I always assumed my husband and I would be one of those couples who were on perpetual solid ground. But I found out that it doesn't exist. Marriage requires work, and our kids — though we love them deeply — can deplete us. Here are three problems our relationship faced and how we fixed them: 1. My kid wanted to sleep with us and we weren’t down with that I have 100% respect for people who want to co-sleep. The problem was, we didn’t want to.