The Sex Party Handbook: Your Ultimate Guide to the World of Orgies, Sex Clubs and More (and How to Host Your Own) by Ali Bushell

Relying on his experience as a therapist, podcaster, and creator of sex parties, Ali Bushell, author of “The Sex Party Handbook” is here to answer common questions about sex parties, groups, and orgies. Are you ready to reclaim your primal erotic desires? Are you just a little bit curious? Well, get ready for an informative, […]

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Relying on his experience as a therapist, podcaster, and creator of sex parties, Ali Bushell, author of “The Sex Party Handbook” is here to answer common questions about sex parties, groups, and orgies. Are you ready to reclaim your primal erotic desires? Are you just a little bit curious? Well, get ready for an informative, professional and spicy edition of Newsgram. 

Welcome!

If you’ve ever planned an event and were the one in charge of all the things then you know how much work it can be. I’ve put off doing events for that very reason. On the other hand, how many events have you attended and thought wow, that could have been done some much better. Event planning is hard. There are lots of things to consider. Lots of moving parts and the best way to get good at it is, like anything else, trial and error or do your research. Today we are going to focus on a very specific kind of event and we’ve got an expert to guide us through it. 

Now, if you read the synopsis for this program then you know where I’m going. Yes, dear listener, today we are going to host a sex party. This edition of Newsgram is for the mildly curious as well as the community that openly celebrates sexuality and those that want to move in that direction. 

We are going to educate the curious and if you so desire, help you to create opportunities to…let’s say, meet some new friends. Ali Bushell is author of The Sex Party Handbook

Ali Bushell – Put it this way, when I was writing my book and indeed published it, Whenever I mentioned it to somebody, it doesn’t matter who they are, they are always curious. They always want to know more. I’ve never had a situation where someone has been totally offended and shut the conversation down. So I think there’s always interest even if it’s not necessarily…people might even say like…that’s not something that I would be into but that’s quite interesting to hear about  so I think you have a kind of tacit acceptance of you know, whether or not you want to do it, well live and let live and let people do their own thing and people who do have sex parties are very careful to insure that they do not draw attention to them. 

Curiosity is part of our nature and he’s right no-one is walking around handing out flyers so knowing how to navigate these waters is helpful. You may have seen the upside down pineapple on your neighbors door, the garden gnomes or the flamingoes in the lawn and many other rumoured signs that someone is looking to spice up their relationship but I digress. Ali Bushell is not an author; he is also a therapist, a podcaster, and the guest and creator of many sex parties. 

Ali Bushell  – I lived in Sweden for eighteen months and there was a party that was happening quite regularly and I went to that. The guy who ran it was really, really nice and his rules were really good. Some of my rules for my parties I borrowed from that like this are really good but then I’ve been to other parties in London where I walked around and it was like (sigh) that’s not how I would have done it. I wouldn’t have organized it like that or I would have made sure there were rules around that. Fortunately I was never in a situation where I had to say to somebody “this sucked and I hated it”, but I did come away from situations thinking, “I wouldn’t go back to that”. 

That experience is what led him to create The Sex Party Handbook: Your Ultimate Guide to the World of Orgies, Sex Clubs and More (and How to Host Your Own). 

Ali Bushell – I’d gone to lots of parties before, different kinds, doing different things and there’s always something that could have been better and then there is of course that wonderful phrase, “if you want something done properly, do it yourself”. 

The book is a pretty comprehensive glimpse into these “passionate soirees” but it’s a lot more. There is also history and some psychology in addition to the how to element. 

Ali Bushell – I’ve had a lot of people say to me, you know I’ve been to its of sex parties and this is the best. 

That’s as good as a five start Google review for me so I think it’s time to get real. Let’s Imagine yourself at a party. It’s filled with like minded individuals in various stages of undress. That alone takes a bit of doing and no matter how experienced you are at these types of social interactions, navigating one in your birthday suit is going to leave you vulnerable. That’s why there are rules. 

Ali Bushell – Ali shares  story about being rejected in a harsh manner.

Mortifying. So…you finally get the courage to live this fantasy of yours and this is your first experience. Check please….So having the rules and knowing them is important for many reasons; one of them is your safety. 

Ali Bushell – The party I run currently is a party for queer men and they don’t use condoms. So you might say well that’s not safe. It’s like well, I make it very clear to people you need for example to be taking prep, that helps prevent the transmission of HIV. Don’t know what that is? Well, here’s a link to what that is so you can find out about that and get ‘em on it before you consider it. Know that you protect yourself. Other people are not going to protect you. I can’t control what other people’s statuses are so that’s one thing I have to frame. People need to take control of their own safety. 

Something I want to make clear here is that my goal with this podcast is not to sway you one way or another to host or attend a sex party. It’s a very individual thing. This is strictly to present with this resource if you are at all curious because all the things you are thinking have already been thought and experienced by Ali whose perspective goes way back to a time when there was no shame about these things mostly because they didn’t understand what sex was to the times we live in now.

 Ali Bushell – I think definitely you’re seeing more openness to this. Younger people are much more interested in things like no-monogamy, trying things that they’ve not experienced, fluidity around sexuality in general. The rigidity that was there that could stop people wanting to try things or be open to things is slowly dissolving away. 

One of the important things he talks about in his book is having some criteria about who is coming to the party. You can’t just invite anyone. That’s not being elitist, it’s about making sure that everyone feels safe and is there to have a positive and fulfilling  experience. 

I really wanted to share the story of the Sex party gone wrong but we do need to save some fun stuff for you to enjoy when you get his book. According to Ali the presence of group sex as a normal part of our sexual experience is becoming more and more common so perhaps the time is right to put pen to paper and lay out exactly how it’s done so it gets done right. 

 Ali Bushell – Ali lays out the basic rules on how to create a good space to have good fun. 

So I won’t be checking my mailbox for an invitation since I’m over 60 and married to a woman but no hard feelings there, it’s all good. If this sounds like something you’d like to know more about check out The Sex Party Handbook: Your Ultimate Guide to the World of Orgies, Sex Clubs and More (and How to Host Your Own) by Ali Bushell an easy-to-follow reference manual filled with tips and helpful advice for anyone interested in either attending or hosting a sex party. The book is available now at Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble and all the places you would think to shop for books online. 

Enjoy, be safe and have the time of your life! That will do it for this edition of Newsgram from Webtalkradio.com

Ali Bushell was recently interviewed on the Aluring Reads podcast. The hear the full interview click here. 

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