Calm & Confident Leader

Episode 21: CalmConfident - Nick Shaw Interview - Episode 21

In this next episode we are interviewing Nick Shaw the author of My Teacher, My Son as we discuss authenticity and empathy and lots of great tips for leadership and life.

Episode 20: 20-Compare and LOSE always

In this episode, Jason Stonehouse discusses how deadly comparing ourselves to others can be, even if you seem "better" than others. Take a listen to today's episode to be challenged and inspired to lead and live from the inside out!

Episode 19: Britt Frank Interview Part 2: Getting Unstuck and Creating Movement

In this second part of our interview with Britt Frank, Jason Stonehouse goes deep into what brings change, overcoming procrastination and how to be truly healthy as a leader. Just like in part one, you'll want to grab something to write with for this enlightening episode that will make you think and challenge some norms.

Episode 18: Britt Frank Interview Part 1: Getting Unstuck and Creating Movement

In this episode Jason Stonehouse interviews Britt Frank, the author of The Science of Stuck. They talk through a number of subjects related to anxiety, stress, getting unstuck and creating movement. Britt even challenges a few assumptions that Jason has made. This two part interview fills in some important pieces on what it takes to be a Calm and Confident Leader. And the Science of Stuck is a must-read for all leaders, actually all humans! Make sure you have something to write with ...

Episode 17: 17 - Self Care - 4 Areas We MUST pay attention to

In this long-awaited episode Jason Stonehouse shares the 4 key areas of Self Care, he previews the NEW "Self Care for Busy Leaders" course (coming soon) and talks about the essential thing that most content and authors never mention when it comes to self-care. The reality is as leaders we are so busy caring for everyone else, we often neglect or sacrifice ourselves, telling ourselves, "it's for the greater good". Meanwhile, many of us are burning out, destroying our relationships, an...

Episode 16: Being Present - Episode 16 - Jason Stonehouse

One of the top questions we hear from leaders is, "how do I be more 'present' with the people and situations that matter most to me?" You see, the problem isn't that the people or situations AREN'T important, but it's that they don't FEEL important! This is particularly an issue with leaders because we are taught and let's be honest, our jobs depend on us being in the future, figuring out where we need to be. But if we're in the future, we are not present. Sometimes we're not present...

Episode 15: Transitions - Calm Confident Leader

Episode 14: Awkward Conversations

In this 14th episode of the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast, host Jason Stonehouse shares some hard lessons learned when it comes to tension-filled or awkward situations with people who are important to us. Often a wall is erected, we become like "walking cubicles" with no one having the conversation that matters. In this episode, we will learn why we tend not to have these healthy conversations and six practical steps to engaging in the kinds of conversations that relieve the tens...

Episode 8: Why Mindset and Performance Coaching Arent Enough

There's a lot of talk about "mindset" and "performance coaching and we believe in it but it often doesn't go far enough. Understand how the calm and confident leader is transformed in this important episode.

Episode 11: Why We Lead and When We Don't

It doesn't matter whether you work in a for profit, non-profit or even volunteer leadership role, there is one clear focus to why we lead and it may not be what you think. Unfortunately there are many leader who don't lead for the right reasons, but Jason Stonehouse will share the behind the scenes of why leaders became people who avoid, ignore and sometimes get downright toxic. You will not want to miss this episode. It may also prompt you to seek out some compelling solutions.

Episode 10: Lack of Substance

While we all want to be authentic and real, the current fall out is that the real us (inside) is a mess. When we lack substance internally we turn to a number of bad habits to manage the lack of control and substance internally. In this episode, Jason Stonehouse vulnerably shares some of his own struggles when his inner world was in turmoil and what he's discovered are the 5 key aspects of inner substance. This is part 1 of a multi-part series.

Episode 9: Why Im Not Confident

Confidence is such a weird thing. We all want it but not too much because we'll come across as arrogant or prideful. And many of us put on a false confidence which typically is overcompensating for some deficiency or insecurity inside of us. If we don't deal with the things that hinder authentic confidence we will never find it. In this third part of our mini series overview, Jason Stonehouse shares the roadblocks to true confidence.

Episode 8: Why Im Not Calm

In this second part of a 3 part episode with an overview of the Calm and Confident movement, host Jason Stonehouse looks at why we don't experience the calm that we should. He examines each of the factors that lead to a lack of calm. Prepare to be enlightened and of course, encouraged with practical steps you can take to move forward.

Episode 5: From-To

In this first of 3 parts Jason Stonehouse walks us through the Calm and Confident Leader big picture. We look in this first part what the transitions are that must be made in order to be who we want to be as leaders. We focus on what will need to change inside of us in order to be calm and confident. By examining where we're headed we can begin to develop an understanding of what it really means to be a great leader.

Episode 6: Emotions

The way a leader deals with their emotions not only impacts them but the people they lead. And yet for year people have believed that emotions happen to them and they have no control. We say things like, "you make me so mad" assuming that the other person has control over what we feel and we are merely victims to it. And when emotions are out of our control, then we can't predict them, influence them or change them. In this surprising episode Jason Stonehouse will share what we've be...

Episode 5: Vulnerability and Humility

The authentically confident leader knows how to utilize vulnerability as a super power. Everybody says they want humility and want to be friends with people who have it and have employees or bosses who possess it in spades. But nobody seems to exercise it. And when they do, it's so rare that it's almost uncomfortable, we don't know what to do with it. In this episode Jason Stonehouse shares from both his failures and success how to be a human leader with vulnerabilities and challenge...

Episode 4: Building Authentic Confidence

Confidence is critical for a leader, without it you might as well just stop leading. And when we don't feel confident, many good leaders tend to try and fake it. We try to pump ourselves up with motivational thoughts or inspiring music. But most people see right through fake confidence. So what's the answer? How do we build the kind of confidence that our followers need? Join Jason Stonehouse as he walks us through this important concept.

Episode 3: Growing Self Aware

Self-awareness is another critical skill of a leader. Many of us are unaware of how others experience us. We can also be unaware of what is driving our actions and emotions. Self-awareness is the skill we need to open up brand new opportunities to grow. The potential you want to reach will only be discovered by focusing your movement on the right things. As you and I gain the clarity about what is happening internally, we then can prioritize the areas of our lives with the greatest u...

Episode 2: Leadership Anxiety

Lots of leaders struggle with anxiety. They may use words like stress, worry, and tension but they find their roots in anxiety. Anxiety shows up in every aspect of life, nothing is safe from its influence. It is caused by lots of different things and if not dealt with by some outside help it could end up taking even good leaders down. Jason Stonehouse, founder of the Calm and Confident Leader digs a little deeper into this subject in this important episode.

Episode 1: The Unseen World of a Leader

Welcome to the brand new podcast!! The Calm & Confident Leader! On this episode we will discuss a foundational and often overlooked aspect of leadership - the man behind the curtain! Hosted by Jason Stonehouse

Episode 61: Life In Process-BIG UPDATES!

Listen as Jason shares some big and exciting updates coming to Life in Process and specifically to this podcast.

Episode 60: Prayer and Worry

Did you know that prayer and worry actually have a lot in common? There is one key difference that once you understand it will change the way you pray. And there is one key question that you can ask yourself to make sure you don't "take back" your prayers once you pray them! Jason Stonehouse addresses these topics and more in this important episode.

Episode 59: Why Coaching Is Right For You!

Ever feel like your wheels are spinning but you can't make any traction? Frustrated because you know God made you for more than where you are? Coaching could make a huge difference in your life! Jason Stonehouse has participated in counseling and in coaching from both the perspective of the client and the professional. In this straight forward episode he lays out some key differences between counseling and coaching and details why coaching might be a great fit for you NOW! About 10 minutes o...

S3-Passive Victims-Lessons I'm Learning3

As we continue our mini-series on Jason Stonehouse's lessons learned while in a season of waiting, we learn about a fundamental mindset that makes a big difference. In fact, Jason would say, this mindset is what causes people to be frustrated, anxious, out of control and pessimistic about life. The good news is there is an alternative approach that God designed for us. This is a great episode not only to learn from but to share with others.

S3-Healing-Lessons Im Learning2

In this episode, Jason Stonehouse talks about what is necessary in healing. There is typically no healing without grieving and if you don't understand what grieving truly is you'll miss it. And then there is a key step you must take for healing to bring about true health in your life. Don't miss this timely and important episode.

S3-Why Aren't We Accomplishing Our Vision

We've all been there. A great vision and dream of what could be and it never seems to get off the ground. Or maybe it gets stuck. There may even be a great leader who is motivational and inspiring but if you're missing the one thing we talk about in this episode your movement will be small to none! Jason Stonehouse is back for this new series of episodes entitled, "Lessons I'm Learning" - this is the first one and it's about leadership.

S3--3 Relationships-God-RESPOND

Our relationship with God is critical to all aspects of our lives. One of the ongoing and important rhythms is to "respond" to what God is revealing to us. Without action, all we have is more knowledge with little to no transformation. Jason Stonehouse walks us through this important rhythm.

S3--3 Relationships-God-DELIGHT

In this episode we look at the relationship with God and specifically the rhythm to “delight” in Him. We’ll talk about praise, gratitude and priorities. Jason Stonehouse walks us through this important, often neglected rhythm in our relationship with God.

S3--3 Relationships-God-REST

This season we are doing 15 episodes on what we call the 3 Relationships: our relationship with God, other believers (Church) and with those outside of faith (World). Each relationship can grow deeper and healthier by practicing 5 different rhythms. In this episode Jason Stonehouse takes a look at the relationship with God and the rhythm of "REST". He shares why it's so difficult and some very practical ways to start getting better at rest (hint: it actually doesn't include naps! (but it sho...

S3-3 Relationships-God-Hear

The NEW season of the podcast kicks off with the 3 key relationships that make us who we're intended to be! Each episode will examine another relational "rhythm" that as we establish them in our lives, we will grow. Episode one starts us off by looking at our Relationship with God. The Rhythm we are working on first is "HEAR" - Learning to hear from God, and allow His Word and Spirit to shape us. Jason Stonehouse teaches.

S2-Q31-Identity

In this new set of episodes we're going to explore the 3 Key Relationships and the "Rhythms" that help foster those relationships. This episode introduces us to the key concept of discipleship or spiritual growth and that is identity. Who are we? How do we see ourselves? Where are we headed in life? And what will shape and influence us the most? This episode will give you the start as we move into how 3 relationships make a big difference in who we become. Jason Stonehouse talks us through ...

S2-Q30--Recapturing Christmas Wonder

Special Holiday episode of the podcast sharing how we recapture some of the wonder of Christmas. Kids seem to have it but somewhere along the way, as adults we lose it. Sometimes we even forget the reason for the whole season! By pausing and focusing on the right things we can recapture some of the wonder of Christmas. Pastor Jason Stonehouse chats about how he creates room for more wonder in his life.

S2--Q29-WhyAmINotThankful

In this kick off to the Holiday season, Jason Stonehouse takes an honest look at why at times we struggle being thankful. It's probably not what you think! The top 2 reasons we struggle with gratitude are examined and a little known passage from the book of Deuteronomy is explored. Not only do we uncover the top reasons, but we also give the antidote! Enjoy this episode any time of year!

S2--Q28-HandlingChange

Change is a regular part of our lives, but that doesn't mean it's easy. There are two types of change that we discuss in this episode, one is a lot easier than the other. And on the tough one, Jason Stonehouse gives us some 3 key pieces of advice that make a real difference. Don't face one more change without this insight. Please feel free to leave your comments and follow up questions in comment section of this podcast.

S2--Q27--WhatIfIHaveDoubts

Is it wrong to have questions or doubts about your faith or about God? Is it a sign of weaker faith? Jason Stonehouse seeks to tackle these questions in this insightful episode. Discover what doubts and questions actually do to our faith.

Season2-Ep26--WhereDidOurConversationGoWrong?

In this episode we delve into the complex world of relationships both in the family and at work. Jason Stonehouse discusses one of the top reasons that people have misunderstandings in conversations. He also shares some "magic" questions that could move us in the right direction. This is a great episode for students trying to talk with parents, parents trying to talk to their kids. But also great for bosses, employees, team leaders, coworkers etc. In just about 10 minutes you'll get some stu...

S2--Q25--HowDoWeMissGod

It's the NEW season of the Life In Process Podcast. Jason Stonehouse joins us in the journey of faith, family and leadership. This is our first episode of the new season, question 25. In this episode we discuss how we often miss out on God or misunderstand Him because of a critical error we make when approaching Him. It's so basic it almost goes without being said, but yet so many struggle with this. Don't miss this great first episode of the new season!

Q24-HowDoILiveMyFaithIntheWorld

In this episode, Jason is joined in the studio by his youngest daughter Christina. He talks about 2 key approaches to letting people know that you are a Christian. Christina shares some things that she has done to help her friends because she's a Christian. If you've ever wondered how to start influencing others for Jesus, this 10 minute podcast will give you a good start.

Q23-AmIReallyChanging-trajectory

In this episode, Jason Stonehouse talks about the trajectory of the Bible and God's restoration plan. We will discover together how the direction we are moving today will make a difference where we end up. Gain some freedom from some of your frustration over the speed your moving and figure out what God really wants to do. This "short form" podcast is intended to be helpful, get you thinking and propel you forward in about 10 minutes or so. Enjoy!

Q22-WhyAmISoAfraid?

In this episode Pastor Jason Stonehouse examines the epidemic of fear, particularly among Christians. Why are we so afraid? Can fear ever be a good thing? What should I do if I'm afraid a lot?? We all deal with fear, some of us are crippled by it. Don't miss the introduction into understanding our fear and moving through it.

Q21-WhereIsMyJoy

In this authentic episode, Pastor Jason Stonehouse discusses whether or not Christians are supposed to experience joy all the time? He also examines what causes us to lose joy and points to a powerful tool/gift given by God to refocus and restore us. You'll find a lot in this 10 minute episode that deals with what we all face daily. Life In Process the podcast!

Q20-WhyIsMyFaithNotWorking?

Why is my faith not working? The reality is in the kind of world we find ourselves in, there is so much that pushes against us. And many times the faith we say we believe in seems inadequate for the struggles of life on planet earth today. Pastor Jason Stonehouse unpacks what is missing in much of our "faith" and then leads us to a very clear distinction in what we might call "true faith" meaning the kind of faith we need in this world, the kind of faith that brings hope and life. Don't miss...

Q19-HowDoIDealWithPeoplePleasing

In question 19 we begin to explore the complex subject of people pleasing and having an unhealthy concern about what people think about us. We look at some of the dangerous effects of it in our lives and spend the majority of the time offering some tricks and ideas to move away from people pleasing and towards pleasing God. The 4 ideas for making progress: 1. Understand and choose to believe my worth is found in what God thinks of me. 2. Be stingy with your power -- it's not for others. 3...

Q18-HowDoesTheEnemyAttackMe

In this important episode we discuss some of the more common types of attacks that Satan brings on Jesus followers. We even learn what some of the reason Satan attacks us. This episode is extended to include some practical ideas and thoughts from Ephesians 6 related to what we do in the midst of attacks and how to protect against future attacks as well. There is a real enemy in our lives and world - let this episode be one more help in the battles! Pastor Jason Stonehouse hosts.

Q17-HowtoMakeMostofMyFriendships

We talk about relationships and how they can be better leveraged for our personal and spiritual growth. Social media has reduced friendships for many of us to mere acquaintances. We miss out on God's intention for relationships and settle for someone who may keep us from being lonely or someone to do something with when we're bored. What if we recaptured something closer to God's intention for us? What if we started building "intentional friendships". In about 12 minutes we barely get to scr...

Q16-Leadership-HowToBringChange

In episode 16, Pastor Jason Stonehouse discusses change as a leader. If you're a leader in your home, a group, a church or an organization you'll find these 2 insights to be incredibly helpful when it comes to initiating change anywhere. Essentially we have to start with the person or group where the change needs to happen rather than where we want to end up. Change is hard, so we need all the help we can get!! If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to give us a review on Itunes as it wi...

Q15-HowDoIHandleLifeWhenOverwhelmed

In this question Pastor Jason Stonehouse shares a summary of a recent sermon he did from 1 Kings 19 at Grace Church in Roseville & Circle Pines, MN - He shares 4 spiritual practices that help us when we are overwhelmed: Rest, Reflect, Reframe and Respond -- feel free to watch the full sermon at extendgrace.org it's under the "Me In Real Life" series.

Q14-HowToDealWithAnxiety-pt2

In this second part of an overview of anxiety, Jason Stonehouse seeks to offer one of the biggest things that has helped him in his own journey with anxiety. So much of our anxiety is made more severe when our thought patterns and beliefs in "lies" are dominant. Be sure to pass this episode to others and leave us a review on itunes.

Q13-HowToDealWithAnxiety-Pt1

This is the number 1 question I've received over the past 5-6 years, especially because I went public with my own struggles with anxiety. I've learned a fair amount of things and I share a few of them here on part 1 of this 2 part episode. I truly pray it will be helpful for those who are struggling with various forms of anxiety! -Jason Stonehouse

Q12-HowToBeAGreatLeader-pt2

Jason Stonehouse continues his 10 thoughts on being a great leader, not just a good one. He handles numbers 6-10 in this great list. Leadership happens in so many areas of life and this 2 part episode covers a good overview of what great leaders do.