Overcome Pornography for Good
169 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 month ago - ★★★★★ - 543 ratingsThis podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you.
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167. The Power of Prioritizing Nervous System Healing
March 25, 2024 07:00 - 13 minutes - 19.4 MBHave you ever found yourself wondering why you made a decision that you know wasn’t in your best interest? What do you do when you experience an urge and have difficulty moving through it? Why does it sometimes feel impossible to make conscious decisions from your higher brain? If you’ve ever found it challenging to think through your decisions, you’re not alone. Prioritizing nervous system healing in these moments is the secret to bringing your brain back online, but it can be difficu...
166. Interpreting the Scripture: Whosoever Lusteth Committeth Adultery with Dan Purcell
March 18, 2024 07:00 - 47 minutes - 65.9 MBThis week, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach for married couples, Dan Purcell. Dan is the founder of Get Your Marriage On: a step-by-step program designed for couples who want more closeness, deeper intimacy, honesty, and an exciting sex life. He’s also the creator of the Intimately Us app, host of the Get Your Marriage On podcast, and leads retreats, all with a Christian perspective. I invited Dan on to the show this week to dive into a specific scripture from The Sermon on the Mou...
165. Repetition is Magic
March 11, 2024 08:00 - 17 minutes - 24.7 MBIf you’re a long-time listener of the show, you’ll understand the crucial role your beliefs play in your ability to overcome your pornography habit. That’s why helping you intentionally create new thoughts and beliefs is a foundational part of my work, and the magic lies in repetition. Join me this week to hear why there’s magic in repetition, how I incorporate the power of repetition into my daily life, and how using my Belief Plan guided meditation will help create new neural pathway...
164. Jenga vs. Super Mario Brothers
March 04, 2024 08:00 - 9 minutes - 13.8 MBIn Jenga, you don’t want to be the person who pulls out the piece that brings the whole tower crashing down. It’s high pressure, high stakes, and one wrong move ends the game. This isn’t the mindset that will help you quit viewing porn. On the other hand, Super Mario Brothers involves dying over and over again, but you don’t start at the very beginning. You go again from your last checkpoint. This is the mindset that will help you use your slip-ups as growth opportunities, and I’m show...
163. Intro to Inner Child Work
February 26, 2024 08:00 - 21 minutes - 30.8 MBInner child work is a healing modality that centers around recognizing and healing childhood trauma. It addresses how we may have experienced hurt or pain during different periods of our lives, which we've moved past but continue to carry with us. Taking responsibility for healing your inner child can be a beautiful way to heal who you are today. I’m sharing some examples of inner child healing work from my program and what to expect as you begin healing those wounds. Discover how heal...
162. What’s Possible with Konstantin
February 19, 2024 08:00 - 37 minutes - 52.2 MBKonstantin is an expert at setting and achieving ambitious goals. He has no problem with endeavors that require a great deal of dedication, willpower, and routine. Although everything else in his life was flourishing, he was internally battling with his porn habit, and he decided it was time to look for support. Hear about Konstantin’s porn journey and what his unique path to healing looks like. He generously shares the struggles he faced in trying to quit his porn habit, the one thing...
161. Keep It Simple - Beliefs and Identity
February 12, 2024 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.6 MBIn today’s episode of the Keep It Simple series, we discuss how identities are sometimes imposed upon us. They are like seeds planted by others, blooming in our minds until they become the beliefs we have about ourselves. I’m showing you how to uncover some beliefs that are not true to you and how to unlearn them. Learn the necessity of knowing the difference between beliefs and facts, how to pinpoint the beliefs that are keeping you from quitting porn, and how to create awareness abou...
160. Is Porn Use Infidelity? With Andrea Giles
February 05, 2024 08:00 - 43 minutes - 59.7 MBAndrea Giles is an infidelity coach who primarily works with women trying to heal after infidelity, and she’s here to explore the question, “Is porn use infidelity?” Hear Andrea’s definition of infidelity and whether she believes unwanted porn use constitutes cheating in a relationship. We’re exploring how to gain an objective view of your situation, why independent healing matters, and her top tips for rebuilding a loving relationship with a shared vision moving forward. Get fu...
159. Keep It Simple - Emotions and Buffering
January 29, 2024 08:00 - 19 minutes - 27.9 MBOn this Keep It Simple episode, we’re exploring the topics of emotions and buffering. I'm walking you through how to process emotions, the role of buffering in your porn habit, and how to generate the emotions that will help you achieve your goals. Learn the importance of identifying how buffering shows up for you, why processing your emotions is a crucial step in overcoming your porn habit, why the shame cycle keeps you stuck, and how to heal those stories. Discover how to create the ...
158. What’s Possible with Dan
January 22, 2024 08:00 - 43 minutes - 60.4 MBDan started viewing porn at 15 by accident with his friends and has been battling it for over four decades. From various programs to tools like phone filters, he tried and failed at everything he thought would help him “be good,” until he found Overcome Pornography for Good. Join us on this episode as Dan shares his pornography journey with us and how a shame-free approach changed his outlook on his habit. He’s offering the podcast episodes and concepts that had the biggest impact on h...
157. Keep It Simple – Commitment
January 15, 2024 08:00 - 15 minutes - 22 MBIf you want to quit porn, the best way to reach your goal is to keep the process simple. We make things unnecessarily complicated and confusing, so to continue our Keep It Simple series, we’re talking this week about step two: commitment. Discover a new perspective on commitment to quitting porn. I’m discussing the problem with coming at your commitment from a place of fear and shame, and you'll learn how to reframe your thoughts around why you want to quit porn, increasing your chance...
156. OCD with Jill Freestone
January 08, 2024 08:00 - 38 minutes - 31.4 MBJill Freestone is an anxiety coach for teens and adults who specializes in helping them explore and understand life’s big emotions. She’s also an expert on the topic of OCD, and she’s here this week to highlight how OCD relates to people who want to quit porn and why understanding scrupulous tendencies can help steer you toward the path to healing. Join us on this episode as Jill offers her insights on the basic characteristics of scrupulous OCD, why it becomes a problem, and how to id...
155. Keep It Simple – Learn and Move On
January 01, 2024 08:00 - 20 minutes - 29.1 MBThere are six milestones I cover in the Overcome Pornography for Good program. The first thing I have my clients work on is Learn and Move On, where we work on avoiding all-or-nothing thinking and turn your slip-ups into stepping stones to successfully quitting porn. Tune in this week to learn how to keep it simple when you’re quitting pornography. I’m showing you why you don’t need to give up every time you slip up, and you can use every challenge you encounter as an opportunity to Le...
154. Year in Review: A Simple Exercise for Visualizing 2024
December 25, 2023 08:00 - 16 minutes - 22.8 MBWe are on the cusp of the New Year, which for many people often means thinking about all the changes we want to make and the new habits we want to create. We tend to focus on the negatives, but I’m proposing that we need to pay just as much attention, if not more, to all the wins you’ve experienced. Join me this week as I take you through my Year in Review exercise and explain why this is going to set you up with the right energy as you enter 2024. Hear the value of acknowledging all y...
153. Ask a Coach: Why You’re Stuck
December 18, 2023 08:00 - 11 minutes - 16 MB“I’m feeling stuck, what do I do?” The thought, “I’m stuck,” is one all of us indulge in when the path ahead feels uncertain and unknown, but the truth is you’re not stuck and Coach Kat is here to show you why. Listen in this week to discover why we default to saying we’re stuck even when we’re not, what it actually means to feel stuck, and Coach Kat’s top tips for getting unstuck no matter what you’re navigating right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://w...
152. Ask a Coach: When You Slip Up
December 11, 2023 08:00 - 15 minutes - 13 MBThis week’s Ask a Coach is from someone who found that if they view pornography early in the day, they don’t bother trying to avoid pornography until they get a fresh start the next day. This is common when people are trying to quit porn, it’s a product of all-or-nothing thinking, and it isn’t helping you find peace and ease in quitting porn. Tune in this week to discover how to make sure a slip-up doesn’t ruin your day. I’m discussing how to measure your progress on your journey of qu...
151. Ask a Coach: Good Shame vs Bad Shame
December 04, 2023 08:00 - 10 minutes - 8.68 MBIs all shame bad? This is the premise of this week’s Ask a Coach question. The truth is, it all comes down to semantics, and my answer is both yes and no. Hear my thoughts on why no emotion is inherently bad, how emotions can be either helpful or unhelpful, and how to identify whether the shame you’re experiencing is serving you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/good-shame-vs-bad-shame
150. Ask a Coach: The Reality of Learning New Skills
November 27, 2023 08:00 - 10 minutes - 8.83 MB"Does learning to process your urge to view porn feel so overwhelming that everything else in your life falls by the wayside?" This is the question Coach Tina is addressing on this week’s Ask a Coach episode. Hear how to balance the skill of processing urges with the other goals you’ve set for yourself. Coach Tina is offering what could be happening if learning to process your urges feels overwhelming, and how to take care of yourself so it doesn’t feel like everything is slipping out ...
149. Ask a Coach: 5 Areas of Self-Care to Focus On
November 20, 2023 08:00 - 12 minutes - 10.9 MB“Do you have any tips on not getting fed up or burnt out from all the urge processing?” If you also feel completely tired and overwhelmed, or find yourself falling into resistance rather than allowing your urges to view porn, listen in to hear Jessica’s answers. Hear why the practice of processing the urge to view porn might be resulting in extreme tiredness and overwhelm, how self-care makes processing urges easier, and Jessica’s insights on five areas of self-care you must prioritize...
148. Ask a Coach: All Emotions Have a Shelf Life
November 13, 2023 08:00 - 11 minutes - 9.62 MBDo you feel more antsy in your physical body as you view less porn? Maybe you can’t stop bouncing your legs or find yourself constantly fidgeting, and maybe it’s leading to a strong urge to view porn so you can stop feeling so antsy. Join Jessica on this episode to hear her top tips for processing uncomfortable emotions, how all emotions have a shelf life, and the power of letting any emotion be present until it eventually dissipates. Get full show notes and more information he...
147. Ask a Coach: Rewriting Your Stories
November 06, 2023 07:00 - 14 minutes - 12.6 MBThe question this week goes, “I feel like I’m in a bit of a rut. I got carried away with studying during post-grad, and I’m either slipping up or studying 24/7. How can I get back on track with processing urges?” Join coach Kat on this episode to hear why you have to examine the stories you’re currently telling yourself, her suggestions for beginning to rewrite your stories, and her top tips for going on a treasure hunt for new thoughts that serve you on your journey of quitting porn. ...
146. Ask a Coach: Thinking New Thoughts You Don’t Believe Yet
October 30, 2023 07:00 - 8 minutes - 7.68 MBThis week’s Ask a Coach question comes from someone who requested feedback on an intentional model. They put this model together to begin thinking new thoughts about their path to freedom from porn but have yet to fully believe in it. Listen in this week to hear the model that was submitted for this question, understand why the question asker feels more trapped than free in the process of thinking new thoughts about their porn habit, and Coach Tina’s answers. Get full show notes ...
145. Ask a Coach: Your Compelling Reason
October 23, 2023 07:00 - 7 minutes - 6.68 MBThis week's question comes from someone who had a question in the commitment milestone worksheet about finding their compelling reason for wanting to quit porn. This person isn't convinced that their compelling reason is strong enough, and Tina is offering her thoughts. Tune in today to hear why finding your compelling reason for quitting porn is essential, what happens when you use unhelpful emotions to drive your actions, and how to find your own compelling reason for why you might w...
144. Ask a Coach: Shame vs Guilt
October 16, 2023 07:00 - 13 minutes - 18.9 MBOvercome Pornography for Good coach Jessica Farmer is here to answer this week’s Ask a Coach question! Here's the question she's offering her thoughts on today: “I watched porn after being clean for six months. I feel a bit disappointed and shameful on one hand, but also feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough. Do you have any thoughts on what it looks like for me to come back from this?” Join Jessica on this episode as she walks you through how to investigate what “feeling guilty en...
143. Ask a Coach: The Fear of Missing Out
October 09, 2023 07:00 - 8 minutes - 7.15 MBOur Overcome Pornography for Good coach, Kat, is on the show this week to answer today’s Ask a Coach question! The question she’s addressing is, “I realized that a part of me doesn’t want to let go of this habit yet, like there’s FOMO if I remove this habit from my life. How can I get my brain to stop fearing the idea of my new identity?” Hear why this is a completely normal reaction to have, and a simple exercise you can try when you catch yourself in fear of missing out or resisting ...
142. Ask a Coach: The Shame of Slipping Up
October 02, 2023 07:00 - 10 minutes - 9.19 MBWe are currently on a podcast season break and regular podcasting will resume January 1st 2024! While we’re on a hiatus, we are still going to be bringing you brand new content every single week by sharing an Ask a Coach Q&A from me or one of our coaches inside Overcome Pornography for Good. Listen in today to hear my answer to the question of slipping up and processing the shame that comes from feeling like you’ve failed. I’m showing you why slipping up doesn’t mean you’re not progres...
141. Season Break & Suffering vs Pain
September 25, 2023 07:00 - 12 minutes - 10.7 MBWe’re taking a short break, which is the perfect time for you to put into practice everything you’ve learned over the years. In this episode, the topic we’re covering is one of the things I want you to keep in mind during this season break: suffering versus pain. Tune in this week to discover the difference between suffering and pain. I’m showing you where your suffering is really coming from, why suffering is not worse than pain, and what you can do to stop your suffering. We’re takin...
140. Boundaries with Spouses, Family, and Religious Leaders
September 18, 2023 07:00 - 24 minutes - 20.6 MBIt’s easy to fall into the trap of punishing yourself if you’re struggling with viewing porn. You might find yourself engaged in conversations with your spouse, family, friends, or religious leaders that are in breach of what feels safe to you. Whether they’re leaning on fear and shame tactics or want to know details you aren’t comfortable sharing, you are allowed to set boundaries while building deep connections and trust with those people. Learn how boundaries can work in tandem with...
139. A Fresh View on Sin with Tyson Bradley
September 11, 2023 07:00 - 38 minutes - 31.7 MBTyson Bradley is a certified life coach and founder of Inherent Identity, a company focused on empowering God-loving people to create identity-based changes that last. He’s here to offer a fresh view on sin and how this could be the most freeing work you can do in overcoming pornography. Tune in today to hear Tyson’s insights on why we need to redefine what sin means and where it comes from. We’re discussing how our current beliefs about sin perpetuates shame, what we consider to be si...
138. What’s Possible with Josh
September 04, 2023 07:00 - 27 minutes - 22.4 MBThis week, I'm bringing you the last "What's Possible" interview I have planned, and we're celebrating my client, Josh. Josh's story is filled with hope and connection, and he's truly an example of what you can achieve when you approach your porn habit with confidence and curiosity. hear how Josh went from feeling intense pressure about quitting porn to successfully quitting by accepting that his progress with porn would never be linear. Josh shares his advice for dealing with slip-ups...
137. Disclosure Tips with Jessica
August 28, 2023 07:00 - 39 minutes - 32 MBI'm joined by Jessica Farmer, one of the amazing coaches in my program Overcome Pornography for Good. This week, she's here to discuss her tips for disclosing porn use in your relationship. Whether you are considering telling your spouse about your pornography use or you’ve already told them and it has become a point of contention, we’re exploring it all this week. Jessica shares her tips for disclosing your porn use to your partner, the potential issues that could arise from this and ...
136. What’s Possible with David
August 21, 2023 07:00 - 45 minutes - 36.8 MBLike many of you who have the desire to heal your pornography habit, our client David developed a ton of shame, guilt, and insecurity about it. He went seven years without telling anybody he was viewing pornography. But when he finally did reach out for support, he transformed so much more than just his porn habit. This week, David is sharing his porn journey with us and how coaching helped him realize that the tools he obtained can be applied to more than just quitting porn. He’s shar...
135. Fixing Things Is Exhausting You
August 14, 2023 07:00 - 15 minutes - 22.1 MBWhile our brains are programmed to look for what’s wrong with us, it’s not true that there’s always something wrong with you. Constantly fixing and solving what we perceive to be a problem is exhausting. And this week, I want to offer the idea that all parts of you are wise and have something valuable to offer, even the part of you that desires porn. Discover why you don’t have to feel shame about your desire for porn, and how to redirect that energy in other ways by listening to it an...
134. Pornography and Parenting with Heather Frazier
August 07, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 27.7 MBHeather Frazier is an awesome parenting coach for parents of teenagers. She had me on her podcast recently, and I’m sharing that conversation about parenting and pornography on today’s episode of Overcome Pornography for Good. Discover the proven most effective way of protecting your children from the world of pornography. We’re discussing the value of proper age-appropriate sex-positive education, why your kids viewing pornography doesn’t mean that they’re addicted, and how to talk to...
133. Spirituality: Loved, Held, Guided, and Never Alone
July 31, 2023 07:00 - 23 minutes - 19.5 MBNo matter our specific religion, the language we choose to use, or our relationship with God or the universe, the ability to feel loved, held, guided, and never alone is something that is innate to us. It’s our birthright, and according to Dr. Lisa Miller’s research, there are huge benefits to trusting in your spirituality. I show you why developing the perception of being loved, held, guided, and never alone is an important part of healing your pornography journey. I’m sharing my own ...
132. What's Possible with Hayden
July 24, 2023 07:00 - 55 minutes - 45.2 MBWhen it comes to work, your business, or any other aspect of your life, it can be easy to see that success is built on failures. While you might not believe it right now, this can be true for overcoming your porn habit too. Hayden believes that failing fast and moving on has been a key part of the breakthroughs he’s experienced, and he’s here to share his journey with us. He’s offering his thoughts on the importance of being willing to do whatever it takes to change your habit and why ...
131. Using Spirituality When Quitting Porn
July 17, 2023 07:00 - 24 minutes - 19.9 MBThere are many benefits to practicing spirituality when it comes to quitting porn. Spirituality can be both extremely beneficial, and I’m exploring both sides of the coin this week. Discover how spirituality can become harmful and damaging, as well as a great tool to lean on when you’re trying to quit porn. I’m sharing some of my own personal spiritual experiences, and how you can use spirituality to practice unconditional love and compassion for yourself and others. Get full sho...
130. Unshaming with David Bedrick
July 10, 2023 07:00 - 48 minutes - 39.6 MBDavid Bedrick is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-Based Studies, where he teaches therapists, coaches, and healers from around the world how to work with people in a new way. Healing from a pornography habit can be an extremely challenging and disturbing experience, and David's perspective is that it shouldn't be simply accepted. There are often hidden gifts in the shame that may arise, and we're exploring this on this episode. David shares his own unshaming story and hi...
129. What Does It Mean to Quit for Good?
July 03, 2023 07:00 - 21 minutes - 17.8 MBQuitting porn for good is a goal that most of you are actively working towards. For some people, this idea excites and motivates them. However, it can also create pressure, fear, and doubt for many individuals. Explore what it truly means to quit porn for good, and discover a helpful perspective that will shift you away from fear and doubt and empower you with control. I’m sharing how the notion of "for good" might be keeping you stuck, and why it doesn't have to be solely about never ...
128. What's Possible with Steve
June 26, 2023 07:00 - 54 minutes - 43.9 MBHear my conversation with Steve about his experience quitting porn and how instrumental the tools and coaching he received in my program were for his success. Discover how Steve learned to handle his urges, the compounding effect of consistency as you do this work, and how he developed the confidence to be porn-free. You're not alone in your struggle to quit porn, and this conversation will show you just how much is possible when you're ready to do this work. Get full show notes ...
127. Young Women Struggling with Pornography with Madi Davis
June 19, 2023 07:00 - 41 minutes - 33.9 MBThis week, I’m speaking with Madi Davis, a 19-year-old student whose mission is to help girls who struggle with pornography. She’s a freshman at BYU and the host of the Sisters On The Front Lines Podcast where she speaks about and aims to combat the shame surrounding young women struggling with pornography. Madi’s mission is one we don’t talk about openly nearly enough, and this is a conversation that is so necessary. In a world where many women have repressed their sexuality and exper...
126. Productivity and Worthiness
June 12, 2023 07:00 - 22 minutes - 18.4 MBAs humans, it's common for us to derive our sense of worth from our productivity. However, when it comes to quitting porn, intertwining productivity and worthiness isn't actually helpful. In fact, it makes it even more challenging to overcome porn addiction. If you're ready for an alternative approach, this episode is for you. Start recognizing how you link your worthiness to your productivity and learn how to break free from this mindset. I'm showing you precisely how this way of thin...
125. Belief Plan (Replay)
June 05, 2023 07:00 - 21 minutes - 18.1 MBA belief plan is simple in concept but requires hard work. It necessitates deep inner work that can be uncomfortable to face. However, the practice of examining your beliefs and cultivating new ones is vital when it comes to quitting habits like pornography, or any other area in your life where you desire change. Discover what a belief plan is and why it is key, not just for achieving the goal of quitting porn, but for changing your life beyond this habit. I’m offering you a belief pla...
124. Loneliness and Dating with Tammy Hill
May 29, 2023 07:00 - 48 minutes - 39.7 MBSearching for the keys to navigating loneliness and cultivating healthy relationships while dealing with a pornography habit? Seeking guidance on how to disclose this part of your life to your partner? Tune into our enlightening discussion as relationship and sex coach, Tammy Hill, offers practical advice on overcoming loneliness and building the relationship of your dreams. She'll shed light on the powerful impacts of nurturing an abundance mindset and taking care of our minds and bod...
123. The River of Misery
May 22, 2023 07:00 - 22 minutes - 18.5 MBWhatever you're trying to create in your life, you're going to face challenges and difficulties, and it won't be easy. The River of Misery doesn't sound great. However, it's all about accepting the misery so we can start moving through it. Discover why understanding the River of Misery will help you quit viewing pornography and never go back to it. I'm sharing the thoughts that make the River of Misery difficult to cross, and showing you how to see the patterns that are keeping you stu...
122. What’s Possible with James
May 15, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 27.5 MBJames had been viewing porn on and off since he was 11 years old, which adds up to over 40 years. He had always labeled himself as an addict and had heavy thoughts around his pornography use. However, with the approach we use in Overcome Pornography for Good, everything started to change for James. Discover what is possible when you stop labeling yourself as an addict. James shares the beliefs he changed around his pornography use and what it means and dives into all the work we did in...
121. Overwhelm
May 08, 2023 07:00 - 22 minutes - 18.4 MBOverwhelm is one of those all-encompassing uncomfortable emotions that makes us feel frozen. Quitting porn requires some miserable growth periods, which means overwhelm will naturally be a part of your experience. The good news though is that overwhelm is not a problem, and it’s easier to make progress if you lean into it. I’m sharing four strategies for breaking the cycle of overwhelm. Hear what typically happens if you resist overwhelm, why you’re not actually at the mercy of this em...
120. Relationship Spirals with Lindsay Poelman
May 01, 2023 07:00 - 48 minutes - 39.8 MBLindsay Poelman is a life coach focused on helping people who are struggling with their spouse’s porn use and an expert in trauma-informed coaching, and she’s here this week to shed light on what relationship spirals mean, and how to get out of them. Lindsay shares how relationship spirals have a lot to do with our individual conditioning. Hear why we have to first understand the context of our conditioning to untangle our relationship spirals, and how you’re both allowed to create a s...
119. You Are the Authority
April 24, 2023 07:00 - 19 minutes - 16.3 MBWhen it comes to your own healing and quitting porn, there are so many opinions, thoughts, and ways to do it that can be offered to you out there. That’s why this might be one of the most important episodes that I ever share with you. Hear why you have everything you need inside of you to heal and quit porn for good. I’m showing you how we’re conditioned to believe the authority lives outside of us, and why it’s vital to recognize nothing and no one is above questioning. Get full...
118. Quitting Porn at Age 75: What’s Possible with Jeff
April 17, 2023 07:00 - 36 minutes - 29.5 MBNo matter how old you are, you can quit porn. My guest today is proof that it's possible. Jeff is 75 years old and had struggled with pornography since he was 14 years old. He had tried to quit many times over the years, but none of those attempts resulted in permanent change. Jeff shares why his attempts to quit over the years didn’t work, how it affected his relationship with his wife, and how what he learned in the program changed everything. Jeff says he’s now free to live his life...