WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU LEARN QUIETNESS | Ep 11

Our family just did a personality exercise [Life Languages], specifically it's a amazing exercise you do to determine your ‘communication style’.

It's so powerful for family members to learn each other's unique ways of communication.  And we had a riot discussing who in our family is more extrovert and who is more introvert.

And we realised last night that our family has lived in an extroverts world, but now it's the turn of the extroverts to live in the world of the introvert. We have to learn to just be, to stay home, and to learn the things of being on our own. 


Susan Cain’s book: Quiet -" the extroverted ideal…there’s the social pressure for all of us to act like extroverts, and a stigma on those who are quiet. She traces history - in aggregation culture we were very quite, but when we moved into the city there were all sorts of stimuli, then in the Industrial Age we all learned to sell our products or ourselves. She says this created the ‘extroverted ideal’. But we forgot most of us need quiet. All amazing ventures - art, science…., came into being when we were in quiet. "

Culture has now been called A virtual conspiracy against he inner life.
Many of us just don’t know how to be alone.

Pascal quote: “all of humanities problems arise from an inability to sit in a room quiet and alone.

Henry Nowen, ’the way of the heart’ - “solitude is not a private therapeutic place, rather it is the place of conversion, the place of conversion, the place where the old self dies, and the new self is born, the place where the emergance of the new man and the new woman occurs, solitude is the furnace of transformation. Without solitude we remain victims of our society and continue to be entangled in the illusion of the false self. Solitude is the place of the great struggle and the great encounter - the struggle against the compulsions of the false self, and the encounter with the loving God who offers himself as the substance of the new self.