I never expected it to be so hard. I know that's what they always say when you're getting a divorce, but it's so true. I've never spent so much time feeling like utter dog poo about myself, my life, my goals, and my aspirations. I didn't get married so I could get a divorce. It's not my style. And yet, here I am — on my own for the first time in my life. And while it IS hard, I'm surviving. And guess what? You can, too. Here are some tips I've learned about getting through a divorce. 1.