Mum As You Are
80 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -Mum as you are is a place for self-compassionate reflection to use what you have within you, right now as you are, perfectly imperfect to find your way through motherhood.
I’m Dr Erin Bowe, Clinical & Perinatal Psychologist, Author of More Than a Healthy Baby, course creator and mum of two. This is my second podcast – welcome if you have followed me over from my birth trauma work.
This current podcast offering is bite sized, unfancy and unplanned. A roadmap for finding your way back to self-compassion and how to replace numbing and escapism with true, meaningful fun.
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80 Feel like you're not doing alone time properly?
July 10, 2023 00:18 - 11 minutes - 10.9 MBYou find an hour to yourself. A moment you’ve potentially been anticipating for weeks. What do you do? You fantasize about what you *could* do - book a massage? see a friend? read a book? Then the moment comes. Is this excitement or anxiety in your body? Is this feeling calm or am I just frozen? Somehow you can’t think of a single thing you want to but instead are filled with thoughts – I’m feeling ok now, maybe I should just fold laundry. I’ll just go online for a bit, just to get ideas a...
79 psychologist recommended books for mums June/July
July 03, 2023 00:53 - 16 minutes - 15 MB*NB this episode is available on YouTube if you want to follow along with the visuals Life in the Five Senses, Gretchen Rubin https://amzn.to/3qjroyI Feeding the Soul (Because it’s my Business), Tabitha Brown https://amzn.to/439h0Zd The Art of Growing up, John Marsden and Take Risks, John Marsden https://amzn.to/43tAhEq https://amzn.to/3C0tLsV Coretta: My Life, My Love My Legacy, Coretta Scott King https://amzn.to/3C5kb80 Dissociation made Simple, Jamie Marich https://...
78 should you get up earlier?
June 26, 2023 01:02 - 7 minutes - 6.68 MBGetting up at dawn to journal, exercise and smash goals might work well for well-rested people. But what if you're not yet a member of the well-rested Mum's club? Is getting up earlier the answer? Social Media Detox for Mums Amazon Australia More than a healthy baby: finding strength and growth after birth trauma https://amzn.to/3cAuvfu If you'd like to follow along my slow living journey on my YouTube channel I also send a weekly email and have old s...
77 How to winter in difficult times
June 19, 2023 00:49 - 11 minutes - 11 MBWintering doesn’t have to occur in the physical season of winter. It can represent a time in life that’s challenging and depleting. A time when your soul needs to rest and pull back. Today I share 4 lessons I've learned in wintering This book might also be helpful: Wintering: The Art of Rest in Difficult Times https://amzn.to/43a1Pio Social Media Detox for Mums Amazon Australia More than a healthy baby: finding strength and growth after birth trauma https://amzn.to/3cA...
76 Anxiety Tools to Steal from your Kids 🦸♀️
June 12, 2023 00:43 - 9 minutes - 8.95 MBSome of the best anxiety tools around are ones that people often assume are just for kids. I'll share with you a few fun, playful tools to introduce or re-introduce into your stress and self-care practise. I recently learned about a tool called Calm Strips. I haven’t tried them yet, and not sponsored, but they look interesting. They look like a sensory toy in sticker form. You can choose a range of textures – bumpy, soft etc. for focus and de-stressing. Social Media Detox for Mums Am...
75 When it feels like everything you do is wrong
June 05, 2023 00:00 - 8 minutes - 7.7 MBLike pretty much every mum I know, I have too many tabs in my brain open: when did I last worm the dogs? How am I going to find time to go to the dentist? Does my youngest have allergies? Is it bad that I stopped taking my kids to swimming lessons? Is every choice I make as a mum somehow always "wrong"? The internet regularly gives the message that if only you tried a bit harder, or focused a bit more, you could have the cake and eat it. But don’t eat cake, OK? Because of sugar, white carbs...
74 Hate playing? Listen to this
May 29, 2023 01:38 - 15 minutes - 14.4 MBOne of the dirty secrets of parenting that not too many mums seem willing to talk about is that sometimes parents don’t enjoy playing with their children. Or maybe they never enjoy playing and would go so far as to say they hate it. There’s a few reasons for this, and with a few tweaks the concept of ‘play’ might shift for you. *NB* that's cockatoos in the background in case you're wondering. I live in the bush, this is life! Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Angus &...
73 Coping with scary thoughts as a new parent
May 22, 2023 01:13 - 13 minutes - 12.4 MBSomething like 90% of new parents will have intrusive, scary thoughts. I'll explain what they are about, how to cope with them and a bit about what situations are expected or 'normal' and what situations would be considered problematic or a psychiatric emergency. Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Angus & Robertson Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WORLD Book Depository for UK/EUROPE Get a copy of my birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAu...
72 Can birth debriefs make trauma worse?
May 15, 2023 01:18 - 16 minutes - 14.9 MBFollowing on from last week's episode about EMDR for birth trauma I thought it would be useful to delve into birth debriefs. They've become popular, and I do offer them myself but are their practice standards? What does the research say? And, in what circumstances could they make trauma symptoms worse? You can read the accompanying blog post on EMDR for birth trauma https://doctorerin.com.au/2023/04/21/emdr-for-birth-trauma/ Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Ang...
71 EMDR for birth trauma
May 08, 2023 01:09 - 15 minutes - 14.5 MBIn this episode, I explain as best I can in lay language what EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is and how it can help process past and future births. This type of therapy is intense but it tends to work faster than exposure therapy or CBT based techniques. You can read the accompanying blog post on EMDR for birth trauma https://doctorerin.com.au/2023/04/21/emdr-for-birth-trauma/ In 2019 I interviewed Krysta Dancy about EMDR for birth trauma on the birth trauma training...
70 Which of your 5 senses are you neglecting? AND how does this relate to trauma?
May 01, 2023 00:00 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MBFour times a second your nervous system will ask "Am I SAFE?" We can find a lot of relief by using practical tools that appeal directly to our 5 senses. If I asked you - which sense do you think you've been neglecting lately? What might your answer be? Luckily, one of my favourite writers, Gretchen Rubin has developed a quiz to help you with that very question. You also get suggestions for how to cultivate that sense. Learn what my neglected sense is and how we can work with the senses i...
69 What to do while waiting for therapy
April 24, 2023 00:00 - 10 minutes - 9.87 MBRecently I was reading a book and came across some useful ideas for what to do while you're waiting for therapy or in between appointments. Usually when someone books an appointment there's been a big wave of emotions. Sometimes the emotions subside a bit while life gets in the way, sometimes we block them, sometimes we forget exactly what was happening or what we were thinking in the times when it felt intense. Writing things down to remember when you have your session helps. Having a list ...
68 Five steps to quit social media
April 17, 2023 00:00 - 13 minutes - 13.1 MBIf you want to pause or quit social media it's usually not as simple as just going cold turkey. This is what I wish I knew before I started my social media detox. some practical, measurable steps that will help get you that meaningful change you're looking for. You can find the handy guide to the steps outlined here. DASS (depression anxiety stress scale) - note this is a screening tool, not a replacement for mental health diagnosis Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Ang...
67 The science of judging part 2
April 10, 2023 00:00 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MBThis is the second part of a conversation about the science of why parents judge each other. What happens when we attribute fault to someone else based on their character (e.g, they are an idiot), but we assume people will give US the benefit of the doubt when we have our own crisis? Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Angus & Robertson Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WORLD Book Depository for UK/EUROPE Get a copy of my birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAuvf...
66 The 84 year old feminist book you need to read this Easter
April 03, 2023 00:27 - 7 minutes - 7.23 MBToday I'm sharing one of my favourite Easter books that is such a surprise and a delight. A book written 84 years ago by a white man from the deep south of the USA. Life is full of surprises. The Country Bunny and the Little Gold Shoes by Du Bose Heyward is a book that teaches children that you can be anything. That mothers are valued. That children thrive when their mothers are happy and fulfilled. That everyone in a family has a role and can contribute, no matter how small. You can wa...
65 The science of judging part 1
March 26, 2023 23:00 - 9 minutes - 9.01 MBThere is research evidence suggesting that women are judged more harshly for their decisions than men. In The gift of imperfect parenting, Brene Brown says we judge each other so harshly because most of us feel like we are barely holding on. We are afraid of making mistakes, so we perceive anyone who is doing anything differently as criticising our choices. Leaning into growth and changing behaviours that better reflect and serve your value system is huge. Applying a sense of compassionate...
64 A mindfulness check in from meet me at mikes
March 19, 2023 23:40 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MBI've been following this blog for years. I tool I've taken from Pip is the idea of taking stock. I like to recommend it because rather than sitting down and getting all stressed about goals you may or may not have met, you just take a quiet few moments to jot down where you’re at and what you’re doing right now. I’ve found it’s a nice way to sit in the moment, and later look back on the small things we easily forget. Sometimes those small things become the big things :) For a taking stock ...
63 Finding fun in the monotony of motherhood
March 13, 2023 00:19 - 10 minutes - 10.3 MBWe're told to prioritize self-care, but do we ever really hear about prioritizing fun? I'll share some lessons I've been learning in how to make motherhood more fun Catherine Price also has a book on the topic called The Power of Fun: Why Fun is the Key to a Happy and Fulfilling Life. https://amzn.to/3Sc06UR Want to be a course tester? Want to be a tester for my brand new 21 day social media detox course? You can try it for $21USD before it goes on sale to the public. Use code 21FOR21 un...
62 five habits that are making your motherhood miserable
March 05, 2023 23:00 - 15 minutes - 14.8 MBWhen I look back on my early mothering, I'm often wondering "what would I do differently? What was making me miserable then that I now have clarity on?" I came up with 5 things. Want to be a course tester? Want to be a tester for my brand new 21 day social media detox course? You can try it for $21USD before it goes on sale to the public. Use code 21FOR21 until March 21st Social Media Detox for Mums now on sale! Booktopia Angus & Robertson Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WOR...
61 That Time I was Screamed at Over a Muffin
February 26, 2023 23:00 - 9 minutes - 9.21 MBIf you've struggled with motivation and trying to change a behaviour maybe consider that laziness and willpower have nothing to do with it. Maybe you've been trying to make a style of motivation fit when it's a total mismatch to your personality? Today I'll share a tip that has really helped me understand why certain approaches (like bootcamp!) really don't work for my personality type. Take the 4 Tendencies quiz, and see if you find your 'aha!' moment You can find Gretchen’s book on the 4...
60 Scrolling and controlling anxiety
February 19, 2023 23:00 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MBThis week I jumped to hit record after a client and I pulled out some good nuggets about control. Often, when we automatically go to scroll, we’re not really there for the content (the things we watch, read and listen to). We’re there for the process and the associated feeling (numbing and subconsciously trying to control) We’re not honest with ourselves (and our therapists!) about our verbs We tell ourselves we are researching, when actually we are comparing We say we are relaxing, when ...
59 How I get out of the black hole
February 12, 2023 23:02 - 9 minutes - 8.83 MBThis is the one I recorded then deleted three times. Then I recorded it, but decided I didn’t want to publish. I went ahead and wrote a few other posts instead, and look, it would be absolutely fine if I never shared it with the world. But then it nagged at me. In reading The Tools by Phil Stutz (go watch the Netflix documentary, Stutz if you haven’t yet, it’s brilliant) and Barry Michels, a passage jumped out at me: ‘There is a way to find it [self belief]; it involves a profound secret. ...
58 The antidote to scrolling addiction - monotasking
February 05, 2023 23:00 - 9 minutes - 8.67 MBToday I share a little peak inside the 21 day social media detox course I'm working on. This activity will challenge you to try monotasking - listening to an album from beginning to end WITHOUT doing anything else at the same time. Just listening, not judging, just noticing. When I fist tried this for myself it was embarrassingly much harder than I thought it would be. The urge to pick up my phone or do something else was strong, but I think this helps us with our focus. Just one thing at a ...
57 Social Media Detox for Mums summary
January 29, 2023 23:00 - 10 minutes - 9.63 MBI attempt to summarize my new book, social media detox for mums in less than 10 minutes. A brief overview of what you can expect to find in the chapters and what I hope will be the major takeaways from this book. Pre orders for my new book, Social Media Detox for Mums is open! Booktopia (21% off) Angus & Robertson (20% off) Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WORLD Book Depository for UK/EUROPE Get a copy of my birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAuvfu If you'd like to follow a...
56 Books for slow, mindful mothering
January 22, 2023 23:00 - 18 minutes - 17.1 MBI take you through a handful of the books that have impacted me in some way along this motherhood journey. Most are not even parenting books per se - there were so many I could include, but ultimately I chose ones that inform my work and philosophy on life, and even a few that have pictures. Show notes here allows limited space, so for the full title list, head to my blog Pre orders for my new book, Social Media Detox for Mums is open! Booktopia (21% off) Angus & Robertson (20% off) Am...
55 How to work with kids around
January 15, 2023 23:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBWhen getting up earlier, staying up later, or working when kids nap isn't an option... I'm currently home with my kids for school holidays, but I've still got work to get done (I've got a book coming out afterall!). In this episode I share a little about how I've gotten things done while the kids are around. It's not perfect. It doesn't always pan out, and yes, to be honest sometimes it feels like we're back in lockdown, but hopefully these suggestions help. This podcast episode was recor...
54 Five ways to cope with overstimulation
January 08, 2023 23:00 - 14 minutes - 13.6 MB5 tools to cope with overstimulation. Brene Brown says we cannot selectively numb, and yet we still try it out multiple times a day. Even an amoeba in a petri dish will move away to avoid a toxin. We all avoid feeling pain. When we pick up our phones for a quick check or a quick scroll, it’s often to avoid pain. To distract from the overstimulation of mothering. Pre orders for my new book, Social Media Detox for Mums is open! Booktopia (21% off) Angus & Robertson (20% off) Amazon Austral...
53 Tools to stay in your body over the holidays
December 25, 2022 23:00 - 11 minutes - 10.3 MBStaying in your body and feeling grounded when you're stressed is hard! My gift to you over this holiday season is some tools to stay grounded and keep your nervous system supported. This particular episode makes more sense with the visuals, so head to my YouTube channel if you want to see me demonstrate the tools Pre orders for my new book, Social Media Detox for Mums is open! Booktopia (21% off) Angus & Robertson (20% off) Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WORLD Book Depositor...
52 A Tool to Help With Mum Rage
December 18, 2022 23:00 - 12 minutes - 12 MBIs it true that when you heal the trauma you stop some of your trauma reactions? Not necessarily! Sometimes, in addition to managing stress and dealing with out traumas, we need pattern interrupters. AKA tools to help undo some automatic behaviours. Maybe you come from a family of yellers and it's become an ingrained, automatic behaviour? As much as you want to stop, it keeps creeping in? If you've struggled with mum rage then this tool I'll share might be useful for you. Pre orders for...
51 Feeling Like You're Failing? Try This
December 12, 2022 21:58 - 13 minutes - 12.5 MBA tool to use when you're having one of those days (or many of those days!) where you just feel like you're failing at motherhood. Feeling capable and confident is a practise! Pre orders for my new book, Social Media Detox for Mums is open! Booktopia (21% off) Angus & Robertson (20% off) Amazon Australia Amazon US & REST OF THE WORLD Book Depository for UK/EUROPE Get a copy of my birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAuvfu If you'd like to follow along my slow living journey on my Y...
50 cruel optimism
December 04, 2022 23:00 - 10 minutes - 9.83 MBInstagram can be a positive experience, no doubt. However, it's also a breeding ground for toxic positivity and a cultural phenomenon that's maybe best described as cruel optimism. Today I'll explain where we blur the boundaries between Positive Psychology (a really useful, evidence based and amazing mental health movement) and toxic positivity. In other words, what happens when people tout an overly simplistic 'pom pom' shaking approach to mental health and parenting. When we say things...
49 Five Tools from Hypnobirthing I still use🖐️
November 27, 2022 23:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBMy girls have their birthdays 2 days apart so this is the time of the year I think back to their births 5 and 7 years ago. Even though I’m done with babies, I absolutely still use some of the techniques I learned and taught in Hypnobirthing. I used one of them just the other day. I thought it might be interesting to reflect on what tools I still use. If you don’t know, I used to teach Hypnobirthing through Hypnobirthing Australia and it helped with my own two traumatic births. It’s still ...
48 Busyness and Parental Burnout
November 20, 2022 23:00 - 12 minutes - 12 MBThis week I reflect on busyness and its relationship with parental (or any other kind) burnout I'll discuss: Why people look at me funny whenever I'm asked if work is "busy" and I say "No!" My history with associating being busy with being safe - family patterns, coping with school bullying, work patterns and coping as a new mum with birth trauma How my body has shown me that I'm no longer built for being busy Why we use busyness to avoid stillness and why we need stillness to grow and ...
47 do you really have ADHD or is it pandemic burnout?
November 13, 2022 23:04 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MBIn this episode I'll spend some time reflecting on an observation I've really noticed in the last 12 months - that more and more women are talking about being diagnosed with ADHD. I'll cover: How we can reflect on - what is parental burnout and/or anxiety, depression and trauma from the pandemic, versus what is ADHD? Is it possible the pandemic has highlighted underlying, undiagnosed ADHD for adult women? How common is ADHD, really? A little bit of history behind why so many adults were...
46 social media & mental health for Mums
November 06, 2022 23:00 - 28 minutes - 26.7 MBThis week I reflect on how social media impact the maintenance stage of mental health I wonder how many mums go to therapy or coaching for one hour a week. In that one hour, they work on strategies to feel better. But then, within an hour they are on Instagram scrolling for 20-plus hours before their next session. Do you see what I’m saying about how social media addiction might just be cancelling out the deep mental health work? That it might, in fact, be interrupting the process of mainte...
45 when to use distraction and when to feel your feelings?
October 30, 2022 23:00 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MBThis week I explain something that's the bread and butter of most types of therapies - when should you actually feel and process your feelings and when should you use a tool (like distraction) to just manage in the moment? I'll cover: What is 'urge surfing'? When does distraction NOT work very well? Validating the experience of having a child who is upset and just isn't calming down with your usual bag of tricks Thinking about when is it safe to feel feelings I'll share an anecdote ...
44 Pay attention to these 4 stressors before you pick up your phone
October 23, 2022 23:37 - 12 minutes - 11.6 MBToday I share an acronym that's used in addiction recovery and why I think it's a helpful prompt to put as a visual on the lock screen of your phone. I'll cover: Noticing what your body is telling you about internal stress cues It's human to want to distract or get rid of pain Reflecting on your own experience of connection versus communication and are you actually topped up by using your phone? What could you do instead? Get a copy of my birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAuvfu If y...
43 when to rest and when to push
October 16, 2022 23:00 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MBThis week I reflect back on how much early motherhood takes out of us, and how it can be so hard to figure out when to keep going and when to rest How the first 5 years of parenting often coincides with the first 5 years of a new business for many mums. Working on your business versus working on your Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs isn't something we're taught at school How it can feel like the world forgets how exhausting motherhood is. We are expected to parent like we don't have a job, yet ...
42 why can't I be the mum I want to be?
October 11, 2022 00:26 - 7 minutes - 7.1 MBIn this episode, I talk about shame, should-ing all over yourself and the stuff that stops us from being the Mum we want to be I talk briefly about: How shame doesn't change behaviour An acronym to reflect on how shame feels What happens when you open your mouth and your mother/grandmother comes out How we can cope with the shame that gets triggered from our kids and our parenting reactions Creating your own legacy for the ancestor you want to be It's deliberately short so you can dig...
41 If you're still feeling overwhelmed, listen to this
October 06, 2022 03:22 - 12 minutes - 12.1 MBI've been noticing myself and other people using the word "still" quite frequently. As in "still" tired, "still" overwhelmed. As if we somehow have an internalized belief that we shouldn't be feeling this way. Rather than judging ourselves, I wonder what would happen if we stopped adding the word "still" before our emotional experiences? My birth trauma book: https://amzn.to/3cAuvfu If you'd like to follow along my slow living journey on my YouTube channel I also send a weekly email a...
40 How I Wrote a Book While Jiggling a Baby in a Carrier
September 21, 2022 00:44 - 15 minutes - 14.5 MBI'm often asked how on earth I managed to write and publish my first book when I still had a baby and a 2 year old. Today, I'll take you through my messy mother's writer's routine and how I wrote More Than a Healthy Baby: Finding Strength and Growth After Birth Trauma. This was a book that just had to come out of me! and no, I didn't get up at 5AM or sacrifice any precious sleep to get it done. I'll take you through: How to take the pressure off and maybe rethink what it actually means ...
39 why Decluttering is Like Mini Therapy
September 13, 2022 01:39 - 12 minutes - 11.4 MBIf you struggle to practice self-compassion, know you're not alone! In this episode I talk about: Why telling Mums "don't worry about the mess!" can be invalidating How buying my kids stuff from Kmart to get a dopamine hit through lockdowns was OK. How it's also OK to move that stuff along now, along with all the gifts family wanted to give them after not seeing them for a while. Normalising mum rage Why clutter can be triggering for childhood wounds. I talk about my own ancestral pa...
38 Ten things to slow down mum life
September 06, 2022 02:27 - 15 minutes - 14.6 MB10 things to help slow down life. Some of these things are mental health specific tips, others are things I'd write in a letter to 'past Me'. Lessons, things I wish I did differently. As always, these are not rules or things one must live by! It will be different for everyone. These are just things that helped me.
37 Five handy mental health tools for Mums
August 29, 2022 00:59 - 12 minutes - 11.6 MBToday I'll teach you a great tool for remembering 5 easy mental health tools. Things you can count on when you're overwhelmed or stressed. I've used this in therapy for years, and when I used to teach hypnobirthing this was probably the most popular and useful tool I taught birth partners!
36 What We Do in the Shadows
August 25, 2022 01:48 - 8 minutes - 8.25 MBShould we be just 'be positive?' Or is there space to normalise and talk about secret, shameful, hidden behaviours? Many of us have been indoctrinated into an idea that engaging with shadow is not something 'nice girls' are supposed to do. There are also massive fears for Mums who have negative thoughts about what it means if you're drawn towards reading horrific news or watching violent crime shows. What are some of the reasons our brains drift towards finding negative content engaging? ...
35 Quick Nervous System Reset
August 15, 2022 22:34 - 5 minutes - 5.01 MBA super quick, easy technique to reset your nervous system. Directed eye movements to calm the vagus nerve. Note, you can be lying down or seated for this, but not driving!
34 the movie I'd love you to watch
August 09, 2022 00:04 - 10 minutes - 9.97 MBBlack mothers in the Bronx are still 12 times more likely to die in childbirth than white women For more information about the film, visit: https://www.aftershockdocumentary.com My interview with Bruce McIntyre Save a Rose foundation My book: More Than a Healthy Baby: Finding strength and growth after birth trauma
33 Can't Relax When You Ditch Your Phone? It's Not Your Fault
August 01, 2022 01:23 - 8 minutes - 8 MBSo you've tried using your phone less and you're left antsy, fidgety and generally not feeling as calm as you tell yourself you should? You're not alone! While the idea of using your phone less is a good one, it's still a huge change and there's not enough conversation around what happens to your brain when you make a huge change like this. Why you can't stop checking and looking for rewards, reassurance, and validation Why talking about will power and self-control is too simplistic and ...
32 Wellness Fatigue and the American Psycho Test
July 25, 2022 00:36 - 10 minutes - 9.52 MBBeating yourself up for not drinking 2 liters of water a day, doing yoga every morning, journaling for 30 minutes, making green smoothies with $40 lettuces, intermittent fasting, knowing if you should be doing HITT or lifting weights, never sitting down unless you’re meditating…? It’s all a bit exhausting Rhythms and routines are good if they help you, but notice if they feel restrictive or something you use to punish yourself? I'll teach you a trick I use to decide if a morning routine is...
31 The Void Between Distraction & Rest
July 17, 2022 23:59 - 11 minutes - 10.4 MBSo many of us are spending our days switching between distraction and rest. Where is the middle? Without a 'middle state' (positive goals and finding a flow state) we will just drift back to distraction again and again and again. We seek escape from distraction by crashing. We cope with a day of overload by collapsing in front of the tv or scrolling because our brains are fried from over stimulation and the idea of 'doing' anything with effort seems too much. But if you only break away from ...