16: Episode 16 Minimizing the Monotony of Monogamy: How relationships change over time with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Lauren Streicher, MD

When there is a lack of lust 20 years into an otherwise loving marriage or relationship, many, if not most of my patients come to me thinking their indifference to sexual activity is a result of declining hormone levels and if write a prescription for estrogen or a libido pill, everything will be fine.  And yes, a change in hormones can be part of the problem, but there are a lot of other reasons that have nothing to do with menopause that impact on keeping that sexual spark alive. In this episode, Dr. Streicher chats with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, an assistant clinical professor at Northwestern University, an award-winning author, a TedX speaker, and the host of the hit podcast, “Reimagining Love”.

We discuss:  

Is the MONOTONY of monogamy inevitable? 
What is “RELATIONAL SELF AWARENESS”?
What is UNPACKING and why is it important?
Tips to CONFLICT RESOLUTION as opposed to conflict escalation? 
What if you are in a good place in terms of love and intimacy, but are worried about losing that connection over time? 
Why it is important to understand your PARENTS relationship to have better adult relationships
LEAVE the relationship or FIX the relationship? 
What if you “love them” but are not “In love with them?”  
What do you tell women when it comes to LIBIDO DRUGS to reignite the spark?
Why women are often resistant to SEX THERAPY?
How past sexual TRAUMA can inform current sexual experiences, and how to reclaim pleasure

Dr. Solomon's website
https://dralexandrasolomon.com/
Dr. Solomon's Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

 Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexandra Solomon
https://bookshop.org/books/loving-bravely-twenty-lessons-of-self-discovery-to-help-you-get-the-love-you-want/9781626255814

Taking Sexy Back by Dr. Alexandra Solomon
https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461

Reimagining Love, Dr. Solomon's podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386

Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, and the medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a  certified menopause practitioner of the North American Menopause Society. 

Dr. Streicher is the medical correspondent for Chicago’s top-rated news program, the WGNMorningNews, and has been seen on The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, NPR, Dr.Radio, Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Steve Harvey Show, CBS ThisMorning,ABCNewsNow,NBCNightlyNews,20/20, and WorldNewsTonight. She is an expert source for many magazines and serves on the medical advisory board of The Kinsey Institute, Self Magazine and Prevention Magazine. She writes a regular column for The Ethel by AARP and Prevention Magazine. 

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Dr. Streicher’s Books

Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina- A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post menopause dryness and pain

Hot Flash Hell: A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat

Sex Rx- Hormones , Health, and Your Best Sex Ever

The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy

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