events with them and the kids? You’re invited too, of course, but you feel like a third wheel somehow and you’re wondering how to fit in. Do you push your feelings aside for the greater good or draw boundaries around your needs? Today, I’m answering a question from one of you as we figure out the right thing to do. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedca...
270. Having a Growth Mindset is the Key to an Empowered Mindset
January 16, 2024 00:00 - 51 minutes - 78.9 MBHere we are with part two of The Five Steps to Having an Empowered Mindset. If you haven’t listened to the first part yet, that’s OK; this one stands on its own (although I encourage you to go back and listen to episode 269). Today we’re going to discuss having a fixed versus a growth mindset and the tips for having a growth mindset, which will lead to feeling strong, confident and empowered. ____________________________ 👉 Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/having-a-growth-...
269. The Five Steps to Having an Empowered Mindset
January 09, 2024 00:00 - 52 minutes - 80.6 MBAn empowered mindset means that you make conscious choices followed by intentional actions to take control of your life. It means you take responsibility for creating the life you want and leave victimhood in the past. But how exactly do you do that? This is a special two-part episode (because I’ve got so much great stuff to share). In today’s episode, I’ll be outlining four of the five steps I want you to take to have a new mindset filled with happiness, ease and empowerment. Then next week...
268. The #1 Reason Why You Don’t Hold Your Boundaries
December 19, 2023 00:00 - 31 minutes - 43 MBI’ve said over and over that the secret to a life filled with connection, ease and joy is to create and hold boundaries. And there’s one big thing that generally gets in the way of holding those boundaries: having a victim mentality. In my almost 40 years of experience, working with thousands of people, this is an issue with almost every person I meet. Sometimes it’s a big issue, and sometimes it’s smaller, but it’s almost always there in some way. The problem is that this way of thinking se...
267. Why it's Hard to Ask for Help and 3 Tips for Making it Easier
December 12, 2023 00:00 - 38 minutes - 60.5 MBHello. My name is Abby, and I hate to ask for help. Despite all my years of therapy and teaching others how important it is, asking for help is still something I find difficult to do and I know I’m not alone! Today, I’ll be sharing the reasons why it’s hard to ask for help, the research behind the benefits of doing it and my top three tips for becoming someone who asks and receives. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-its-hard-to-ask-for-help-a...
266. Are Relationship Doubts Normal? Four Questions to Get Your Answer
December 05, 2023 00:00 - 37 minutes - 59.3 MBThe short answer is “yes,” but the real question is, “When should I listen to my relationship doubts and when should I ignore them?” Whether you’re deciding to move in together and having doubts, or you’ve been together for ten years and wondering if it’s time to go your separate ways, relationship doubts can crop up at any point in a relationship. So how do you separate normal doubts from an inner voice you should listen to? Today, I’m bringing you the top four questions you need to ask you...
265. Learn to Hold Your Boundaries with Healthy Selfishness
November 28, 2023 00:00 - 23 minutes - 40.3 MBYou’ve tried to draw a boundary with your partner, boss or best friend, but they call you selfish, self-absorbed or even narcissistic! How could dare you prioritize yourself over what they want? In my new book, Boundaries Made Easy (which is dropping in just a couple of weeks on 12/5/23), I dispel the myth that holding a boundary is selfish and explain what healthy selfishness is all about. Today, I’m giving you a sneak peek into what selfishness really is and how you can learn to hold your ...
264. What to Do if Your Partner is Friends with Past Partners or Hookups
November 21, 2023 00:00 - 25 minutes - 43.1 MBYour current partner is friends with one or more of their past partners or hookups, and you don’t like it. You’ve told them you’re uncomfortable, but they say they’re just friends and you’re overreacting. Does it mean you have to break up? Should you push the issue or just grin and bear it? Today, we’ll be talking about the real reason you’re upset and what you can do about it. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-if-your-partner-is-fri...
263. How to Keep Your Boundaries Around the Holidays
November 14, 2023 00:00 - 51 minutes - 78.5 MBHow do you not let your family drive you crazy this holiday season? Boundaries. How can you find peace even though there’s so much going on during November and December? Boundaries. How can you enter the new year feeling refreshed and energized? Boundaries once again! If you’re looking for ease and joy this holiday season, I can help you get there, and there’s only one thing you need to focus on (you guessed it), boundaries! Today, I’m going to teach you my best tips for not just surviving, ...
262. How Do You Know When a Relationship is Over?
November 07, 2023 00:00 - 43 minutes - 67.2 MBHave you been thinking it’s time to call it quits in your relationship, but maybe you’re wondering if you’re quitting too soon or wanting to leave for the wrong reasons? It can be hard to know when a relationship “should be” over. Today I’ll be sharing the top five signs that a relationship might be over. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-do-you-know-when-a-relationship-is-over Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? ...
261. What You Need to Know About Defense Mechanisms
October 30, 2023 23:00 - 55 minutes - 84.6 MBDefense mechanisms are your brain’s (mostly unconscious) way of avoiding conflict, anxiety or upset. Although they get a bad rap, defense mechanisms are a necessary part of your psychology, and some are even considered healthy! Today, you’ll gain some self-awareness as you learn all about defense mechanisms and where you fit. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-defense-mechanisms Grab my FREE Grounding Exercises: http...
260. What to Do When You Can’t Get Through to Them
October 23, 2023 23:00 - 42 minutes - 65.9 MBDo you have that person in your life who, no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get through to them or get them to listen or engage in a healthy conversation about issues you’re experiencing in the relationship? You try to say how you’re feeling, but they flip it back on you and say, “What about my feelings?!” You get sad, but they get even more sad that you’re upset and now you’re taking care of them instead of them taking care of you?! These are all signs of a common defense mechanism c...
259. The Five Keys to Positive Communication
October 16, 2023 23:00 - 46 minutes - 71.1 MBPositive communication is communication that’s based on respect and builds trust and collaboration. Although it’s something that’s mostly been applied to the workplace, its goal is to build a psychologically safe space, and that’s something we can use in all our relationships. In fact, the research shows that positive communication doesn’t just benefit the other person, it also promotes health and wellness benefits for you! Today, I’m sharing the five keys to positive communication so you ca...
258. Getting the Sizzle and that Loving Feeling Back in Your Relationship
October 09, 2023 23:00 - 53 minutes - 80.9 MBIf you’re listening to me right now, you’ve felt some kind of decline in your relationship or, as the song goes, “you’ve lost that loving feeling.” Or maybe you just want to make sure that decline never happens to you. Either way, it’s important to know that you can absolutely continue to have a strong physical connection and fall more in love with your partner as the years progress. But how do you do it? Today, we’re going to discuss the research (as always), and then I’m coming at you with...
257. What Patience Really is and How to Have More of It
October 02, 2023 23:00 - 41 minutes - 64.4 MBDid you know that the opposite of patience isn’t impatience? I’ve got to tell you that I didn’t know that until I started researching this episode. Patience is actually on a continuum, with too much or too little, on either side of the spectrum, being unhealthy. The sweet spot is somewhere right in the middle. Having patience is correlated with all kinds of good stuff: the ability to work collaboratively, healthy and strong relationships, and achievement of goals. Today, you’ll learn about t...
256. The Four Ways to Solve Any Problem
September 25, 2023 23:00 - 54 minutes - 83 MBDialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, is a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy created by psychologist Marsha Linehan in the early 1980s. It’s an evidence-based, highly successful type of therapy used to help people regulate intense emotions and improve their relationships. What does this have to do with problem-solving? Well, in all its brilliance, DBT outlines four ways to solve any problem and I’ve been using this strategy with great success with all my clients. These four ways to solve ...
255. Focus on Self-Love Not Just Self-Compassion
September 18, 2023 23:00 - 51 minutes - 78.1 MBOK, when I hear the words self-love, I want to throw up in my mouth a little because I’m thinking of some Brené Brown quote needlepointed onto a pillow or a bunch of people in a drum circle chanting “I am worthy.” Today we’re taking self-love out of the woo and putting it directly into the real world of improving your physical, psychological, and spiritual well-being. Stay tuned as I discuss how it’s different from self-care, narcissism, and self-compassion and my top five tips for getting i...
254. The Seven Habits of Intimate Relationships (backed by research)
September 11, 2023 23:00 - 54 minutes - 82.9 MBWe know from the research that having intimate relationships is the key to mental and physical health. But what exactly qualifies as intimacy? Today I’ll teach you what intimacy really is and the seven habits of intimate relationships, backed by research, so you can build connection, joy, and ease in all your relationships. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-seven-habits-of-intimate-relationships-backed-by-research 👉 Watch my TEDx talk to Lea...
253. Focus on These Five Things to Make All Your Relationships Great
September 04, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 91.9 MBWe know from the research that the biggest predictor of a happy (and long!) life comes down to the quality of your relationships. And, as much as we all want to focus on romance, there are many important relationships in your life that deserve your intention and attention. Today, I’m going to teach you the five philosophies to focus on to create fulfillment, peace, and joy in all your relationships. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/focus-on-...
252. Instead of Date Nights, Work on Micro-Connections
August 28, 2023 23:00 - 47 minutes - 73.3 MBI’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily. While date nights and vacations are wonderful, either we don’t do those often enough to keep emotional intimacy going, or there’s so much pressure to have fun and connect they can do the opposite. What’s the answer? Instead of focusing on date nights, focus on daily micro-connections to create real connection and closeness. Today, I’m sharing my top 10 micro-connection ...
251. Is it Love Bombing or Codependent Affection Flooding?
August 21, 2023 23:00 - 58 minutes - 88.8 MBLove bombing gets a lot of attention and is usually discussed alongside narcissism or when we discuss trauma bonding. But what I’ve seen more often in my over 35 years of experience is something I call Attention Flooding, which can look like love bombing, but its origins are actually from codependency and feelings of low self-worth. Today I’m teaching you the difference between love bombing and Attention Flooding, the signs to look for, and my top three tips for building healthier and more f...
251. Is it Love Bombing or Codependent Affection Flooding?
August 21, 2023 23:00 - 58 minutes - 88.8 MBLove bombing gets a lot of attention and is usually discussed alongside narcissism or when we discuss trauma bonding. But what I’ve seen more often in my over 35 years of experience is something I call Attention Flooding, which can look like love bombing, but its origins are actually from codependency and feelings of low self-worth. Today I’m teaching you the difference between love bombing and Attention Flooding, the signs to look for, and my top three tips for building healthier and more f...
250A. Conquering Your Quarter-life Crisis
July 31, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 151 MBWhether you identify as a Millennial, Gen X, or even Gen Z, the quarter-life crisis can have you feeling stuck in work and love. In today’s bonus episode, I’m speaking with expert and author Tess Brigham. You’ll learn why the quarter-life crisis is a real thing and her four-step method for finding your groove. ____________________________ Show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/conquering-your-quarter-life-crisis Check out Tess’ book, “True You: A Step-by-Step Guide to Conquering Your Quarter-...
250. The Secret to a Happy Life and Relationships: Resilience
July 24, 2023 23:00 - 43 minutes - 87.4 MBToday I’m celebrating the 250th episode of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast, and I’m closing out our fifth season with some big love! Today you’re going to learn one of the foundations of a happy, fulfilled life rich with confidence, connection, and ease: resilience. The good news is that resilience is a skill you can learn, and people in resilient relationships report more ease, satisfaction, contentment, physical health, and connection. So, hang out with me today while I break down what...
249. Five Tips for Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex
July 17, 2023 23:00 - 54 minutes - 108 MBYou’ve tried being easy-going and flexible, and you’ve tried being clear and firm, but nothing has worked when it comes to co-parenting with your ex, and I can tell you why: You’re trying to do the impossible. If your ex is narcissistic, abusive, controlling, rageful, or in some other way toxic, your efforts at any reasonable co-parenting will be thwarted. But you don’t need to give up because there is something you can do, and it’s called parallel parenting. Today I’m going to teach you all...
248. How to Make Happier Joint Decisions with Your Partner (in 5 Easy Steps)
July 10, 2023 23:00 - 46 minutes - 93.5 MBWhen you’re single, you get to make 100% of your decisions, from what color you paint your bedroom to how much you spend on eating out every week. But if you want to make a long-term, committed relationship work, the majority of your decisions now need to be shared because just about every decision you make affects your partner. The problem is that decision-making in a couple often boils down to arguments that devolve into one person acquiescing or both sides thinking they’re “meeting in th...
247. Adult ADHD at Work: How to Get Shit Done
July 03, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 121 MBLast week I taught how to deal with a loved one with ADHD. You learned what exactly ADHD is and how it’s diagnosed, what causes it, and my 12 steps to finding connection and peace if your partner has ADHD. Today I’ll talk about the top five problems you’ll likely face at work (whether that’s at home or in an office) if you have ADHD and my top tools to deal with each. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/adult-adhd-at-work-how-to-get-shit-done Gr...
246. How to Deal with a Loved One Who has ADHD
June 26, 2023 23:00 - 54 minutes - 109 MBYour partner said they’d be home by 6:00 but showed up at 8:30 because they got caught up in something and lost track of the time (again). Your partner zoned out (yet again) during an important conversation, and you’re left feeling unloved and unimportant. Your partner promised to figure out vacation plans but now says you never even had that conversation, and they never promised anything! You love someone who is distracted, disorganized, and impulsive. Yup, your partner has attention-defici...
245. Why People Chase Toxic Relationships and Unavailable Partners
June 19, 2023 23:00 - 40 minutes - 81.6 MBWhy do we want to date people who are bad for us? Why do we get into relationships with people that bring out our worst, most unhealthy selves? Today I’m teaching you the top four reasons why you chase toxic relationships and unavailable partners and three tips to help you stop. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-people-chase-toxic-relationships-and-unavailable-partners Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/m...
244. How to Deal with Annoying (I Mean Difficult) Coworkers
June 12, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 118 MBAhhh, that annoying (I mean difficult) coworker. You know the one… they get under your skin every time you interact with them. Today I’m going to teach you the top seven difficult types of coworkers and my effective tools to deal with each one. It’s time to move from frustrated and stuck to more connected and collaborative. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-deal-with-annoying-i-mean-difficult-coworkers Download my FREE I Feel Formula! ht...
244. How to Deal with Annoying (I Mean Difficult) Coworkers
June 12, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 118 MBAhhh, that annoying (I mean difficult) coworker. You know the one… they get under your skin every time you interact with them. Today I’m going to teach you the top seven difficult types of coworkers and my effective tools to deal with each one. It’s time to move from frustrated and stuck to more connected and collaborative. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-deal-with-annoying-i-mean-difficult-coworkers Download my FREE I Feel Formula...
243. Do You Have Relationship OCD?
June 05, 2023 23:00 - 47 minutes - 94.1 MBRelationship OCD, or R-OCD, is a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder where people experience intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors related to worries, fears, and doubts in their relationships. While R-OCD can apply to any kind of relationship, we’re going to focus on romantic ones. Today I’ll be teaching you what exactly Relationship OCD is, why you might have it, and the top evidence-based ways to make lasting change. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: http...
243. Do You Have Relationship OCD?
June 05, 2023 23:00 - 47 minutes - 94.1 MBRelationship OCD, or R-OCD, is a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder where people experience intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors related to worries, fears, and doubts in their relationships. While R-OCD can apply to any kind of relationship, we’re going to focus on romantic ones. Today I’ll be teaching you what exactly Relationship OCD is, why you might have it, and the top evidence-based ways to make lasting change. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: htt...
242. Six Habits to Make All Your Relationships Successful
May 29, 2023 23:00 - 59 minutes - 116 MBWe all want to have connected, happy and fulfilling relationships with the important people in our lives. The problem is that we often feel frustrated, resentful, and annoyed with those very same people! How do we get from irritated to connected? Today I’m teaching you the six habits to make all your relationships successful. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/six-habits-to-make-all-your-relationships-successful Grab my FREE list of Collabor...
242. Six Habits to Make All Your Relationships Successful
May 29, 2023 23:00 - 59 minutes - 116 MBWe all want to have connected, happy and fulfilling relationships with the important people in our lives. The problem is that we often feel frustrated, resentful, and annoyed with those very same people! How do we get from irritated to connected? Today I’m teaching you the six habits to make all your relationships successful. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/six-habits-to-make-all-your-relationships-successful Grab my FREE list of Collaborative...
241. The Key to Letting Go of Resentment
May 22, 2023 23:00 - 56 minutes - 111 MBSomeone has done you wrong and you can’t let it go. You’ve tried to breathe, meditate, or find closure, but nothing seems to work long-term. Maybe you even have moments of relief, but before long, you’re back to bitter thoughts of this person or situation taking up prime real estate in your mind. If left unchecked, resentment will poison your life and happiness. But what to do? Today I’m teaching you how you’ve been approaching resentment all wrong and the one evidence-based way to get it ri...
240. What to Do When Your Partner Changes the Rules of Your Relationship
May 15, 2023 23:00 - 36 minutes - 73.8 MBHow do you get past your partner changing the rules of your relationship? Maybe they quit smoking when you first got together but then started again two years in. Maybe they gained weight and no longer care about a healthier lifestyle. Maybe you’ve had kids, and now they don’t want to have sex as often, or they promised to be a stay-at-home mom and now want to go back to work? What do you do when your partner is doing something now that would have been a deal breaker before you moved in toge...
239. What to Do if You're a Control Freak
May 08, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 136 MBThere’s a big difference between being controlling and being in control. Being in control is awesome. It means you’re self-aware, confident, and have strong self-esteem. But being controlling is the opposite. It’s an unhealthy sign that your self-esteem is rocky, and that fear is running the show. Today I’m going to teach you the three reasons you’ve got control issues and my top five tips for finding peace and security within yourself. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes:...