Tim Ferriss Show: #418: Esther Perel — Tactics for Relationships in Quarantine

Podcast Notes Key Takeaways Stressful situations, such as this pandemic, can cause tensions to rise and  exacerbate existing differences in relationshipsOne partner’s coping mechanism can be seen as a threat by the other partner (E.g.: One partner may cope by reading news updates on the coronavirus while the other partner doesn’t want to hear a single word about it)Disasters accelerate everything:“In the aftermath of a disaster, there will be more babies, more marriages, and more divorces. It’s either life is short, what are we waiting for, let’s make a baby. It’s either life is short, I’ve waited long enough, let’s leave. ” –Esther PerelYour priorities get reorganized and you rethink WHAT and WHO is important to you“The divorce is the end of the marriage but it’s not the end of the family. It’s the reorganization of the family.” –Esther PerelUse meals as an opportunity to connect and get to know your partnerIt’s okay to laugh during hard times, it provides moments of much-needed relief Talk to your partner about mortality and share your fears Just because you live alone, that doesn’t mean you have to be lonely–talk to your friends and family membersHave dinner with friends while video chattingIf you’re feeling lonely, go volunteer: help deliver food, buy groceries for the elderly, bring medicine to people, walk someone’s dog

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“Maybe you don’t feel that enough people love you, but I can tell you, there’s a world of people out there who need you at this moment.” — Esther Perel

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel (@EstherPerelOfficial) is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Esther is an acclaimed TED speaker and the host of the hit podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?.

Esther recently launched Couples Under Lockdown, a bonus mini-series on her podcast Where Should We Begin?, and the first episode aired last week and features a couple in Sicily several weeks into their quarantine. Esther will also host an international conversation about the new normal, what it means for our relationships, and how we can move forward in a time of social distancing, uncertainty, and grief. It will be broadcast live on Facebook and YouTube. The four-part series, entitled The Art of Us: Love, Loss, and Loneliness Under Lockdown, will be broadcast live at 3 p.m. ET on April 1st, 8th, 15th, and 22nd.

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