Life After Child Loss
75 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 year ago - ★★★★★ - 7 ratingsThis podcast is not about grief. This podcast is about life, love and finding yourself again after losing a child. I've been exactly where you are, and now I want to show you the road back to a life of your own.
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Creating Your Own Peace: Why Closure Isn't the Key to Moving On
April 11, 2023 12:00 - 8 minutes - 5.58 MBIn this episode, host Liene talks about closure and the misconceptions surrounding it. She explores why we believe we need closure to move on and why that's not necessarily true. Liene discusses the importance of understanding that closure doesn't always bring peace and that it's okay not to have all the answers. She offers guidance on how to create your own peace by choosing to be okay with not knowing, and how to move forward with your life while still honoring your grief. Ultimately, she ...
How to Reach a Place Where Grief is Not Dominant in Your Life Anymore
March 21, 2023 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.66 MBIn this podcast episode, Liene addresses the question of how grieving can eventually stop. She explains that while grief never completely goes away, it eventually becomes less dominant in our lives. In the early stages of grief, our brains have to update our mental maps to match our new reality, which takes time and experiences. Liene also shares her personal experience, saying that while she still experiences grief waves, she almost misses the early grief and encourages listeners to pay a...
Finding the Words... with Colin Campbell
March 14, 2023 12:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBJoin me this week as I speak with Colin, a remarkable individual who has shown incredible resilience in the face of unimaginable loss. Despite the heart-wrenching experience of losing his two teenage children, Colin remains unwavering in his belief that there is still a life worth living after such tragedy. As he shares his story, you'll discover that this life is different from the one you might have envisioned, but it is no less meaningful. With acceptance comes the growth of a bigger he...
The Power of Your Thoughts: How Your Self-Perception Shapes Your Reality
March 07, 2023 14:00 - 9 minutes - 6.44 MBWhat do you think about yourself? Do you think of yourself as being capable and strong? Do you think of yourself as capable of creating the life you want? Or do you think of yourself as something less? Where are you limiting how you experience yourself based on the thoughts in your mind? What if you change them? You are not your thoughts. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please s...
Giving Yourself A Break
March 02, 2023 14:00 - 7 minutes - 5.01 MBBecoming the boss of your mind is magical. Learning to feel your emotions is life-changing. But there are days when you need to pause and meet yourself where you are with all the love, self-compassion, and zero judgment. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Low GI Thoughts
February 14, 2023 13:00 - 8 minutes - 5.94 MBIn the same way, as we fuel our bodies with food, we fuel our lives with the thoughts we are thinking. A glucose monitor helps to see how certain foods affect you. How do we create similar awareness about how our thoughts impact us? If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Whatever You Think You Did To Cause The Death Of Your Child, You Did Not Do
February 07, 2023 12:00 - 10 minutes - 7.39 MBLooking back at the death of our child, we often feel guilt and regret. We think we could have done better. We could have done something else. Blaming ourselves seems the right thing to do. But how is punishing you for what you seemingly did, is helping anyone? Letting go of the guilt might seem scary, but accepting "what is" is freeing, and focusing on the future you is the most loving and impactful thing you can do today. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check o...
Losing Your Identity
January 31, 2023 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.31 MBExperience of loss comes with the loss of our identity or the sense of who we are. But the place never stays empty for long. So you replace it with a new identity. Does this new identity is something you want? I'll give you three steps to create the identity you want. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear ...
Retraumatization or Why Do I Get Triggered with no or Little Reason?
January 24, 2023 12:00 - 10 minutes - 7.21 MBToday I want to talk about retraumatization. I'll talk about what it is and how to deal with it. We can't necessarily control when and if we will experience retraumatization events, but if we learn to recognize what is happening, we'll have an easier time processing it and not becoming overconsumed by it. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@coach...
Firsts 3 Steps To Thriving
January 17, 2023 12:00 - 8 minutes - 5.74 MBIn my last episode, I said: - it's time to thrive this year and - grief and thriving are not mutually exclusive. I stand by what I said, and today I'll show you how to take your first three steps towards thriving. Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.
First 3 Steps To Thriving
January 17, 2023 12:00 - 8 minutes - 5.74 MBIn my last episode, I said: - it's time to thrive this year and - grief and thriving are not mutually exclusive. I stand by what I said, and today I'll show you how to take your first three steps towards thriving. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Two Brothers, Not One
January 11, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 5.24 MBWe can't control what this year will bring us, but we can control the reality we create without thinking. Today I want to share with you a story my son told. I love how unique and adaptable children are. So much to learn from them. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Life After The Loss ... with Eriks
December 21, 2022 05:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBThis week I'm talking to my husband, Eriks. Talking about losing our son is not easy, but talking helps. Talking helps to process emotions. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Wanting More From Your Life
December 13, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 6.16 MBIs it ok to want more from your life, or should you settle with what you have now and count your blessings? Wanting more doesn't mean you didn't love your child. Wanting more doesn't mean you don't love the things you currently have. Wanting more is about believing in yourself, your worth and your potential. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at liene@c...
Handling Other People
December 06, 2022 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.81 MBHolidays bring up a lot of emotion. We do feel more fragile and more vulnerable. We feel more of everything. Everything is heightened, and we have to deal not only with ourselves but also with other people. I’ve talked in previous episodes about how to manage yourself – how to lean into you to create the experience you want, and how to disrupt your patterns by asking you powerful questions, so this week I want to talk about other people – how to handle them. Ep"47 - Better Holidays After...
Handling Other People
December 06, 2022 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.81 MBHolidays bring up a lot of emotion. We do feel more fragile and more vulnerable. We feel more of everything. Everything is heightened, and we have to deal not only with ourselves but also with other people. I’ve talked in previous episodes about how to manage yourself – how to lean into you to create the experience you want, and how to disrupt your patterns by asking you powerful questions, so this week I want to talk about other people – how to handle them. Ep"47 - Better Holidays After...
The Right Questions For Better Life
November 22, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 7.07 MBYou know what you want, but keep doing the same as always. Sounds familiar? What keeps happening is - we slide back into autopilot and disconnect from ourselves and the things we truly want. How to disrupt the autopilot? Asking yourself powerful questions will wake you up from autopilot and make conscious what was unconscious before so that you can choose from your power. Here are five questions from Debbie Ford that might help you: - Will this choice propel me forward, or will it...
When Your Next Child Reaches The Age...
November 15, 2022 05:00 - 7 minutes - 5.4 MBMy oldest living son turned 7 - the age at which my son died. So naturally, reaching this milestone brought up a lot of worries and anxiety. Listen to the episode to find out how to live with it. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Better Holidays After Loss
November 08, 2022 11:00 - 7 minutes - 5.44 MBAs we are approaching another holiday season, I wanted to share my thoughts on handling holidays better. Listen to the episode and find out the two most important questions to ask yourself to decide how to handle the holidays. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
How Does It Feel, When You Allow It To Feel?
November 01, 2022 11:00 - 9 minutes - 6.81 MBLast week I talked about not wanting to feel it anymore, and I introduced two things you can do to help with your feelings - meditation and journaling. Today I'm sharing what I have learned from this practice. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
When I Don't Want to Feel It Anymore
October 22, 2022 11:00 - 9 minutes - 6.33 MBHow often do you find yourself thinking - I just can't feel it anymore. It being, pain, sadness, stress. Unfortunately, there is no shortcut to escaping your feelings, but there is a way to deal with them in a way you don't feel powerless. Listen to the episode and join me one week in doing two steps to learn to handle your emotions better. ... Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. If you want to learn ...
Should I Try To Get Better?
October 18, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 5.09 MBIf you ever wonder what's the point of getting better, listen to this episode where I talk about what's involved in getting better and the price of choosing to do the opposite. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Secret To Change
October 11, 2022 10:00 - 11 minutes - 7.82 MBThere are always things we want to change in our lives. Right after the loss, we want to feel better. We want to enjoy things again, and we have difficulty believing it's possible. Change is possible, but it doesn't happen overnight when changing our beliefs and thought patterns. Instead, it's a gradual four-phase process that starts with a simple belief that it's possible. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on c...
Life After ... with Annika
October 04, 2022 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MBThis week I'm talking to Annika. Annika is no stranger to loss. She has lived through every form of pregnancy loss and also lost one of her twin boys at birth. Join in on our conversation on loss, joy and strength. You might not know the outcome, but you always have the choice of how you react to the events happening in your life. Always. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. Please sign up for my...
Life After ... with Annika
October 04, 2022 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MBThis week I'm talking to Annika. Annika is no stranger to loss. She has lived through every form of pregnancy loss and also lost one of her twin boys at birth. Join in on our conversation on loss, joy and strength. You might not know the outcome, but you always have the choice of how you react to the events happening in your life. Always. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. If you want to learn ...
What Helps To Keep Going
September 14, 2022 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.7 MBSo many of you are in pain and want help with your pain. I want to help with what you're going through in any way I can. Today, I'm sharing some pieces that I think can help you keep going and will give you some thoughts to consider as you go through your days. I'm here and want to help you in any way I can. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my...
Inner critic. Why It's Important To Deal With It After Child Loss?
August 31, 2022 15:00 - 12 minutes - 8.39 MBWhy is it important to talk about the inner critic? First, having a strong inner critic makes your grief experience even harder by constantly having to question whether you are doing it right. Second, constant questioning leaves no space for the grieving because of being on a continuous self-improvement hamster wheel. Listen to the episode to discover three steps to handle your inner critic. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me ...
How To Get Through The Start Of The School Year Without "Shoulding" Yourself
August 23, 2022 12:00 - 12 minutes - 8.32 MBEvery year there are certain calendar events. Some of these calendar and life events make us miss our children even more than usual. This is the time of the start of the new school year, and it triggers so many of us. It's important to acknowledge that we have these feelings, recognize them and not feel guilty about them. Instead of "shoulding" yourself to be someone you are not capable of being, learn about four things that will help you get through this time and similar events in a ...
Having A Bad Day?
August 16, 2022 16:00 - 9 minutes - 6.79 MBI had a bad day and almost decided to skip recording my podcast this week. But after giving it some thought, I decided that instead of feeling bad about my bad day, I'm going to share with you - what it means to have a bad day and how to handle them. Sometimes choosing the momentary discomfort leads to getting over a bad day faster if it's done thoughtfully, leaning into the things you know about yourself and what makes you feel better. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @li...
Having A Bad Day?
August 16, 2022 16:00 - 9 minutes - 6.79 MBI had a bad day and almost decided to skip recording my podcast this week. But after giving it some thought, I decided that instead of feeling bad about my bad day, I'm going to share with you - what it means to have a bad day and how to handle them. Sometimes choosing the momentary discomfort leads to getting over a bad day faster if it's done thoughtfully, leaning into the things you know about yourself and what makes you feel better. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @li...
Why Do Some Parents Recover After Child Loss and Some Don't?
August 09, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 5.62 MBWhy do some parents recover after losing their child and some don't? It's not because some parents are special. It's not because they didn't love their children. It all comes down to how you think about your life after the loss. Surprisingly, positive thinking is not helpful in recovery. Quite the contrary, it might get in the way. "Supersurvivors" https://www.bookdepository.com/Supersurvivors-David-B-Feldman/9780062267863 ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachi...
Why Do Some Parents Recover After Child Loss and Some Don't?
August 09, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 5.62 MBWhy do some parents recover after losing their child and some don't? It's not because some parents are special. It's not because they didn't love their children. It all comes down to how you think about your life after the loss. Surprisingly, positive thinking is not helpful in recovery. Quite the contrary, it might get in the way. "Supersurvivors" https://www.bookdepository.com/Supersurvivors-David-B-Feldman/9780062267863 ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachi...
Am I Supposed To Be Better By Now?
August 02, 2022 16:00 - 10 minutes - 6.94 MBAm I supposed to be better by now? It is the question we often ask ourselves, especially in the context of other people moving on and us still feeling lost, sad and angry and not willing to continue without our child. We are bothered by this question because we also believe to some degree that we should be better by now, and we are not. Listen to this episode to learn how to find peace with this question and not be bothered by what other people think about our journey. ... Please com...
Am I Supposed To Be Better By Now?
August 02, 2022 16:00 - 10 minutes - 6.94 MBAm I supposed to be better by now? It is the question we often ask ourselves, especially in the context of other people moving on and us still feeling lost, sad and angry and not willing to continue without our child. We are bothered by this question because we also believe to some degree that we should be better by now, and we are not. Listen to this episode to learn how to find peace with this question and not be bothered by what other people think about our journey. ... Please com...
Why Does My Anxiety Feel So Bad?
July 26, 2022 14:00 - 7 minutes - 5.13 MBSometimes we go through periods when our anxiety feels so bad it seems we can't handle it. What's happening? Most likely, you experience your anxiety with your thoughts. Come listen to this episode to understand what it means and how to get a handle on it. If you want to dig deeper into where anxiety comes from and what to do with it, listen to earlier Episodes 26 and 27 on Handling the Anxiety. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info ab...
How Not To Feel Out Of Control
July 19, 2022 12:00 - 13 minutes - 8.98 MBIt's only natural to feel out of control after you lose your child. The reason why you feel out of control isn't that you have less control now than you did before your child died. It's' because you are spending so much energy focused on what you can't' control, and so you lose the ability to see what you can control. You don't have to control everything to feel in control of your life. You just need to know the difference between what you can control and what you cannot and adjust your ...
Filling The Hole
July 13, 2022 15:00 - 6 minutes - 4.73 MBWhen you lose your child, a massive hole opens up in you. What do you fill it with, and how? ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. Please say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com.
Filling The Hole
July 13, 2022 15:00 - 6 minutes - 4.73 MBWhen you lose your child, a massive hole opens up in you. What do you fill it with, and how? ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
I Wish I Could Turn Back The Time
July 05, 2022 12:00 - 8 minutes - 6.21 MBWe all wish we could turn back time to have our children back. Right? Do you think that can ever change? ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm always happy to hear from you!
Life After... with Sylvia
June 28, 2022 11:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBThis week I'm having a guest on my podcast - Sylvia. Sylvia lost her daughter right after the birth. Nevertheless, her daughter gave Sylvia an amazing gift. She taught Sylvia the importance of listening to herself and her own inner wisdom. What an amazing gift. If you want to get in touch with Sylvia, please email her at [email protected] or follow her on Instagram @coachingwithcare (in French). ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more in...
How to make decisions
June 14, 2022 11:00 - 11 minutes - 8.13 MBWe struggle with decision-making for many different reasons - lack of self-belief, doing it alone for the first time in a long time, brain fog. Whatever the reason you are struggling, it's possible to become better at making decisions when you understand three fundamentals of decision making: - there are no right or wrong decisions; - the worst that can happen is an emotion; - other people's opinions only can impact us when we don't have our own back. ... Please come, say hello to me on ...
Four More Lessons I Learned After My Son's Death
June 07, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 7.48 MBThe first time I shared lessons I've learned after losing my son, I did it primarily to remind my brain how far I've come and what has changed. This time, I'm sharing my lessons because I have realized that things we are afraid of today might look different down the road. So I want to encourage you not to be afraid, try new things and experiment to get to know the current you. References: Episode 4: Lessons I’ve learned since my son died Episode 25: When The Long-awaited Court Judgment D...
Four More Lessons I Learned After My Son's Death
June 07, 2022 11:00 - 10 minutes - 7.48 MBThe first time I shared lessons I've learned after losing my son, I did it primarily to remind my brain how far I've come and what has changed. This time, I'm sharing my lessons because I have realized that things we are afraid of today might look different down the road. So I want to encourage you not to be afraid, try new things and experiment to get to know the current you. References: Episode 4: Lessons I’ve learned since my son died Episode 25: When The Long-awaited Court Judgment D...
Fixing The Most Important Relationship
May 31, 2022 11:00 - 12 minutes - 8.57 MBWhat is the most important relationship in your life? One with your late child? With the remaining children and spouse? The family? Friends? They all are essential, but the most important relationship is the one you are having with yourself because this relationship will determine how your view the rest of your life. Losing a child hits your relationship with you hard. So I'm giving you one powerful tip to instantly improve your relationship with you. ... Please come, say hello to me...
Handling The Anxiety, Part 2
May 24, 2022 18:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBSo many of us experience anxiety after child loss. Let's talk about what it is and how to handle it. Welcome to part 2 of handling the anxiety, where I talk about how to live with it. Anxiety is part of many of our lives, especially after child loss. Let me show you how to live with it in a way that takes you forward. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me and what I do on coachliene.com. If you want to learn more about me and wh...
Handling The Anxiety
May 17, 2022 11:00 - 11 minutes - 7.72 MBSo many of us experience anxiety after child loss. Let's talk about what it is and how to handle it. Welcome to part 1 of handling the anxiety. Tune in next week for part 2. ... Please come, say hello to me on Instagram @lifeafterachildloss and find more info about me on coachliene.com. If you want to learn more about me and what I do, check out my website, coachliene.com. Want to be the first to know about what I'm up to? Please sign up for my emails at [email protected]. I'm a...
When The Long-awaited Court Judgment Doesn’t Make You Feel Better Anymore
May 10, 2022 11:00 - 13 minutes - 9.4 MBToday I received Supreme Court's judgement in my son's case. I've been waiting for this judgement for 8 years. I used to hope that having someone sentenced would make me feel better, but receiving it made me feel nothing. .... The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of those to you, my listeners, for free. Book a free 20min coaching session with me https://coachliene...
The Stories We Tell Ourselves About Our Future
May 03, 2022 11:00 - 8 minutes - 6.12 MBWhen you have something you can't get out of your head, it might be worth checking - is it a fact of life that I'm thinking about, or is it a story that I have created and keep on retelling myself daily, sometimes even hourly? Facts of life we can't change. However, we can decide about stories - to keep or to let them go. ... The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING, and I now offer both of th...
Feeling Safe Again
April 26, 2022 12:00 - 9 minutes - 6.41 MBHow do you ever feel safe again after losing your child? There are no outside guarantees, and no one can make you feel safe. Safety can only be generated within. We do it with our thoughts and beliefs. But what if you can't believe in safety yet? You can turn into your body because you need to understand what you feel to understand how you feel. ... The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life after I lost my son were COMMUNITY and COACHING...
Loving What Is
April 21, 2022 12:00 - 7 minutes - 5.42 MBWhen life puts you on pause, you get a choice whether to argue with what is happening or to love harder what you already/still have. I believe that moving forward, building a life you love is much easier from a place of already loving what is, rather than from a place of lack. Listen to this episode to learn more about loving what is and why it is essential to love what is and how to do it. ... The two most important things that helped me move through the grief and rebuild my life afte...