Enneagram In Love
163 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 months ago - ★★★★★ - 5 ratingsAs a Certified Enneagram and Relationship Coach, Natalia helps couples achieve total relationship mastery using the Enneagram to understood each other in a deeper, more meaningful & effective way. In this podcast, you'll learn how to communicate differently and better to heal and mend your relationship.
Natalia wants to eradicate the belief Relationships can't transform into the joy that creates pure MAGIC in your life. No more wishing things were different, it's time to make them different.
New Love. Fresh Perspective. Same Couple.
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Attachment Theory, Dating, and Better Communication with Nicole Walker, Licensed Counselor + Relationship Coach
November 08, 2023 09:00 - 45 minutes - 62.7 MBIn today's episode, I speak with Nicole Walker, a licensed counselor and relationship coach. Nicole breaks down what Attachment Theory is, how to know what category you may fall into, and the benefits of knowing your attachment style in order to strengthen your relationship. Nicole also provides helpful tips and tools to communicate better and understand what you're looking for if you're stepping into the dating scene. Nicole Walker is a licensed counselor and relationship coach. After yea...
Inside the Mind of a Type 6, Sexuality, Non-Monogamy & Acceptance w/ Dr. Liora Elias
November 01, 2023 09:00 - 46 minutes - 64.3 MBIn today's episode, Dr. Liora Elias breaks down what it looks and feels like to be a Type 6w5. They discuss sexuality, monogamy, non-monogamy and what the Enneagram brings to the table as far as our sexuality is concerned with insights for each Type. This episode is guaranteed to expand your perspective on all types of relationships. Dr. Liora Elias is a university professor, Enneagram coach & speaker based in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Their approach to the Enneagram utilizes their expertis...
Enneagram Deep Dive on Love, Work, and Life w/ Steph Barron Hall (Type 3)
October 25, 2023 15:42 - 52 minutes - 72.5 MBIn today's episode, I talk with Steph Barron Hall about the life of a Type 3. We discuss their strong drive to succeed and achieve in various aspects of life. Steph gives us insights into what motivates Type 3s and how it influences their relationships and stress levels. She also offers examples and advice on how different Enneagram Types can improve their relationships and communication by understanding themselves better. Stephanie Barron Hall (M.A. Organizational Communication & Leadersh...
Wanting Connection, Relationships, and the Heartfelt Word of a Type 2 w/ Dr. Rebekah Tennyson
October 18, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 91.1 MBIn today's episode, I get to talk to Dr. Rebekah Tennyson, also a Certified Enneagram Coach through the Enneagram University. We dive into the world of a Type 2 and what it looks like be in a relationship with one. Rebekah provides many personal examples and insights where her core Type shows up in ways that strengthen her relationships. She also gives you conflict resolution tips no matter your Type. Rebekah brings a softness to the conversation of emotions and shows you the beauty and dept...
Not Understanding Each Other & Disagreeing over Repeated Issues
October 11, 2023 09:00 - 44 minutes - 61.2 MBIn today's episode, I talk about the recent poll I did on Instagram about the current struggles in your Relationship with ot understanding each other and having the same issues over and over as being the main sources of problems in your relationships. I break down why this happens and how to solve for it. I dive into the Relational Styles of each Type as well as how your Stress Arrows plays a role in the way your disagreements and arguments are handled. If you're wanting to understand eac...
20 Year Relationship, Perfectionist Tendencies, and Life + Love with Karrie Brandt, Type 1
October 04, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 75.9 MBToday's converastion is with Karrie Brandt, a Certified Enneagram Coach and Type 1w9. Karrie talks about what it's like being a Type 1 and how that's impacted her life and relationship with her longtime Type 8 partner. She discusses perfectionism, traveling abroad, coping with conflict and the "mean" girl talk that happens with some Type 1s. Finally, Karrie shares what it looks like to lean into her growth path in Type 7 and how she's grown using the Enneagram, both personally and in her ro...
Relationships + Life from a Type 7 Perspective w/ Sarah Wallace, Enneagram Coach
September 27, 2023 09:00 - 51 minutes - 70 MBToday I talk with fellow Type 7w6 and Enneagram Certified Coach, Sarah Wallace. We dive into what life and relationships look like from a 7 perspective. Sarah offers key insights into how she handles conflict, difficult emotions, and how the Enneagram has helped her better understand her strengths and challenges. All you need to know about a Type 7 is right here! Sarah Wallace is a Certified Enneagram Coach, host of the Enneagram MBA podcast, speaker, and workshop facilitator. With ove...
A Man's Perspective, Female & Male Dynamics w/ Men's Coach, Elia Mrakovich (4)
September 13, 2023 09:00 - 52 minutes - 72.6 MBThis episode will blow your mind. Elia is a Type 4w5 married to his wife Erin, Type 2. He's a Transformative Men's Coach and he shares tons of insight into a man's brain and his perspective when we bring something up to them. He gives pointers on how to navigate hard conversations and what it looks like in real-time in a man's brain during these moments. This is a fanastic episodes for everyone to listen to - you're guaranteed to learn new things about you and your partner and leave with ...
Marriage Longevity, Nobody's the Villain & Self-Awareness w/ Author + Coach, Christa Hardin (7)
September 06, 2023 09:00 - 43 minutes - 59.5 MBIn this episode, I'm speaking with Christa Hardin on the work it takes for a lifelong marriage. The enneagram is a tool Christa uses to understand herself and her husband better. In fact, it's been the one of the main reasons she's had such a thriving partnership. We dive into what it means to be a Type 7 married to a Type 1, how Christa handles conflict and emotionally challenging moments, and how her faith has provided continued comfort and peace. Christa speaks directly to all couples no ...
Emotional Heaviness, Self-Identity, Withdrawing & Uniqueness w/ Morgan Teel (Type 4)
August 30, 2023 09:00 - 42 minutes - 58.5 MBIn this episode, my friend and fellow Certified Enneagram Coach, Morgan Teel (SP4) joins me in a conversation all about the life and depth of Type 4s. She describes what creativity looks like for her, how her childhood shaped her openness to dive into some of life's deeper meanings, and what being unique and authentic truly means. She reflects on the pattern of withdrawing in intimate relationships and how she handles it through the lens of the Enneagram. Morgan Mackay Teel is an embodime...
Top Mistakes You Make When Talking To Your Partner
August 23, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.7 MBDo you ever start a conversation with good intentions to resolve the issue and have yourself feel heard and understood yet it ends up in confusion and more frustration? Today's episode dives deep into how and why this happens - and most importantly - how to turn those mistakes into fixes that you can implement today. There's so many paths I could have gone down but I chose the top 3 I see most often. Learn More About Natalia Hernandez Coaching Download the FREE Practical Guide to th...
Your Partner's Challenges Become Your Benefits by Enneagram Type
August 16, 2023 09:00 - 43 minutes - 59.7 MBIn this episode, I briefly cover the challenges you might face with each Enneagram Type. I help you understand why they're challenges and how to use them for your benefit. What you consider to be problems or issues, can actually strengthen your relationship. Find out how your partner's Type can actually make you a better person and create a strong connection between the two of you. Learn More about Natalia Hernandez Coaching
Repairing a Marriage, 32 Years of Marital Lessons & Owning Your Story w/ Julia Woods
August 09, 2023 09:00 - 42 minutes - 57.9 MBIn this heartfelt conversation, Julia Woods (Type 8) opens up about the challenges she faced in her 32 years of marriage to her Type 4 husband. Julia breaks down what marital obstacles led to this newfound understanding and growth in their relationship. She gives practical communication tips to get through conflict in an easeful way so everyone feels heard and understood. One of her biggest lessons has been that you can have the marriage you want if you're willing to work for it. Julia provi...
Marrying into Your Stress/Growth, Being on to Yourself, and Type 6's w/ Kristi Rowles
August 02, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 76.2 MBIn today's episode, Kristi Rowles joins me for a look into what the world of a Type 6 looks like in life and marriage. We realized both of our marriages are comprised of marrying into our growth/stress arrows - and what that looks like from a real life perspective. Kristi shares her own experience as a Type 6 being married to a 9, her journey from therapist to enneagram coach, and how the enneagram has helped her marriage succeed with patience and tons of compassion. You won't want to miss t...
Dissatisfaction, Longing, & Living in the Present Moment w/ Jordan Rawlinson
July 26, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 83.4 MBIn today's episode, I'm talking to Jordan Rawlinson, an Enneagram Type 4w3 who also happens to be a Certified Enneagram Coach. We dive into the emotional world of a Type 4 and the feelings of dissatisfaction and longing the majority of us feel in relationships and life in general. Jordan gets specific on what it means to be in the present moment and how that can look like from day to day. She offers key insights on what others should know about a Type 4 and what Type 4's should always consid...
[BONUS] How to Be Better Together in August
July 20, 2023 13:17 - 3 minutes - 4.94 MBThe love is there - now you want to understand each other better and communicate better. That's exactly what we'll do inside the Better Together 3-Day Challenge in August. We're diving deep into your Enneagram Types so that you understand yourself, your partner, and your relationship as a whole. Summer isn't over and it can be the best one yet. Set yourselves up for a solid foundation built on respect and appreciation. Book now as we start in August! Join the 3-Day Better Together A...
How to Effectively Tell Your Partner What's on Your Mind
July 19, 2023 09:07 - 16 minutes - 22.9 MBIn today's epiosde, I talk about the different ways we unknowingly assign frustration onto our partner when we're actually wanting to let them know how we feel and what our needs are. I give specific examples on common issues and provide reframes on how to let your partner know exactly what you are going through and what they can do to make the situation better or at the very least, understand where you're coming from and what you need for the future. It's a better, more effective way to com...
When Your Partner Feels like the Problem
July 12, 2023 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBIn this episode, I talk about how normal and common it is for us to assign the issue we're facing onto our partner. Especially when the issue we're dealing with directly involved our partner's behavior. I break down why this happens and how to redirect these thought errors in order to effectively problem-solve. This way of thinking and communicating helps everyone feel connected and part of a team. Having a Team Mindset versus Issue mentality wins each time and creates a stronger foundation ...
Why It's Hard Making Your Marriage Better
July 05, 2023 09:00 - 29 minutes - 40.4 MBIn this episode, I talk about the challenges and truth of how difficult it can feel as you're trying to make your marriage better. We're all so complex and when you're trying to change something that's been a specific way for so long, like healing and mending your marriage, it can feel too difficult and uncomfortable. I break down why that is and how to overcome it. I also get specific on each Type with how your partner sees life and how that plays a role in your relationship. Work w...
Daily Tips to Make Your Relationship Stronger (Within you, first)
June 28, 2023 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBIn this episode, I break down 3 tips each Type can focus on to release stress and anxiety. It's a way to gently push you to move past your comfort zone in an effort to move you towards your healthy type. It'll feel uncomfortable and difficult at first, and that's the point. To get you to a place where difficult conversations in real life are handled with more ease and confidence. Download the FREE Practical Guide to the Enneagram Work with Me - Couples Work with Me - Individuals...
Path of Least Resistance
June 21, 2023 09:00 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MBIn this episode, I talk about how helpful choosing the path of least resistance can be. I'm big on making sure you're heard and understand. I'm big on sharing what you feel, think, and need. I'll always be. I'm also a big advocate of choosing the path of least resistance when the same converstions keep happening and there's no real upside to continuing that conversation. I dive into how this looks based on your Enneagram and how to effectively walk away from topics that aren't bringing out t...
Lessons from Running
June 14, 2023 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21.9 MBIn today's episode, I share a personal story I'm currently living and how it has taught me a really valuable lesson thus far about marriage and relationships. Sometimes we think things will take forever to change or fear it's too hard, but that's based on the lens we're choosing to see it through. Past experiences also shape our perception and it's time to break away from how hard something can be to how far you've actually come. Join the Live Better Together Program (my 4 month cou...
Live Better Together Program
June 07, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 25.8 MBIn this episode, I break down what my 4 month couples coaching LBT Program looks like in detail. I walk you through what we'll be doing together each month - from Enneagram learning and integration - to troubleshooting your real time issues and misunderstandings - to learning practical tools and skills in order to communicate better, resolve issues, and have a healthier stronger relationship. Use the Enneagram to Live Better Together - it's the easiest and quickest way to heal and mend. ...
What We Limit in Ourselves + Our Partners
May 31, 2023 09:00 - 33 minutes - 45.3 MBIn today's episode, I talk about the very specific things we all do to limit or prevent from feeling within ourselves. What we often try to limit or prevent in ourselves, we also try to limit and prevent in others. I dive into what this means based on each Enneagram Type and how it plays out in real life. You'll learn how your core fear can drive the actions you take and what to look out for if issues comes up. Connect with Natalia Hernandez on Instagram . . . Work with Natali...
Manuals You Have for Your Partner
May 24, 2023 09:00 - 30 minutes - 41.2 MBIn this episode, I talk about the "instruction manual" we have of how our partner should behave and what that looks like in real life according to your Enneagram Type. Find out how to release the need to control or change how/who your partner is in order to feel confident and secure in your relationship. . . . . Learn more about working with Natalia Hernandez
Drop this One Thought for a Better Relationship
May 17, 2023 09:00 - 22 minutes - 30.7 MBIn today's episode, I talk about each Type's hidden message, how it impacts your life, and how it looks like in your relationship. I pose questions to help you create a new self-identity and belief system to make your relationship stronger and communiaction ten times better. Dropping this one thought about yourself will help create the belief that you're free to let down the walls in order to better let your partner in. . . . Learn more about working with Natalia Hernandez
We're Back! Let's talk about the Enneagram In Love
May 10, 2023 09:00 - 24 minutes - 35.2 MBWelcome to the rebrand! This show is formerly known as Total Relationship Mastery. Enneagram in Love is the new iteration of my coaching practice and I wanted to bring you detailed ways to make your relationship better through the lens of the Enneagram. In this new episode of the show, I bring to you the Hornevian Triad, which is how you show up to your relationships. It's based on the Dependant, Aggressive, and Withdrawn Stances. I describe each in detail to give you a good, clear und...
Leaving the Relationship [Part 3]: Your Future
April 05, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.4 MBThis episode is Part 3 of 3 in a series called Leaving the Relationship. I give a broad overview of the phases you may go through when ending a relationship so that you feel more empowered than hurt. Today, I talk about your future. What you want, don't want, and the type of energy you're ready for. Once you see what's possible, the kind of life you want to live with someone else, you set the bar high for your own happiness. I also let you know this is the last episode for a short time. I...
Leaving the Relationship [Part 2]: Forgiveness
March 29, 2023 09:00 - 29 minutes - 40.3 MBThis episode is Part 2 of 3 in a series called Leaving the Relationship. I give a broad overview of the phases you would go through when ending a relationship so that you feel more empowered than hurt. Today, I talk about forgiveness. Forgiving them AND yourself. Forgiveness is all about you and creating the peace you need to move on from a place of empowerment. Closure is easily found through acceptance and forgiveness. Book Your Enneagram Typing Session Book Individual Coaching Cons...
Leaving the Relationship [Part 1]: Acceptance & Learning
March 22, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.3 MBThis episode is Part 1 of 3 in a series called Leaving the Relationship. I give a broad overview of the phases you should go through when ending a relationship so that you feel more empowered than hurt. It's a way to be true to what you want without avoiding the reality of what's happened. In this episode I cover acceptance of where things are now and the learning curb you'll run into. Book Your Individual Coaching Consult Book Your Enneagram Typing Session Connect with me on Instag...
5 Reasons Why I'M Lucky to Have my Husband - An Exercise
March 15, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.7 MBIn today's episode, I give you a homework assignment. I break down the top 5 reasons why I AM lucky to have my husband. Then, I flip it around and see why my husband is lucky to have me. This exercise helps create appreciation and gratitude during the harder moments. It gives you a much needed lift in perspective, joy, and love. Download - How to Communicate Better + Argue Less Join my free + private FB Group, Relationship Mastery Book a Coaching Consultation with Me Connect with ...
Can You Manifest the Marriage You Want?
March 08, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29.1 MBIn today's episode, I talk about how to calm your nerves and prepare yourself better for the day ahead using Insight Timer, the meditation app I use every day. I also dive into what happens when you allow certain things in your life and push others way - is it manifesting? Are you simply receiving what you've worked hard for and asked for? I give personal examples of how it's played out in my life and why I believe I manifested the marriage I now have. Email Natalia: Support@NoFrillsCoach...
Acceptance: Your Present Life + Marriage
March 01, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32.5 MBIn this episode, I describe the powerful impact living in acceptance can do for you emotionally & mentally. I give personal examples of my fight with acceptance and the surrender to it. How it changed my perspective on life and my relationships. The peace it's brought me. Accepting where your relationship is now is the KEY to making it better. Email Natalia: [email protected] Connect with Natalia on Instagram Join my free + private FB group, Relationship Mastery Schedule...
How to Assert Yourself without Starting WW3
February 22, 2023 15:00 - 19 minutes - 26.3 MBIn today's episode, I talk about asserting yourself and standing up for yourself in the marriage. How to stop hiding and shying away from saying what you think and how you feel. I dive into the benefits you'll both experience when everyone can openly share without the fear of an argument starting or being misunderstood. Join my free + private Facebook group Book an Individual Coaching consultation Book a Couples Coaching consultation Connect with me on Instagram
Being on to Yourself, Your Thoughts + Feelings
February 15, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBIn this episode, I introduce my free and private Facebook group - Relationship Mastery - and the benefits you'll get from it. I dive into how you make the relationships in your life better or harder. I break down how to be on to yourself emotionally. Specifically, knowing that what you're thinking about the person and how you're feeling about them has given you the results you have within that relationship. I give detailed examples and tips on how to change your relationships simply by...
Why You Get Defensive + How to Handle It
February 08, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 32 MBIn today's episode, I break down two personal stories of defensiveness, why it happened, how it was handled, and what you can take away from them right now to defuse issues before they even begin. This episode will help you understand why you get defensive, where it stems from, and what to look for. I also provide ways on how to channel these feelings when they come up according to the situation and person you are dealing with. Learn More About Natalia at NataliaHernandezCoaching.com
What Came First the Chicken or the Egg?
February 01, 2023 10:00 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MBIn this episode, I talk about perspectives. Is life long or short? Your answer really depends on how well you're spending your life. Tune in to hear how to practice gratitude and WHY and the importance of living in gratitude for the health and joy of your relationship. [FREE Video Guide] To Communicate Better, Argue Less Connect with Natalia on Instagram Book Couples Coaching consultation Book Individual Coaching consultation Learn More about Natalia
Are You Really IN IT for Your Marriage?
January 25, 2023 10:00 - 16 minutes - 22.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about the difference between being fully in it 100% for your marriage and simply being committed. There's two things needed to turn your marriage around from a perspective standpoint. Being committed and better communication is needed to be fully in it for a long-lasting marriage. [FREE Video Guide] To Communicate Better, Argue Less Connect with Natalia on Instagram Book Couples Coaching Consultation Book Individual Coaching Consultation Learn More about N...
Impulse Control
January 18, 2023 10:00 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MBIn today's episode, I talk about the capability you have right now to redirect how you communicate and react. You can have impulse control in your reactions even if you don't like or agree with what someone said. I give examples of how this shows up and what to do to make sure you're the one in control of how you communicate with your partner, and not a pattern or habit you can't control. Connect with me on Instagram Couples Coaching Consultation Individual Coaching Consultation L...
Argument Permanance
January 11, 2023 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21.8 MBEver catch yourself wondering how you're still arguing over the same things? Do you tell yourself things like "This is just how we are" or "We're always arguing" and have it roll off your tongue like no big deal? This episode breaks down why that happens and how to avoid the trap of thinking you might not get out of it. Connect on Instagram Schedule a Couples Coaching Consultation Schedule an Individual Coaching Consultation Learn More About Natalia
Anchoring Thoughts & Why You Need Them
January 04, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBIn today's episode, I go into detail the importance of having anchoring thoughts to keep you from slipping away from the connection, trust, and love in your marriage. I give 12 thoughts you can use right now to keep your relationship grounded and encourage you to find 5 more of your own. This episode is especially great if you're finding yourself thinking negatively about your partner or relationship. Connect with me on Instagram Download Free PDF - Tools to Reboot your Marriage Book C...
What IF in 2023...
December 28, 2022 10:00 - 20 minutes - 28.8 MBIn this episode, I break down how the words "what if" can dramatically impact and change not only your marriage but your life in general. These simple words create opportunities and make things possible. I show you how to implement them and plenty of questions to ask yourself as you head into the new year regarding the way you think and feel about your relationship. It's the perfect ending to start all over again. Schedule couples coaching consultation Schedule individual coaching cons...
Let It Be Easy
December 21, 2022 10:00 - 17 minutes - 23.7 MBIn today's episode, I talk about the way we make our relationships hard. I go back in time to when things were easy and how to bring back those moments and feelings in order to strengthen the relationship we have. Life is 50/50 and I share how to focus more on the parts that bring you closer together. Important Links: Connect with me on Instagram Schedule a Couples Coaching Consultation Schedule your Individual Coaching Consultation Learn More about Natalia
[BONUS] Holiday Message + Offer
December 19, 2022 15:03 - 4 minutes - 6.33 MBImportant Links: Book Your 75 Min. Coaching Intensive Session (This offer expires Christmas Eve) Connect with me on Instagram Learn More About Natalia
Are your Marital Issues Unique & Different?
December 14, 2022 10:00 - 10 minutes - 15 MBIn today's episode, I cover what experiencing the special snowflake syndrome is and how it impacts yourself and your relationship. I give signs to look out for and how to course-correct so that you're no longer in the position of being the victim or keeping yourself from being seen and heard. Connect with me on Instagram Schedule individual coaching consultation Schedule couples coaching consultation
Everything I Wish I Knew Before Marriage
December 07, 2022 10:00 - 28 minutes - 38.6 MBIn today's episode, I let you in on all the things I wish I knew before getting married and committing myself. It's a list of things I learned about myself, how to love, and how to better communicate. In relationships, there's always more learning and growing to do - but - these essentials will get your relationship back on track. Simple, easy things to do or shift within your own self and relationship. Book Your Enneagram Typing Session Learn About the Enneagram - RHETI exam Connect ...
Insignificant Arguments
November 30, 2022 10:00 - 19 minutes - 26.6 MBIn today's episode, I give a real life example of a moment I experienced while on vacation that was insignificant but had the potential to create bigger problems. I worked through a frustration in real time and know that you can apply this work for yourself. Most relationship issues stem from seemingly silly things that compound over time. Tune in to how I resolved the issue and how you can too. Connect with me on Instagram Schedule Couples Coaching Consultation Schedule Individual ...
5 Ways You Overcomplicate + What to Do Instead
November 23, 2022 10:00 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MBIn today's episode, I give you the top 5 ways you overcomplicate things in your relationship. Some are obvious and others are sneaky ways we self-sabotage. I break each one down with examples and provide you with new directions to take instead. This episode aims to help you stop overcomplicating otherwise simple every day issues. Connect with Natalia on Instagram Download Free Reboot Your Marriage Guide Schedule complimentary Coaching Consult Learn More about Natalia
4 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself
November 16, 2022 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBIn this episode, I give you 4 powerful questions that will make you see your relationship differently. They'll help set the tone for what you really want out of your marriage and refocus your energy to creating the kind of connection and relationship that's missing. Connect with Natalia on Instagram Download Free Reboot Your Marriage Guide Schedule Your Coaching Consult Learn More About Natalia
Breaking the Cycle
November 09, 2022 10:00 - 20 minutes - 27.9 MBIn today's episode, I break down what it means to break the cycle from where your relationship is right now starting with a look back into your childhood. It's a familiar view on where you've been that's led you to how you communicate and love today. I also give you some insight into how you can better approach hard conversations so that your children and others around you can witness what effective communication and troubleshooting looks and feels like within a marriage. Connect with N...