#62 - The Trouble With Aziz Ansari
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English - January 17, 2018 05:26 - 12 MB - ★★★★★ - 122 ratingsSexuality Health & Fitness Society & Culture dating advice sex relationship relationships self improvement help seduction pick Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
(Content Warning: Sexual Assault)
Normally I don’t do too many episodes about current events in the news; I tend to save that for the blog. But recently I had a lot to say on Twitter about the situation with Aziz Ansari and as it turns out, I’ve got more to say. The issue with Ansari has less to do with "bad dates" or litigating why someone doesn't leave and everything to do with how we talk about sex and consent. How does someone who's a safe ally to women, someone who's supposed to be the guy who "gets it" still get it wrong when it comes to consent?
Show highlights:
How we get consent wrong Why asking "why didn't she leave" is the wrong question How one person's "completely consensual" encounter can be the worst night of someone's life Why "mixed signals" are anything but How we create a culture were "no" means "try harder"...and so much more.
Related Links:
I Went On A Date With Aziz Ansari. It Turned Into The Worst Night of My Life
Eve Ewing: On the Subject of Why Didn't She Just Leave?
The Standard of Enthusiastic Consent
(Content Warning: Sexual Assault)
Normally I don’t do too many episodes about current events in the news; I tend to save that for the blog. But recently I had a lot to say on Twitter about the situation with Aziz Ansari and as it turns out, I’ve got more to say. The issue with Ansari has less to do with "bad dates" or litigating why someone doesn't leave and everything to do with how we talk about sex and consent. How does someone who's a safe ally to women, someone who's supposed to be the guy who "gets it" still get it wrong when it comes to consent?
Show highlights:
How we get consent wrong Why asking "why didn't she leave" is the wrong question How one person's "completely consensual" encounter can be the worst night of someone's life Why "mixed signals" are anything but How we create a culture were "no" means "try harder"...and so much more.
Related Links: I Went On A Date With Aziz Ansari. It Turned Into The Worst Night of My Life
Eve Ewing: On the Subject of Why Didn't She Just Leave?
The Standard of Enthusiastic Consent