Unruffle: A podcast for women with ADHD with Erika Ames
30 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 7 ratings(Un)ruffle is the podcast for women with ADHD. Here, we ditch the stereotypes, the stigma, and the shame and make room for the quicks, quandaries, and keys to being a woman with ADHD. Hosted by Erika Ames, MSW–a fellow ADHDer, licensed therapist, owner of Tailwinds Counseling, and ADHD coach.
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Episodes
03 The L Word: What it means to be lazy for women with ADHD
November 01, 2021 04:01 - 33 minutes - 46.4 MBIn this episode you'll learn about the effects of stigma on women with ADHD and hear Erika's hot take about the dreaded L-word: Lazy, complete with a soap box talk and sound effects. And most importantly, you'll learn a 4 step system to fight a case of the lazies. The study referenced in this episode is The Strives, Struggles, and Successes of Women Diagnosed with ADHD as Adults by Mira Elise Glaser Holthe and Eva Langvik Full text available here: https://doi.org/10.1177/21582440177...
02 ADHD 101: Cognition Junction, what's your executive (dys)function?
August 30, 2021 22:01 - 26 minutes - 36.8 MBGetting to know your ADHD is essential if you want to get moving toward your goals. What exactly is executive functioning and how does ADHD mess with it? Get to know your ADHD brain and discover a hard truth about executive functioning. Plus, you'll learn the secret to getting what you really want when you're a woman with ADHD. Take the ADHD Time Nemesis Quiz at https://www.unruffle.co/quiz. Follow Erika on Instagram, Twitter, & TikTok: @erikaameslcsw
01 Is it Perfectionism or is it ADHD?
August 23, 2021 09:00 - 58 minutes - 80.8 MBWhat's perfectionism got to do with ADHD? Listen to the first episode of (Un)ruffle, a podcast for women with ADHD to learn about the relationship between perfectionism and ADHD as illustrated through social media posts you've almost certainly seen. As a bonus, Erika talks you through what the ADHD diagnosis process and alerts you to things to avoid when seeking a diagnosis. Take the ADHD Time Nemesis Quiz Keep in touch: Instagram: @erikaameslcsw Twitter: @erikaameslcsw TikTo...
A new direction for Previously Perfect: Introducing (Un)ruffle
July 14, 2021 16:53 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MBIntroducing (Un)ruffle! The podcast is coming back in a new way! Listen in for an exciting announcement and a preview of the new season starting next week.
Toxic Positivity
February 08, 2021 05:01 - 42 minutes - 58.8 MBIn this episode of Previously Perfect, Erika is talking about toxic positivity. What exactly is it? Is positivity canceled? How can you spot toxic positivity and what you can do about it? She also confesses her own toxic positivity sins and explains why exactly it’s so pervasive. Erika’s updated blog post on gratitude: https://tailwindscounseling.com/5-ways-gratitude-will-make-happier/ Instagram: @erikaameslcsw Twitter: @erikaameslcsw TikTok: @erikaameslcsw
13 Toxic Positivity
February 08, 2021 05:01 - 42 minutes - 58.8 MBIn this episode of Previously Perfect, Erika is talking about toxic positivity. What exactly is it? Is positivity canceled? How can you spot toxic positivity and what you can do about it? She also confesses her own toxic positivity sins and explains why exactly it’s so pervasive. Erika’s updated blog post on gratitude: https://tailwindscounseling.com/5-ways-gratitude-will-make-happier/ Instagram: @erikaameslcsw Twitter: @erikaameslcsw TikTok: @erikaameslcsw
12 New Year; No Goals
January 15, 2021 20:24 - 24 minutes - 34.3 MBHaven't made that vision board that you've been meaning to get to yet? Listen to this first. In the first episode of 2021, you'll learn why goals are overrated and what to do instead. Connect with Erika on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter: @erikaameslcsw
New Year; No Goals
January 15, 2021 20:24 - 24 minutes - 34.3 MBHaven't made that vision board that you've been meaning to get to yet? Listen to this first. In the first episode of 2021, you'll learn why goals are overrated and what to do instead. Connect with Erika on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter: @erikaameslcsw
How to Manage Election Stress AKA Preparing for the 2020 Season Finale
October 31, 2020 03:40 - 44 minutes - 61 MBIn the triumphantly imperfect return of the Previously Perfect Podcast, Erika Ames gives you some tips to manage your stress during election night, election week, or election months, whatever the case may be. She won't tell you who will win the election, but she will tell you how to stay grounded as you wait to find out. Find Erika on social: IG: @tailwindscounseling Twitter: @erikaameslcsw
11 How to Manage Election Stress AKA Preparing for the 2020 Season Finale
October 31, 2020 03:40 - 44 minutes - 61 MBIn the triumphantly imperfect return of the Previously Perfect Podcast, Erika Ames gives you some tips to manage your stress during election night, election week, or election months, whatever the case may be. She won't tell you who will win the election, but she will tell you how to stay grounded as you wait to find out. Find Erika on social: IG: @tailwindscounseling Twitter: @erikaameslcsw
10 Perfectionism Pandemic
April 16, 2020 17:51 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MBAs coronavirus impacts the lives of nearly every single person on earth, everyone is struggling with some element of this new reality. For perfectionists, make us feel like we're not doing quarantine right, we're not being productive enough, and it can make us try to control things that we can't actually change. In the season 2 debut, I chat about the realities of pandemic life and some strategies for self-care and coping. Snag the bonus mentioned in the episode at www.erikaames.com/covid...
09 You might be a perfectionist if...
December 16, 2019 10:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBA lot of times, people who struggle with perfectionism don’t call it that. They often believe that because they aren’t actually perfect, because they make mistakes, and because other people seem to have it more together than they do, they can’t possibly be a perfectionist. Basically, the thinking is, “I’m not perfect enough to be a perfectionist.” But no one is perfect. So In this episode, you’ll learn 7 signs you’re a perfectionist. And because this is the last episode of 2019, we’ll als...
Ep 9 | You might be a perfectionist if...
December 16, 2019 10:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBA lot of times, people who struggle with perfectionism don’t call it that. They often believe that because they aren’t actually perfect, because they make mistakes, and because other people seem to have it more together than they do, they can’t possibly be a perfectionist. Basically, the thinking is, “I’m not perfect enough to be a perfectionist.” But no one is perfect. So In this episode, you’ll learn 7 signs you’re a perfectionist. And because this is the last episode of 2019, we’ll als...
Ep 8 | What's shame got to do with it? Part 2: How to deal with shame
December 09, 2019 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBIn part 1 of "What's shame got to do with it?" we talked about what shame is, where it comes from, and how it's related to perfectionism. In part 2, we dive deeper into the shame - perfectionism link and we learn how to handle shame in a productive way.
08 What's shame got to do with it? Part 2: How to deal with shame
December 09, 2019 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBIn part 1 of "What's shame got to do with it?" we talked about what shame is, where it comes from, and how it's related to perfectionism. In part 2, we dive deeper into the shame - perfectionism link and we learn how to handle shame in a productive way.
07 What's shame got to do with it? Part 1: What is Shame and where does it come from?
December 02, 2019 10:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBIt might not be obvious, but perfectionism and shame are closely linked. And beating perfectionism once and for all requires we take a look at our shame stories. Shame is a universal emotion, and perfectionism is a way of coping with it. In part 1 of 2 episodes on shame and perfectionism, you’ll learn exactly what shame is and where it comes from. You’ll also learn some useful questions to ask yourself to examine where your own shame comes from. People and References Mentioned in the Show ...
7. What's shame got to do with it? Part 1: What is Shame and where does it come from?
December 02, 2019 10:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBIt might not be obvious, but perfectionism and shame are closely linked. And beating perfectionism once and for all requires we take a look at our shame stories. Shame is a universal emotion, and perfectionism is a way of coping with it. In part 1 of 2 episodes on shame and perfectionism, you’ll learn exactly what shame is and where it comes from. You’ll also learn some useful questions to ask yourself to examine where your own shame comes from. People and References Mentioned in the Show ...
06 How to avoid holiday burnout as a perfectionist
November 25, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.4 MBTis the season to be jolly, but when our standards are impossibly high, we’re unlikely to be feeling joyous. Instead, perfectionists feel overwhelmed, anxious and a little bit miserable during the holiday season. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly how to navigate the holiday season without having a perfectionism fueled meltdown.
How to avoid holiday burnout as a perfectionist
November 25, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.4 MBTis the season to be jolly, but when our standards are impossibly high, we’re unlikely to be feeling joyous. Instead, perfectionists feel overwhelmed, anxious and a little bit miserable during the holiday season. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly how to navigate the holiday season without having a perfectionism fueled meltdown.
05 The Perfectionism Big Three: People-pleasing, Procrastination, and Fear
November 18, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MBOn this podcast, we talk a lot about what to do about the problems that come along with perfectionism. In this episode, we’re giving context to perfectionistic behaviors. You’ll learn about the Perfectionism Big Three - people-pleasing, procrastinating, and fear - what drives these perfectionists, and how to cope with the challenges that come along with each type. In This Episode… [06:56] Why it’s important to recognize your style of perfectionism. [09.40] People-pleasing [14.10] Pro...
The Perfectionism Big Three: People-pleasing, Procrastination, and Fear
November 18, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MBOn this podcast, we talk a lot about what to do about the problems that come along with perfectionism. In this episode, we’re giving context to perfectionistic behaviors. You’ll learn about the Perfectionism Big Three - people-pleasing, procrastinating, and fear - what drives these perfectionists, and how to cope with the challenges that come along with each type. In This Episode… [06:56] Why it’s important to recognize your style of perfectionism. [09.40] People-pleasing [14.10] Pro...
04 Overcome setbacks by growing your grit
November 11, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MBSo you stopped procrastinating, you started saying no instead of people-pleasing, you conquered your fear of judgment. So you’re home free now, right? Think again, recovering perfectionist. In this episode, Erika talks about overcoming setbacks with one very important quality. Grit. In This Episode… [01.13] Why I’ve been gone as it relates to the perfectionism struggle. [05.12] Why grit is important to a recovering perfectionist. [10.00] Defining grit [13.47] How to grow your grit...
Episode 4 - Overcome setbacks by growing your grit
November 11, 2019 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MBSo you stopped procrastinating, you started saying no instead of people-pleasing, you conquered your fear of judgment. So you’re home free now, right? Think again, recovering perfectionist. In this episode, Erika talks about overcoming setbacks with one very important quality. Grit. In This Episode… [01.13] Why I’ve been gone as it relates to the perfectionism struggle. [05.12] Why grit is important to a recovering perfectionist. [10.00] Defining grit [13.47] How to grow your grit...
Episode 3 - How to do social media as a perfectionist
June 17, 2019 18:51 - 16 minutes - 14.8 MBSocial media and perfectionism can be like oil and water and how we can smooth out that rocky relationship. Perfectionist or not, these tips can help because Instagram has a nasty way of making us all feel like we’ll never be good enough. It’s true that social media can be fuel for the perfectionist’s insecurities, but if we can learn to remember the context, value ourselves, and be our own cheerleaders, we can stop feeling like crap every time we open our social apps. Listen up to find ou...
03 How to do social media as a perfectionist
June 17, 2019 18:51 - 16 minutes - 14.8 MBSocial media and perfectionism can be like oil and water and how we can smooth out that rocky relationship. Perfectionist or not, these tips can help because Instagram has a nasty way of making us all feel like we’ll never be good enough. It’s true that social media can be fuel for the perfectionist’s insecurities, but if we can learn to remember the context, value ourselves, and be our own cheerleaders, we can stop feeling like crap every time we open our social apps. Listen up to find ou...
02 How to shift your mindset from Go Big or Go Home to Done is Better than Perfect
June 10, 2019 22:54 - 19 minutes - 18.2 MBOne of the biggest blocks perfectionists face is all or nothing thinking. In this episode Erika teaches you how that “go big or go home” mentality is holding you back and three actionable steps to make the shift to a healthier mindset. In this episode, you’ll learn How the “Go Big or Go Home” mindset hurts What happens when it’s all or nothing What it looks like when you start to embrace done is better than perfect (spoiler alert: It’s good!) And three actionable tips to go from all ...
Episode 2 - How to shift your mindset from Go Big or Go Home to Done is Better than Perfect
June 10, 2019 22:54 - 19 minutes - 18.2 MBOne of the biggest blocks perfectionists face is all or nothing thinking. In this episode Erika teaches you how that “go big or go home” mentality is holding you back and three actionable steps to make the shift to a healthier mindset. In this episode, you’ll learn How the “Go Big or Go Home” mindset hurts What happens when it’s all or nothing What it looks like when you start to embrace done is better than perfect (spoiler alert: It’s good!) And three actionable tips to go from all ...
01 What is Perfectionism and why is there a podcast about it?
May 06, 2019 22:16 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this first episode, we dive into what Perfectionism really means and why we should learn to overcome it. Be sure to send your questions about perfectionism to Erika at [email protected] and download your Stuck on Perfect: Break through your Perfectionism and Get Shit Done ebook with audio at www.erikaames.com/ebook
Episode 1 - What is Perfectionism and why is there a podcast about it?
May 06, 2019 22:16 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this first episode, we dive into what Perfectionism really means and why we should learn to overcome it. Be sure to send your questions about perfectionism to Erika at [email protected] and download your Stuck on Perfect: Break through your Perfectionism and Get Shit Done ebook with audio at www.erikaames.com/ebook
Official Trailer
April 16, 2019 18:57 - 1 minute - 1.22 MBThe Previously Perfect Podcast for recovering perfectionists will debut on May 6th! To learn more about the project and your host, visit www.erikaames.com and follow along on Facebook and Instagram, both @previouslyperfect!