Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming
Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
English - November 11, 2022 20:00 - 1 hour - 48 MBRelationships Society & Culture News Politics abuse domestic violence child abuse coercive control trauma systems consent sexual abuse how to be an ally Homepage Download Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Conversations about domestic violence often start from a victim blaming perspective: “Why doesn’t she leave?” or “Why does she keep choosing him over children?” or “I can’t trust her to understand the impact on children. She has a trauma history.” These victim blaming statements interfere with partnering with survivors and holding perpetrators accountable as parents. They also prevent accurate assessments and increase worker frustration with survivors.
In this episode of Partnered With a Survivor, Ruth & David discuss the Safe & Together Model practice of 'Pivoting to the Perpetrator' which offers specific steps to interrupt victim blaming, and to shift the focus on to where it belongs– the perpetrator’s behaviors. The practice helps professionals
better assess whether interventions with perpetrators are helping or hindering survivor safetyBetter recontextualize how survivor “denial” or “non-compliance” is shaped by the perpetrator’s behaviors and the failures of systems’ interventionsBe successful with their most challenging cases through better collaborations with survivors and more effective interventions with perpetratorsIn this episode, Ruth and David lay out what Pivoting is, why it is important & how to do the three part practice in your work. They discuss the application of Pivoting and how it is an essential skill for domestic violence-informed practice.
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Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding And Validating Survivors’ Acts Of Resistance