According to Ephesians 5 we are to be filled with the Holy Spirit.  If we as Christians are filled with the Holy Spirit then there are certain things we will not find ourselves doing.  Many churches do not acknowledge the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives but it is vital for us as believers to be filled.  Being filled is an ongoing process and is in fact a commandment.  Being filled with the Holy Spirit is not about the gifts but it is important as believers to bear fruit.  Unlike what some teach we as believers do not have control over the gifts of the Spirit.  We as believers cannot be taught how to manufacture the gifts of the Spirit and it should not be a focus for believers.  We are to seek the giver of the gifts and surrender to the Holy Spirit so we can be bearer's of the Fruit of the Spirit.