*Self First is NOT Selfish* EXCERPT: In walking the walk of my shifted value system, in following the constant call of my deepest divinity, in prioritizing the needs of my own heart and spirit, I was often accused of acting selfishly. My mom certainly seemed to think so. Others who had never expressed one iota of concern for my or my children’s well-being were now suddenly reaching out to offer the unsolicited advice that everything would be okay “as long as the kids [came] first. But I will announce here in stark and bold terms: the kids did not come first. (Collective GASP!) No, sir. For the first time in my conscious, animate life, I came first. And I was proud of myself for prioritizing radical self-care.