Healing Trauma as a Christian Mama
104 episodes - English - Latest episode: 25 days ago -A Christian Mama and Trauma Recovery Coaches walking you through the healing journey.
Integrating Christianity and Psychology and Intertwining Trauma Healing Modalities with Jesus, the true healer while still giving you practical tools, Strategies and Skills that support your healing, growth and connection to Jesus
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Emotional Flashbacks
March 25, 2024 12:00 - 20 minutes - 19 MBThis episode talks about emotional flashbacks and we go over Pete Walkers 13 steps of what to do when you have an emotional flashback Emotional flashbacks are intense emotional states activated by past trauma (e.g., fear, shame, or feeling unsafe). Emotional flashbacks may be hard to recognize. They can happen suddenly and it can be hard to pinpoint what caused them. Emotional flashbacks are not typically visual or auditory. This means they can be harder to detect, and you may not know t...
Motivation for Healing Exercise
March 11, 2024 19:35 - 7 minutes - 7.36 MBThis exercise is a great exercise if you are thinking about going on a healing journey or your already in one but are feeling stagnant or stuck plateaued. Its a very simple exercise that helps you look at what does the future hold if you DO change and heal and what will it take. It also looks at the flip side, what are the hard parts of change and healing and where will we self-sabotage our own efforts and stand in our own way even though we do WANT healing.
Get to know your Nervous System: Worksheets for your Nervous System
March 04, 2024 19:45 - 26 minutes - 24.3 MBThis episode goes through 3 worksheets to help you know your own nervous system. The first is a personal profile map helping you understand how Fight, Flight, Freeze AND regulation shows up in your body, thoughts, feelings & behaviours The second is a Triggers and Glimmers worksheet that helps you know what triggers you OUT of your window of tolerance and glimmers that move you BACK into regulation. The third is a worksheet that helps you understand what can you do alone aka self-regulati...
Write your Life Story from your Inner Child's Perspective
February 26, 2024 13:30 - 14 minutes - 13.4 MBThis weeks healing exercise: Write your life story from your Inner Child’s Perspective This exercise can be stand alone or piggy back off of last week’s episode of doing a Life Timeline. This is an exercise to begin to work with different ‘parts’ of ourselves. The part for this exercise is our Inner Child. This exercise can help us not only piece together what has happened in our life and what could be impacting us, but also the uncover the emotions behind it and see where some unprocess...
Life Timeline
February 19, 2024 13:00 - 14 minutes - 13.3 MBA life time line is a tool to help us organize all the experiences we've had in our life and give us a starting point for what to work on in our healing. It can help us see why some experiences impacted us more because of other things we had going on or happening at that same time. It gives us a birds eye view of our life and can be a helpful tool to use in our therapy or coaching sessions
Safety Plan
February 12, 2024 13:00 - 24 minutes - 22.4 MBThis week's episode is about creating a safety plan for yourself. Even if you never use it, it can be so beneficial to have this because we really cant predict whats going to happen in our lives and its better to be safe than sorry. In the episode, we walk through 4 simple steps to have in our safety plan to keep it simple but effective. Check out my social media to get a visual look at this safety plan! https://www.instagram.com/healwith_danielleelizabeth/ https://www.facebook.com/Dani...
Finding Jesus in the Room
February 05, 2024 19:47 - 15 minutes - 14.7 MBThis was an exercise I learned from my counsellor in the depths of my own healing journey, she called it inner healing prayer. In this episode I go over two different ways to do this. The first is to use the exercise to invite Jesus into past trauma's and wounded areas. The second is to use it to help in day to day experiences that happen in real time. Either way, this is a powerful way to bring Jesus into your healing journey. If you try this exercise, I would LOVE to hear how it w...
The Genogram
January 29, 2024 13:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBA genogram is an important tool for self-awareness, personal development, and relationship development. It can reveal how a person’s experiences today make sense in the larger context of their family-of-origin and past experiences. A genogram can give you insight into the many different things that have happened in your family, such as negative family dynamics and family struggles, like divorce, death, and broken relationships. It also can help you understand why these things might have ha...
The Trauma Egg
January 15, 2024 13:00 - 16 minutes - 15.7 MBThe trauma egg is a great tool to utilize to help gather information about things you've experienced and insight into your upbringing. In this episode I go through the process of completing the trauma egg and why each part of it is important for our healing journey
Loops Earlugs, Calmigo & CalmCarry
January 08, 2024 20:23 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MBThis episode I share 3 external tools I use to help with my anxiety. *None of these are paid ad's or products where I get anything from so this isnt a sales pitch, I truly use these tools on a regular basis and want to share my experience with each for you. The first is loop earplugs. These have been lifesavers for me as a busy mom of 4 who gets unbelievably overstimulated by noise. I get very angry and have bad mom rage when Im triggered by noise so I live in these most of the day and th...
From Broken to Beautiful: Our story
January 30, 2023 16:12 - 55 minutes - 51.7 MBTodays episode is a vulnerable one. I am joined by my husband Lorne to share our story publicly for the first time ever. Our story has a lot in it that you don't see on social media. We lived for years and years in a toxic dynamic that eventually led to a 10 month separation. Our story has every thing you could possibly imagine in it: addiction, abuse, toxic dysfunction, codependency and more. During our separation, we had to truly let our old relationship die so that if we could get to a ...
Roof
December 19, 2022 17:38 - 13 minutes - 12.8 MBThis episode is the last in the series about The Rebuild, my signature program which is a step-by-step guide for the healing journey as a Christian women. This last section is all about our Identity, as a Child of God and how we learn to stand in that and have access to the same power that rose Jesus from the grave. We always look at in this section, who we think we are vs who we truly are between our self concept and our identity. We look at how can we learn to love ourselves and got ge...
Regulate & Resources
December 12, 2022 16:53 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBThis episode looks at the 2 last walls of the Framing section of The Rebuild, my signature program helping you tear down the lies, messages and faulty beliefs and rebuild on a solid foundation with Jesus. We look at Regulating our emotions, the importance of naming our emotions and learning how to feel our feelings without getting triggered and shutting down. We also look at the wall of Resources and how we can make actions plans and connections plans for our new emotionally, mentally and sp...
Toxic Relationships
December 05, 2022 14:21 - 17 minutes - 16.6 MBWhen we are healing, our relationships are a huge part of this journey. Our healing impacts our current relationships as we change who we are in our healing, which changes how we show up in relationships and what we tolerate as well. In this episode we talk about the core trainings in this section of the Framing part of the The Rebuild Program -Love Systems -The Drama Triangle and healing into The Empowerment Triangle -Trauma Bonds -Codependency -Boundaries and Bottom Lines
Reparenting
November 28, 2022 15:45 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MBThis episode is about Reparenting, one of the walls of the Frame section of The Rebuild. Reparenting is a model of healing where we show up as the parent they never had. From a secular perspective, we are the parent but as Christian and integrating our faith, we also invite Jesus in to be the perfect parent with us. We still show up and are apart of our healing and this process however we work as a team with him. A common misconception is that we have to reparent ourselves because our par...
Footings and Foundation
November 25, 2022 14:03 - 6 minutes - 5.68 MBNow we're rebuilding and in the rebuilding process we have to have a solid foundation and so have the footings which is our relationship with Jesus and our and how important that is and then these footings are going to be the foundation and the foundation like we've learned is the this solid foundation that really holds up the rest of the structure right it holds up the whole house, you build walls on top of that and put a roof on top of it you put all the bedrooms and all of the things in a...
Restoration
November 24, 2022 17:03 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBThe next phase that we're looking at in this rebuild process is restoration. Now we've excavated, we've removed all the debris, and before we rebuild, we wanna restore what was good. Not all of our story is bad. We don't have just trauma only, and so we wanna restore things that are good and what that looks like in a healing journey is. Resolving wounds that we've had bring healing into our wounds. Really understanding our emotional needs, how to get our needs met in healthy ways. Another...
Debris Removal
November 23, 2022 17:38 - 12 minutes - 11.5 MBSo the next phase of the rebuild we're gonna talk about is the debris removal. If you think about when you're excavating, you'd be excavating all these rocks, all this dirt, and then all this stuff is kind of exposed at that point. And sometimes when you're actually excavating in real life, you hit bedrock. And you have to blast that bedrock so that you can get, be beneath it. And so then you have to remove all this debris. So what does that look like in a healing journey? So it looks lik...
Excavate
November 22, 2022 15:38 - 12 minutes - 11.4 MBHave you ever been watching one of those home builder shows and It's time to tear everything down to make way for the new project? At some point, after some inevitable playful banter with hammers, it’s time to put hammer to wall. Or in our case, it’s time to put the excavator to concrete slab and get rid of the existing foundation to make way for a newer, more functional rebuild. The first step in The Rebuild process is to tear it all down. You may be thinking this sounds counterintuitive ...
Your toolbox
November 21, 2022 20:40 - 10 minutes - 9.94 MBThis episode looks at the two first important phases of The Rebuilding process Your Toolbox : Looking at different tools and strategies to regulate your nervous system! Your Safety Plan: Creating a safety plan so you know what you are going to do if things get hard!
Create a Safe Base
August 03, 2022 19:01 - 24 minutes - 22.6 MBOne of the most impactful things for me has been creating a Safe Base with Jesus. This is where I go to 'do the work,' to be refuelled by him, to surrender and forgive, to freak out and let all my big emotions out, and to have a safe place to do it all. This tool is to create your own safe base for your own journey
Life After Healing - An Interview with Ashley Henriott
July 13, 2022 14:16 - 41 minutes - 38.5 MBThis POWERFUL episode is the perfect way to end season 2. We sit with Ashley Henriott, A Christ-centered Confidence coach and content creator (among several other amazing things she does) Ashley tells us a little bit of her story, her redemption and how Jesus saved her life. We talk about the road from Healing to Heaven, that place where we live after we have done deep healing but still live in this messy world before Jesus comes. How we must have boundaries and tools to keep us moving...
Grief: Grieving your Childhood
June 23, 2022 20:16 - 47 minutes - 44.1 MBWe all have things that happened in our childhood that have impacted us. But if we don’t grieve the stuff that hurt us, whether it was intentionally done or not, it will hold us back from growing. Sometimes we had parents who couldn’t meet our emotional needs, or who were emotionally dysregualted themselves that we had to learn how to cope around that, or things happened like bullying or lots of moves that Impacted our childhood. We need to have our own grieving process so that we can let go ...
Grief: WITHOUT Loss
June 13, 2022 16:41 - 35 minutes - 33.2 MBToday we talk about Grief without loss. Much of the time when we think about grief we think about when someone dies, but there are so many loss's we experience that cause emotional pain and today we talk about this. Things like -loss of a job -loss of a relationship -loss of the hopes and dreams for our life (also in regard to the two above) -loss of a marriage -loss of our old life as mothers, or the idea of motherhood (mother we thought we would be or the kids we thought we would h...
Grief: When you lose someone you love
June 06, 2022 14:52 - 51 minutes - 47.9 MBAn amazing interview with Amber Kuipers! The next podcast series is: GRIEF This episode is about Grief after loss. We dive into 👉🏻 our culture's response to grief and how it can be harming those who are grieving, even from the church community 👉🏻what NOT to say to someone grieving 👉🏻what TO DO for someone grieving 👉🏻All the different roles we can play in grief depending on if we are grieving ourselves, supporting someone grieving or a mixture of both 👉🏻Ambers children’s book ab...
Nervous System pt. 5 Fawn
May 31, 2022 13:30 - 25 minutes - 23.5 MBToday we discuss the FAWN response. A great description I found "it is the maladaptive way of creating safety in connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people" This is the hallmark of people-pleasing and codependency. We discuss how this looks as an adult who struggles with saying no, putting up boundaries and whose value is based on helping others or being needed. We looked at how in relationships it shows up in abandoning our own...
Nervous System pt. 4 FREEZE
May 24, 2022 14:01 - 24 minutes - 22.4 MBToday we are talking the FREEZE response and this one is tricky because it is really different from the other two we have discussed (Fight and Flight) We dive into what is looks like as an Adult, in relationships, as a parent and how it shows up in our kiddos too!
Nervous System pt. 3 Flight Response
May 17, 2022 15:49 - 17 minutes - 16.6 MBThe Flight Response is part of the sympathetic nervous system response, which means we are activated but want to FLEE asap! We go into these in detail in the episode but a few things we look at are how this shows up in different area's of life. As an adult you might notice: - the need to stay busy or always be on the go -riddles with worry, fear, anxiety or overwhelm In Relationships you might: -Avoid hard convos or walk away in arguments -Break up every time something gets hard As ...
Nervous System pt.2 FIGHT Mode
May 09, 2022 20:42 - 26 minutes - 24.8 MBThis episode is all about the sympathetic nervous system response: Fight Fight Response is filled with things like being👇 Defensive Critical Controlling Angry outbursts Starting Arguments Yelling Threatening Blaming and Shaming This weeks podcast episode is all about the Fight response ✨From our body’s perspective ✨From a relationship perspective ✨As a mom/parent ✨Our kiddos fight response If you are ready to learn more, Register for the 2,4,6,8 This is how we regulate:...
The Nervous System Pt. 1
May 02, 2022 15:50 - 55 minutes - 51.1 MBToday we are doing an overview of The Nervous System Polyvagal Theory Why this is important to our healing and relationships and parenting How our Faith doesnt need to be separated from these trauma modalities
Intrusive Thoughts
April 11, 2022 13:47 - 35 minutes - 32.9 MBToday we get REALLY vulnerable about Intrusive Thoughts. Some facts about them: Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that can pop into our heads without warning, at any time. They're often repetitive – with the same kind of thought cropping up again and again – and they can be disturbing or even distressing. Intrusive thoughts are thoughts that seem to become stuck in your mind. They can cause distress, since the nature of the thought might be upsetting. They may als...
Relational After Effects of Trauma
April 05, 2022 15:07 - 37 minutes - 34.7 MBInterpersonal trauma – trauma the occurs within a personal relationship – is a relational trauma. Relational Impacts of Trauma we discuss: Survivors may not have had good role models as children for what constitutes a healthy relationship and/or they may not have received any instruction about them. To the contrary, they likely learned all about toxic relationships. • Survivors had their self-worth stripped from them, so they don’t feel they deserve happy relationships. • Survivors st...
Emotional Impacts of Trauma
April 05, 2022 15:06 - 19 minutes - 18.4 MBThis episode is the Emotional After Effects of Trauma. Some things we discuss in this episode are: Learned helplessness Impaired brain integration between left and right hemispheres and body o Left = cognition o Right = emotion o Disconnect in vagus nerve between brain and body Distress intolerance, can lead to conflict avoidance Emotional Dysregulation Emotional illiteracy Low emotional intelligence Lack of ability to trust Impaired ability to seek and trust happiness Lack o...
Emotional & Relational After Effects of Trauma
April 05, 2022 14:58 - 56 minutes - 52 MBIf your struggle with people pleasing, codependency, toxic relationships, emotional regulation This epsiode is for you! Some things we discuss in this episode are: The Emotional Effects Learned helplessness Impaired brain integration between left and right hemispheres and body o Left = cognition o Right = emotion o Disconnect in vagus nerve between brain and body Distress intolerance, can lead to conflict avoidance Emotional Dysregulation Emotional illiteracy Low emotional intell...
Psychological Impacts of Trauma
March 28, 2022 15:39 - 47 minutes - 44.3 MBToday we continue the series in How Trauma Shows up: The Impacts it has. Last week we looked at the neurobiological and physical impacts and today we look at the Psychological. Most of what we talk about is the mental health diagnosis that are rampant in our culture today. Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar, DID, Adhd, OCD but also talk a lot about one's overtly connected to trauma: PTSD and c-PTSD. As much as we go over these diagnosis's we also talk about how we can support, manage and heal A...
The Impacts of Trauma: Biological
March 21, 2022 14:40 - 34 minutes - 32.3 MBTrauma changes the way our bodies and brains function..this is one of the most powerful explanations of why we can’t “just get over it” and also offers HOPE that its not just because we are weak or bad. In this episode we talk about the neurobiological effects of trauma, the physical effects of trauma and the HOPE that lie's in reversing the damage trauma has caused!
Breaking Cycles: Intergenerational Trauma
March 14, 2022 12:44 - 36 minutes - 33.5 MBToday we talking about intergenerational trauma and breaking cycles. We talk about how trauma gets passed out, WHAT actually can get passed down, and how it can show up differently from generation to generation. We also talk about Family dynamics and a tool to help track the dysfunction in a family line. We end with talking about the importance of breaking these cycles for our children and the generations below.
Sin and Trauma
March 08, 2022 15:33 - 34 minutes - 31.6 MBWhat is the connection between Sin and Trauma?
What is Trauma & How do we deal with it?
February 28, 2022 17:07 - 44 minutes - 40.9 MBIn this episode we talk about defining Trauma. Not as much as one concrete definition but common elements, key concepts and impacts. We talk about Big T trauma vs Little T trauma, and types of Trauma's. We also dive into giving an overview of how Trauma is dealt with; talking Top Down Approaches, Bottom or Body UP approaches and Heaven all-around aka how does Jesus fit into these modalities and what are aspects that are specific to healing with Jesus as the coach.
Trauma Healing: What does the world say and what does Jesus say?
February 20, 2022 20:46 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MBIs the world of trauma healing too self-focused? Do Christians overspiritualize or Spiritually by-pass our struggles? Our 1st episode co-hosting together starts the convo that we will be continuously digging into: What does healing and recovery look like as a Christian Woman?
Meet your Coach
February 14, 2022 16:04 - 37 minutes - 35.2 MBInviting Jesus into your healing journey changes everything
Healing Overview Part 2
February 07, 2022 13:51 - 26 minutes - 24.3 MBToday we go over 3 more metaphors: The Exodus The Mountain Range The Rebuild
Healing Process Overview Pt.1
January 31, 2022 13:52 - 16 minutes - 15.6 MBToday we are looking into the big picture of a healing journey. I am going to share 4 different metaphor's of this process and you can pick which one resonates the most with you. Today's episode if the first 2 metaphors of a healing journey :) First: The Holistic Psychologist 2: Butterflies
Dont attach your worth to an outcome
July 16, 2021 15:26 - 6 minutes - 6.09 MBThis is so hard to do, but the best advice Ive ever gotten! If you don’t get to the end of your goal, or get the job, the relationship, the ANYTHING…that does not change WHO you are, or WHOSE you are!
Dont be a Chameleon, Be a Caterpillar
July 12, 2021 17:05 - 8 minutes - 7.96 MBThis was in a sermon recently and I loved it so much. The reason I connected to it so much because as someone whose recovering from Codependency and People Pleasing, I morphed and changed so much into who others wanted me to be..I literally lost who I was. As believers, we are called to be set apart and when I look at a caterpillar I see growth and transformation. Lets talk more about the different ways we can look at this quote!
Have an Action Plan
July 05, 2021 17:04 - 8 minutes - 8.19 MBBeing prepared is KEY to our mental health, since we are pretty aware nowadays life can throw some curveballs at us (umm hello global pandemic). So when crisis hits, whether is big or something that triggers you in a moment…have a Crisis Action Plan to help you know exactly how to handle it
Take a Time Out
June 29, 2021 11:55 - 9 minutes - 8.41 MBIts so hard learning emotional regulation along side your own children, who also have none...and somehow push all your buttons and triggers as they fall apart. All to say....Adult Time Outs are now a thing!
Decide what kind of day its gunna be
June 28, 2021 16:18 - 8 minutes - 8 MBThis game changer advice from Bree Card (go read her short yet amazing book ‘Dear overstimulated Parent: 10 small ways to save your sanity’) I am the definition of an overstimulated parent lol and some days, just suck. Some days I literally wonder if I’m superwoman. This little tip might seem small but it has a powerful effect. There is a freedom when you accept ‘today is a survival day’ rather then trying to push through and be productive…which generally makes EVERYONE miserable ...
Dont run ahead of God
June 23, 2021 13:23 - 9 minutes - 4.61 MBAfter I recorded this episode, I read this in my bible study: We cause some of the wreck and ruin because we have a plan. We implement the plan and accomplish only what we can do. We ask God to bless out plans and then promise to give him all the glory when he does. Yet God is not glorified by making our plans succeed. He receives glory when HIS will is done his way. He could accomplish more in 6 months through a people yielded to him than we could do in 60 years without him. I am the wo...
Feel your feelings
June 22, 2021 14:07 - 9 minutes - 4.58 MBI spent years, I mean YEARS doing anything I could to avoid, push down, numb or escape FEELING. After giving up all my crutches and intentionally letting myself FEEL, I realized...I have never let myself feel! I know that sounds crazy, obviously I have had emotions...but to sit in them, let them be expressed, embraced and processed...nope, never. As I learn to sit in my feelings, without trying to find something to make me feel better, I have learned something very important: THEY DONT...