Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD
295 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 19 hours ago - ★★★★★ - 29 ratingsProductivity, Parenting, and Education for Moms with Adult ADHD
Are you overwhelmed by the never-ending to do list of motherhood? Are you burnt out and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy? And somehow you're still floundering despite trying even harder...
Your purse is as overflowing as your mind, you never feel like a good enough mom, and you don't dare have anyone over to visit to witness your messy home. You just want the best for your kids, but you can't figure out how to manage the chaos, both in your mind and in your house.
Oh, I've been there, mama. Some days, I'm still there. Parenting with ADHD is hard!
We want to be structured for our kids, yet we can't seem to stay consistent even for ourselves. But I'm letting go of everyone else's perception of a "good mom" and stepping into loving who I am a little more each day. Will you join me?
Whether you have ADHD like I do, or think you might, here is your permission slip to let go of the pinterest worthy visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life: creatively, lovingly, and with all your might. Moms with ADHD have a superpower of always trying their best, even when it doesn't pan out.
How do I know? I have known about my ADD for over twenty years, and I want to share all of this hard-earned ADHD knowledge with you, making your adjustment a lot easier and faster than mine was.
What does Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder look like in women? We'll dive into emotional regulation, motivation, executive function, hormones, medication, and natural treatments. Women with ADHD share their diagnosis stories with us, whether inattentive, hyperactive or combined, from childhood through adult diagnoses. We also talk about ADHD's so-called friends like depression, anxiety, addiction, disordered eating, other learning differences, and what I've learned through therapy and CBT.
Science is my jam and learning about how our brains work through the lens of scientific research helps us understand who we are. ADHD is not just for little boys; it looks different in girls.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a neurological medical condition, not an excuse for lazy, stupid, unmotivated people to not live up to our potential. Let's agree to throw that thought in the trash.
Once we understand how our brains work, we can dive into the practical strategies like structuring our day, minimalism, money, nurturing our relationships, daily rhythms, using a planner, and improving our sleep. I want to help you build your version of a joyful family life.
We talk about everything from ADHD to Zebras, because that is how Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder works: to us, our thoughts are clearly connected, but non-linear to everyone else. I want you to love being a zebra in a world full of horses. We were born as unique, gorgeous creatures, not meant to blend in with the usual nor mundane.
When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live out lives successfully and in turn, lead our families well.
At the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. Spoiler alert: you are already a great mom.
If you're ready to see that with your own two eyes, hit play and listen in as we love ourselves a little more each day of our ADHD lives. ADHD does NOT mean you're doomed to be a hot mess, mama!
You CAN rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story, and I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on!
With love, Patricia Sung, a fellow mama with ADHD
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E222: Constantly Feel Like You’re Behind? 4 Reasons Why
April 18, 2024 14:20 - 12 minutes - 28.5 MBWhat “should” you have done already? Finish your degree? Pass your driver’s license test? Make that doctor’s appt? Left the house for school pickup? If you’re constantly thinking “I’m behind!”, this episode is for you. Often it’s literal, as in, “I’m 20 minutes late to my appointment!” But it’s also in the big things, like you “should” have more kids by now or gotten that promotion. You’re not alone! Feeling behind has come up in several discussions recently both in m...
E221: Why Do I Get Frustrated So Easily? ADHD Meltdowns & Mood Swings in Adults
April 11, 2024 14:00 - 15 minutes - 36.4 MBDo you ever feel like an emotional sponge, absorbing the feelings of others around you? Especially when you’re with someone you care about? Especially when you’re in certain parts of your cycle? Extra especially when they are agitated, frustrated, angry, or anxious? In this episode, we dive deep into understanding emotional regulation, stress management, and the unique challenges faced by moms with ADHD. From absorbing everyone else's emotions to navigating the stress ladder, we'll e...
E220: Spending Money on Yourself Guilt-free! Plus How to Talk to Your Partner about the Budget
April 04, 2024 14:00 - 30 minutes - 69.4 MBSometimes you need a reminder that it’s okay to spend a little money on yourself, especially when the guilt of the last 3 wasteful impulse buys are still weighing on you. In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, we're diving headfirst into why self-care is NOT selfish. I want you to know that putting yourself on the budget’s priority list is worth it - without guilt creeping in and talking yourself out of it before you ever get that much deserved break. Often that guilt (or fear of somethi...
E219: Parenting a Struggling Child with ADHD: Where to Start When Your Kid is in Crisis
March 28, 2024 13:23 - 25 minutes - 57.4 MBWatching your child struggle is pretty much the worst. Not knowing what to do about it is more than icing on the doo-doo cake. I've got your back, mama! In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I dive into the rollercoaster of emotions and challenges of parenting a struggling child. When your child needs help, but you don’t know where to begin, this episode is for you. From dealing with overwhelming chaos to understanding the unique dynamics in a family affected by ADHD, here are my key ti...
E218: Finding Calm in the Chaos: Holiday Self-Care Tips
December 07, 2023 12:00 - 34 minutes - 78.6 MBIt’s here again… that awful feeling: I’m behind. You swore this year you’d print those adorable Christmas cards with your family’s smiling faces in front of a glowing tree, but it’s December and you haven’t even started. Your friends are sending you theirs, and just seeing them makes you feel guilty. You’re scrambling to shop for presents online, wondering how you’re going to fit it into your budget. And that damn elf on the shelf? Hasn’t moved for days. Mama, the holidays ar...
E217: Friendships & ADHD: Ghosting, Awkwardness and More with Social Skills Expert Caroline Maguire
November 30, 2023 12:00 - 1 hour - 143 MBEver feel like making friends is a puzzle you can't quite solve? You're not alone, mama! In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, we unpack the nuances of friendship with our guest Caroline Maguire. Caroline is a leader in social skills development and the author of the book, “Why Will No One Play With Me?” – a handbook on how to communicate social skills training for your kids… and yourself! If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD impacts how you make and keep friends, this episode is f...
E216: What I Wish I Knew Before Taking ADHD Medication: Your Questions Answered! Best Of Series
November 23, 2023 12:00 - 40 minutes - 92.5 MBHow do you feel when you think about taking ADHD medication? Nervous? Hopeful? Overwhelmed? The process of obtaining and finding the right medication can feel like A LOT. First, you have to approach the subject with your doctor (who may or may not be well-informed about ADHD) -- and then there is finding the right type and dosing of medication, dealing with potential side effects, and the whole process of trial and error. It never goes perfectly. But it can go more smoothly -- wh...
E215: I Don’t Know What Else To Do! 5 Ways to Find Fresh Solutions When You Feel Stuck and Hopeless in the Same Old Frustrating Problems
November 16, 2023 12:00 - 26 minutes - 59.7 MB“I’ve tried everything!” When you’re dealing with a particularly frustrating problem that’s gone on for years, like parenting your exasperating child, looking for relief from a chronic health issue, or advocating for your child struggling at school, you start to run out of energy AND optimism. When you’ve got a situation that feels hopeless… When you’ve run out of ideas… When you’ve looked under every rock and barked up every tree… Should you just give up? Sigh. Except you RE...
E214: Parenting Lessons from Bad Bosses: When Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) affects our Parenting and Partners
November 09, 2023 13:00 - 24 minutes - 55.8 MBWhat’s your story of working under an unqualified or unsupportive boss? I’m sharing a few of my terrible boss experiences. But today’s episode is not just about the bad bosses in the workplace. As a parent, we often feel underqualified. You don’t want to be a “bad boss”, but no one handed you an instruction manual when your children arrived! What do you do when you don’t know what to do? When you don’t feel sure of your choices, it starts to seep into your confidence level. Rejection...
E213: ADHD Junk Drawer: I Read My Bad Reviews, Late Diagnosis Grief, and When You Forget to Take Your ADHD Medication
November 02, 2023 23:00 - 34 minutes - 78 MBWhat does the inside of your kitchen junk drawer look like? And why is it always in the kitchen? We all have a random smattering of ideas laying around and today I’m sharing a few that wouldn’t necessarily make a whole episode in and of themselves, so I’m combining these random thoughts rattling around my brain into one Junk Drawer episode. First, we cover a few questions around ADHD medications with some crowdsourced helpful tips on how to find medicine with shortages happening ev...
E212: Should I Become a Mom if I Have ADHD? How Pregnancy Influences ADHD and How to Treat Your ADHD when Pregnant with Therapist and Mom-to-Be Candin Phillips
October 19, 2023 21:17 - 55 minutes - 126 MB“Should I become a mom if I have ADHD?” Here’s an episode you’ve been asking for - pregnancy and ADHD! You ask me so many questions around pregnancy friendly symptoms management, ADHD medication while pregnant, and the big question of should I even have kids if I can’t take care of myself??? It’s been almost 6 years since I was pregnant, so I called in a friend who’s in the thick of it. Today’s guest is Candin Phillips of Humanity Hive. Candin is a licensed therapist with over ten ye...
E211: The Power of Community: 5 Things I Learned From Hanging Out With ADHD Moms This Weekend
October 12, 2023 18:15 - 14 minutes - 13.6 MBWhen you’re dreaming about taking time for yourself, does that nudge (or wave) of guilt make you pause? Today, I’m reflecting on 5 things I learned this weekend while I hung out with many of you. This past weekend was my ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat and we had a blast! It was soo soo good and I didn’t want it to end! We rested, we ate hot food, and we focused on ourselves. One of the things we all discussed was how refreshing it was to be the most important person on the agenda, and t...
E210: I'm Sorry, I Forgot! Please Don't Be Mad At Me...It Was My ADHD
October 05, 2023 11:00 - 22 minutes - 51.1 MBAppointments, birthdays, permission slips, library books, names, the one thing you went into the store for… In today's episode, I delve into one of the most frustrating features of ADHD: forgetting important things. From my personal experiences of forgetting to pick up THE ONE THING that my husband had requested while I went backpacking through Spain to missing my child's swim lesson due to a mix-up in scheduling, we’ll explore the guilt and shame that often accompany these forgetful mo...
E209: Cleaning Up You and Your Child's Mental Mess: Lies You’ve Been Told About Your ADHD Brain, Building Habits, and Finding Mental Peace with Dr. Caroline Leaf
September 28, 2023 11:00 - 1 hour - 144 MBOh, the lies you’ve been told about your brain… Today’s guest challenges the traditional description of ADHD, viewing it not as a disorder, but as a unique collection of traits that showcase different ways of thinking and experiencing emotions. Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist, audiologist, and clinical and cognitive neuroscientist specializing in psychoneurobiology and metacognitive neuropsychology. Her passion is to help people see the power of the mind to change the b...
E208: Live Coaching: How to Stop Yelling at Your Family with Successful Mama Meetup Member Jess
September 21, 2023 11:00 - 30 minutes - 69.1 MBWhen you want to help your kid, but you’re triggered yourself, it’s really hard to show as the mom you want to be. Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often. We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. Giving you the confidence that you can ch...
E207: Angry Moms Unite! How to Stop Yelling at Your Family: Behind the Scenes Peek into Successful Mama Meetups
September 14, 2023 11:00 - 22 minutes - 50.6 MBDid you spew angry volcano-vomit on your family today? Or yesterday? Or right before this, which is why you’re listening to this episode right now? IYKYK. Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often. We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. G...
E206: Lots of Ideas and No Action: When You're Too Tired to Plan or Do the Plan and Need an ADHD Energy Recharge
September 07, 2023 17:01 - 30 minutes - 70.1 MBYou want to grab dinner with your best friend… You want to do that cool volcano science project with your 4 year old… You want to snuggle on the couch with your partner and watch a movie… But you also need sleep. You feel like the worst friend, daughter, mom, partner, when you promise to do something and then cancel plans at the last minute because you don’t have the energy to do it when the time comes around. You’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, and at capacity on top of the gu...
E205: Emotional Sponges: How to Stop Absorbing Other People's Feelings by Defining Your Boundaries and Building Your Emotional Regulation Tools - A Behind the Scenes Look into my Small Group ADHD Coaching Program Lighthouse
September 05, 2023 14:42 - 45 minutes - 104 MBWhen your child charges in the room raging or super sour, how do you react? Do you immediately tense up, knowing that the battle is about to begin? When your spouse arrives home, do you listen to the noises they make outside the door to prepare yourself if they’ve had a rough day at work? Does your stomach fall into the pit of your stomach, because you know the rest of the night is ruined? For most of my life, someone else’s bad mood would ruin my mood. Every time. And I hated it...
E204: Are You a Good Mom? The Gift of Presence in Joyful or Joyless Motherhood
August 31, 2023 12:48 - 19 minutes - 43.8 MBHow many times have you questioned whether you are a “good mom”? In the last 2 months, I’ve asked myself this at least 4000 times. This summer did not go as expected which made me doubt if I’m being a good mom. Am I spending enough time with my boys? Am I putting my phone down and paying attention when they talk? Am I making my kids a priority over endless stress and anxious thoughts swirling around my head? Here’s some wise advice I received recently from an older, more experienc...
E203: Create the Calm: Lesser Known and Underappreciated Ways to Reduce Stress as a Mom with ADHD
August 24, 2023 17:40 - 30 minutes - 70.3 MBAre you juggling 6,358 things? If life’s been a little too much today or in general, let’s talk. I’m hanging on for dear life as things get next-level chaotic over here in the Sung house… And I haven’t lost my ish on anyone yet! *celebration* Last year, I couldn’t have said that. I would have yelled at kids or my spouse or both, felt awful about it, and then hid under my covers and as I sunk into shame and guilt. But this year is different. I’m prioritizing different things, an...
E202: The Same Fight Again: How to Improve Your Romantic Relationship When it's Impacted by ADHD with Melissa Orlov
August 17, 2023 11:00 - 45 minutes - 105 MB“My partner says I’m using my ADHD as an excuse. They’re not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!” You shared your relationship struggles and you’re not the only one! Today’s guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don’t understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners. We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphori...
E201: Practice Makes Progress, Not Perfect: ADHD and Perfectionism from the Journey With Me Through ADHD Podcast with Guest Host Katelyn Mabry - Best of Friends Series
August 10, 2023 05:30 - 17 minutes - 40.2 MBHow do you explain ADHD to your child? Start with the Journey with Me Through ADHD, a podcast for kids. Katelyn’s humongous heart for helping kids understand their ADHD is contagious! She knows just how to explain tough or complicated stuff in a digestible manner so kids can feel confident and empowered. Katelyn speaks straight into the heart and mind of kids with ADHD. Helping them learn and understand the way their brain is wired differently and come up with tools and strategies that...
E200: Understanding ADHD in Neurodiverse Kids and Their Parents from the On The Hard Days Podcast with Guest Host Megan Champion - Best of Friends Series
August 03, 2023 05:30 - 1 hour - 202 MBHave you ever hated your own child? While you may not want to say it out loud, sometimes parenting is just. so. hard. that this burning hatred overtakes you in a fiery blaze. And when your child is extra… extra needy, extra sensitive, extra different, extra angry, extra aggressive, extra anything, the usual parenting advice doesn’t work. Maybe you feel like a failure or a terrible mom. Meet Megan Champion, who started her podcast as a “regular mom” who needed to know she was not alon...
E199: Feeling the Rage before your Period? Beyond PMS: Symptoms & Treatment for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) with Heidi Hogarth (Part 1) - Best of Friends Series
July 27, 2023 05:30 - 30 minutes - 70.3 MBWhen you've got PMS on steroids, the rage and depression are exponential. Ever hear of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder? They call it PMDD for short, and it's a very real and serious hormonal disorder that affects up to 10% of women! And it’s much more common when paired with ADHD. Symptoms include things like mood swings (aka rage attacks), sadness, anxiety, hopelessness, depression, and even severe panic attacks. Many women with PMDD are either extremely tired or have bouts of insom...
E198: What Moms with ADHD Really Need to Know from the Making the Invisible VISIBLE Podcast with Guest Host Christina Crowe - Best of Friends Series
July 20, 2023 05:30 - 1 hour - 56.6 MBWhen your ADHD is invisible, we can start to feel like maybe we’re making it up… Maybe you aren’t really struggling more than others… Errrrrrrt. Stop that. Today we’re talking to Christina Crowe about how to make the Invisible Visible. Because ADHD is real even when you can’t SEE its impact on everything. I love Christina’s super practical way of explaining the hard stuff, as well as how she always links her information back to real research and science. In this episode, Christina a...
E197 : Coping with ADHD as a Mom from The Balanced Parent Podcast with Guest Host Laura Froyen, PhD - Best of Friends Series
July 13, 2023 05:30 - 48 minutes - 110 MBWhen was the last time your ADHD affected your kids and you were kicking yourself for it? While you get frustrated enough that your ADHD affects your own life, it's 100 times worse when it hurts your kids. Meet my friend, Laura Froyen, PhD. Laura and I connected over our mutual love for advocating for kids. Her take on gentle parenting is refreshing and doable. In this episode, Laura and I chat about how to deal with ADHD as a mom on her podcast, The Balanced Parent Podcast, where she h...
E196: Symptoms of Inattentive ADHD or Just Your Quirky Personality - What does adult ADHD look like in women - Best Of Series
July 06, 2023 18:54 - 50 minutes - 115 MB“Is this an ADHD thing?” This question comes up a lot! It’s hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren’t the only one struggling with something. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfortable in knowing how ADHD shows up in women in real life. Included in this episode is a ...
E195: Good Moms Play with Their Kids Like This and Why Sticker Charts are ADHD Hell from the Badass Moms Podcast with Guest Host Kelly Donahue - Best of Friends Series
June 29, 2023 05:30 - 52 minutes - 121 MBDo you feel like motherhood’s been kind of a raw deal? Meet my friend Kelly Donahue, founder of Badass Moms. Kelly and I were in the same Integrative Life Coach certification course and I fell in love with her spunky spirit and gentle tough love. She just launched her podcast earlier this year, talking to women who found their fun and let go of the impossible “selfless mother” standard we were raised with. If you’re ready to ask for what you want, have more fun, and dismantle internali...
E194: ADHD, Food & Chronic Illness from The Adulting With ADHD Podcast with Guest Host Sarah Synder - Best of Friends Series
June 22, 2023 13:58 - 24 minutes - 55 MB“Why didn’t anyone tell me that years ago?!?” Perhaps you’ve asked that question at least 542 times along your ADHD journey. IYKYK Sarah Snyder and I met a while back and immediately hit it off in chatting about the nitty gritty of ADHD - all those lesser known symptoms, connections, and themes around ADHD. You know, all the things about your ADHD you wish someone had told you years ago. I first joined her on her podcast, Adulting with ADHD, a few years back to talk about pregnancy and...
E193: How to Attract Clients and Stand Out While Living Out Your Mission as a Mom Entrepreneur from the Nothing for Granted Podcast with Guest Host Sloan Echavarria - Best Of Friends Series
June 15, 2023 05:30 - 47 minutes - 110 MBWhat does your “It Mom” Era look like? What do you believe in your It Mom era? How do you carry yourself? How do you trust yourself? Meet Sloan Echavarria, also known as Sloan the Beast. As a modern entrepreneur, Latina Video creator, and Mom of 4, Sloan helps busy mom CEOs create their unique work/life balance as they curate a life they are obsessed with- without compromises! She is unapologetically herself, and I’m so proud to call her my friend. We’ve been podcast buddies for the la...
E192: What are the symptoms of ADHD in women? When and How to get an Adult ADHD diagnosis with Psychiatrist Dr. Sasha Hamdani - Best Of Friends Series
June 08, 2023 05:30 - 43 minutes - 99.5 MBWhat does your ADHD look like? Does it look like impulsiveness, hyperactivity and the irresistible urge to fidget – the signs we constantly hear about in men and boys? Or does it look more like forgetting to put on deodorant or brush your teeth, trouble keeping track of all your kid’s appointments, absent-mindedly twirling your hair, or excessive talking when you get excited? (If you’ve ever gotten “talks too much” on your report card as a kid, you know what I mean!) ADHD can look ...
E191: Finding Faith & Knowing Your Worth: My Perspective on Being a Christian with ADHD
June 01, 2023 05:30 - 32 minutes - 73.8 MBAvoid religion and politics! While that’s usually great advice, today I’m not following it. Many mamas have asked me to do this episode for at least a year and I didn’t feel qualified. So I did what any good ADHD-er does, and procrastinated on this episode, ha! Until my conversation with Laura Matteson on Episode 183...I knew it was time. My faith is a big part of who I am, why I started this podcast, and how I make my choices. So I’m sharing my story: my childhood and my past, my ...
E190: Guilt Around Spending Money or Time on Yourself? 3 Steps to Overcoming Mom Guilt!
May 25, 2023 05:30 - 24 minutes - 56.3 MBGoldfish crackers are not lunch. Are you only giving yourself the bare minimum leftovers of everything: scraps of time, energy and money? Today, we're talking about something that most moms can relate to: mom guilt. We’ll give up anything and everything in order for our kids to have more. We want to feel strong, confident, and happy as mothers, but sometimes the pressures of keeping up all.the.things. can feel overwhelming. You need breaks before you break. Why do you feel guilty? A...
E189: Finding Support as an ADHD Mom: Cultivating Real-Life Friendships & Prioritizing Yourself
May 18, 2023 05:30 - 21 minutes - 50.3 MBWho’s in your support circle? Moms often put ourselves at the bottom of the list, including friendships and how we surround ourselves with support. Yet, you need support just as much as your children do. You need real-life connections. You deserve rest and down time. Cuz here’s the truth: we can’t regulate our own emotions when we’re burnt out, worn down, and feeling alone. And when we can’t regulate ourselves, guess who else isn’t regulated while hitching a ride on your struggle bu...
E188: Mental Wellness + Amaze-Ability: How her life was changed by her late ADHD Diagnosis with “The MD with ADHD” Psychiatrist Dr. Dawn Kamilah Brown
May 11, 2023 05:30 - 52 minutes - 121 MBWhen were you diagnosed with ADHD? In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, Dr. Dawn Kamilah Brown, “The MD with ADHD” joins us to share her advice on what to ask and disclose during your ADHD diagnosis appointment. She also explains what she wishes everyone knew about what’s next after leaving their ADHD diagnosis appointment. We cover the value of a full spectrum care plan: including your doctor, therapist, coaching, behavior management, medicine, ADHD-friendly strategies, and mental w...
E187: I Hate Vacations! How To Improve Transitions for ADHD: What To Do When The Days After Your Trip Feel Like Torture
May 04, 2023 15:35 - 29 minutes - 67.2 MBAfter your family trip is over, do you look more like Clark Griswald than the refreshed luminescent being you were hoping for? The trip was wonderful while you were there, but why is it SUCH a rocky ride with grumpy kids and a tired mom for an entire week afterwards? Transitions are difficult for ADHD, and coming back from a trip doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable emergency landing back into real life. Today I’m sharing my proactive plan for easing back into real life after a vacation...
E186: Are you a 2 AM Suitcase Stuffer? My ADHD-Friendly Vacation Packing Plan
April 27, 2023 16:30 - 25 minutes - 59.4 MBWhen it’s time to leave on a trip, are you up at 2 AM stuffing random clothing in your suitcase because half of your clothes are still in the washer and you’re so delirious, you forget your underwear? That was me up until about a year ago. But this year’s spring break trip, I had everything packed and ready to go before 9 PM. Can you even picture it??? Today I’m sharing my system for packing for a vacation or trip that works for my ADHD brain. Plus I’ve put together my Kids’ ADHD...
E185: Dream Vacation or Nightmare Holiday? How to Plan a Vacation When You Have ADHD, plus what to do when it's your first solo trip without kids
April 20, 2023 23:50 - 22 minutes - 52.7 MBWhen it’s time to plan a trip, do you feel less like a blissful honeymooner and more like Tom Hanks in Castaway? And you haven’t even left yet… Look, you know you’ll love the vacation when you’re on it, but getting ready for a trip is mostly ADHD hell. Planning, organizing, packing, thinking forward in time, blech. And yet, you want to make great family memories that your kids look back on and reminisce, so what’s a mom to do? Today I’m sharing my system for planning a vacation or ...
E184: Sweet Dreams! How to Fall Asleep Faster and Go to Bed Earlier as a Mom with ADHD
April 14, 2023 03:38 - 34 minutes - 78.7 MBAre you listening to this podcast at 1:30 AM while rage cleaning your kitchen? …when you “should” be sleeping? Ask me how I know. Sleep issues often go hand in hand with ADHD. In today’s episode, I’m sharing what’s working for me to fall asleep quickly and go to bed earlier. But it doesn’t include all that stuff you’ve heard a million times before and roll your eyes at. (I’m looking at you, “consistent bedtime.”) Sure, we know that’s all helpful stuff, but as moms, we have a differe...
E183: More Than Chore Charts: How to use visual communication to connect with your ADHD child and yourself, even if you're not creative with Laura Matteson
April 06, 2023 15:32 - 49 minutes - 114 MB“The only reason why someone might not like a visual checklist is if they don't understand what the task is. So that's where a demonstration might be needed. Or they feel like it's too hard, in which case you can break up that into even more mini tasks.” –Laura Matteson Notice how Laura takes the shame and responsibility off the learner when they are stuck. This is my kind of mama and teacher! Our guest today, fellow ADHD mom, Laura Matteson, shares with us how to use visual strategies ...
E182: How I Overcame RSD and Saved My Marriage (and stopped being a yelling, angry mom)
March 31, 2023 02:27 - 35 minutes - 33.8 MBWhat’s your most shameful secret you’re hiding in your closet of skeletons? Today I’m sharing one of mine: the way I had been treating my family. It was… not good. Correction, it was a poop show. This time last year, I was overwhelmed by life and I had lost my joy. I was secretly an angry mom who yelled every time I got frustrated. I was a closet doom spiral-er who was ready to fight at every comment from my husband. Because of it, lies like “you’re a terrible mother” and “my ...
E181: Fear of Failure as a Mom with ADHD? The Truth About Being Consistent vs. Persistent
March 23, 2023 05:00 - 26 minutes - 60.4 MBConsistency is not a requirement for success, even though a lot of people will tell you otherwise. You are not them. You’re a mom with ADHD. You have tiny humans that are not predictable. You have hormones and a cyclical nature. Perhaps your gift is persistence. What can you do with that? A whole lot. Let’s talk about being successful with ADHD in ways that do NOT require consistency. Discover the step-by-step process that’ll take you from Hot Mess Express to Time Manage...
E180: Following the Wrong Leader: Are You Choosing Wisely for your ADHD Family?
March 16, 2023 06:00 - 22 minutes - 51 MBEver follow a friend's advice only to realize that it was never gonna work for you? They meant well, but all you got was frustration and heartache. Who do you look to for guidance on your ADHD? When you want to learn how to swim, you choose a swim instructor who knows what it’s like to be in the water. Are you looking for someone on dry land to give you swim instructions? When you have ADHD, comparing yourself to anyone who doesn’t have ADHD is a surefire recipe for low self-este...
E179: Is ADHD a Superpower? Focusing on the Strengths of ADHD without Toxic Positivity
March 09, 2023 06:00 - 24 minutes - 56.7 MBIt only took me 41 years, but I finally found a type of time that ADHD is not only compatible with, but excels at. What else are we great at? What are the strengths of ADHD? There’s a long list. AND you can feel like having ADHD makes your life really difficult at the same time. Both can be true. But is ADHD a superpower? Is it the thing that makes you amazing, superhuman, and destined for greatness? Or is ADHD as a superpower simply another toxic positivity trope designed to ign...
E178: Is it ADHD Hypersensitivity or Sensory Overload? Using Interoception and Somatics to Listen to and Connect with Your Body with Elizabeth Brink and Anna Lopez
March 02, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 59.3 MBWhen you don’t realize that you’re frustrated until after you’re yelling at your entire family… When you don’t notice you have to pee until it’s an emergency… When you don’t catch that you’ve been thirsty for hours… It’s embarrassing, frustrating, or both when you don’t feel like you’re in control of your own body. Struggling with your interoception is an everyday occurrence for people with ADHD. How can you strengthen your awareness and tune into your body’s cues so that you feel mo...
E177: Lost at Sea with ADHD: Stop Floundering through Life while Drowning
February 23, 2023 17:16 - 18 minutes - 43.8 MBWhen you live on the water, you need different things: Sturdier, waterproof supplies. Hurricane-proof windows. Lots of rope to tie down your things. Life at sea is rough on the merchandise. Are you prepared for the storms? Are you ready for the incoming tide? Or are you drowning while everyone around you asks why don’t you just write yourself a to-do list? It’s time to take lessons from a sea-worn sailor. Hop into my boat and let’s go for a ride! Find links to everything mentio...
E176: Body Doubling for ADHD: Anxiety Alert or Helpful Productivity Hack?
February 16, 2023 06:00 - 14 minutes - 34.4 MBFor a long time, body doubling made me want to cringe. I prided myself on being a self-starter. I didn’t need help. And I certainly didn’t want anyone watching me do stuff. Eep! Perfectionist alert! Was I totally wrong about body doubling? Could it be a way for ADHD brains to get more done? To feel accomplished? To stay motivated and finish tasks? Have I found a way to make this work for me or do I still recoil with heebie jeebies? Let’s discuss! Links mentioned in this episode: ...
E175: Exit the Emotional Rollercoaster: How to Help Your ADHD Child Build Their Emotional Regulation Skills with Dr. Carrie Jackson
February 09, 2023 18:57 - 42 minutes - 98.1 MBHaving someone on your side who understands makes everything easier. Especially when you’re learning how to navigate parenting your neurodivergent child. As a child psychologist, Dr. Carrie Jackson coaches parents on how to work in harmony with their ADHD child. As someone who also has ADHD herself, she helps parents with novel strategies that fit with their own, as well as their child's neurodiverse brains. On today’s episode we talk about avoiding major meltdowns by learning your chil...
E174: Skip Your New Year’s Resolution: 3 Alternative Questions to Achieve the Right Goals for Your ADHD
December 16, 2022 04:00 - 33 minutes - 76.9 MBI hate goal trackers. They are sticker charts for grownups. (I also despise sticker charts.) I’m not a New Year’s resolution person. I never stick with them. I’m annoyed by the New Year, New You messaging in January. Barf. I am, however, big into Growth. Goals. Being the best version of you. Goal setting is difficult for ADHD so I’m offering 3 questions to ask yourself as you wrap up the year and look ahead to the new year. Let’s change it up and think about the new year in an ADHD...
E173: 4 Steps to Stop Your Holiday Stress: Clean up the Chaos one Baby Step at a Time
December 08, 2022 22:16 - 14 minutes - 33.9 MBWe’re in the thick of the holidays and perhaps your sanity is already wavering. School performances, shopping, baking, less sleep, unusual schedules, no routines, more asks… yikes! We still have 2 more weeks to go! In today’s episode, I’m sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and make the holidays enjoyable for both you and your family. Free resources mentioned in today’s episode: 3 Steps for Preparing for the Holidays The Post-Holiday Hangover Cure for Disorganized Mamas Not sure...