This combines two sermons from All Souls UU Church in Washington, DC 2010. Rev. Rob Hardies and Louise Green speak about grief, and finding a way to express both the pain of loss and the praise for life. Our tears are a lament and a prayer – of thanksgiving for what life offers us every […]

This combines two sermons from All Souls UU Church in Washington, DC 2010. Rev. Rob Hardies and Louise Green speak about grief, and finding a way to express both the pain of loss and the praise for life. Our tears are a lament and a prayer – of thanksgiving for what life offers us every day.


“Notice how we try to protect others from the pain of grief,” Rob says, “and how the voice of the psalm cries out in grief without reservation. We don’t know how to deal with grief.”


I compiled this for someone who just got the news that her brother walked onto the freeway and died a few days ago. I hope this is a message that resonates as an answer to both “how” and “why” – how to work through grief, and why it is important to live open to the brokenness. With tears we cherish and respect the joy that others have brought us in life. Tears are an offering on the altar. To live full of spirit is to put something of ourselves on the altar, and recognize the preciousness of life.