11| 7 Keys to Rocking Her World in Bed w/ Jim Benson (Part 1 of 2)

About Jim Benson: Jim Benson is a sex and relationship coach who works with men, women and couples. He has a number of programs to help men improve their sex lives, leads men’s groups and provides one on one coaching. He even teaches Tantra teachers! The Highlights: The 7 keys to rocking her world in […]

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About Jim Benson:

Jim Benson is a sex and relationship coach who works with men, women and couples. He has a number of programs to help men improve their sex lives, leads men’s groups and provides one on one coaching. He even teaches Tantra teachers!

The Highlights:

The 7 keys to rocking her world in bed:

 

Part 1

1. Create safety and comfort before sex

2. Connect with your own desire

 

Part 2

3. Know your way around a woman’s body (i.e. know how to give her an orgasm)

4. Intimate two-way communication

5. Patience and attunement

6. Ejaculatory control and feeling your own pleasure

7. Drop your goal orientation

Show Summary:

Jim Benson created a system called the “7 Keys to Rocking Her World in Bed” to address the most common areas where men tend to need help pertaining to sexuality. In this two-part episode we cover the psychological, emotional, physical and technical aspects of being a good lover. We touch on everything from creating comfort and safety and developing the right mind frames; to giving orgasms and experiencing pleasure; to multiple male orgasms, ejaculatory control and transcendent sex. This is an in-depth episode with lots of resources and prescriptive tips to achieve improvements in this department.

 

Part 1:

Create safety and comfort before sex: Jim explains the feminine hierarchy of needs which is conceptually based on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. It addresses the physical and emotional needs of a woman in order to prime her for sex.

Connect with your own desire: To do so men often need to peel back their feelings of anxiety, shame and self-consciousness and then to act on that desire in a way that a woman can feel. Jim provides a variety of different techniques to achieve this.

 

Part 2:

Know your way around a woman’s body: Jim provides tips for learning how to give a woman orgasms and shares a free resource with specific techniques that you can use.

Intimate two-way communication: Have a direct conversation with her about your mutual turn-ons and turn-offs.

Patience and attunement: Women usually take longer to reach arousal. A general rule of thumb is to escalate only when she is begging for it.

Train yourself to have ejaculatory control and to feel your own pleasure: Jim talks about various physical and psychological techniques to last longer as well as about learning to have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms.

Drop Your Goal Orientation: Jim explains that by not focusing on a specific objective like the “money shot” for example, and learning to feel pleasure in the moment, men can have much better sexual experiences.

Advice:

Identify in which of the seven areas you may be lacking and use Jim’s suggestions for improving in that specific department.

Free Give Away:

Jim’s free audio on the “6 Ways to Make Her Orgasm”: http://www.jimbenson.net/the-six-ways/.

Resources:

Additional resources mentioned in the episode:

Jim’s blog post on the feminine hierarchy of needs. Great resource for building comfort with a woman.
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston.

Contact Jim Benson:

www.jimbenson.net

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