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Reclaiming Love with Nia & Ness

25 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 18 ratings

Is love really what we think it is? Join Nia & Ness, Black Lesbian romantic couple and performance art duo, each week for the next 12 weeks as they share memories, lessons, laughs and insights about reclaiming love for each other and love for themselves from their backyard in Upstate New York. If you’re seeking a new approach and a bit of inspiration for loving another, loving others, loving yourself, or just need a few laughs, this podcast is for you.

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Episodes

Reclaiming Adventures..because we can get through anything together...

June 17, 2021 09:30 - 1 hour - 60.1 MB

It’s the season finale and we are celebrating with our longest episode yet! Nia & Ness say farewell with a light-hearted conversation about their most impactful trip. Don’t worry, the Black lesbian couple will be back in the fall!   p.s. A special shoutout to Cadacia Townsend for helping inspire Ness to make an important decision (more on that decision in the episode!). Cadacia, Ness forgot to mention you in the episode and is apologizing for that. AND, we have a Patreon! Want to hear mor...

Reclaiming Difficult Conversations...by leading with love and vulnerability... Part 2

June 10, 2021 06:00 - 32 minutes - 29.7 MB

Nia & Ness continue their difficult conversation from last week, addressing some of the challenging dynamics of their relationship. The Black lesbian couple appreciates you holding space for part 2 of this heavy conversation.   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Difficult Conversations...by leading with love and vulnerability... Part 1

June 03, 2021 05:00 - 31 minutes - 28.4 MB

Nia & Ness’s couple’s therapist is on vacation this week, so they decided to bring their session to the mic. The Black lesbian couple invites you to hold space for part 1 of a difficult conversation about where they are now and where they see their relationship headed. p.s. Remember to subscribe to our newly-launched Patreon page (www.patreon.com/niaandness)! You can now have exclusive, virtual access to our creative and healing processes, including weekly grounding videos, vulnerable writi...

Reclaiming Special Moments...as we relive them together...

May 27, 2021 04:00 - 29 minutes - 27.1 MB

“When did you know that I was the one?” Nia asks Ness, as they sit comfortably on their couch in Rosendale, NY. The Black lesbian couple answers the question, revealing the exact moments each of them fell for the other and sharing some of the memories these moments held.   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Sex... by being vulnerable with ourselves and each other.

May 20, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 36.3 MB

The weather is getting hotter and so is the dialogue between Nia & Ness! Listen in as the Black lesbian couple talks about masterbation, sex and orgasms, and how they're reclaiming these topics with their relationship.    Content Warning: Nia here! Sexual assault is talked about at around 18 minutes into the podcast ( I said in the intro that it was about 10 minutes in...my bad!). I don't go into graphic details but I do talk about online encounters with older men when I was a preteen.  ...

Reclaiming Ourselves....by no longer allowing ourselves to hide...

May 13, 2021 07:40 - 31 minutes - 28.8 MB

"What are you hiding from the world? From yourself? Why?" Black lesbian couple Nia & Ness answer the questions to this prompt and reveal the steps they're taking to come out of hiding.   P.S. Nia here and I just wanted to say to you, Ness, I love you. Thank you for being so vulnerable, so brave and so strong. Thank you for being on this healing journey with me <3   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Fears...by uprooting them, together.

May 06, 2021 06:30 - 29 minutes - 26.8 MB

Nia & Ness are halfway thru their second season and are not slowing down for a second! Journey with the Black lesbian couple as they point out some recent fears that have surfaced and offer insight into how they're transforming them.   p.s. our cat, Calvin, joined us for the recording of this episode so you might hear some purrs throughout!    Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Sexy...in ways that feel good to us...

April 29, 2021 06:10 - 34 minutes - 31.2 MB

”Are you feeling sexy today?” Ness asks Nia, as they cuddle up in their bed on a Fool’s Spring day. Join the Black lesbian couple as they reveal when they feel the sexiest and describe exactly how that feels. p.s. This episode is dedicated to one of Nia's best friends. Thank you for being open with us and reminded us how important it is to do this work. We love you!   Also, our cat Jazzy joined us for this episode so you might hear some soft cat purrs in this episode!   Music by Garrett...

Reclaiming Who We Are... because we refuse to let go of our happiness...

April 22, 2021 04:00 - 36 minutes - 33.7 MB

This episode is dedicated to Ma'Khia Bryant, killed by police officer Nicholas Reardon in Columbus, Ohio on April 20, 2021. May your soul rest Ma'Khia, knowing we will continue to fight, continue to love. This week's topic is a difficult one for Nia & Ness, but it's also necessary. Not holding back, the Black lesbian couple shares how they really feel about being the black sheep of their families.   p.s. There are no humorous intros or outros this episode. We aren't in that place, emotion...

Reclaiming The Feeling of True Love... by allowing this love to guide us...

April 15, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MB

"What does it feel like when I tell you I love you?" Nia & Ness ask each other, while cuddled up in their backyard. In answering this question, the Black lesbian couple releases some long-held beliefs about what love has meant to them. P.S. Nia here! Our 8 year anniversary was on April 12th so when I said our anniversary was 2 days ago, ya girl actually meant 3 days ago lol. My bad!  Oh and it was a little windy on episode recording day!   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effect...

Reclaiming Our Confidence...by connecting to Source...

April 08, 2021 04:00 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MB

It’s a sunny (and windy) day in Rosendale, NY, and a seemingly perfect setting for Nia & Ness to discuss confidence. But as the Black lesbian couple shares their experiences with and ideas about this topic, it’s clear that confidence is not always about being bold and bright. p.s. Nia tells her very first Dad joke in this episode! It’s a real doozy!     Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Pisces Season...because we are both deserving of healing.

April 01, 2021 08:10 - 53 minutes - 49.2 MB

Nia & Ness are back for another season, bringing their vulnerability, love and laughs all from their backyard in Rosendale, NY. Join the Black lesbian couple as they tell a story about Nia’s recent birthday weekend and discover that “mental health doesn’t know holidays.” p.s. There is a very special proposal in this episode, along with a few sweet whispers! Y’all don’t want to miss this!   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Sexual Experiences...by being Monogamous Hoes.

December 17, 2020 06:14 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MB

It’s the final episode of the season and Nia & Ness are going out with a bang! No, really. The Black lesbian couple spends their final half hour of season 1 talking about sex, their first time, their spiritual connection and all the hilarious moments in between. p.s. To our moms, our Dads and anyone under the age of 18: STOP here! We repeat, do not listen! Moms and Dads, you will regret it and children stay out of grown folks business! 

Reclaiming Our Safety...by taking the time to process our trauma...

December 10, 2020 05:00 - 30 minutes - 27.7 MB

Unearthing trauma is never easy, so this episode is a tough one. Nia & Ness thank y'all in advance for holding space while they talk about facing harassment as a Black, out-lesbian couple, and reimagine what everyday safety really looks like. p.s. this episode contains a trigger warning: the description of physical and verbal assaults.  On a lighter note...you will get to hear some intimate whispers towards the end of this episode so you might need to turn up the volume a bit :) :)    Mu...

Reclaiming Our Differences...to help each other heal ourselves...

December 03, 2020 06:31 - 20 minutes - 18.9 MB

Nia & Ness cozy up on their couch for another conversation. Actually, this one is more like Ness weaving together a thought web and Nia listening supportively. Come sit with the Black lesbian couple as they continue to bare their vulnerability.   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Blackness...by decolonizing colorism...

November 26, 2020 05:00 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MB

You’re invited to join Nia & Ness in their home for “Family Feast Day" (or what some may call thanksgiving)! This week’s main topic is colorism, as experienced by the dark skinned and light skinned Black lesbian couple, and ideas on what it really means to be Black. p.s. this episode comes with a trigger warning of the words “sexual assault” and “rape” used within the first 10 minutes of the episode and towards the end of this episode. No graphic details are shared.    Music by Garrett Mi...

Reclaiming Self Love...and supporting each other through it all.

November 19, 2020 05:00 - 28 minutes - 26 MB

Join Nia & Ness as they hold space for each other in this episode. Bravely and passionately, the Black lesbian couple expresses the difficulties they each face with loving themselves and reveals how they support each other’s self-love journeys.   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Abundance...because we deserve to.

November 12, 2020 05:00 - 24 minutes - 22 MB

Soaking in some Autumn sun, Nia & Ness have returned to their backyard for another enriching convo. The Black lesbian couple names the ways in which they block their own abundance, points out steps they are taking to remove those barriers and revel in some beautifully intense revelations throughout.  p.s. the beginning of this episode might make you pee your pants a lil bit lol   Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com  

Reclaiming Our Childhood...by nurturing and basking in our inner child and Goddess/Guardian.

November 05, 2020 05:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MB

Nia & Ness are back with another engaging conversation, only this time they’re not in their backyard … they’re in their bed! Cozying up in the covers with their cats, the Black lesbian couple exchange ideas about nurturing their inner goddesses, inner guardians and inner children. p.s. This episode is dedicated to Ness's late teenage best friend Farhad. Tomorrow is his birthday and we both are holding him in our heart. Thank you for coming into Ness's life and always being there when she ne...

Reclaiming Seasonal Depression...through healing our generational trauma...

October 29, 2020 04:00 - 27 minutes - 25.1 MB

It’s another candid conversation with Black lesbian couple Nia & Ness. This episode, they delve into seasonal depression: how it’s experienced in their relationship, how their views about it have evolved and how they are learning to handle it. p.s. for whatever reason helicopters decided to fly over Rosendale during our recording session so you might hear some during this episode. JK you absolutely will hear them but they aren't too loud lol AND  this episode ends with a special treat...A...

Reclaiming Our Chosen Family...that began with our Grandmothers

October 22, 2020 05:36 - 35 minutes - 30.2 MB

It’s a beautiful Fall afternoon and Nia & Ness are back to shout out their tribe. Detailing how their chosen family helps them through hard times, the Black lesbian couple acknowledges the importance of community for committed relationships. p.s. in this episode, we also talk about learning to be gentle to ourselves and we would like to remind you to do the same. Be gentle with yourself. You are growing, beautifully.      Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www...

Reclaiming Spiritual Connections...with each other and our ancestors.

October 15, 2020 06:43 - 36 minutes - 33.5 MB

“How does it feel to be in a relationship with a witch?” Nia asks Ness as Halloween approaches. Join the black lesbian couple in their backyard of Rosendale, NY, as they share secrets about spells and shadows, tell a few ghost stories and give an inside scoop about their spiritual connection.    Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Our Healing...both mentally and emotionally.

October 08, 2020 04:00 - 24 minutes - 20.6 MB

Nia & Ness are back in their backyard in Rosendale, NY, to talk about their journeys with mental and emotional health. The black lesbian couple bravely explores their challenges in maintaining mental and emotional wellbeing and openly shares the ways they support each other’s mental and emotional healing. p.s. in some moments during the podcast, we whisper gently to each other. If you are in the car or a noisy area, you may want to turn up the volume at these points to hear us a bit better ...

Introducing Reclaiming Love with Nia & Ness

September 28, 2020 21:34 - 2 minutes - 2.03 MB

Introducing Reclaiming Love with Nia & Ness, a weekly podcast of intimate conversations around healing, growth and their journeys with unlearning and relearning what love truly means to them as a Black Lesbian couple.     p.s. just so y'all can get to know us a little better ... this podcast intro is saved in our computer as "2 dykes with 1 mic"... :p :p Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com

Reclaiming Masculinity and Femininity...for our survival.

September 28, 2020 21:34 - 38 minutes - 33.2 MB

In their backyard in Rosendale, NY, Nia & Ness discuss their unique relationships with masculinity. Their conversation reveals how each of them, as black women, is received as masculine in the world and how masculinity shows up in their relationship. Music by Garrett Miller Additional sound effects from https://www.zapsplat.com