Permission for Pleasure
97 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 75 ratingsA podcast to educate and equip women with the information and confidence they need to express, experience and enjoy their sexuality. Cindy Scharkey RN, BSN, brings her 35+ years of experience as a healthcare professional to open the doors to healthy conversations about sex. This is a community where you can listen and learn to give yourself permission for pleasure. Visit www.cindyscharkey.com for education blogs and newsletter.
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Turn Up the Volume on Your Sex Life
April 17, 2024 07:00 - 5 minutes - 3.96 MBScientists have found that sexual noises go hand in hand with enhanced pleasure. Whether you hum, purr or moan - giving voice to what your body is feeling may make sex better. Bonus- it also serves as non-verbal communication and positive reinforcement to your partner! Make some noise on the blog JOIN my Newsletter Community. FOLLOW on Instagram. VISIT my Website.
Masturbation - Let's dig in
April 03, 2024 07:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBPeople masturbate for all kinds of reasons including pleasure, exploration, sleep and pain relief. For women who have never experienced orgasm, self-pleasure is the most scientifically supported sex therapy technique to learn the stimulation needed to climax. August McLaughlin, a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio, joins me to share her insights, and personal journey with masturbation. We discuss some practices and tips, as well as debunk a few common myths around solo ...
Tips From My Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist
March 20, 2024 07:00 - 37 minutes - 25.6 MBAll about the pelvic floor! Alexa Charbonneau, PT, DPT of Sarton Physical Therapy, joins me to offer her top tips and education for all ages and stages. Do you cough, laugh, sneeze and wet your pants? Do you have pain with sex? Do you have chronic prostatitis? While many of these might be common issues, they are not normal! The good news is there is physical therapy specifically for your pelvic floor. It may hold the solution you’ve been looking for. Find Alexa Charbonneau and Pelvic Heali...
Doggy Style, Kivin Method and Why Do I Bleed After Sex
March 06, 2024 08:00 - 10 minutes - 7.36 MBIn this quickie episode I’ll introduce you to the Kivin Method or oral for her – sideways. Hear a how-to guide and why you might want to try it. I'll also answer a few community questions including 'How can I make doggy style more intimate?' and 'Why do I bleed after sex?' Ten minutes of good education for good sex! Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off More on these topics: Oral Sex for Women Guide to Lube Positions with Props The clitoris has a hood The clitoris W...
Sexuality With a Philosophical Lens
February 21, 2024 08:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MBMy guest found that her college students had very little understanding of their own bodies and how to navigate sex in a healthy way. Professor Gwendolyn Dolske Ph.D. teaches Philosophy at Cal Poly Pomona. One of her classes, Current Debates in Sexuality, gives her a unique perspective on what young adults are asking about when it comes to sex and relationships. We discuss topics such as consent, current dating culture, and the high alert status women must negotiate to feel safe in the world....
Erectile Dissatisfaction vs Erectile Dysfunction
February 07, 2024 08:00 - 13 minutes - 9.11 MBPeople sometimes assume the source of erectile changes in men as they age is a condition called - erectile dysfunction or ED. This is not always the case. In this episode I am discussing some of the normal sexual changes men may experience in midlife and beyond. Listen to learn about normal changes in erections, sexual functioning, and desire for men. More on these topics Erectile changes vs. erectile dissatisfaction blog Cam Fraser: Can Men Be Multi-Orgasmic Scheduling Sex video blog Three...
Spicy Audio Stories with Gina of Dipsea
January 24, 2024 08:00 - 31 minutes - 22 MBAs Gina Gutierrez, the co-founder of Dipsea, says in her Ted Talk, “Using their memories, fantasies, and some focus - women can turn themselves on with their thoughts.” In this conversation, Gina and I discuss exploration of fantasy, the differences between erotica and porn, ways to figure out what turns you on, and barriers to pleasure. I like the way Gina puts it, "Your desire is not a problem to be solved, but a fire to be stoked." You may discover a new tool to spark the flame in this ep...
Conversation Starters to Help You Talk About Sex With a Partner
January 10, 2024 08:00 - 10 minutes - 6.96 MBMost of us didn’t get a lot of education around sex, let alone how to talk about sex with a partner. Just like any new language, sexual conversation is a learnable skill that gets more comfortable with practice. Use the questions and prompts in this episode as conversation starters. Designed to be used with a partner, these are great for date night, weekend walks or on your next long drive together. Learn to talk about sex - one chat at a time. More on this topic: Conversation Prompts Talki...
Untangling Sexual Shame
December 27, 2023 08:00 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MBMy guest Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms says, “Wherever there is sex, there seems to be shame.” Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. He feels one of the first steps in fighting shame is to practice recognizing it. Together we discuss how to identify our shame, acknowledge our worthiness, and allow ourselves pleasure. Find Matthias Rob...
Perimenopause 101: Treatment Options
December 13, 2023 08:00 - 25 minutes - 17.6 MBThere are many options available to treat your symptoms during the menopause transition. I continue my conversation with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist about perimenopause. We discuss non-hormonal prescriptions, systemic hormonal therapy, vaginal estrogen, moisturizers, and lubricants for sex. Dr. Shyama also shares how to find qualified menopause clinicians and why we should all ask for a pelvic floor physical therapy referral. Visit ...
Perimenopause 101: Hormones and Symptoms
November 29, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MBEducation is key to entering the menopause transition knowledgeable and prepared! In this episode, learn what you need to know about perimenopause with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, Minimally Invasive Gynecologic Surgeon, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist. We discuss when changes start, the common symptoms experienced, and what your hormones are doing. Don’t “gut out” the menopause transition, instead feel empowered to advocate for your health. Learn more about Dr. Shy...
Confidence is Sexy
November 15, 2023 08:00 - 45 minutes - 31.1 MB"Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have." Dana B. Myers, self-described as a sensually empowered voice for women, joins me to talk about how to embrace your sensuality and sexuality to boost your confidence. Dana and I get practical with tips for sexy talk, sexy texting, and how to communicate your desires. This episode will help you feel more turned on, assertive and engaged with your sensuality for a sexier YOU! Learn more about Dana B. Myers More on these topics: Foreplay usin...
Living With Chronic Pain: A Conversation With Ruthie Lindsey
November 01, 2023 07:00 - 51 minutes - 35.1 MBMy guest Ruthie Lindsey invites us into the liberating process of unlearning the stories we have been told about our bodies and finding delight in reclaiming pleasure. Having survived a catastrophic accident that left her living in chronic pain, Ruthie shares her journey toward embodied living and the many tools she’s found to help her along the way. Although the pain still visits her, Ruthie has found healing by learning to love and listen to her body. “Love is always inviting us back home ...
Less Faking - More Pleasure
October 18, 2023 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12 MBThis is the second most downloaded episode of all three seasons! Originally called Pleasure Techniques (Episode 41), I cover two important topics. First, I share the four specific techniques women can use with vaginal penetration to experience more pleasure and potential for orgasm. Then, I talk about how faking orgasms can undermine your pleasure and cause sexual miscommunication with a partner. If you’re new to my listening community, missed it the first time around, or want a refresher, g...
Medications and Your Sex Life
October 02, 2023 14:00 - 11 minutes - 7.83 MBDid you know the medications you take can have an impact on your sex life? Learn about medications known to have sexual health side effects and what those common side effects are. I also offer talking points and my best nurse tip for having a conversation with your healthcare provider about any concerns or inquiries you might have pertaining to your sexual health and the medications you are taking. Get curious and be empowered to ask questions and advocate for your health! More on this top...
Unlearning Body Shame and Understanding Consent
September 20, 2023 07:00 - 27 minutes - 19 MBJoin me for a conversation with Abby, a devoted volunteer for our podcast and member of our community. We dive into the challenging waters of unlearning body shame, dismantling beliefs around our bodies and reclaiming sexual health education. Abby shares her experiences of how the pandemic era has shaped new perspectives on bodily autonomy and navigating consent. Learn more about what consent is, what it isn't and how to cultivate discussions around it. More on this topic: Dating Your Body...
Coming Home to Yourself: A Conversation With Arielle Estoria
September 06, 2023 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MBDo you feel at home in your body? I had the pleasure of talking about our relationship to our bodies with the multitalented Arielle Estoria, an artist, poet, writer, and actor. Her journey of self-discovery and spirituality is beautifully chronicled in her book, 'The Unfolding: An Invitation to Come Home to Yourself. ' Her story is a testament to the transformative impact of embracing one's body for ultimate liberation. Arielle shares the practices that allowed her to release years of self-...
Temperature Play
August 23, 2023 07:00 - 6 minutes - 4.73 MBDabbling with hot and cold sensations can be a tantalizing way to explore erotic sensuality alone or with a partner. Our bodies have so many sensitive erogenous zones that can respond to temperature changes. Play with these simple ideas to create exciting and sexy anticipation for your body and brain as you bring the heat or cool things down. More on these topics: Temperature Play Blog Using Your Senses for Pleasure Foreplay 101 Maude massage candles (affiliate link: discount code CINDY10) ...
Sexual Reset for Midlife Women
August 09, 2023 07:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MBLeah Fischer and Cass Redding, founders of Intimate Wellbeing, join me to share their individual journeys of self-discovery and finding sexual pleasure in midlife. Their paths of growth empowered them to team up and create an e-commerce platform for women. They are on a mission to provide tools and resources for enhancing intimacy and pleasure for the midlife woman, all while ending sexual health stigma. Learn more about Intimate Wellbeing Use discount code CINDY15 Learn more on these top...
Toys, Fantasy and Play in the Bedroom
July 26, 2023 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBPlay in the bedroom is highly underrated! Psychologist and sex therapist Carolin Klein joins me to offer tips and answer questions about toys, vibrators, and fantasy. Learn about some common fantasies and less intimidating ways to share what makes your heart race. We talk through a helpful list of dos and don’ts for choosing toys and how to introduce the idea with a partner. Create memorable sexual experiences by bringing more play into the bedroom. Visit our episode sponsor Intimate Wellb...
Sex Ed For All Abilities
July 12, 2023 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBAll people, regardless of abilities, are sexual beings, and deserve access to sexual health education. Mad Hatter Wellness creates comprehensive sex ed and health curriculum primarily for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Educator Anna Hayek, their heart of operations, joins me to discuss tools, language and strategies for parents and caregivers. Learn more about Mad Hatter Wellness Free resources from Mad Hatter Wellness People in My Life and Relationship Circle H...
Get Out Of Your Foreplay Rut
June 28, 2023 07:00 - 30 minutes - 21.2 MBIf you want to become a more attentive lover, start with foreplay and pre-foreplay! Meygan Caston of Marriage365 joins me to bring some sweet and spicy ways to cultivate better intimacy in and out of the bedroom. Use these ideas to create sexual tension and excitement as well as emotional safety with your partner. Learn how get out of your foreplay routine, and level up your sexual connection. Visit our episode sponsor Intimate Wellbeing and use discount code CINDY15 Learn more about Marr...
Oral Sex for Women
June 14, 2023 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12 MBOral sex is a highly reliable path to orgasm for women. This episode talks about creating anticipation, building arousal toward crescendo and specific tongue techniques to stimulate the clitoris and vulva. Also hear tips on positioning, when to add variety, and when to stick with consistency. Learn the signs of approaching orgasm, to help your partner go over the edge with pleasure. Visit our episode sponsor Lovability and use code CINDY for 10% off Learn more about these topics The Kivin ...
Can Men Be Multi-Orgasmic?
May 31, 2023 07:00 - 26 minutes - 18.2 MBSex coach Cam Fraser returns for part two of our conversation about men and sex. We cover erections, ejaculation, and how men can experience multiple orgasms. Find out Cam's communication tip for women partnered with men, and why men need more permission to explore their bodies for pleasure and fulfilling intimacy. Learn more about Cam's work Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use CINDY for 15% off JOIN my Newsletter Community. FOLLOW on Instagram. VISIT my Website.
How Toxic Masculinity Can Invade Your Sex Life
May 17, 2023 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBCam Fraser, a therapist and licensed sex coach says the script men learn: “Get it up. Get it in. Get it off.” is ruining sex lives. He shares his story and the ways he learned to reframe his own approach to pleasure. We discuss the sex ed men and their partners need to get out of the box that says sex has to look a certain way and to move toward more fulfilling intimacy. Learn more about Cam's work Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use CINDY for 15% off Learn more about these topic...
Do You Ever Think Your Sex Life Is Broken?
May 03, 2023 07:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBHave you ever felt broken when it comes to your sex life? Urologist and sex expert Kelly Casperson, MD joins me to talk about her book You’re Not Broken: Stop “Should-ing” All Over Your Sex Life. We discuss what bad sex looks like, why sometimes ‘good enough’ sex is fantastic and how self-cultivation enhances your sexual health. I also asked Dr. Casperson her top tips for preventing UTIs (find them at 27:53). Learn more about Dr. Kelly Casperson Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube use CINDY...
Why Is It Easier To Orgasm By Myself?
April 19, 2023 07:00 - 13 minutes - 9.62 MBAnswering your orgasm questions in this episode, including: Are all orgasms the same? Is it normal for some orgasms to be more intense than others? My orgasms have changed as I’ve gotten older, am I normal? Why is it so much easier for me to orgasm by myself, than with a partner? Can I orgasm from stimulation to my clitoral hood? What can I do to make orgasm easier? More on this topic: How can I orgasm easier? Let’s Talk Orgasms The Key to Female Pleasure Clitoral Hood Reclaim Your Arousal ...
Orgasm Is A Big Brain Event
April 05, 2023 07:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MBYour brain is wired for pleasure! My conversation with Dr. Nan Wise continues as she shares her research about how your brain benefits from orgasm and pleasure and how even thinking about pleasurable stimulation lights up your brain like a Christmas tree! As she emphatically says, “Orgasm is a big brain event!” She also teaches how to lay down pleasure pathways to help those who find it difficult to orgasm. Learn about your brain-body connections and how the more you pay attention to the sen...
The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters
March 22, 2023 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBOur society has a love/hate relationship with pleasure. More people than ever are experiencing anhedonia, the reduced ability to experience pleasure. Dr. Nan Wise, neuroscience researcher, certified sex therapist and author of Why Good Sex Matters, joins me to discuss why pleasure is a necessity for a balanced emotional brain. She walks us through the seven core emotional systems that give us feedback about what feels good and what is good for us. Dr. Nan expounds on how our brain is the com...
Shifting The Fertility Narrative From Me To We
March 08, 2023 08:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MBWeNatal caught my attention with their holistic approach to fertility. Instead of the usual focus on me - the woman, they widen it to we - and include the partner. They bring men into the fertility equation. Founders Vida Delrahim and Ronit Menashe join me to talk about the importance of preconception care, healthy practices, gratitude and a more well rounded focus for couples in the fertility season. They share their story of miscarriage, friendship and the community they are building to su...
Positions with Props
February 22, 2023 08:00 - 9 minutes - 6.63 MBLifted Missionary, Chair Sex, or Sex in Heels. As Esther Perel says, “Creativity is where eroticism lives.” In this quickie episode I am highlighting three positions that make use of pillows or props. Try something new and get a little creative with these positions for more comfort, fun and erotic pleasure. Learn more about these topics: Pleasure Techniques Ep. 41 Pleasure Techniques on the Blog G-spot The Clitoris - It's a Whole Network Sex on the Brain Foreplay Ideas Ten Tips to Sexify Yo...
The Growing Mental Health Crisis Of Our Girls
February 08, 2023 08:00 - 44 minutes - 30.7 MBOur girls are struggling more than boys. Why? Did you know that 1 out of every 4 teen girls has symptoms of major depression? This is compared with fewer than 1 in 10 boys. Girls are also twice as likely as boys to suffer from anxiety. We have a crisis on our hands. Award-winning journalist, Donna Jackson Nakazawa, joins me to discuss the topic. We talk about how the toxic stressors of social media and our culture are uniquely affecting girls' mental health. We share action steps from Donna’...
Misconceptions Men Believe About Sex
January 25, 2023 08:00 - 44 minutes - 30.8 MBI invited Sheila Gregoire back to break down what women actually want from their male partners in bed. Sharing excerpts from her book, The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex, we debunk myths about the magic penis, mental load, foreplay, female arousal, and orgasm. Learn some practical ideas for increased pleasure and better sex! Visit our episode sponsor MANSCAPED and use code PERMISSION for 20% off and free shipping Learn more about Sheila's work More on these topics Ep 29 on arousal with Sh...
Welcome to Season Three
January 11, 2023 08:00 - 2 minutes - 1.58 MBWelcome to Season Three! Whether you are a new listener, or have been here since the beginning - thank you for being part of this community. On this podcast we have conversations about sexual health and pleasure. Episodes include everything from interviews with experts to hearing from members of this community. This show is constantly evolving as I prioritize the topics you most want to hear about. My hope is that this community will help you to open healthy conversations and give yourself p...
Exploring Erogenous Zones
December 28, 2022 08:00 - 6 minutes - 4.67 MBDo you know your erogenous zones? Do you know your partner's? We are wrapping up season two on the podcast by revisiting one of my favorite pleasure practices. This touch exercise is a wonderful way to connect with your body and your partner's. We change, and so do our bodies, which means our erogenous zones can as well. Learn ways to communicate where you enjoy being touched, as well as what kind of touch feels good. Explore each other's bodies with this guided touch exercise. Learn more ...
Sexual Communication
December 14, 2022 08:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MBYou can learn to talk about sex! It is a skill strengthened through practice. In this quickie episode, I’m offering some helpful tips and conversation prompts to get you started. Listen solo or with your partner to learn practical ways to boost your sexual communication. Topics include: sexual frequency, reasons you want to have sex, scheduling sexy dates, being honest about what you no longer enjoy, and trying new things. Visit our episode sponsor Sexfirmation Cards and use code CINDY for...
Evolving Out Of Purity Culture
November 30, 2022 08:00 - 41 minutes - 28.2 MBIt is always a delight when a member of our community comes on the show to share their story. Brit "Beans" Barron is a teacher, speaker and author of Worth It. She joins me for a conversation about her journey evolving out of purity culture. We discuss her work to unpack shame, unravel the purity narrative and embrace her sexuality as a queer woman. Learn more about Brit's work Learn more about these topics: My letter to young women Less Shame - More Sex Ed Learning to Listen to Your Bod...
'How To Build A Sex Room' - Taylor's journey
November 16, 2022 08:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBYou met the delightful Taylor Stonack if you watched episode one of Netflix’s How to Build a Sex Room. Whether you've seen the show or not, you’ll be drawn into her journey which she shares with both laughter and tears. She joins me for a conversation about her experience on the show, how she became interested in kink, and what she learned about herself through the process. She shares a few un-aired moments including a scene that brought back her past experience of sexual trauma. Through the...
Sexy in Survival Mode
November 02, 2022 07:00 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MBHow in the world can a new mom feel sexy in survival mode? Journalist Simone Boyce flips the script to interview me about life and intimacy after childbirth. I answer her questions about the six-week mark, re-examining pleasure, code switching out of "mommy mode," and the reality of feeling touched out. You’ll learn my tips for intimacy without the pressure and ways to embrace outercourse (or as Simone says, “things you can do on the outside without ever having to go in the house!”). We talk...
Sexify Your Space: Tips for a Better Bedroom
October 19, 2022 07:00 - 9 minutes - 6.86 MBWouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all build ourselves a whole room dedicated to sex and intimacy? For most of us, that’s not a reality. However we can make changes to sexify the space we do have! In this quickie episode, you’ll hear my ten tips to create a more sensual and inviting atmosphere in your bedroom. Research shows that those with the most enjoyable sex life, set up their environment for sex with intention. Choose from - moody lighting, mirrors, props, privacy and more - to level...
Less Shame - More Sex Ed
October 05, 2022 07:00 - 26 minutes - 17.9 MBAlex Liu, a health reporter and director of the documentary; A Sexplanation joins me for a conversation about why we need comprehensive sex ed. We talk about his experience growing up as a young gay man, the sexual silence and shame that almost destroyed him, and how he found freedom and belonging by going on a quest for the sex education he never got. We agree that there are a lot of questions about sex that are “unasked, unspoken and unanswered!” This episode will encourage individuals, pa...
Sex, Postpartum, and Breastfeeding
September 21, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MBColleen Weeks and I continue our conversation and discuss the challenges and changes in the fourth trimester, the 3-month time period after birthing a baby. Topics include hormone changes, the 6-weeks suggested for healing, why you may need lubrication for sex, and how fatigue affects sexual arousal. We also dive into breastfeeding to answer some common questions, such as does breastfeeding work as birth control, and why milk leaks or spurts with sex. You’ll hear thoughts on parenting roles,...
Sex, Postpartum, and Breastfeeding
September 21, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MBColleen Weeks and I continue our conversation and discuss the challenges and changes in the fourth trimester, the 3-month time period after birthing a baby. Topics include hormone changes, the 6-weeks suggested for healing, why you may need lubrication for sex, and how fatigue affects sexual arousal. We also dive into breastfeeding to answer some common questions, such as does breastfeeding work as birth control, and why milk leaks or spurts with sex. You’ll hear thoughts on parenting roles,...
Sex and Pregnancy
September 07, 2022 07:00 - 25 minutes - 17.5 MBMy long time colleague and friend Colleen Weeks joins me to talk about all things pregnancy. This episode is your private in-home education class! You'll hear information every person needs to know about hormones, sex in pregnancy, partner concerns, and all the changes a body goes through to grow and birth a whole human. One of the biggest changes Colleen has witnessed over the years, is the increasing lack of trust women have in their bodies and how they function. Our hope is that this conv...
Learning to Listen to Your Body
August 24, 2022 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MBDr. Hillary McBride joins me for a conversation about embodiment or as she defines it, “Our experience of being a body as it’s shaped by culture.” She provides tools to help us untangle the cultural scripts we have taken in, along with gentle guidance for how we can reframe and choose a healthier way to be in our body. You’ll hear how you can learn to listen to your body, embrace your sensuality and give yourself more permission for pleasure. Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologis...
Pleasure Techniques
August 10, 2022 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12.3 MBLearn four techniques women use to increase pleasure during vaginal penetration. OMGyes, in partnership with Indiana University School of Medicine, conducted a nationally representative study of over 3000 women, and I share their results in this episode. Hear about shallowing, pairing, rocking, and angling - along with practical tips for each one. I also discuss how faking orgasm can undermine your pleasure and give conversation starters to open a discussion about it with a partner. Visit o...
Want Better Sex? Ask Yourself These Questions
July 27, 2022 13:00 - 31 minutes - 21.6 MBHave you and your partner experienced conflict over mismatched sexual desire or frequency? Have you ever asked yourself: why sex matters to you? Cyndi Darnell joins me to talk about the healthy questions to ask yourself for better sexual self-understanding - which can lead to better sex! Learn the truth about mismatched sexual desire, the problems that result when couples equate frequency with quality, and ideas for creating a more satisfying sex life. Cyndi Darnell is a clinical and somat...
Want Better Sex? Ask Yourself These Questions
July 27, 2022 13:00 - 31 minutes - 21.6 MBHave you and your partner experienced conflict over mismatched sexual desire or frequency? Have you ever asked yourself: why sex matters to you? Cyndi Darnell joins me to talk about the healthy questions to ask yourself for better sexual self-understanding - which can lead to better sex! Learn the truth about mismatched sexual desire, the problems that result when couples equate frequency with quality, and ideas for creating a more satisfying sex life. Cyndi Darnell is a clinical and somat...
Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 2
July 13, 2022 07:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBTherapist Sam Tielemans and I continue the conversation about pornography and specifically how it can affect relationships. We discuss the feelings women often experience when they discover their partner uses porn and why dealing with this issue alone is so difficult. Then we offer practical ways for couples to get started communicating as well as ideas for moving toward healing. Sam Tielemans is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in helping couples overcome the effe...
Why We Need to Talk About Pornography - Part 1
July 13, 2022 07:00 - 23 minutes - 16.2 MBTherapist Sam Tielemans joins me to discuss why we need to talk about pornography, not only in our relationships but also as parents with our kids. Part one of this conversation includes: information about unhealthy usage of pornography and that it usually isn’t about sex, what the average age of a child’s exposure is to porn (5:21), and how lies and deception break the attachment bond which may possibly cause betrayal trauma (8:25). We role play how to navigate the discussion with a partner...