6 factors that makes marriage bitter.

Find out the insignificance things that can make lose your marriage.

It is the joy of everyone going into marriage, to enjoy happily ever after, knowing that their spouse will be with them through thick and thin, the assurance of having someone have your back no matter what can't be bought with money.

There are several attitudes one should deal with immediately, but I will be discussing on 6 of such and number 5 should not be overlooked in anyway.

POOR SELF IMAGE: Have you ever taken a photograph with a camera with a dirty lens? If yes, you would noticed no matter how high quality the camera is, the photograph would never be clear.

If you don't clean the lens, you use to take the photograph of you and your life, you won't get a clear picture of you, and if such is taken to the marriage, you won't have a clear picture of your marriage which will led to continuous conflict. A good self image will give a good marital image.

NEGATIVE CRITICISM: Probably you are the type that likes giving their perspective about a matter, but you say 90% more negative views and fail to talk about the good aspect of a matter , it feels normal initially but when you are known by it, you have to learn how to CORRECT IN LOVE and CORRECT WITH LOVE.

Because if you don't work on it, your partner will feel they are not good enough for you, or you don't appreciate them their efforts concerning matters and this can lead to resentment.

HOLDING UNTO UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: One thing you should know is that we are all human and no one is super human.

Setting expectations are great, but ensure they are realistic. This can lead to unfinished project. Let all goals be SMART. Having unrealistic expectations for your partner can lead to anger and depression

DEFENSIVENESS: It is defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in an attempt to ward off a perceived attack, and this is really a way of blaming your partner.

Learn to take responsibility of your actions and know it is better to be at peace than to be right.

SILENT TREATMENT, WITHDRAWAL, AND DISTANCING: It is appropriate to know when silent is appropriate in an argument or conflict. Be the one who tries to resolves conflict and not one that keeps silent about conflict. If not properly checked, it can deteriorate.

The first stage is silent treatment, then withdrawal and finally distancing.

You have heard partners say things like, “we don't know how we cut off here, that we won't see ourselves for days and we are fine.”

When you see that silence is entering your relationship more that normal, ensure you ask questions so it doesn't progress .

NAGGING: No one loves to lives with someone that nags. And one way to know one nags is to continously complain and faults.

Nagging can ruin even the healthiest of relationship, so is of major priority to work on any nagging behaviour, instead of nagging, complement, applaud, praise and see your partner becoming better.

What other insignificant factors can destory a marriage?