Why this deep unsettling loneliness? -By Sri Preethaji

Connection is neither masculine nor feminine says Preethaji - Connection is the essence of being human.

In times when one of you is going through a health crisis, an emotional crisis or a financial crisis - connection becomes your balm that will soothe your hearts. 

Namaste.

Did you know that self harm is the leading cause of death for people aged between 15 and 44? Also statistics show that approximately three times more number of men than women die from self harm every year.

Why? Because in your own families you live like strangers. Our hearts don’t really reach out to each other. Friendships have become immensely superficial.  A deep unsettling loneliness is killing us. Many of us are spending the entire day on listening to music, watching videos, playing video games and are  isolating yourselves from the rest of life and other people. you do not connect with anyone, you do not connect with nature, you do not connect with a cause, and some of u don’t even connect with yourself.  Why do we feel unfulfilled in our relationship with people? 

I would say that we need to fundamentally transform who we are and learn to  connect with the world around us. 

In times when one of you is going through a health crisis, an emotional crisis or a financial crisis - connection becomes that  balm that will soothe your hearts. It so become your strength to tower over challenges. It will become your channel to connect to the divine and open grace in to your life . 

Connection does not merely mean an interaction with one another, we have interacted all our life and our words eventually have left us feeling empty. 

Do you think connection is about partying together, golfing, or smoking together and at the end of the day you feel depleted of all energy? Definitely not. 

It is also more than watching a movie together, vacationing together, chatting or video gaming together, or networking together.

SO WHAT IS CONNECTION?

To Connect is to feel the other. 

To connect is to celebrate the joy of another, to be with the other in their joy - not to behave as if your joy were separate from another. 

To connect is to be sensitive to another's unhappiness or inner-conflict. It is to make a conscious effort to help them become free of their inner disturbance. 

To connect is to be present. To be present to  listen and to feel the other, instead of incessantly speaking or being lost in thought.

To be present is not to take the other for granted - but to truly appreciate the other's presence in your life. 

Does this make connection sound feminine? No. Connection is neither a masculine or a feminine experience - it is the essence of being human.