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Brown and Happy

96 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 16 hours ago - ★★★★★ - 19 ratings

Brown women work so hard and invest decades to do all the right things. Despite following the perfect checklist to do everything the way she should, she's still not happy. I have been down that path of doctor, wife, daughter and mother- and totally get it! I am a certified life and parent coach after a career change from an exhausted, overwhelmed, unfulfilled four decades. In this podcast we discuss how South Asian women look happy on the outside but are suffering on the inside. These women feel ashamed to admit it because they think they should just be grateful.

I bring forward topics that exist but have been brushed underneath the rug for centuries. Some of the topics include the over-involvement of our families in our personal lives and the constant habit of doubt ourselves before making decisions to avoid making a mistake. It's time to change the trajectory of your life now and generations to come with the coaching tools I share and teach.

I coach South Asian women in my private coaching program and currently accepting new clients. Book a call to connect and inquire about availability.

www.payalghayal.com

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Love, Arranged or Combo

March 27, 2024 18:09 - 12 minutes - 17.8 MB

How did you meet your partner? Love Marriage, Arranged Marriage or Something Else. Many of us have a subconscious checklist that we have created from our parents, culture and society which we use to meet the right guy. So yes, you chose your partner but was it really left to chance?? If you're struggling in your marriage, divorced, or thinking of separating.... listen to this week's episode. www.payalghayal.com

How to have FUN again

March 14, 2024 18:07 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MB

Are you having FUN? Why or why not? Take a minute to reminder the last time you laughed freely. Telling yourself that you don't have time or energy is common. We all tell ourselves these stories to keep ourselves on the checklist. It's a vicious cycle that is never ending. In this episode we will talk about practical ways to incorporate fun again without guilt. If you want to feel free and laugh again unapologetically, book a consult for my private coaching program. Don't wait...

Stop the Self Sabotaging

March 01, 2024 00:32 - 8 minutes - 11.1 MB

Do you find yourself jumping from one relationship to another? Are you constantly looking for the next best thing at work? Do you tend to shop around a lot for a coach or therapist? It's not a problem to know your options but are you getting the results that you wan tin your life, probably not. In this episode we talk about struggling with committing when you start feeling scared, anxious, or uncomfortable. The grass is not greener somewhere else, it's green where you water. But...

How to Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

February 22, 2024 20:06 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MB

How long are you going to that horrible thing that happened to you? -Broken marriage -Major Career Change -Health Crisis Yes it happened to you but you don't have to keep it alive now. Letting go of the past allows for new door open today if you have spent time healing and growing. Have you been lurking and listening to me but not sure how to move forward? It's simple, just book a call for a consult for The Brown Empowerment Mindset. www.payalghayal.com

How to Navigate a Remixed Relationship with Tanya Mitra

February 15, 2024 23:38 - 36 minutes - 50 MB

Today Tanya Mitra and I candidly discuss dating, marriage and relationships as women who want to live unapologetically as brown women. Tanya is a certified life coach and the founder of The REMIXED Relationship, providing culturally-sensitive coaching for couples in intercultural relationships. As an Indian-Canadian-American divorced + re-partnered mom of 2/step-mom of 4, with 27+ years of lived experience in interracial and blended families, she understands the significant impact ...

Why Doing It All On Your Own Hinders Your Own Growth with Sipra Laddha, CEO and MD

February 08, 2024 08:00 - 34 minutes - 47.6 MB

Doing it all on your own is possible but definitely hinders possibilities you never know existed. Today Dr. Sipra joins me to talk about your experience with coaching with me and why she decided to work with me. In addition to being a Psychiatrist and mom of four, she is CEO and Cofounder of Hellolunajoy. www.payalghayal.com

How to give yourself permission to change your mind

February 01, 2024 19:47 - 10 minutes - 14.3 MB

It's ok to change your mind. Just because you decided on something a long time doesn't mean you're stuck with that decision. The reason most folks are unhappy with their current relationships and careers, they don't reassess past choices. What does it mean if I want something different now? Did I mess up? Did I waste time? Take some time to think about a decision you made in the past that no longer feels right. In this episode we learn to do this with self love and compassion....

How To Stop Overthinking Decisions

January 25, 2024 21:23 - 13 minutes - 18.2 MB

Stop Spinning and Overthinking Your Choices. There is no RIGHT Answer There is no RIGHT Choice Over researching is all you know but it doesn't play a role when you actually want to get stuff done. Learn how to get out of your way www.payalghayal.com

Decisions Without Drama

January 18, 2024 20:03 - 13 minutes - 19 MB

Decisions, Decisions, Decisions - Making decisions is exhausting. As women we make them all day long at work and home. So when it comes to making a decision for yourself, of course it gets put on the back burner. What if decisions could be easy?? No Drama, no fuss, no overwhelm. Sign up for emails to get access to Decisions without Drama Workshop https://mindset-thed.mykajabi.com/mylist

Create Your Own Adventure

January 11, 2024 17:15 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MB

Don't wait for your life to happen to you, YOU happen to it! In this episode I share about the adventure I created with my kids solo over winter break. The three of us went on a ten day adventure to Cape Canaveral and a Royal Caribbean Cruise. It was truly magical and a growth experience for all three of us. I also share how one of my sweet clients crated her own adventure after working with me for a year. Anything is possible with the right tools and accountability. www.payalgha...

Being a Woman in a Male Dominated Field with Professor Talithia Williams

January 04, 2024 08:00 - 36 minutes - 49.8 MB

Women of Color in a traditionally male dominated field is lonely uphill battle. Dr. Talithia Williams joins me today to share her story of a Black Woman in Mathematics. Statistician Talithia Williams is an innovative, award-winning college professor, a host of the PBS NOVA documentary Zero to Infinity, co-host of the PBS NOVA series NOVA Wonders and a speaker whose popular TED Talk, “Own Your Body’s Data”, extols the value of statistics in quantifying personal health information. S...

One is Enough with Dr. Flora Sinha (Part 2)

December 28, 2023 08:00 - 12 minutes - 17.1 MB

Tired of defining your family with societal rules?? You get to create your own rules. Dr. Flora joins me today to dive deeper into mindset work around infertility. She is a mindset transformation coach, board certified internist, speaker, and an IVF warrior. Her own mindset journey stemmed from her experiences as a first generation South Asian, a woman in medicine, post partum depression, motherhood, and, most importantly, her battle with secondary infertility. There was a point in...

One is Enough with Dr. Flora Sinha (Part 1)

December 21, 2023 08:00 - 38 minutes - 52.9 MB

Tired of defining your family with societal rules?? You get to create your own rules. Dr. Flora joins me today to dive deeper into mindset work around infertility. She is a mindset transformation coach, board certified internist, speaker, and an IVF warrior. Her own mindset journey stemmed from her experiences as a first generation South Asian, a woman in medicine, post partum depression, motherhood, and, most importantly, her battle with secondary infertility. There was a point in...

Fertility Myths with Dr. Erica Bove

December 15, 2023 03:51 - 36 minutes - 50.3 MB

Procreation is an unspoken rule in many communities. The lack of children creates lots of shame, especially for women. Interestingly, there is higher incidence of specific fertility challenges that occur specifically in the South Asian Community. I go deeper into this conversation with fertility expert and coach Dr. Erica Bove. Erica Bove, MD, is a double board certified OB-GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist, as well as a certified life coach through The Life Coach School. She is...

Lets All Be More Selfish

December 07, 2023 20:13 - 13 minutes - 18.1 MB

Selfish is Good. Selfish is the Goal. Selfish means taking care of self. When we are all caring for ourselves the world is a kinder place. I see selfish as self love, self compassion, and self forgiveness. Join me today to stop overthinking caring for you and giving you what YOU need. www.payalghayal.com

Surviving in Silence with Ektha Aggarwal, LCSW

November 30, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 55.1 MB

Surviving in Silence is worse than suffering in silence. Ektha Aggarwal, LCSW and CEO Founder of Shakti Therapy & Healing Services in Los Angeles. We met a South Asian Mental Health Gala she hosted and decided to show up solo. It was the best decision ever! In today's episode we dive into the specific barrier for Brown Women obtaining mental healthy support. the barriers from culture, family and most importantly themselves. Ektha Aggarwal is the top 3 South Asian therapists in Los...

Brown Ambitious and Free with Niha Wunnava

November 25, 2023 20:06 - 39 minutes - 54.4 MB

Brown Ambitious and Free- In todays episode I'm joined by the host of the Brown AF podcast, Niha Wunnava. She helps Directors, VP's & Execs get promoted and improve their bottom line in 90n days.Niha has over 20 years of experience in healthcare and coaches clients in healthcare tech and bio about how to be BULLETPROOF - and think and get results like a respected, highly rewarded CEO Boss. She is the host of the Brown AF - Brown, ambitious and free podcast where she talks about tab...

An Enmeshed Family- Part 2

November 16, 2023 08:00 - 17 minutes - 23.8 MB

Growing up in am enmeshed family tends to replicate in the next generation with codependency in relationships. But it doesn't have to be this way. In this episode we discuss the different tools you can use to start living the authentic you even if you grew up without healthy emotional and physical boundaries. www.payalghayal.com

An Enmeshed Family- Part 1

November 09, 2023 19:51 - 20 minutes - 28.4 MB

Lack of emotional and physical boundaries in family is a common occurrence in most families. It is accepted culturally as a norm but this doesn't have to stay this way. In this weeks episode I describe what an enmeshed family looks like, specifically a brown family. I bet most of us can relate to the common examples we tend to overlook. www.payalghayal.com

Which Relationship do you Struggle with most?

November 02, 2023 20:13 - 9 minutes - 12.6 MB

Relationships come in three categories- 1. Relationship with the world, acquaintances, friends 2. Relationship with husband, partner, kids, family 3. Relationship with self In this episode we ask lots of questions and allow time to stop and actually think about our own relationships. Message me or email your answers so I can support your specific struggles in the coming episodes. www.payalghayal.com

Ignoring Red Flags is Normalized

October 26, 2023 07:00 - 41 minutes - 57.4 MB

Ignoring red flags has been normalized for many of us. It may be how your family, community or culture dealt with uncomfortable situations. When we don't learn what red flags are then of course they are invisible to us, especially when we start dating and creating new relationships in our adult life. I have a special guest join me today to talk about her experience with her own abusive relationship that she didn't see coming and how she found the courage to find her own voice throu...

Don't get Mad- Pick it up

October 19, 2023 20:30 - 13 minutes - 18.1 MB

Do you get frustrated that various lifestyle and wellness platforms that originated in the east are led by non-brown folks?? I was part of a discussion with a group of south asian mental health advocates and I could totally see why they were frustrated. I used to think the same way. But I had to take ownership of why we avoid taking lead in these spaces. Others will pick up on our culture and lead if we don't. Don't get mad, pick it up yourself. Book your consultation for The Br...

The Role of Food in Culture, Community and Families with Dr. Priyanka Venugopal

October 12, 2023 17:55 - 36 minutes - 50.1 MB

Part 2- Dr. Priyanka Venugopal joins me again to talk about the role food plays in our wellness but this week our focus is a little different. We share the importance of food in our childhood and how we start building stories early on. Next, we tackle how we take the parts we love and leave the rest behind in our parenting journey. Best part, we get to pave our own path. Priyanka Venugopal is an Ob/Gy physician-turned-coach for high achieving professional moms who want to lose wei...

Intuitive Eating, Living and Feeling with Dr. Priyanka Venugopal

October 05, 2023 22:47 - 33 minutes - 46.7 MB

What kind of messages have you been given above food? How does eating come into play with your family? Dr. Priyanka joins me today to day to talk about intuitive eating and the roll culture, family and society influences the adult choices we make. We also dive deeper into why we run from discomfort and how allowing negative emotions can be the most powerful tool. Priyanka Venugopal is an Ob/Gy physician-turned-coach for high achieving professional moms who want to lose weight w...

How to be a leader in your career, relationships and life with Angela Kelly

September 29, 2023 01:18 - 40 minutes - 55 MB

What kind of leader are you? Do you go with the flow or are you ruffling feathers? As women and specifically as women of color leadership doesn't always come natural to us. This is not because we don't know how, it's more about getting out of our own way. Angela Kelly is THE life and leadership coach for school leaders. She teaches them how to create exceptional results and enjoy the school leadership experience to promote principal sustainability. A former teacher, principal, and...

Four Step Formula for The Self Care Habit with Aditi Ramchandani

September 21, 2023 07:00 - 30 minutes - 41.9 MB

Self Care can look different for everyone. Also, why do we cane to wait till we hit rock bottom before we make changes in our lives. Today I have a special guest and author, Aditi Ramchandani. She is the Author of The Self-Care Habit, a Master Certified Life Coach, and a Psychedelic Guide. She helps corporate women turn their stress habits into self-care habits and create a luscious life they don’t need to escape from. Today we discuss her journey from stress, a physical diagnosis ...

Confidence is a Choice

September 14, 2023 21:38 - 13 minutes - 19.2 MB

Confidence looks different for everyone. I never knew that the old me wasn't confident. But now I know that was a total mindset shift which created my confidence. What does confidence look like to you? I received an award from my coaching school last week. Many folks stopped me to tell my I was exuding confidence. It brought tears to my eyes because I worked so hard to get to this point. This is exactly what I hope for all of you women. I want all of us to glow and shine. Join me ...

Magic Masala of Coaching

September 07, 2023 07:00 - 28 minutes - 39 MB

Dr. Cheruba Prabakar, board certified OBGYN and minimally invasive surgeon, joins me today to share her experience with coaching. She is one of my clients who appreciates the value of choosing a coach who understands your culture aka MASALA. I enjoyed hearing her perspective on growth, wellness and self investment as a brown professional woman who wears many hats of daughter, wife, mom and career woman. Dr. Prabakar owns her own thriving Gynecological practice in the Bay Area an s...

6 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

August 31, 2023 19:06 - 18 minutes - 25 MB

6 Things I would Tell My Younger Self! I went to my first mixer last night and being in the room with the most inspirational brown women was so uplifting. They were mostly in their 20's and 30's, early career and early relationships. But the way that they were talking blew my mind. Wish I knew half as much 20 years ago! Come check out the Six things I wish I knew back in then. Want to talk to me about my private coaching program? Find a time on my schedule https://calendly.co...

Be Your Own Brown Boss

August 24, 2023 21:46 - 20 minutes - 28.3 MB

You can be the boss of your own life too! It is in reach for all of but most of us just don't know it's possible. Embracing the parts of you that you love and letting go of the heavy, critical, unhealthy parts of you is 100% doable and I can help. I share my own journey and the shifts that my clients have made too. You don't have to burn down everything you have built thus far, just stop and learn tools that give you permission to say no to the expectations and yes to your dream...

The Price of an Alpha woman

August 18, 2023 02:55 - 13 minutes - 19 MB

Ever been called an alpha woman? I was because I have opinions, I speak up and advocate for what I believe in. Men call women aggressive, bossy, opinionated and loud when they don't know how to react to women who no longer stay within the boundaries that they have created. The added layer of a Brown woman weighs down in a unique way. Humility is a virtue keeps you from self promoting. Who wins in this situation?- They do. Join me as we discuss how we can support other women in t...

Colorism- Then, Now and Moving Forward

August 10, 2023 20:08 - 15 minutes - 20.8 MB

Have you ever been judged by your appearance? I remember being told that since my skin was darker that I should wear more muted colors to compliment my skin tone. Sounds nice- right?? Nope- that comment made me avoid wearing bright colors for three decades. What subtle messages are you believing that aren't true? In this episode we dive deeper into colorism in the brown community and how it applies to more than skin color. www.payalghayal.com

What does being BROWN mean?

August 03, 2023 18:13 - 18 minutes - 25.6 MB

What does being BROWN mean? Let's start the conversation. I'm celebrating everything brown this month. I identify as a brown woman, and that's not just about the my skin color. I dive deep into my own assimilation and coconut story. Listen so I can explain what that means to me. I'd love to hear you thoughts, even if we don't agree. Join my community- www.payalghayal.com

Being Consistent Gets Results

July 07, 2023 05:42 - 8 minutes - 12.1 MB

The only way to get results, be consistent. Especially when it doesn't feel "good" or comfortable, follow through. In this episode I discuss why we rather opt out but being an adult involves doing things when you're not 100% bought in. Where have you been consistent in your life? What results would you like to create in your life? What will it take to get where you want? www.payalghayal.com

Healing from Trauma- A Mindful Journey

May 30, 2023 15:45 - 31 minutes - 43.3 MB

Generational Trauma and Healing with Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang. We met while we were on our own healing journeys in paradise and friends ever since. She is inspiring is more than one way and I can't wait to have you listen to her genius. Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang is a mother, cancer survivor, mindfulness teacher, and award-winning pulmonologist. She is a leader and international speaker on physician wellness, mindfulness, anti-racism, integrative and pulmonary medicine who has taught courses, le...

Emotional Freedom and Trauma with Jess Johnson

May 12, 2023 21:56 - 43 minutes - 60.3 MB

Emotional Freedom and Trauma with Jess Johnson, a clinical social worker and veteran. She has taught me how to accept and embrace my own feelings of anxiety and I knew you would love to hear her thoughts on trauma and the value of healing. As a former therapist and U.S. Army Veteran with a career that began working in corrections, there’s nothing she hasn’t seen, heard, or smelled, allowing her to hold space for even the most complicated headspaces. She harnesses those skills in h...

Generational Trauma with Dr. Kavetha Sun

May 12, 2023 09:49 - 42 minutes - 57.9 MB

Generational Trauma and the Immigrant Story- Dr. Sun joins me today to discuss her experience and how healing was her way forward to finally live authentically. We both dive deeper into our own journeys and the power of choosing this journey on purpose and the effects on how we live today and what we teach the next generation. Dr. Kavetha Sun, M.D. is a double board certified psychiatrist, and a Physician Relationship Coach. She helps women physicians heal their relationships from...

Truth Bomb- Working on YOU is NOT Detrimental to your Relationships

May 01, 2023 19:29 - 14 minutes - 19.5 MB

A client once said, working on me will hurt my marriage. I was super surprised initially but after some thought understood exactly why she believed that. Historically speaking, women advocating for themselves has been viewed as selfish and unhelpful the unity of a family unit. This is true for your role as a daughter, wife, mother, and even employee. Of course people who have been benefitting from your non-confrontational, sacrificial lamb personality will have opinions when you d...

Point me to First Class with Dr. Devon Gimbel

April 14, 2023 15:21 - 41 minutes - 56.4 MB

Are you a first class person or is it just a one day I will be? In today's episode we discuss the untapped potential of credit card points and the possibilities with travel. Dr. Devon Gimble joins me to share her tips and knowledge about a world I never knew existed. Devon is a double-board certified physician and founder and owner of Point Me To First Class, a business that helps employed professionals, entrepreneurs, and business owners with high personal and/or business expenses...

Stigma Around Infertility

April 08, 2023 17:14 - 22 minutes - 31.5 MB

Infertility and shame go hand in hand, especially in specific cultures. Most women suffer in silence because secrecy is built in to the journey. We worry so much what other's will think that we never ask ourselves what we think. Kristin Dillensynder, IVF Mindset Coach, joins us today to shine light on this very important topic. She is a big sister, wife, an IVF Mom and bonus mom. After her own journey through IVF she helps women who are consumed by their infertility, find themselve...

Getting Past Stigma of Mental Health

March 15, 2023 18:26 - 34 minutes - 47.8 MB

I should be able to just deal with it. It's not that big of a deal, stop complaining. It could be worse. Be grateful for all that you have, it's more than what other's. These are some of the stories you tell yourself that hold you from reaching out and asking for help. Your unhappiness can not be compared to another suffering. It all matters. In this episode we bring in  Dr. Harita Raja to discuss the stigma of mental health in the South Asian community and what holds us from...

When Things Don't Go As Planned

March 10, 2023 22:21 - 26 minutes - 36.5 MB

When Things Don't Go As Planned with Dr. Miriam Rhew Dr. Rhew and I talk about how we met as strangers in Bora Bora sharing a room and king bed. We go on to talk about the "failed" retreat we planned and how it actually turned out. www.payalghayal.com To contact Dr. Miriam Rhew for coaching email [email protected]

Reframe

March 03, 2023 08:00 - 16 minutes - 22.8 MB

What story or circumstances your life that is creating the most suffering for you? What would it look like if you could reframe and retell the story in a way that was only beneficial and no longer painful. A failed relationship, a career choice, or a health scare- all can be reframed without toxic positivity. Listen to find out how and why. www.payalghayal.com

Woman on Woman HATE

February 23, 2023 19:31 - 11 minutes - 15.2 MB

Ever watch MEAN GIRLS?? We usually focus on the system, culture and men creating an unhealthy environment for women but what about other women?? Hate within our own fender is more harmful that from outside. We all do it but don't always realize it. Let's find out what this looks like and it's effects.

Ask for what you want

February 23, 2023 00:53 - 8 minutes - 12.1 MB

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT- Do you wait for others to give you what you want or do you ask? Why or why not? Have you ever asked someone else what they need? Creating a shift in the way you communicate with others can really change the relationship. Women and especially WOC tend to stay quiet and wait because that's all they know. Have you ever wondered what it would look like if you were proactive? Let's find out!

Diffusing a Difficult Situation

February 17, 2023 01:44 - 11 minutes - 15.5 MB

Diffusing a Difficult Situation- Many times our initial reaction may be anger, self blame, fear or staying quiet at your cost. I encountered a situation and I surprised myself with my own reaction. Old me would have played the scene in my head hundreds of times. Not any more! What would you have done? www.payalghayal.com

Bragging is Broadcasting

February 06, 2023 17:34 - 12 minutes - 17.8 MB

Bragging is looked down upon by society especially when it comes to women. It's a way to keep you small. If you were a middle aged white man, we wouldn't be having this conversation. In this episode I talk about my own conditioning and journey with self -love and share about initiating brag month on my social media despite it feeling uncomfortable. Join my email list or follow me on social media for brag month posts. www.payalghayal.com IG @payalghayalmd FB- Payal Patel Ghayal ...

Intentions

January 17, 2023 22:13 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MB

INTENTIONS- I don't believe in resolutions. They don't work. We can decide everyday... every minute to make a choice or decision that will change our trajectory. It is a super power we all carry inside of us. Many of us just don't know how to unleash it without doubt, guilt, and shame. What intentions would you link to create for you? Listen to how I reflect, retell, and celebrate the past, while staying present in today. www.payalghayal.com

Spark Joy

November 18, 2022 08:00 - 16 minutes - 23.3 MB

In this episode we explore Marie Kondo's method of decluttering but instead we apply it to beliefs, experiences, coping methods, and habits. Allowing yourself to thank the beliefs of the past AND choosing not to include it in the next chapter of your life is a choice. I help my clients create awareness around their subconscious beliefs that have driven the way the've showed up in their lives AND process all the emotions around it. Once you have awareness, making conscious decisions...

Gratitude

November 18, 2022 08:00 - 14 minutes - 19.5 MB

We are usually pretty good at showing gratitude to others. But how often do you stop and thank yourself? It's so easy to skip over appreciating all that you do and create but there are so many benefits to pausing and being grateful. In this episode, I share all the ways we already care for ourselves but may not acknowledge it. Start a new habit to vocalize or write down what you're grateful for in a daily basis and see how you experience more positivity in your own life without d...

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