"I have a Queery about...Sex, Part 1" ft. Jorrel Javier

"Why do we have shame around discussing sex?"  "Do you feel shame around discussing sex? Having too much sex?"  "Why are fear and sex so integrally linked?" "What is 'pegging'?"

This episode contains mature content.

On this episode, I interview original Grover in The Lightning Thief  musical, fierce slam poet, and incredible human, Jorrel Javier (he/him), and we are here to discuss everyone's favorite three letter, adult activity.....SEX. Sex is such an integral part to not only Queer culture but all cultures because we all have such a complicated relationship with it. For Queer people it is especially complicated because it is one part of us that has been shamed for much of our lives. Then when we get the chance to learn about it, it is often through a very skewed, incorrect leans--through mediums like porn--which is often a detriment to our mental health, relationships with others, and ourselves, and overall growth. Jorrel and I delve into how our society developed from ancient cultures where sex and Queer people where such and integral part of society to carrying shame and hesitation around discussing it: why we feel so ashamed discussing it, how religion has taught us to fear it, acceptability for men vs. women when expressing sexuality, how Gay men equate our self worth to how much sex we have and who we do it with, how we shame people in certain roles within our community, and so much more. The list goes on. This is a Sex Ed episode not just for Queers but also for the straights. It is time we destigmitize something that is one of the most human things in our world.

We also get into Queeries such as:

Prerequisites for sex.How feeling and discussion around sex trickles down from older generations.Fear based around sex and the act of losing one's virginityHow porn negatively teaches us how sex is supposed to goOur preferences being rooted in misogny and the "white ideal"Daily diligence and doing work--that will never be done-- for the betterment of our community

Queer Glossary:

Two Spirit:  Native American two spirit people were male, female, and sometimes intersex individuals who combined activities of both men and women with traits unique to their status as two spirit people. In most tribes, they were considered neither men nor women; they occupied a distinct, alternative gender status. 

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Show Produced by Nick Eibler

Edited by Addison McKissack

Theme Song written by Matt Gregory, Colin Egan, and Mike Hubbard 
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