Raising Marriage Podcast
47 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago -Is parenting killing your marriage?
Successful marriages take work and so does raising children. Doing both can seem impossible. In the Raising Marriage Podcast, Kirsten Hatcher, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and her husband, John (not a therapist) show you how to parent with your partner while actually growing your marriage.
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Episodes
Weekly Marriage Check In
May 14, 2024 09:00 - 31 minutes - 71.9 MBDid you begin your weekly business meeting we discussed in Episode 42? Now lets add some more substance and a way for you and your partner to check in with one another on a deeper level. In this episode, Kirsten shares questions you can use in a weekly meeting to emotionally check in with your partner. John shares what he loves about the questions and how he sees it have a positive imapact on the relationship week in and week out. For eas reference of the questions: What went well in ...
United in Crisis: Navigating Challenges Together Through Our Family's Toughest Time
May 07, 2024 09:00 - 42 minutes - 96.1 MBJoin us, Kirsten and John as we open up about our family’s tough two-year journey. We faced challenge after challenge when our family hit this crisis, but we faced it together. Our latest podcast episode is about how the years we spent building a strong marriage got us through this difficult time. We worked together to parent through a season of emotional, behavioral and ultimately medical challenges. In our chat, we share the story behind it all and how reflecting on this helped fu...
You Don’t Have to Solve Every Problem
April 30, 2024 09:00 - 31 minutes - 71.8 MBIs it really the dishes you're arguing about? Most likely it's something deeper. Even though it's more uncomfortable to go deeper, you should! Listen in as we explore the subtle art of conflict resolution within relationships. Sometimes the best strategy is beyond practical solutions. John and Kirsten get into the importance of understanding each other before jumping into problem solving mode.
Navigate Life Together with Family Business Meetings
April 23, 2024 10:05 - 23 minutes - 53.9 MBIs your family's schedule a jigsaw puzzle, but no one knows where all the pieces are? That's where we were too, until we started having weekly family business meetings. In this episode, we share how this simple strategy has helped us run the week. Plus, there's a bigger benefit that these little meetings set the stage for (more on that in a future episode). In this episode we share the benefits of having a weekly business meeting as well as tips to help you start your own.
We Are Back!
April 23, 2024 10:00 - 3 minutes - 8.16 MBWelcome back to Raising Marriage! After a hiatus, hosts Kirsten and John are excited to return with new episodes to help couples connect in their marriage. In this episode, Kirsten shares updates on what's been happening since the last recording. The Hatchers faced some big family challenges during the break, but everyone is healthy and doing well. Moving forward, Raising Marriage will return to regular episodes, sharing strategies and tips for building and maintaining a strong marriage ...
Marriage & Sex
May 13, 2021 02:13 - 30 minutes - 69.9 MBDate 3 brings on the top of Sex & Intimacy. John and Kirsten go over the importance of talking about sex in your marriage while following along with the Gottman Relationship book 8 Dates.
Date 2: Managing Conflict in Your Marriage
April 21, 2021 16:48 - 53 minutes - 122 MBJoin Kirsten & John on Date 2 from the Gottman Relationship Book 8 Dates. They talk about how important it is to develop a game plan for when you are having conflict!
Date 1: Trust & Commitment in a Marriage
April 02, 2021 11:33 - 46 minutes - 106 MBJoin John and Kirsten as they work through Date 1 from the Gottman Relationship book, 8 dates. Date 1 is all about trust and commitment, and just what that means in a relationship.
Relationship Book Time!
March 23, 2021 09:00 - 19 minutes - 44 MBKirsten & John share about the Gottman Book, 8 dates and encourage you to take the journey alongside with them while they complete the 8 dates on air with you listening! This book encourages and even gives the guidelines and questions you can ask to grow your relationship and learn new things about your partner and your relationship!
Raising Marriage Season 1 Recap!
January 19, 2021 02:27 - 36 minutes - 67.4 MBJoin Kirsten & John as the recall all that has been shared in the first season of Raising Marriage. Highlighting how children do shake up a marriage and how together partners and grow and learn more about one another and work on strengthening their marriage!
Is conflict in a marriage a good thing?..... yes!
December 18, 2020 01:28 - 16 minutes - 30.9 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John discuss conflict and how it can actually be a good thing in your relationship. Conflict is inevitable and if looked at in a slightly different way can help you and your relationship grow!
Do You Feel Detached From Your Partner?
November 22, 2020 16:06 - 18 minutes - 34.5 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about feeling detached/ disconnected from your partner. They give tips on how to work through the disconnect and get your relationship back on track!
Enjoying the Holidays with Your Family
November 06, 2020 13:20 - 28 minutes - 52.1 MBThe Holidays can result in a lot of planning, activities and overall chaos. In this episode Kirsten & John share 4 tips on how to get the most joy out of this Holiday Season!
Married Story Time!
October 15, 2020 17:27 - 14 minutes - 25.7 MBHave you ever forgotten an important date in your marriage! Tune in to this episode while Kirsten and John do a little story time of how they recently did just that!
Are You Over Correcting When Parenting Your Children?
October 02, 2020 13:24 - 22 minutes - 42.1 MBIn this episode Kirsten shares a revelation she has had about her own parenting. John and Kirsten discuss what it can look like if we are parenting out of fear, versus coaching and guiding. Listen here and see if it is something that resonates with you as well! Follow Us on Instagram
Love, Family and Virtual School?!!?
September 18, 2020 15:14 - 35 minutes - 65.7 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John share with you how they have managed settling in to Virtual School (hint things did not start out so great). They share tools and strategies they used to work through all the kinks that came their way! follow Raising Marriage on instagram!
How to Share a Concern and Be Heard in Your Marriage!
September 07, 2020 02:04 - 31 minutes - 57.7 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John discuss how it is very important to recognize how you bring something up to your partner will decide if the conversation will turn into a fight or not! Tune in to this episode to learn some tips on how to bring up an issue and be heard.
Are You The Household Manager in Your Family?
August 21, 2020 21:58 - 25 minutes - 47.3 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about how in most marriages there is someone who does a lot of the house hold management. There are times that this can cause some tension in a relationship. John and Kirsten discuss how to avoid the tension from someone feeling like they are doing it all!
Little Children & Big Emotions!
July 31, 2020 13:47 - 36 minutes - 66.4 MBIn this episode Kirsten & John share how they work with helping their children to identify and label their feelings and emotions. You know the emotions that can often lead to tantrums and tears. Emotion Chart Follow us on Instagram
Spending Time with Your Children!
July 16, 2020 22:28 - 27 minutes - 49.6 MBDo you spend one on one time with your children? In todays episode Kirsten and John talk about how it is just as important to spend alone time with your children as it is to have a simple date with your partner! Listen for tips and why one on one time for children is so important.
10 Lessons Learned in 10 Years of Marriage
July 03, 2020 00:34 - 35 minutes - 65.7 MBIn this episode John and Kirsten celebrate 10 years of marriage, but sharing 10 things they have learned while being married!
Do You Have Conflicts That Cannot Be Solved?
June 25, 2020 23:03 - 31 minutes - 57.1 MBKirsten shares 3 tips on how you and your partner can work on talking through the unsolvable conflicts in your relationships. You know the one! The one that you avoid or that causes you a lot of anxiety and anger to even think about, listen to this episode for tips and strategies on how manage these conversations.
Tips on How to Have Big Conversations with Your Children
June 11, 2020 16:36 - 36 minutes - 66.7 MBIn this episode Kirsten & John share 6 tips on how to have conversations about difficult topics with your children. The tips shared today can be used in other situations in your life, but seem important to share during what is occurring in our country right now when this is being recorded.
Story Time, a Time Out Fail!
June 04, 2020 18:25 - 10 minutes - 19.9 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John do things a little different and share one of their parenting bloopers! They talk about how they fumble together during their first attempt at trying out a time out!
Finding Joy in the Simple Moments!
May 28, 2020 17:57 - 23 minutes - 43.1 MBRelationships do not need to be marked by grand gestures and huge moments. In this episode of Raising Marriage, Kirsten and John discuss how the simple moments in your family can create some connections and memories!
Does My Child Need Therapy?
May 21, 2020 14:13 - 21 minutes - 39.3 MBThis is a question parents ask themselves from time to time. Parents often want to make sure their children are OK. In this episode Kirsten shares how she answers this question to potential clients and friends!
Do You Speak Your Partners Love Language?
May 14, 2020 16:34 - 25 minutes - 46.7 MBToday Kirsten and John talk about the buzz topic of love languages. They discuss how it is just as important to speak your partners love language as it is to understand your own!
Simple Date Time!
May 07, 2020 20:39 - 32 minutes - 45.3 MBKirsten and John often talk about the importance of Simple Dates. Simple Dates is where you find time for JUST mom and dad, so you can focus on being husband and wife! Join Kirsten and John as they play one hundred questions. Which is a Simple Date that comes from the Raising Marriage Simple Date Guide. Link to the guide so you can receive your copy today: https://raisingmarriage.com/simple
What is Parental Hierarchy?
April 30, 2020 13:00 - 29 minutes - 41.2 MBIn today's episode Kirsten and John talk about the importance of a parental hierarchy, and what it even means to have one. They provide tips on parenting together and about how important it is to remain aligned as husband and wife when we enter into the parenting world!
Do You and Your Partner Dream Together?
April 23, 2020 13:44 - 27 minutes - 37.3 MBDo you and your partner talk about your dreams and goals? In this episode Kirsten and John talk about how you can use a bucket list to encourage a conversation that helps you both to share your dreams and goals! follow Raising Marriage instagram for regular tips on marriage and parenting!
Are You Harping on the Negative in your Marriage?
April 16, 2020 11:46 - 32 minutes - 44.8 MBAt times we can find the little things our partner does to me frustrating, and then we begin to nit pick these behaviors and see out partner in a negative way. Today Kirsten & John talk about how to stop harping on the small frustrating behaviors and look for the positive things your partner is bringing to the relationship. Follow us on instagram for up to date information!
How are you managing the new work/life/family balance?
April 09, 2020 13:43 - 29 minutes - 54.3 MBIn this episode Kirsten & John talk about how the two separate worlds of work and home have collided collided for most of us. Listen for tips on how to manage this new home/ work/ family environment.
It is OK to not be OKAY right now!!
April 02, 2020 15:46 - 32 minutes - 60.1 MBIt is now week three of home quarantine in the Hatcher House. In this episode John and Kirsten talk about how it is ok to not feel okay! This is a new experience for all of us, and sometimes we need to recognize that that it is ok to admit we do not know what we are doing and that some days are not as great as others!
Quarantine and Conversations!
March 26, 2020 10:00 - 48 minutes - 88.5 MBWhen there is conflict in your marriage you need to stop ignoring your partner, and HAVE.THE.CONVERSATIONS! Kirsten and John keep telling you to have "these conversations," and today they talk to you about what can make them successful! Good Luck! follow us on instagram or email Kirsten if you have any questions!
Marriage, Family and The Coronavirus
March 19, 2020 12:30 - 39 minutes - 73.3 MBAs we work on social distancing what does this mean for our families? In today's episode Kirsten and John talk all about the Coronavirus and being quarantined at home.They discuss how to navigate all that is happening from feeling anxious to managing work schedules!
What Does Opposites Attract Mean When it Comes to Parenting?
March 12, 2020 07:00 - 21 minutes - 39.9 MBOpposites attracting is a very romanticized when in the dating world. Then you get married, start a family and begin raising a partner with someone who is opposite of you.... and things can get a little frustrating! In this episode Kirsten and John encourage you to look at how you can look at your opposites as a strength rather than seeing it as a fault in your partner!
What Are Needs and Expectations in a Marriage?
March 05, 2020 10:00 - 29 minutes - 54.6 MBStop expecting your partner to read you mind! In today's episode Kirsten and John discuss what it means to have expectations in your relationship. They also talk about how it is so important to verbally share your needs with your partner so you do not begin resenting one another. Follow us on instagram Sign up to receive your Simple Dates Guide here
Are You Feeling Disconnected in Your Marriage?
February 27, 2020 10:00 - 21 minutes - 30.1 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about one of their tougher seasons of parenting. They reflect and share what they learned during this time!
What is Your Parenting Style?
February 20, 2020 10:00 - 46 minutes - 85.2 MBParenting styles, oh there are so many! In this episode Kirsten shares a continuum for assessing parenting styles with your partner and she and John talk about what the conversations can look like when you are trying to determine the best ways to parent your children!
How to Fight and Stay Married!
February 13, 2020 10:00 - 30 minutes - 56 MBKirsten and John share some ground rules they try to implement in their marriage when arguments arise. They encourage you to be ready for arguments in your marriage, and to see them as a chance to grow together in your marriage.
Do You Talk About Money in Your Marriage?
February 06, 2020 10:00 - 33 minutes - 61.9 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about how important it is to have financial conversations with your partner. They share with you the evolution of financial discussions in their marriage, and how they believe that working on the same financial goals can bring you closer together! Follow Raising Marriage over on Instagram
Do You Talk About Money in Your Marriage?
February 06, 2020 10:00 - 33 minutes - 61.9 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about how important it is to have financial conversations with your partner. They share with you the evolution of financial discussions in their marriage, and how they believe that working on the same financial goals can bring you closer together! Follow Raising Marriage over on Instagram
Grow Your Marriage with Simple Dates
January 30, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 36.1 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John talk about the necessity of connecting with your partner each week and share an easy way to get started! Follow us on instagram for more tips and stories!
Are You Speaking Life into Your Marriage?
January 23, 2020 04:04 - 24 minutes - 44.2 MBDo you speak about your husband and wife in a way that lifts your relationship up? In this episode Kirsten and John discuss the importance of always speaking positively about your partner!
Did Children Shake up Your Marriage?
January 22, 2020 13:01 - 22 minutes - 51 MBChildren are a wonderful addition to your family, but the dynamics can get thrown off a bit. In today's episode Kirsten and John will share with you when they realized their marriage had been shaken up, and offer some suggestions on how you can get things back on track in your family!
Meet The Raising Marriage Couple
January 21, 2020 02:41 - 20 minutes - 47.4 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John share about who they are, their relationship and what they hope to help you with when raising your marriage.
Meet The Raising Marriage Couple
January 21, 2020 02:41 - 20 minutes - 47.4 MBIn this episode Kirsten and John share about who they are, their relationship and what they hope to help you with when raising your marriage.