EP 81: Relationship Statistic or Relationship Legacy?

Welcome to the Relationship Fitness Podcast! As always, we are discussing tips to take your relationship to the next level. Are you settling for “OK” or “Fine” in your relationship? Why not take action to leave a relationship legacy instead of becoming just another failed relationship statistic? Let’s talk about how your relationship is trending today!

 

You ARE leaving a legacy

If your family has a record of dysfunction in relationships, you are either continuing that dysfunction or choosing to do the opposite of the family trend. It’s difficult for some people to grow up and choose something different because for most it’s a “monkey see, monkey do” situation. Most people do what their parents did, and when it comes to relationship dysfunction, that’s NOT a good thing. 

 

Some people don’t know how to do better

In my case, I had said I would never, ever put my kids through a divorce situation like I went through at nine years old---but I did. I was on the receiving end of the hurt and pain that come with divorce when I was a kid, and I was helpless to keep from putting my kids through the same thing. I continued the relationship legacy I had seen modeled for me, even though I didn’t want to. I didn’t know how to do better. I didn’t take action. I got complacent and did nothing, and my relationship became another statistic. 

 

How to tell if your relationship is trending toward being a statistic or a legacy

If sex becomes less frequent because of mood swings, stress, and time, then your relationship is suffering. You have to make your relationship a priority! The scales of relationship equity will never be in your favor if you aren’t intentional! Are you having fewer meaningful conversations about sharing dreams and goals? Are your conversations mere “status updates” about the bills and the kids? If your arguments are escalating, then it’s possible that someone else can become the shoulder to cry on and the ear to vent to for you or your spouse. That’s a dangerous situation. The first day that your attitude is, “I’ve already got him/her, so I don’t have to work at it,” is the beginning of the death of your relationship. Recognize the warning signs. Look for the yellow flags before they become red flags. Take action; be brave enough to talk to your spouse. Be involved and engaged in your relationship.

***Leave me your feedback. I want to know how you are working toward a relationship legacy instead of becoming another statistic. Improving your relationship fitness and solidifying your relationship legacy WILL make a difference. Let’s help save the world--one relationship at a time!

 

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