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Living with Strength and Honor

50 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 3 years ago - ★★★★★ - 5 ratings

J'beau, a Businessman, Father, Husband and #1 Amazon author, shares his revelations on the constant search for expanding the possibilities in life through a "Challenge by Choice" lifestyle. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

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EP: 50 - Creatures of Habit!

June 14, 2021 16:00 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MB

We all like habits! We are more comfortable in predictive environments - and our brains seek this certainty. We are actually "wired" this way, which is why it is sometimes so hard to create and sustain new habits. It is, however, possible to pull off if you know the science behind teh idea nd how to use it in your favor.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP49: "I know, I just need to..."

April 14, 2021 19:06 - 15 minutes - 14.6 MB

Have you ever heard this phrase? Or maybe even used it... once or twice? So often I hear this phrase from people that recognize a gap between where they are and where they want to be in a particular area. They know they want to make a change but typically haven't been able to make it so.  When I question what's holding them back their answer invariably starts, "Well, I just need to...". And THAT is a bunch of bullshit! Listen in as I explain why you MUST get this language out of your vernacu...

EP: 48 - Goal Setting 101

April 08, 2021 17:37 - 13 minutes - 12.2 MB

Yeah I know, you're "goal oriented". And maybe you are! But until you have a specific process to create CLARITY & CERTAINTY about what you want, why you want it, what you get by getting what you want, and how you're going to get it all you have are "hopes and prayers". Fine for politicians, but worthless for a committed, action taking professional bent on being more every day! Listen in on the basic, the "101" level, of setting real goals and creating the power to hit them! --- Support th...

EP: 46 - Ego V. Confidence

March 08, 2021 18:39 - 14 minutes - 13.4 MB

Simply put, you don't know what you don't know. And the sooner you can get around your Ego and admit you don't "know it all" the sooner you can begin to expand the possibilities in your life. Listen in as I explain how you can get started in shifting to gain real confidence and shed the weakness of an Ego driven lifestyle.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP45: "Fearless" is a Bullshit Lie

March 01, 2021 15:02 - 12 minutes - 11.4 MB

If you are living a life without any fear you are not "fearless", you're actually paralyzed by fear and living too safely! Until you recognize fear and discomfort as a signal for you to act you are allowing fear to steer you in the wrong direction!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP: 44 You Are Afraid of Your Wife!

February 24, 2021 13:14 - 10 minutes - 9.95 MB

Yeah, I know. There's no chance you're afraid of your wife, right? Well I don't mean in terms of physically afraid ( I hope) I mean in terms of having real conversations and your fear of the consequences. If you've said, "I don't even want to hear it", "Let's not get started down that road" or "Every time we talk you ______ " then YOU ARE AFRAID OF YOUR WIFE! Listen in as I explain how this happens and what you can do about it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/...

EP: 43 Words Matter

February 18, 2021 16:03 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MB

It's that simple - WORDS MATTER! The words you read, the words you hear, you words you think AND the words you say! Moreover, the more we communicate electronically rather than face to face our words become even more important and the physical ques aren't available. Listen in as I explain why they are so important to you.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP: 42 - Unobtanium and other Bullshit Myths

February 01, 2021 18:07 - 11 minutes - 10.2 MB

Perfection is unattainable, and working toward such a goal is deflating and useless. I explain this concept, and the difference between "goals" and "targets" in this episode. Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP41: Frame Control - "Does it Serve Me?"

January 23, 2021 19:37 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MB

Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Is it the right thing or the wrong thing? Is it the truth or a lie? All of these ideas or merely opinions of the situations and circumstances in your life. And none of them really matters! What really matters is one question you should always ask, "Does it serve my mission?". --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP42: Interview w/Former UFC Fighter Clifford Starks

January 23, 2021 19:16 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MB

Have you eve wanted to be in the mind of a UFC fighter? You might be surprised what you'd learn! In this episode I spend a few minutes with Father, Husband, coach and former UFC fighter Clifford Starks. Inside we talk about what it takes to win in the ring and why he transitioned out of that world.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP40: ANGER Pt1

November 13, 2020 19:09 - 14 minutes - 13.8 MB

Anger CAN be your ally rather than your enemy. In this first episode of this series I explain the "primary appraisal" and how you allow "triggers" to keep you angry.  Stay tuned for the next pieces of this anger puzzle --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP36: When Will You Need It

April 16, 2020 21:09 - 12 minutes - 12 MB

Is your life a series of decisions based on necessity and need or are the events of your life driven by desire and design. It's too late when you NEED a particular skill or mindset, you must hone those BEFORE external events force your hand if you want to be the creator and source in your life.    --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP35: Never Let a Good Crisis Go to Waste!

April 09, 2020 17:36 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MB

These famous words of Winston Churchill are poignant today.  Not because you should be using the Covid-19 crisis to manipulate others, but because you have the opportunity to use this crisis for YOU to have more, do more and be more.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP34: You Gotta Stop Being You!

April 01, 2020 15:43 - 14 minutes - 13.3 MB

As an adult you've embodied lots of different versions of you. As you've aged you've grown and changed through the years. Some of those may have come be design - others driven by external forces. In today's episode I talk about the necessity of allowing a new version of you to emerge in order to expand the possibilities in your life. In other words, STOP BEING YOU - or at least the current version of you - long enough to allow a new possibility.    --- Support this podcast: https://podcas...

EP 28: You Are a Liar - Me Too!

March 11, 2020 16:24 - 17 minutes - 16.2 MB

Here's some hard truth for ya. YOU'RE A LIAR - AND ME TOO!  That's just the truth. We all are, and the lies we tell create disconnection from our integrity and true selves.  It's the Ego that drives us to lie, and a life built with Ego as the foundation can never manifest long lasting strength and honor. When you can't be "found out", you can't be exposed because you tell yourself and others the truth you become stronger not weaker. In this podcast you'll learn the 4 Phases of breaking this ...

EP 33: You Are a Liar - Me Too!

March 11, 2020 16:24 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MB

Here's some hard truth for ya. YOU'RE A LIAR - AND ME TOO!  That's just the truth. We all are, and the lies we tell create disconnection from our integrity and true selves.  It's the Ego that drives us to lie, and a life built with Ego as the foundation can never manifest long lasting strength and honor. When you can't be "found out", you can't be exposed because you tell yourself and others the truth you become stronger not weaker. In this podcast you'll learn the 4 Phases of breaking this ...

EP:32 - Andy Chapman Interview

December 31, 2019 18:09 - 26 minutes - 24.2 MB

Andy Chapman is an educator, Father, Husband and athletic enthusiast - and has a great story. He is the Assistant Principle of Glasgow Middle School in Baton Rouge, LA and founder of "Strong Men", a podcast and curriculum for his young male students. His focus in on providing these young men a platform for successful men to interact with them and share their stories and secrets for success. Listen in as we discuss his life's work and how it mimics the paradigms found in Living with Strength ...

EP31: Frame Control - Creating Possibilities

November 29, 2019 15:51 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MB

Frame control, how you guide the internal conversation you have around a particular issue/problem, is a critical first step in getting what you want. Of course, changing how you think about a thing won't actually change your results, but it WILL create a whole new set of possibilities INCLUDING getting what you want and more. How you "see" a thing, the words you use to talk about it and the stories you tell yourself and other's, guides the "first creation/mental creation", which in turn lead...

EP 30: "No one is harder on themselves than me" and other bullshit lies of the Ego!

November 20, 2019 17:38 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MB

I hear this frequently and it triggers the hell out of me. You know why? Because I used to say it all the time. It's not true of course, this is just your Ego talking. Yes the Ego, the curse of consciousnesses. This phrase is just a way of your Ego explaining the truth that you are actually conveying which is, "I'm feel weak and vulnerable, and I beat myself up all the fucking time, so please don't tell me truth because my Ego can't handle it". Triggered a bit? Good, listen in! --- Suppor...

EP29: The Drift!

November 12, 2019 16:51 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MB

You WILL occasionally drift away from your path! It's not a matter of IF but only a matter of when! Typically most of you will go through some level of shame, guilt and self-loathing for a period of time before determining it's time to "try again" but that's not necessary! Once you accept that it's not always going to be perfect and that you will "drift" off center then you can play the role of "observer" in your life, notice you're drifting, and deploy a plan to get back on track in short o...

EP:28 It's Supposed to be hard!

October 23, 2019 16:26 - 17 minutes - 16.2 MB

We have been conditioned to seek comfort and ease. We have been taught to avoid difficulty, collision and tough challenge. For some this “survival mentality” is okay – you’ve given in to the idea that you like it the way it is and want it this way until you die. For the rest of you – that’s not good enough. You want to be more, you want to do more, and you want more. And I’m in your corner! Just know this… it’s gonna be hard. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh...

EP 27: It Doesn't Get Easier Later, It Only Gets Later!

October 17, 2019 21:45 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MB

Stop fucking waiting - It doesn't get easier later, it only gets later. In fact, sometimes it gets tougher later, not easier.  There is a thing in your life that you've been waiting to do for along time. It's been nagging you for days, weeks or even years. You've been repeatedly signaled by God/Universe to make this leap and yet you're still standing in the same place! It's time to act!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP:26 - What Role Does Alcohol Play in Your life?

October 09, 2019 14:32 - 20 minutes - 18.6 MB

In this episode I share my experience with alcohol use, how my relationship to it has changed and how it works on our bodies, mind and spirit. There is some harsh truth and tough verbiage in this episode, so if you're sensitive and prefer some sugar coated message I suggest you tune out! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP25: You Are Hiding Behind You!

September 27, 2019 17:36 - 15 minutes - 14.1 MB

There's a version of you that is capable and willing to do more, be more and have more but there's someone in the way. That someone is YOU! You are in the way of allowing that new version of you to manifest. So stop hiding and let him out! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP24: LEAD - The Integration/Being Step

September 20, 2019 17:27 - 17 minutes - 16.2 MB

LEAD is the third step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. This is where the big change happens. This is where, after proving to yourself time and time again through repetition, you've created a habit and done so for so long that it becomes a part of who you are. Your new behavior is no longer a thing your doing - you're no longer a person ACTING in a certain way - you are BEING this new person that does this new thing autonomously. You've changed your mind so drastically that your actions natu...

EP23: LIVE - The Action/Habit Step

September 20, 2019 17:02 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MB

LIVE is the second step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. This is where the work happens - the "action" phase. This is where, through repetition, you begin to cultivate the courage the get past your old habits and patterns and develop new ones. New habits that SERVE YOU to deliver what you seek. This is the level that most will quit, because quitting and going back to the comfort of your old way WILL COME CALLING. But this is where you develop the new behavior, coupled with your new thinking,...

EP22: LEARN - the Intellectual/Thinking Step

September 20, 2019 16:03 - 17 minutes - 16.2 MB

LEARN is the first step in the LEARN-LIVE-LEAD paradigm. Once described as the "first creation", you must learn how to change your mind and re-train your brain to think in a way that supports your desired shift and ignore the patterns and neural pathways you've created around your old habit.  This step, while incomplete, is critical as the first step to making real, long lasting shifts. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP21: The Learn-Live-Lead Paradigm

September 20, 2019 15:23 - 14 minutes - 13.1 MB

Understanding how to move from LEARN (the thinking/intellectual level), to LIVE (the action/habit level) to LEAD (the integration/being level) is the key to making real, long lasting, sustainable change in your life. Making the journey from simply thinking about making a change, do actually taking some action, to full integration into who you are is possible for you on ANY ISSUE! First you must understand how this paradigm works so you can recognize and react inside each stage.   --- Supp...

EP20: Guilt, Shame and Isolation - bad parenting Tactics

September 17, 2019 21:32 - 20 minutes - 19 MB

Most of us have the experience of having had parents, teachers, coaches and others use the tactics of guilt, shame and isolation to teach us life lessons. When we deploy such tactics we may solve the problem at hand, but we teach our children other lessons about who they are and how they should feel about themselves. Typically these tactics solve OUR problem (we no longer have to deal with the issue as a parent) at the expense of the confidence, self worth and soul of our kids.  There is ano...

EP19: Yeah but ....

September 10, 2019 16:38 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MB

Warning: Explicit We all face challenges, obstacle and roadblocks. Many of them manifest as excuses and reasons why we CAN'T do something. The truth is it matters not whether these reasons are real or fabricated in your mind. It is up to you to choose to conquer them or be at their mercy. It shows up as soon as you think "I can do this" which is often immediately followed by "Yeah, but..." --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP18: This Could Have Been A Different Story - Follow-Up

August 30, 2019 18:27 - 24 minutes - 22.7 MB

If you've followed my story on Facebook this week you'll love this conversation. There is a path for men and women to connect and build to a new level in their relationship but it takes HARD WORK, SWEAT & TEARS! BTW, it aint nice and aint easy to hear - you've been warned! LOL --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP17: God/Universe will say yes, to whatever you say yes to!

August 09, 2019 18:00 - 20 minutes - 19.4 MB

The world on infinite possibilities wants to deliver what you want. We usually have to prove it to ourselves through action, but it all starts with being clear about what we want, why we want it, aligning our thoughts away from "the problem" and into the possibility.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP16: Living in a State of Panic and Fear

August 07, 2019 14:37 - 22 minutes - 20.6 MB

If you're plugged in to social media, 24 hour news and other media outlets it's probable you live in a state of panic, fear and dread. In fact, that's exactly where they want you because they can sell you what they're selling if they can keep you in that survival state. The problem is that living in a constant state of "fight or flight" is literally killing you and you are giving them the chance to decide how you feel and interact with your world every day.  But there is a better way.  ---...

EP15: Anxiety is a problem you don't have to live with

August 05, 2019 12:07 - 9 minutes - 8.75 MB

Anxiety can be a vicious loop that feeds on itself and grows into a larger and larger problem. It can be stopped and YOU have the power to change it.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP14: You can be ET!

August 02, 2019 15:43 - 9 minutes - 8.75 MB

When you are focused on being THE SOURCE, the creator of your environment and the circumstances in it, you are living "extra-terrestrial. This can be seen as simply NOT being at the effect of the external forces in your life. When you cross over from blaming the external forces to being in charge of the results in your life you are in position A to manifest what you desire.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP13: Needs versus Desires

July 21, 2019 16:03 - 15 minutes - 14.4 MB

Living a life of "need" and having our happiness tied to, and predicated on, certain outcomes can leave us in a constant state of emptiness and never feeling satisfaction in our lives. "Wanting" certain things, having desire, is a reasonable state. You can desire certain situations, circumstances and tangible objects and still be fulfilled without them, therefore avoiding the void of constantly being needy.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/...

EP:12 Waiting on the Storm

July 12, 2019 19:08 - 9 minutes - 8.74 MB

There are REAL storms that strike at times, and often our ability to handle them is based on how often we've faced them down before! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP12: Your Life is Too Damned Easy!

July 12, 2019 18:57 - 18 minutes - 17.4 MB

Warning: Explicit!    Most of us are running around unhappy, complaining that the world won't serve us and entertain us and it's because we're spoiled. Life is just too damned easy! Creating challenges designed to create joy in our lives is your solution! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP 12: "I Don't Care" and Other Lies

July 11, 2019 19:04 - 14 minutes - 13.7 MB

We DO CARE !. We want to accepted. We want to be "a part of". We want to be wanted. We want to be loved. When we tell ourselves these little lies we create a shield around us that limits our experiences and cuts us off from others. Not that we should be driven by our desire to be accepted, but to recognize that there is a difference between being driven by the opinion of others and wanting to be wanted. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP11: Fear , Part 2

July 08, 2019 18:36 - 15 minutes - 14.7 MB

When you can choose to have fear, to feel fear, to acknowledge fear, and STILL act, you can begin to expand the possibilities in your life at a rapid rate! The idea that some are "fearless", or that they "have no fear" is a fallacy. The people creating and manifesting their dreams are those that have faced fear and decided to act anyway!  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP10: Challenge by Choice, Part 2

July 07, 2019 15:57 - 13 minutes - 12.8 MB

Choosing challenge is your path to increasing your capacity to do more, have more and be more. real challenges will show up in your life, and the only way to be prepared to handle those challenges is if you "practice" by choosing a Challenge by Choice lifestyle.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP:9 Challenge by Choice! What the hell does that mean?

July 03, 2019 15:01 - 19 minutes - 18.4 MB

Choosing a life of "Challenge by Choice" is your pathway to expansion and a life full of new possibilities and experiences. The other choice, comfort and avoidance of all challenging situations, leads to contraction and a life limited in possibility. Choosing to surround yourself with people, places and experiences that don't challenge you and your ideas is the pathway to limiting the field of infinite possibility granted by the Universe and The Divine.  --- Support this podcast: https://...

EP: 8 Fear, Part 1

July 01, 2019 18:19 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MB

Fear is the greatest motivating factor in your life - nothing moves a person like fear! It is also the greatest limiting factor in your life. Listen in to how fear works, what we are mostly afraid of how it is keeping you from acheiving more.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP7: Using anger as motivation

June 30, 2019 17:14 - 12 minutes - 11.1 MB

Anger doesn't have to be bad. It can be deployed as the fuel to create change. It has long been used as the fuel for social change around the globe. The only problem with that idea is that it is literally deadly for you to remain in a state of anger long term  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP6: Anger and Your Capacity to Regulate it

June 29, 2019 18:23 - 13 minutes - 12.2 MB

With consciousness, you have been granted the agency, the response-ability, to regulate how you react to the triggers in your life. Knowing this is what separates us from the animal instinct of our "Croc brain". When you recognize that certain events, people, words, nor any other thing, has the power to "make" you angry you get to choose your response and how you react to it.   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP5: Your Focus and the Truth

June 27, 2019 16:51 - 11 minutes - 10.2 MB

The reality of every event, every trigger, is that you've created a story, a framework, surrounding this issue. And it's that story, not the actual facts, that are driving your anger. One you've recognized that you are triggered by a particular event or set of circumstances, and you've taken notice of your reaction, you can strip away the story and start seeing the reality which enables you to explore the possibility of a different reaction.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.s...

EP: 4 The Primary Appraisal and Frames

June 26, 2019 22:08 - 10 minutes - 9.61 MB

How we frame the "triggers" in our lives, the way we've chosen to make our "primary appraisal" of every situation, is critical to how we react.  It is these predetermined frames through which we view each event and circumstance and why we believe they drive our emotions rather than the other way around. When we begin to see that we have predetermined our reaction we can then begin to see the pathway to shifting how we feel and what we do about it.  --- Support this podcast: https://podca...

EP3: Why Do We Get Mad?

June 25, 2019 12:20 - 10 minutes - 9.42 MB

When we think triggers, the events and circumstances we face, "make us mad" we are subjugating our human ability to DECIDE how to react. If we can admit that nothing is "inherently angry", that no event is full of anger nor is there random anger floating about trying to latch on to us, then we can recognize the triggers that cause us to be angry, the first step is using anger rather than being at the effect of it.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strength...

EP2: Anger is the Problem

June 24, 2019 16:08 - 10 minutes - 9.26 MB

Getting angry is a natural emotion and potentially powerful force for us humans. You should consider the idea that anger, used in the right way, can be beneficial to you, and, properly deployed, can serve you rather than be a problem in your life.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/strengthnhonor/support

EP1: An Introduction

June 23, 2019 20:25 - 6 minutes - 6.44 MB

Welcome to the re-boot of Living with Strength and Honor. I am your host, Jason L. Ambeau (called by most,  "J'beau") - a Businessman, Father, Husband and Author, sharing my constant search for expanding the possibilities in life by a "Challenge by Choice" lifestyle. It is my intention to share the tactics, strategies, stories and trials of living a fulfilling and rewarding life bound to the idea of being "the source" of all experiences in my life. On this journey you'll hear what is workin...