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Mormon Marriages

65 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 387 ratings

Join Angilyn and Nate Bagley as they capture the real-life stories of amazing LDS couples, and learn the principles and tools of how to have an incredible Eternal Marriage from LDS marriage experts. If you want a marriage that makes you look forward to eternity... this show should be in your feed!

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The Four Horsemen Of The Apoclaypse

March 10, 2022 13:00 - 50 minutes - 46 MB

Dr. John Gottman has spent the last 4 decades studying what makes marriages succeed or fail. Through his research, he discovered 4 specific behaviors that, if left unchecked, will result in the destruction of any marriage. These 4 behaviors are known as The Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse. Today, we're going to share with you what the Four Horsemen are, how to recognize them, and what to do about them if they're present in your relationship. If you want to learn more about Dr. Go...

An Introduction To Boundaries

February 17, 2022 07:00 - 1 hour - 56.3 MB

The concept of Boundaries is not something we talk about in Sunday School. It's not a merit badge, or a young women's value. But without boundaries, our marriages will not flourish and thrive like we want them to. So, today we're going to give you an introduction into the concept of boundaries. What are they? How do they work? Why are they important? How do we set them? And how do we enforce them?

The Two Types of Marital Conflict

February 10, 2022 12:00 - 58 minutes - 53.9 MB

Did you know there are actually two types of conflict in marriage? Some conflict, like what to eat for dinner tonight, is resolvable conflict. The rest of our conflicts - 69% to be exact - are unresolvable conflicts, like what to do if you're an early riser, and I'm a night owl. Or if you're fastidious and I'm cluttery. If you try to solve an unsolvable problem, you're just going to get more upset and frustrated. (Each type of problem requires its own skillset.) So, today we're going to t...

How To Create A Marriage That Can Withstand Any Trial

February 03, 2022 12:00 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MB

How do you create a marriage that can withstand any trial? And let's be honest, we want to do more than merely survive... we want to THRIVE, even amidst the struggles of life. God didn't give us marriage to endure. It's to enjoy. And that's what we'll show you how to do today.

The Purpose Of Your Marriage

January 27, 2022 12:00 - 1 hour - 55.4 MB

This episode is a recording of a live marriage preparation class Angilyn and I taught as part of our calling with the YSA Ward. This week's lesson was on the purpose of your marriage... ie: why we get married. The answer might not be what you think...

Busting Common Cultural Marriage Myths

January 20, 2022 12:00 - 53 minutes - 48.5 MB

There are tons of really stupid, damaging marriage myths that we get told growing up. If we try to act out on those marriage myths as if they are true, they do SO much harm. Today we're going to talk about some of the more common marriage myths, and how to avoid falling into their trap.

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January 13, 2022 12:00 - 46 minutes - 42.4 MB

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Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #32

February 24, 2021 07:00 - 47 minutes - 43.1 MB

Join us for another awesome conversation with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! In this episode we delve into questions about exploring what arouses you, dealing with conflicting desires, and frustrations around female orgasm. We hope you enjoy the conversation!

E50 - Power of a Shared Dream with Kory & Heather

December 05, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 55.3 MB

Kory Fluckiger and Heather McKinnon are work from home, school from home, and birth from home kind of people. Kory is an artist. Heather is an artist, social worker, and stay at home mom. They both volunteer for the American Red Cross High School Leadership Camp and would love to tell you about it!

E49 - Continuing the Porn Conversation with Dr. Cam Staley

October 15, 2020 18:35 - 50 minutes - 46.5 MB

We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner. There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they’re going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support. It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Mo...

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #31

August 21, 2020 18:00 - 1 hour - 58 MB

QUESTION #1 My wife and I have been married for several years.  Arousal used to come easily, but in the past two years, severe depression has taken its toll on my libido.   When it's not depression, it's chronic fatigue.  Arousal now takes far more effort than it used to.  I've found that things like roleplay and reading erotica have helped to overcome these hurdles.  These are things we've done and enjoyed in the past, but have become more prevalent during the times of depression, as they ...

E48 - Off Balance On Purpose | Learning to juggle all of life's roles with Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 Podcast

June 23, 2020 16:30 - 52 minutes - 48.1 MB

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel Nielson from the "3 in 30 takeaways for moms" podcast joins us to talk about life's crazy balancing act! From wife, mother, ward calling holder, podcast host and business owner (just to name a few), Rachel has a lot of hats to wear! She knows firsthand the chaos that can come from attempting to juggle all of life's roles and responsibilities.  The conversation we have is real and raw and beautiful. You don't want to miss it!  Check out the 3 in 30 po...

E47 - "Our Way" Marriage Plan with Jonathan Sherman, LMFT | The vital importance of premarital and early marital counseling

June 08, 2020 15:32 - 58 minutes - 53.5 MB

When we asked Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Jonathan Sherman what he would want if he could be granted one professional wish, his answer surprised us at first. "I would want everyone to participate in premarital or early marital counseling." As the conversation went on, it became obvious why! In this episode of the podcast, Jonathan paints a picture of just how big of an impact this would have on not only our relationships, but on our society for generations to come.  He shows u...

E46 - An Antidote to the "Almost Life" | Tapping into your Super Human Nature with Seth Ellsworth

May 20, 2020 17:37 - 1 hour - 58.9 MB

"Buried in your humanity is a jewel - a gift from God. It is the strongest force in your life. There is no stronger force that you could use for good in your life then this: Your human nature has one single motive - to fight for what it deems as normal. It will fight to a degree that you cannot win. So, what do you do? Simple. Redefine what’s normal. All of a sudden, your human nature will work FOR you, instead of against you. This idea of controlling and creating what is normal is ev...

E45 - Balancing Sacrifice and Self Care with Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks

May 12, 2020 16:31 - 52 minutes - 48.3 MB

Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and coach with over 28 years experience specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. She is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in Cottonwood Heights and Bountiful, UT, and serves as an assistant professor of social work at Utah Valley University. In addition to authoring two books, The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, Dr. Hanks is ...

E44 - Surviving Quarantine with Dr. Dave Schramm

April 20, 2020 17:45 - 39 minutes - 36.3 MB

Known as “Dr. Dave” on campus and across the country, Dave Schramm is an associate professor and family life extension specialist at Utah State University in the department of Human Development and Family Studies. After graduating with his Ph.D. from Auburn University, he worked as a professor at the University of Missouri for nine years.  Since arriving at USU in 2016, he has been appointed by Governor Herbert to serve on Utah’s Commission on Marriage, he appears on television monthly on F...

E43 - Baby Bagley's First Trimester

April 03, 2020 16:32 - 37 minutes - 34.7 MB

In this episode of the podcast, Nate and Ang give an update on all things baby! They talk about the ups and the downs of first trimester, what they've learned individually and as a couple, and what they wish they would have known beforehand. Enjoy!

E42 - Marriage on a Tightrope with Kattie & Allan Mount

March 27, 2020 17:30 - 54 minutes - 50.1 MB

Kattie & Allan Mount are the co‑hosts of Marriage on a Tightrope, a podcast dedicated to navigating a mixed‑faith marriage. Kattie and Allan met in the MTC and both served missions in Barcelona Spain. They were married shortly after Allan returned.  In 2017, Kattie and Allan suddenly found themselves dealing with Allan’s decision to distance himself from the church. Frustrated with the lack of support, Kattie suggested they go public about their situation by starting a podcast.  Kattie lov...

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #30

February 07, 2020 13:30 - 51 minutes - 46.8 MB

Question #1 My wife had a baby 6 months ago, and is afraid to have sex with me again. I've tried to get her to open up to me about what is going on, and why she is so anxious. I've let her dictate the pace of things so far, but if it were up to her, I'm not sure we'd ever have sex again. Before the baby, sex was a struggle for her. She was unsure of what she liked and what felt good. If I accidentally stumbled on something that felt good, and she had an orgasm, I would try to repeat whatev...

E41 - Changing the Narrative Around Pornography with Dr. Cameron Staley

January 28, 2020 13:30 - 59 minutes - 54.4 MB

In this episode of the podcast, we are joined by Dr. Cameron Staley - a Clinical Psychologist from Idaho State University - to tackle the topic of pornography. Talking about pornography in the church can be a polarizing issue. We support the stance of the church and agree that it is not something we personally want as a part of our marriage. What we don't agree with is the shame-filled and fear-based narrative that is so common in our culture. This narrative only exacerbates the struggles ...

E40 - In Sickness and in Health with RyLee and Ruben Matangi

January 14, 2020 13:30 - 1 hour - 56.8 MB

Ruben and RyLee have been married for 7 years and have 3 beautiful girls ages 5 and under. Through navigating career choices, becoming new parents, four moves, and a baby being life flighted, RyLee has also dealt with chronic eczema from head to toe. This past year it has gotten out of control to the point of leaving her in bed for weeks and even months on end. With three tiny girls that depend on her during the day, life seemed suddenly unmanageable. Spending money on doctors appointments, ...

E39 - The Divorced Mormon with Jenny Rollins Nelson

January 07, 2020 13:30 - 47 minutes - 43.3 MB

As members of the church, one of our ultimate goals is getting married in the temple one day and promising to our future spouse for time and all eternity. So, what happens when eternity doesn't last as long as you thought it would? No one gets married with the anticipation that they will get divorced later. Unfortunately, it happens! Divorce can be a taboo topic in the church. It's not a topic frequently discussed in Sunday School (other than how to avoid it). With so much emphasis on fam...

BONUS | The Parable of the Growth Ecosystem with Nate & Ang

December 24, 2019 19:00 - 51 minutes - 47.4 MB

In 2011, Nate quit his job and set out to find the answers to what makes a marriage truly extraordinary. After years of research, seminars, books and trainings, and from talking with top notch couples, therapists, and experts, he has finally been able to sum it up into one simple principle. A good seed, when placed in the right ecosystem - with adequate light, fertile soil, and an abundance of water - has no choice but to grow! Your marriage is no different. Check out this bonus episode ...

E38 - Divorce Ideation with Dr. Alan Hawkins

December 12, 2019 13:30 - 44 minutes - 40.4 MB

Have you ever found yourself thinking about divorce? Have you had thoughts like, "did I marry the wrong person?" or "Is my marriage going to fail?" According to Dr. Alan Hawkins' research on divorce ideation, you wouldn't be alone. His studies have shown that around 25% of married individuals have thought about divorce in the last 6 months alone. Does that mean your marriage is doomed? Absolutely not!  In this episode of the podcast, we chat with Dr. Alan Hawkins about exactly what divorc...

E37 - The Lotus Letter | Advocating for Mental Health with Genny & J.J. Hyde

December 03, 2019 13:30 - 59 minutes - 54.6 MB

J.J. and Genny have been married for almost six years, and have two little boys ages 2 and 3 1/2. Throughout their marriage, they have had to navigate around a mental illness; Genny has Bipolar type II disorder. Through personal experiences, therapy, faith, and a lot of love and forgiveness, they have both become advocates for mental health. The gospel gives both of them an eternal perspective and they know that this trial is temporal. JJ is currently working on creating a guidebook that w...

E36 - Grief and Disappointment with Nate & Ang

November 18, 2019 13:30 - 26 minutes - 24.2 MB

In the last few weeks, Nate and Angilyn have experienced a rollercoaster of emotions. They felt the excitement and joy of learning that they were expecting for the first time, only to feel the heartache and grief of a miscarriage shortly afterwards. Everyone deals with grief and loss in different ways. In this episode of the podcast, Nate and Ang share how having a support system of close friends and family has helped to ease their pain.  In Nate's words, "It was so fun having people be e...

Grief and Disappointment with Nate & Ang

November 18, 2019 13:30 - 26 minutes - 24.2 MB

In the last few weeks, Nate and Angilyn have experienced a rollercoaster of emotions. They felt the excitement and joy of learning that they were expecting for the first time, only to feel the heartache and grief of a miscarriage shortly afterwards. Everyone deals with grief and loss in different ways. In this episode of the podcast, Nate and Ang share how having a support system of close friends and family has helped to ease their pain.  In Nate's words, "It was so fun having pe...

E35 - Betrayal Trauma Part 2 with Kristin B. Hodson

November 11, 2019 15:04 - 1 hour - 57.9 MB

Latter-day Saints have been talking about what an ideal marriage would look like ever since they were a young child in primary. "I love to see the temple," they sing, "I'll go inside someday." No one goes into a marriage thinking they are going to experience a betrayal. So, what happens when that story of the ideal marriage gets ripped out of your hands? When betrayal happens, what do you do next? How to you navigate all the emotions that come along with it without dooming the relationshi...

E34 - A Call to Ghana with Tom & Becky Rogers

November 04, 2019 19:00 - 52 minutes - 48 MB

Tom & Becky Rogers are the proud parents of 10 children and the founders of FamiliesMentoringFamilies.org, an international organization that strengthens families through service, collaboration, and education to develop leadership and self-reliance. In 2017, they moved to Ghana, Africa with their youngest 5 children to pursue their personal mission. The first 18 months were an intense preparation as they gained a lot of experience VERY quickly, including within their own family dynamic. As ...

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #29 LIVE RECORDING Part 2

October 11, 2019 12:30 - 40 minutes - 36.9 MB

In part 2 of our LIVE recording, we tackle two more questions from the guys!  Question #1 “My wife and I are trying to conceive. This is one of the most stressful times of my life, and stress is a major anti-aphrodisiac for me. How do I confront the pressure to perform? Question #2 "My wife has a “fun” sexual past with her high school boyfriends. Before we dated she had shared too many of those experiences with me. I was fine with it, until I woke up to her crying on our wedding night. I...

E33 - The Art of Love with Howard & Shari Lyon

October 08, 2019 12:30 - 1 hour - 56.6 MB

"Art is therapy for me. I love it so much. There is nothing, outside of God and family, that is more rewarding than making something. We were created to be creators. It is our destiny. What a wonderful thing that is! It’s the only thing I can imagine doing forever. Everything else would get boring. Creating things has the potential to fulfill you through eternity." - Howard Lyon In this episode of the podcast, Howard and Shari Lyon share with us their incredible love story. 25 years of marri...

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #28 LIVE RECORDING Part 1

October 04, 2019 12:30 - 53 minutes - 49.1 MB

In part 1 of our LIVE recording, we hear what inspired Jennifer to put her life’s work into helping LDS women and couples develop healthy sexuality in their lives and marriages. We also delve into questions asked by two of our lady listeners! #1: I live in Utah and I feel like there is a lot of pressure from my ward and surroundings suppressing my sexuality. When I'm on vacation or trips alone with my husband I feel so able to claim my sexuality but when I come back from trips or vacations...

E32 - Always Go To The Funeral Q&A with Nate & Angilyn

September 30, 2019 00:23 - 44 minutes - 40.7 MB

If you want one of your own questions answered on the podcast, send it to us here.

E31 - You Are Not A Burden with Dani Bates

September 30, 2019 00:17 - 57 minutes - 52.2 MB

Dani was widowed by suicide in March of 2019. Soon after, she began writing about her late husband, Denny, and about her experiences in real time as she and her two daughters go through life after a traumatic loss. She has become an advocate for mental wellness and stopping the stigma against suicide. You can read more on her blog at danibates.com or listen to her podcast “Make It Awkward” on any major listening app. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for the latest. 

E30 - Choosing Joy with Brittany and Trevor Frank

September 30, 2019 00:12 - 51 minutes - 47.6 MB

In March of 2012, Brittany Fisher Frank was involved in a rappelling accident in which she fell 80-100 feet. The injuries she sustained from the fall left her paralyzed from the waist down. After her accident, she had many concerns including the worry of what dating what be like. But, when she met Trevor, he jumped right in - loading her wheelchair into his car on their first date! Though living with a disability comes with many challenges and difficulties, Trevor & Brittany share with us ...

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #27

September 30, 2019 00:06 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MB

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois.  She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationsh...

E29 - Enjoying the Journey with Brooke and Mike Romney

September 29, 2019 23:58 - 57 minutes - 52.6 MB

In this episode of the podcast, we are joined by Brooke and Mike Romney. Brooke is a blogger, speaker and freelance writer, and Mike is in Business Development at a Healthcare Company. They reside just outside of Salt Lake City. They are raising 4 active boys who consistently remind us that they are not nearly as cool as they thought we would be. Brooke loves to write about anything and everything, but especially about things that matter. She is committed to sharing real life with a hopef...

E28 - Love Maps Q&A with Nate and Angilyn

September 29, 2019 23:53 - 36 minutes - 33.8 MB

If you want one of your own questions answered on the podcast, send it to us here.

E27 - Beyond Betrayal Trauma with Kristin Hodson, LCSW

September 29, 2019 23:47 - 48 minutes - 44.6 MB

Kristin Hodson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.  She is Founder and Executive Director of The Healing Group mental health clinic in Salt Lake City and Co-Author of the book Real Intimacy: A Couples Guide for Genuine, Healthy Sexuality (Cedar Fort 2011). Additionally she works as an adjunct professor teaching human sexuality to master level students working to become Social Workers and founded the Rocky Mountain Sex Summit in an effort to increase se...

E26 - Creating a Shared Dream with Mark and Georgia Anderson

September 29, 2019 23:42 - 51 minutes - 47.2 MB

Mark and Georgia Anderson are a “2nd chance“ couple who have been married for 15 years. Between them, they have seven married children and going on 13 grandkids. They love to ski, serve, and adventure together, and are creating a second bucket list (since they have lived so long—everything got checked off). Mark is a PT (he will check your knees at parties), and Georgia is a relationship coach at knowhowmom.com.

E25 - We Call It A Journey with Danelle and Tyler Beckstrand

September 29, 2019 23:36 - 1 hour - 65.8 MB

Tyler and Danelle Beckstrand met in a college math class at Utah State University (go Aggies!) They got married in 2011 and graduated together a few years later. The plan was to have babies right away but they found themselves dealing with unexplained infertility. After six years of trying to build their family, they decided adoption was their next step. In May 2019 they experienced their first failed adoption but came back more determined than ever! Although there are many unknowns in this...

E24 - Unhooked with Jason Coombs

September 29, 2019 23:30 - 1 hour - 58.8 MB

Jason Coombs is a person in long-term recovery and the Founder and CEO of nationally accredited Brick House Recovery. He earned a Master of Professional Communication Degree (MPC) and has a deep passion for recovery. In fact, he is the author of the newly released book Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover. He is a professional TEDx Speaker, consultant, and leadership expert. Jason serves in the Meridian Anti-Drug Coalition, Drug Free Idaho, and works closely with the Institut...

E23 - Boundaries vs. Ultimatums Q&A with Nate & Angilyn

September 29, 2019 23:24 - 42 minutes - 38.5 MB

If you want one of your own questions answered on the podcast, send it to us here.

E22 - How To Get Your Spouse On Board With Improving Your Marriage Q&A with Nate and Angilyn

September 29, 2019 23:19 - 42 minutes - 39.2 MB

We hear this type of question all the time. You’ve heard it said, “It takes two to tango.” You’ve got all these awesome ideas on how to better your relationship, but no matter how many times you ask your spouse to get on board, you aren’t getting any ounce of participation from them. You want your life to change, but you feel stuck. “I want to be healthier, but my wife hates exercising.” “I want our family to be more spiritual, but I can’t get my husband to initiate scripture reading an...

E21 - Information Before Revelation with Llyly and Manuel Valdes

September 29, 2019 23:11 - 1 hour - 59.8 MB

Manuel & Llyly Valdes have a Celestial Marriage of 25 years. They met as Manuel was finishing his mission in the Dominican Republic. The beginning of their relationship was orchestrated by a mutual friend who saw them as eternal. She convinced them to write to each other after Manuel returned home from his mission to Australia. Initially through letters, their friendship soon progressed to what is now, a continuous romantic courtship. Manuel is a senior consultant with an IT solution compan...

E20 - What an LDS Sex Therapist Wishes You Knew Before Your Honeymoon with Alisha Worthington

September 29, 2019 23:02 - 50 minutes - 46.6 MB

Alisha Worthington has an MSW from USC and a BSW from BYU, and is Co-Author of Real Intimacy, a Couples’ Guide to Real, Genuine Intimacy. Alisha has also sought extensive education regarding sexual health and is a certified 4-D Practitioner and Gottman Trained Educator. Alisha has been featured on podcasts, blogs, news outlets, and radio and her articles have been read over 1,000,000 times. Alisha has led workshops and presentations on topics such as, Reclaiming Desire, Mother-Daughter Matu...

E19 - Reconnecting Head and Heart with Thom Harrison

September 29, 2019 22:47 - 53 minutes - 48.9 MB

Thomas Harrison has been trained in cognitive therapy, psychodynamic therapy, reality-oriented therapy, and relationship therapy. He has been practicing in Utah with a clinical license since 1977. He has taught at the University of Utah Medical School, Graduate School of Social Work and in conflict resolution and divorce mediation at the BYU Law School. Harrison has postgraduate training in depression, anxiety, sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, sexual addiction, and posttraumatic stres...

E18 - Choosing Adventure with The Jurgy's

September 29, 2019 22:41 - 36 minutes - 33.4 MB

Adventure Traveling Family of Three. Ourselves in 5 words: NELLIE - Outdoors, Yoga, Climbing, Painting, Running BRYCE - Entrepreneurial, Film, Basketball, Guitar, Travel AVALYN - Milkies, Giggles, Dirt, Sunlight, Trees In 2015, Nells had a health scare that pushed us to finally pursue our dreams and adventure the world. We started our Youtube channel in hopes to inspire others to adventure more & also to have memories for us. We began hiding treasure bottles everywhere we adventured. Who...

E17 - God Is In The Details with Kim and Treagan White

September 29, 2019 22:30 - 1 hour - 56.5 MB

Treagan and Kim White have been married for 10 years. They have one very strong-willed six year old girl who keeps them going. They enjoy outdoor adventures and discovering new places to explore. Their world was rocked when Kim was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer (adrenocortical carcinoma) in 2014. They lost their second child at 18 weeks of pregnancy, during Kim’s initial treatment. She was told she only had a few months to live, but those who know Kim know she’s not the type to accept...

E16 - The Divinity of Desire with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Anniversary Re-Launch

September 29, 2019 22:21 - 50 minutes - 46.7 MB

Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a licensed psychotherapist with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. She wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, has taught college-level courses on human sexuality, and currently teaches online and community-based relationship and sexuality courses to LDS couples. She is a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, mental health, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts. She maintains a private practice in Chicago...