Polyamory Weekly

605 Poly change management

How do you handle moving, job loss, death, and other relationship changes? 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com We’re heading to Croatia for a vacation! 2:12 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner The gap between people’s stated positions and what they actually vote for. 5:28 Contact us If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email [email protected] and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that invol...

603 PolyPhilia

Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK. 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com 00:40 Poly in the news Leanne was on the British version of Fox News talking about polyamory, and she ran circles around the host! 3:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner A white cis man’s view on abortion. Our b...

603 Welcome to Kinkyville

Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter here! 00:30 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The empathy gap and why it’s hard to predict your behavior in a hot state when you’re in a cold state. Related to our idea of “experience shock.” Hidden Brain podcast The Empathy Gap A group at Harvard Law School, PLAC (Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition, which is an i...

602 Loving an addict

A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy. 0:45 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner: look at your party’s track record The next time you’re wondering about what side of any given political debate to adopt, consider the track record of the folk advocating for each given side. If they are among those wh...

601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality

A listener in a hierarchical relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com In episode 189 of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast, the guest Brea said they used Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up! 2:50 Poly in the news Folks are getting serious about creating a new poly flag 5:00 Lusty Guy’s Pol...

600 Polyamorous while Asian

Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Livin’ it up in Hawaii! 3:15 Interview: Michelle Hy We ask Michelle her poly origin story, how her poly and Asian identities intersect, why she started Polyamorous While Asian, the pitfalls she warns against, and dati...

599 When to call it quits

Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Next episode will be from Hawaii 1:35 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner On the Palestine-Israeli conflict—it’s OK to admit you don’t know enough...

598 My husband vetoed my partner

Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy are doing Navigating Consent classes 4:30 Poly in the news Romper published a 4,000-word feature with the arresting title The Nonmonoga-Moms Next Door 7:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner Lusty Guy defines fasci...

597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy

SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 00:45 Poly in the news Poly community builders Christopher Smith, Robyn Trask, Marina Reiko, Ruby Bouie Johnson and others did an impressive job for more than an hour on Areva Martin's influential online talk show The Special Report 2:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner Toda...

596 How does poly in person look?

Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new partners when you've asked him not to? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com We’re in top 20 podcasts about polyamory! https://blog.feedspot.com/polyamory_podcasts/ Minx is fully vaccinated, pending 10 more day’s wait. A massage and travel are on the horizon! 3:15 Poly in the news 3500-word BBC article quoting Dossie Easton ...

595 What if I don't want to hear my partner having s-x?

A listener wants to know if it's OK to consider nesting with a partner if she's not sure she'll be comfortable hearing them have sex with someone else. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are: Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex! Folks who descri...

594 How to talk to kids about polyamory and stuff

Ashley Robertson, child care provider and sex-positive educator, makes her podcast debut to answer questions about age-appropriate sex education. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Same ole’ same ole’ pandemic, just waiting for the vaccine 2:25 Poly in the news Three Dads and a Baby Caroline Rose Guiliani is a poly unicorn! Cambridge, Massachusetts passes new poly domestic partnership legislation 5:55 Feedback If you have questions, comm...

593 How do you handle going platonic?

Matt writes in to ask what to do after a partner asks to be platonic while she figures things out. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Let’s talk about snow and the polar vortex. Seattle snow was fun for us and our puppy, but Minx was worried about her family in Texas. 4:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner We all learned about the pilgrims founding America to enjoy religious tolerance, but it’s not true. They decamped Eng...

592 How do you like to bond?

Dr. Eli Sheff joins today to share her new project, The Bonding Project, in which she seeks to help people understand how they bond. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Minx was down for a week with horrible symptoms of menopause, but feeling better now. Hoping to get Heather Corinna, author of What Fresh Hell Is This: Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities, and You, soon! 3:45 Poly in the news Chris Smith and Ben Schenker's have proposed leg...

591 Unf*ck your polyamory

Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson share insights from their new online course, Unf*ck your polyamory 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Poly in the news BBC 2 has a new drama called Trigonometry centered around black poly folks If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email [email protected] and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweek...

590 How do I develop compersion?

How to experience and nurture compersion in your relationships 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The Book of the Kiss is a fantasy romance sourcebook designed to be system-agnostic. Poly Weekly listeners can get half off the cover price here. Love is Polytical was a conference in Berlin last weekend. 3:50 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner Both sides are not the same. If what you are looking for deep, systemic reform to systems, yeah, t...

589 My dom's girlfriend is domblocking me

Worried and her roommate are seeing the same long-distance dom, and her roommate started dating him and then put restrictions on Worried's time with him. Should they move in together? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com The surprising obstacles to polyamorous marriage 2:40 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner Lusty Guy provides insights on expertise: what is it, when do you have it, and what to do in its absence. To start increasing your exp...

588 Where the f-ck have we been

Why we didn't produce an episode for eights months and what to expect from Poly Weekly moving forward. 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat: why haven’t we produced for eight months Puppy! COVID pandemic left me frustrated, helpless, and unmotivated to podcast Stay-at-home had a negative effect on our relationship for a while Lack of access to coping strategies. Swimply is the app to rent outdoor pools by the hour. George Floyd,...

587 Love in the time of coronavirus

How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes! We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome! 3:00 Poly in the news Elisabeth Sheff’s four-part series on monogamy in Psychology Today: CNM is not a good choice as ...

586 Feast or famine

What do you do when you have one romantic partner and your partner has none? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com What were your favorite shows of 2019? 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell--March 18--17,397 572 When your partner’s jealousy precludes your polyamory--April 28--14,392 568 A framework for consent--March 3--13,440 576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners--July 1--13,019 All-time downloads: 7,261,446 5...

585 Poly for the holidays

Advice from six different therapists, relationship coaches, and body workers on navigating family events as a poly person over the holidays 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com My Thanksgiving Happy Poly Moment 5:25 Contact us Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear o...

584 Dealing with abandonment issues

I have abandonment issues, but I don't know what I need when they come up. How do I ask my partners for what I need? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com Thanks to the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon! Poly for the Holidays contributions 1:55 Poly in the news November 23 was National Polyamory Day, and other poly holidays Discrimination in poly pregnancies 5:25 Contact us Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attac...

Poly Weekly live from Portland!

We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon! 2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah Lessons learned include: poly and kinky people are everywhere it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!” 9:00 Poly Weekly live! What advice would ...

583 Poly Weekly live from Portland!

We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon! 2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah Lessons learned include: poly and kinky people are everywhere it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!” 9:00 Poly Weekly live! What advice would ...

582 When you break up with your metamour

581 I'm tired of the restrictions my mono husband puts on me

After four years, listener Newseeker is tired of asking her husband's permission every time she wants to go on a date with her partner of three years. How long should she accommodate his slow pace? 0:00 Introduction and host chat If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com We have new FAQs! The Discuss, distract, do exercise to help deal with event-based jealousy When to come out We’re slowly uploading episodes 1-40 on our LibSyn page to the archives of 2005 4:00 Poly in the news ...

580 Should I still marry my now-straight partner?

A listener is engaged to her fiancée, who just came out as straight. How does she cope with not having sex with her soon-to-be wife? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Content warning and why you can’t find our podcast on Apple Podcasts in India. Let’s celebrate Dixie De la Tour, Bawdy Storytelling, and the Bawdy Storytelling podcast that you can subscribe to on Apple Podcasts. There is also a Facebook group of Bawdy fans that is super fun. 5:30 Poly in the news Couple-centric and non...

570 On writing inclusive fiction with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan, coauthors of For Hire: Operator and the soon-to-be-released For Hire: Audition, talk about why they write a queer poly superhero universe. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Thanks to Anita Wagner for introducing me to the term “petamour” 1:30 Poly in the news Vice has a great new article about poly families and poly parenting 3:05 Contact us Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attach an audio comment or call the listener ...

578 How do I avoid feeling like a homewrecker?

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577 When love IS a zero sum game

A listener asks what to do when love does feel like a zero sum game; his wife took a lover, and our listener felt like he got even less sex than before. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Intro and host chat Minx recorded an episode of D&D Dads podcast with J.R. Blackwell, but the podcast hasn’t yet launched. Stay tuned! We had fun in Copenhagen! 3:00 Poly in the news Polyamory Works for Them in the New York Times...

576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners

A listener asks if her new boyfriend is emotionally unavailable, will poly help? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 2:10 Poly in the news Unicorn hunting spreads as Vice gets it Four clear glasses frames that say “I haven’t tried polyamory, but I’ve watched Vice documentaries on it” Google Calendar is down, which means you can do anything you want, according to Twitter 7:50 Is poly a solution for emotionally unavail...

575 We love Allena Gabosch

Celebrating the amazing sex-positive activist Allena Gabosch, who gave us a big scare last week. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Last week, we nearly lost an amazing sex-positive educator to cancer. Allena Gabosch has pulled through, so this week’s episode is a replay of my 2010 interview with Allena. In Bawdy Storyelling podcast episode 78, Dixie de la Tour shares her feelings about nearly losing Allena Gabosch. 4:30...

574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour?

My boyfriend and I transitioned from a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship to full honest, transparent polyamory. Now I want to meet my formerly DADT metamour when she comes to visit him next month. Is that OK? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com We’ll be in Copenhagen next month; let us know what we should do/see! 1:50 Poly in the news Studies showing the best stats on how many people have practiced non-monogamy at some po...

573 Should I live with my metamour

My metamour and I get along great, and I need a roommate. Will it muck things up if I ask them to move in? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 2:10 Poly in the news Who really practices polyamory? In Rolling Stone Leonard’s mom goes poly on Big Bang Theory 9:55 Topic: Should I live with my metamour? Olipoly writes in about the possibility of living with her metamour; she doesn’t want to live with her partner and gets ...

572 When your partner's jealousy precludes your polyamory

What do you do when your partner gets so jealous that you feel compelled to give up your boyfriend, while your hubby happily dates away? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:25 Poly in the news Study could explain why people choose to have multiple relationships 3:25 Topic: what do I do when my partner agrees to be poly but gets jealous when I date? Debby writes in to ask what to do when polyamory doesn’t work for a c...

571 Growing up poly

On the launch of their new book, Koe Creation shares what it was like growing up in a polyamorous household.  0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com We had fun at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK! 3:00 Poly in the news On the opposite site of the earth, is poly on the rise? Collection of media coverage in NZ over the last few years 5:15 Interview: Koe Creation, author of This Heart Holds Many We talk about Koe’s new book, ...

570 Poly erotica

We chat with Laura Zielinsky, author of a new poly erotic novel 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Host chat We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th #sopoco2019 Soly Poly Unconference is happening in San Francisco, CA May 4-5, 2019 3:30 Interview: Laura Zielinsky, author of We Are Three We interview Laura Zielinksy, author of new poly erotic novel We Three: One and One and One Makes Three. ...

569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell

Sex therapist Dr. Liz Powell rejoins us to talk about how she became a sex therapist and why she wrote her new book, Building Open Relationships. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Host chat We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th. 2:45 Poly in the news Non-monogamous relationships are normal, and the stigma needs to end 7:35 Interview: Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell Dr....

568 A framework for consent

Joseph Pred shares the Consent Framework, a tool for community organizers to get and enforce consent at events. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Host chat Did you enjoy February 28 National Metamour Day? We’ll be speaking at It’s Complicated in Tulsa, OK, April 6th 2:30 Poly in the news There’s a dark side of polyamory that nobody talks about Seven polyamory myths it’s time to stop believing Polyamory on ...

567 Do families have to live together

Do families have to live together? My partners and I agreed to live together and have kids, but now I'm not so sure. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Host chat We took a two-month break to figure out what this podcast will be moving forward. We’re excited about new guests and will be moving to a biweekly format. NCSF has declared February 28 National Metamour Day The Iron Realm podcast is an audio drama dungeon ...

566 Toxic masculinity

Kevin Patterson, Chris Smith, Lusty Guy, and Minx discuss what we mean by "toxic masculinity" and how we should respond to both the term and the thing itself. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Host chat 1:30 Topic: Toxic masculinity Kevin Patterson, creator of the Poly Role Models blog and author of Love’s Not Color Blind and For Hire: Operator, Chris Smith, a doctoral student at Howard University, author of Open...

565 Help! I'm polysaturated!

What do you do when your long-distance partners move into town, and you find yourself with too many partners and too little time? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Poly in the news What is polyamory? This is what it’s really like to have multiple partners. Heath Schechinger is one of the leaders of the new Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force within the American Psychological Association. They're getting stuff done t...

564 Poly-friendly parentage law

Lawyer Melissa Hall shares exciting news about the new parentage act being enacted in Washington state and hopefully, beyond. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat and announcements Let’s talk about the new Netflix show, Wanderlust. **SPOILERS FROM 4:30-9:30** 9:30 Poly in the news Teen Vogue hits it out of the park again. 10:30 Interview: Melissa Hall on new, poly-friendly parentage laws in the U.S. M...

563 A queer, poly superhero novel centering people of color? Yes, please!

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan have come out with a new superhero novel in which queerness, polyamory, and people of color are normalized. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat and announcements Poly Big Fun, an annual workshop and retreat for people who identify as polyamorous, will take place virtually on November 10th, 2018. Franklin Veaux will be presenting “My abuser is Woke: Recognizing abuse when an ab...

562 Where do my ethics stop and my partner's begin?

If my partner wants to date a long-time monogamous friend without her partner's explicit consent, how to I object without imposing my ethics on my partner? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 2:00 Where do my ethics end and my partner’s begin? Kate calls is uncomfortable with her partner’s new person of interest (POI), who is a lifetime friend and in a monogamous relationship. The POI says she is bringing up poly with her p...

561 Can poly work for a sexual mismatch?

If our relationship is healthy, and I want more sex and to explore my bisexuality, will poly work for us? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com What’s been going on with Minx, why we went on an unexpected hiatus (physical therapy for osteoarthritis). We’re leaving for a 10-day vacation in Paris! And we’ll be in Hawaii in January 9:30 Can poly work for a sexual mismatch? Bryan is a bisexual man in Germany who loves his hea...

560 Poly and pregnant

Chloé is pregnant and now feeling possessive of her husband. Should she ask her metamour to find someone else to date so she's not so in love with Chloé's husband? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 2:00 Poly in the news An article came out in TIME Magazine, What Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Polyamorous Relationships, According to Experts, and it’s amazingly good! Here’s how poly folks can school monos, according to ...

559 My partners are making life decisions without me

How to cope when your partners buy a house and consider adopting a teenager with little to no input from you. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat Thanks toMiss Fisher Con 2018 for hosting us. You should sign up for next year’s mailing list! Listen to episode 558 to find out more about our sex-positive panel at Miss Fisher Con 2018 and more about the event itself. 2:00 My partners are making life decisions w...

558 When to give up on polyamory

Allison Moon cohosts this episode offering advice to a listener who wants to know when to give up on polyamory that is making everyone unhappy. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat Welcome to today’s cohost, Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101 and Bad Dyke. Their new podcast is Artgasm. Allison, Liz Powell, Bianca and I did a fun panel on sex-positivity at Miss Fisher Con 2018! We had such a fantastic time ...

557 The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut

We chat with Kat Stark, blogger, podcaster, and author of Yelling in Pasties: the Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat Episode 555 intro music has been fixed—thanks to those who wrote in to let me know of the error Thank you to everyone who bought our books—we’re coming to Paris this fall, thanks to your purchases! Come to the Life on the Swingset LGBTQIA+ takeover ...