009: How to Stop People-Pleasing with Jason Goldberg
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English - November 16, 2016 11:00 - 46 minutes - 43.2 MB - ★★★★★ - 12 ratingsCareers Business Health & Fitness motivation purpose satisfaction success Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
People pleasing: Why do we do it? How do we stop it? When we focus on pleasing others as a way of life, we can attract “takers” and have wrong motivations for our actions. People-pleasing has become somewhat of an epidemic, and its ramifications can be long-reaching. If you’ve gotten into the cycle of having bad feelings while trying to make others happy, you might be a people-pleaser, and today’s episode is a must-listen!
Today’s guest, Jason Goldberg (better known to his friends as “JG”), is a transformational speaker, coach, trainer, and the best-selling author of Prison Break: Vanquish the Victim, Own Your Obstacles, and Lead Your Life. He’s also the founder of the Not-So-Serious University. He shares his insights on people-pleasing (and what you can do about it).
Some of the topics we’ll talk about today include:
Why we should examine our motivations for wanting to please others, and how we can discern whether we actually want to bring joy to someone else, or just get others to like us or validate our opinions and “wholeness.” Willingness vs. worthiness: Why one is self-indulgent and the other is about service to others. How “winning by whining” and humor can both be therapeutic and effective ways to deal with stress and boost creativity. Why boundaries are important when it comes to people-pleasing. You can be loving and also say “no.” What you can do if you realize that you’re in people-pleaser mode, and how to prevent getting there in the first place. The best advice JG has ever received, a skill that he wishes he had, and what he does to snap out of it when he’s feeling irritated or annoyed.Links and Resources:
If you have enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe to our weekly inspiration email list and leave us a review on iTunes.
Quotes by Jason:
“When I people-please, the motivation is murky.”
“Creativity is greater than circumstance.”
“Brick walls are meant to keep people out. Boundaries are meant to keep people in.”
People pleasing: Why do we do it? How do we stop it? When we focus on pleasing others as a way of life, we can attract “takers” and have wrong motivations for our actions. People-pleasing has become somewhat of an epidemic, and its ramifications can be long-reaching. If you’ve gotten into the cycle of having bad feelings while trying to make others happy, you might be a people-pleaser, and today’s episode is a must-listen!
Today’s guest, Jason Goldberg (better known to his friends as “JG”), is a transformational speaker, coach, trainer, and the best-selling author of Prison Break: Vanquish the Victim, Own Your Obstacles, and Lead Your Life. He’s also the founder of the Not-So-Serious University. He shares his insights on people-pleasing (and what you can do about it).
Some of the topics we’ll talk about today include:
Why we should examine our motivations for wanting to please others, and how we can discern whether we actually want to bring joy to someone else, or just get others to like us or validate our opinions and “wholeness.” Willingness vs. worthiness: Why one is self-indulgent and the other is about service to others. How “winning by whining” and humor can both be therapeutic and effective ways to deal with stress and boost creativity. Why boundaries are important when it comes to people-pleasing. You can be loving and also say “no.” What you can do if you realize that you’re in people-pleaser mode, and how to prevent getting there in the first place. The best advice JG has ever received, a skill that he wishes he had, and what he does to snap out of it when he’s feeling irritated or annoyed.Links and Resources:
If you have enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe to our weekly inspiration email list and leave us a review on iTunes.
Quotes by Jason:
“When I people-please, the motivation is murky.”
“Creativity is greater than circumstance.”
“Brick walls are meant to keep people out. Boundaries are meant to keep people in.”