Let's Just Face It
279 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★★ - 3 ratingsWelcome, I'm your host Rakel Colina. If you're facing challenges in your relationship, there may be hidden aspects that you haven't fully grasped yet. For years, I found myself in a toxic relationship without realizing the extent of the abuse until the day I finally walked away. Now, I'm here to assist you in identifying the abusive patterns and behaviors, but it's not solely about them. It's time to confront the issues that might be hindering your personal growth and preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself.
Ladies, together let's break down the barriers that hold you back from moving forward and embracing your best life, even in the aftermath of abuse. Remember, it's not just about seeing through their facades; it's about empowering you to overcome your own obstacles. By facing your fears, no matter how small, you can initiate significant transformations. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Get ready to take charge of your life!
"Facing small fears can lead to big changes." - Rakel Colina
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104. Empowering Boundaries: Taking Charge of Your Life and Well-being
September 28, 2023 09:00 - 13 minutes - 8.97 MBIn this podcast episode, I dive into the topic many women struggle with setting boundaries and saying "no". I'm dedicated to empowering women like you to establish healthy boundaries with confidence and overcome the guilt associated with saying "no" to abusive individuals. My goal is to help you build healthier relationships and protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Boundaries are like invisible shields that protect your space, feelings, and personal rights. They're about...
103. Breaking Free: Understanding Emotional Dependency
September 21, 2023 09:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this podcast episode, I'll talk about the common feeling of emotional dependency. Many of us have experienced emotional dependency at some point in our lives, where our well-being seems tied to someone else's actions or words. In simple terms, emotional dependency is when we rely on others to make us feel good about ourselves. The podcast host shares personal experiences and valuable insights into overcoming emotional dependency. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, building...
102. The Narcissist's Playbook: 13 Manipulation Tactics Exposed, Part 2
September 14, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 12.8 MBIn this podcast episode, we're going deeper into the tactics that narcissists use to control and manipulate you. This episode is part two of a series, so if you're just joining us, it's a good idea to go back and listen to last week's episode to catch up on what we've covered so far. We'll be discussing seven more tactics employed by narcissists, These tactics are like hidden traps that slowly erode your self-esteem and control, leaving you feeling trapped and powerless, by shedding light ...
101. The Narcissist's Playbook: 13 Manipulation Tactics Exposed, Part I
September 07, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MBIn this podcast episode, we're diving into the tactics used by narcissists to control and manipulate others. These tactics are like tools in their toolkit, and we'll explore seven of them in detail. These insights aim to help you recognize these behaviors and empower you to protect yourself. Understanding these manipulative tactics is crucial, by shedding light on these tactics, this episode equips you with the knowledge to navigate these challenging situations and work towards a healthier,...
100. Why Did I Fall for an Abusive Relationship?
August 31, 2023 17:00 - 19 minutes - 13.6 MBImagine feeling like you're not good enough, that you don't deserve better. We'll uncover why that's a trap we can fall into. And ever wondered why some folks accept mistreatment? It might have to do with what they saw growing up. Let's unravel why our past can affect our present. And the fear of being alone? We've all felt it, but it can lead to some bad decisions. Join me to discover the reasons behind these tough situations, and remember, understanding is the first step to a brighter path...
99. Unveiling Dog Whistling in Abusive Relationships
August 24, 2023 14:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIn today's podcast episode, we delved into the disturbing world of dog whistling within abusive relationships. This manipulative communication tactic is used by abusers to exert control and maintain power while evading direct accountability for their harmful actions. Similar to a dog whistle emitting high-frequency sounds only dogs can hear, abusers use subtle language, gestures, and actions with hidden meanings understood only by the victim. These hidden messages serve to isolate, manipulat...
98. The Last Resort: Weaponizing suicide and self-harm to maintain control
August 17, 2023 09:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MBLet's talk about an important but often misunderstood topic: how narcissists use threats of suicide or harm to control their victims and keep them trapped in a cycle of abuse. We'll uncover the manipulative strategies behind these tactics and offer insights into breaking free from this toxic dynamic. Learn how narcissists exploit emotions, weave webs of guilt, and maintain dominance through psychological mechanisms. We'll also explore practical steps for victims to prioritize their safety,...
97. Reclaiming Power: Navigating Healing and Growth After Narcissistic Abuse
August 10, 2023 15:00 - 20 minutes - 13.9 MBJoin me for an insightful discussion on the profound journey of healing following narcissistic abusive relationships. In this episode, where I look into the intricate layers of the healing process, highlighting the importance of support and community. From understanding the emotional rollercoaster to reclaiming personal power, we explore the diverse aspects of post-abuse recovery. Tune in to gain valuable insights into self-discovery, boundary-setting, and seeking help, as we empower survivo...
96. Finding Strength Within: Why It Takes 7 Times To Leave
August 03, 2023 21:00 - 20 minutes - 14.1 MBIn this episode, we explored the challenging journey of breaking free from abusive relationships and discovering inner strength. On average, it takes a woman 7 times to leave an abusive relationship. But why does this happen? I talk about what makes this happen and also offer some insight to help you in the process of breaking free. Here's all the ways we can connect: Instagram Facebook TikTok RakelColina.com
95. God Hates Abuse More than Divorce
July 28, 2023 09:00 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBIn this special episode, I dig into the sensitive topic of abusive relationships and the misconception that God hates divorce. Despite the advice to avoid discussing religion and politics, I believe it's essential to talk about this issue, especially as a coach helping women heal after abusive and narcissistic relationships. It's TIME! While the Bible acknowledges divorce as a reality, it doesn't promote it, but God's grace understands human struggles, especially in abusive situations. It's...
94. Unmasking Narcissistic Abuse: Healing, Support & Moving On
June 16, 2023 15:00 - 19 minutes - 13.1 MBIn this episode, I dive into the depths of this manipulative behavior, shedding light on its various forms and tactics employed by narcissists to exert control and undermine their victims. With clarity and compassion, I provide listeners with practical guidance on how to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse, empowering them to break free from its toxic grip. The episode also explores the vital aspects of healing and support, offering valuable strategies and resources for those on the ...
Unmasking Narcissistic Abuse: Healing, Support, and Moving Forward
June 16, 2023 15:00 - 19 minutes - 13.1 MBIn this episode, I dive into the depths of this manipulative behavior, shedding light on its various forms and tactics employed by narcissists to exert control and undermine their victims. With clarity and compassion, I provide listeners with practical guidance on how to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse, empowering them to break free from its toxic grip. The episode also explores the vital aspects of healing and support, offering valuable strategies and resources for those on the pa...
When those around you fail to support or believe you
June 08, 2023 15:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBThere is a challenge when facing disbelief and inadequate support from those around you. I discuss the emotional toll it takes when people you trust fail to believe in your abilities or offer the support you need. Drawing from real-life experiences the discussion sheds light on the reasons behind this and provides strategies to cope with such circumstances. Join me as I explore the power of self-belief, resilience, and finding alternative sources of support when facing skepticism from others...
93. When Those Around Fail to Support or Believe You
June 08, 2023 15:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBIn this podcast episode, I speak about the challenge of dealing with disbelief and a lack of support from those closest to us. Drawing from personal experiences, we candidly explore the emotional toll it takes when the people we trust fail to recognize our abilities and offer the encouragement we seek. Through insightful discussions, we shed light on the possible reasons behind this skepticism and how it can impact our self-esteem. This episode will empower you with effective strategies to...
5 ways healing alone makes it harder
May 25, 2023 16:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MBIn today's episode, I am talking about the importance of support and community regarding healing. Healing can be difficult, and trying to do it alone can be even harder. Having a supportive community around you can make all the difference. We'll be exploring the benefits of finding support, as well as some ways to connect with others who are on a similar path. Don't forget to share this episode! For Rising Strong Society, click here Email me here Support the show
92. The Healing Journey: 5 Reasons We Need Support and Community
May 25, 2023 16:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MBIn today's episode, I am talking about the importance of support and community regarding healing. Healing can be difficult, and trying to do it alone can be even harder. Having a supportive community around you can make all the difference. We'll be exploring the benefits of finding support, as well as some ways to connect with others who are on a similar path. Don't forget to share this episode! For Rising Strong Society, click here Email me here Here's all the ways we can connect: Inst...
Financial Abuse and The Side Hustle
May 18, 2023 14:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBThere is such a thing as financial abuse, which is likely why most abuse victims get stuck in relationships they can't get out of. Financial abuse happens in many different forms, but it is a way to keep control, gaslight, and manipulate you like any other form of abuse. In this episode, I talk about two sides of financial abuse and some ways to get your mind ready to make the necessary moves to get going, move forward, and think out of the box. For The Exit Strategy Guide, click here To S...
91. Financial Abuse and the Empowering Side Hustle Guide
May 18, 2023 14:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBThere is such a thing as financial abuse, which is likely why most abuse victims get stuck in relationships they can't get out of. Financial abuse happens in many different forms, but it is a way to keep control, gaslight, and manipulate you like any other form of abuse. In this episode, I talk about two sides of financial abuse and some ways to get your mind ready to make the necessary moves to get going, move forward, and think out of the box. To download the free guides, go to RakelColi...
I failed my kids, I left their dad>
May 04, 2023 02:00 - 19 minutes - 13.6 MBIn today's podcast episode, I will discuss the important topic of not failing our kids because we left their dad. This is a difficult situation that many of us may find ourselves in, but it's important to remember that we can still be great parents even if we are no longer in a relationship with our child's father. Sometimes it is necessary for the health and well-being of those involved in any type of abusive relationship. Join me as we explore this topic further. For The Break Away Journa...
90. I Failed My Kids, I Left Their Dad
May 04, 2023 02:00 - 19 minutes - 13.6 MBIn this episode, I'll talk about a crucial and sensitive matter - the impact of leaving our child's father and how it affects our role as parents. It's essential to acknowledge that even though we may have ended a relationship with their dad, we can still fulfill our responsibilities as caring and nurturing parents. This situation can be challenging, but it's vital to recognize that leaving an abusive relationship is often necessary for the well-being of everyone involved. Together, we'll ...
89. 3 Ways to Recover from Emotional Abuse: Healing & Rebuilding
April 27, 2023 16:00 - 19 minutes - 13.1 MBWelcome to this podcast episode where I will be discussing three effective ways to recover from emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can have a long-lasting impact on a person's mental health and well-being, but there are steps you can take to heal and move forward. In this episode, I will explore the strategies that I have used and recommended. I will provide practical tips and how to use each one, to get you started in your healing journey. Let's get started. For the journal prompts, click he...
3 ways to recover from emotional abuse.
April 27, 2023 16:00 - 19 minutes - 13.1 MBWelcome to this podcast episode where I will be discussing three effective ways to recover from emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can have a long-lasting impact on a person's mental health and well-being, but there are steps you can take to heal and move forward. In this episode, I will explore the strategies that I have used and recommended. I will provide practical tips and how to use each one, to get you started in your healing journey. Let's get started. For journal prompts, click here ...
88. He said he would never do it again
November 04, 2022 04:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf an abusive relationship was always abusive, we would all run away. These relationships run in what is called the abuse cycle, which means there are good times & bad. During these bad times, they will get caught doing things they are not supposed to and they will promise you they will never do it again. If they hurt you physically, they'll always promise they will never do it again. The problem with this is, it goes back to the cycle. An abuser will always repeat their behavior. ...
88. Escaping the Cycle: The Truth Behind "I'll Never Do It Again"
November 04, 2022 04:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf an abusive relationship was always abusive, we would all run away. These relationships run in what is called the abuse cycle, which means there are good times & bad. During these bad times, they will get caught doing things they are not supposed to and they will promise you they will never do it again. If they hurt you physically, they'll always promise they will never do it again. The problem with this is, it goes back to the cycle. An abuser will always repeat their behavior. Don't ...
He said he would never do it again
November 04, 2022 04:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf an abusive relationship was always abusive, we would all run away. These relationships run in what is called the abuse cycle, which means there are good times & bad. During these bad times, they will get caught doing things they are not supposed to and they will promise you they will never do it again. If they hurt you physically, they'll always promise they will never do it again. The problem with this is, it goes back to the cycle. An abuser will always repeat their behavior. Don't fo...
87. I can't leave him
October 28, 2022 20:20 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this episode, I talk about the phrase "I can't leave him". I have been in conversations with many women who are saying this and here are my thoughts on why it's so harmful to keep saying this. You should stop saying: "I am stuck", "I can't leave" and "I'll never be able to leave". These are meant to keep you in the cycle that you are now and are ideas that someone else has put in your mind. Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click here For On...
I can't leave him
October 28, 2022 20:20 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this episode, I talk about the phrase "I can't leave him". I have been in conversations with many women who are saying this and here are my thoughts on why it's so harmful to keep saying this. You should stop saying: "I am stuck", "I can't leave" and "I'll never be able to leave". These are meant to keep you in the cycle that you are now and are ideas that someone else has put in your mind. Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click here For One on One...
87. Breaking Free: Overcoming the Belief That "I Can't Leave Him"
October 28, 2022 20:20 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBIn this episode, I talk about the phrase "I can't leave him". I have been in conversations with many women who are saying this and here are my thoughts on why it's so harmful to keep saying this. You should stop saying: "I am stuck", "I can't leave" and "I'll never be able to leave". These are meant to keep you in the cycle that you are now and are ideas that someone else has put in your mind. Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click here For One on One...
It's not a joke anymore
October 13, 2022 14:45 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBWhen a narcissist tells you "it's a joke", it's not a joke. The fact these words were added after what they just said only means they saw your reaction to what they said. This is a very sensitive topic and I talk about what it means and why they do this in this episode. Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click here For One on One coaching, click here Support the show
86. It's not a joke anymore
October 13, 2022 14:45 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBWhen a narcissist tells you "it's a joke", it's not a joke. The fact these words were added after what they just said only means they saw your reaction to what they said. This is a very sensitive topic and I talk about what it means and why they do this in this episode. Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click here For One on One coaching, click here Support the show
86. Title: Recognizing the Seriousness Behind "It's Just a Joke"
October 13, 2022 14:45 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBWhen a narcissist tells you "It's a joke", it's not a joke. The fact these words were added after what they just said only means they saw your reaction to what they said. This is a very sensitive topic and I talk about what it means and why they do this in this episode. It's essential to shed light on the seriousness of abusive behavior masked as jokes. Whether dealing with a narcissistic partner or any other form of abuse, recognizing the signs is paramount to your safety and well-being. D...
85. The Power of Financial Independence: My Secret to Leaving Him
September 15, 2022 15:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MBIn this podcast episode, I want to share what I think my secret was to leave my narcissist. I thought this was the norm long ago as it was something my mom always told me about, but I also know it is not discussed in many homes. Not only is it a subject that is not widely discussed, but many women are gaslighted into thinking the opposite. It is important that women understand the importance of having and handling their own money. For Come to Rise coaching, click here For my Instagram, cl...
The secret to leaving an abusive relationship that women should know
September 15, 2022 15:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MBIn this podcast episode, I want to share what I think my secret was to leaving my narcissist. I thought this was the norm long ago as it was something my mom always told me about, but I also know it is not discussed in many homes. Not only is it a subject that is not widely discussed, but many women are gaslighted into thinking the opposite. It is important that women understand the importance of having and handling their own money. For Come to Rise coaching, click here For my Instagram, ...
85. The secret to leaving an abusive relationship that women should know
September 15, 2022 15:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MBIn this podcast episode, I want to share what I think my secret was to leaving my narcissist. I thought this was the norm long ago as it was something my mom always told me about, but I also know it is not discussed in many homes. Not only is it a subject that is not widely discussed, but many women are gaslighted into thinking the opposite. It is important that women understand the importance of having and handling their own money. For Come to Rise coaching, click here For my Ins...
How do you leave a narcissist? Here's 6 tips
September 08, 2022 17:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBHow do you leave a narcissist? There is no specific way to leave a narcissist or get out of an abusive relationship, but there are certain things you need to understand and some actions you can take to move in that direction. In this episode, I talk about 6 ways to move you closer to leaving that abusive relationship. For Come to Rise coaching, click here Exit Strategy plan, click here Instagram, click here Episode 66 - Hoovering and why the narcissists use this, listen here Support t...
84. How do you leave a narcissist? Here's 6 tips
September 08, 2022 17:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBHow do you leave a narcissist? There is no specific way to leave a narcissist or get out of an abusive relationship, but there are certain things you need to understand and some actions you can take to move in that direction. In this episode, I talk about 6 ways to move you closer to leaving that abusive relationship. For Come to Rise coaching, click here Exit Strategy plan, click here Instagram, click here Episode 66 - Hoovering and why the narcissists use this, listen here ...
84. How to Leave a Narcissist: 6 Tips
September 08, 2022 17:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBHow do you leave a narcissist? There is no specific way to leave a narcissist or get out of an abusive relationship, but there are certain things you need to understand and some actions you can take to move in that direction. In this episode, I talk about 6 ways to move you closer to leaving that abusive relationship. For Come to Rise coaching, click here Exit Strategy plan, click here Instagram, click here Episode 66. Hoovering: Manipulation Tactics and How to Protect Yourself, listen h...
83. Childhood Trauma & Abusive Relationships
August 25, 2022 05:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBOur childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to attracting toxic or abusive partners. When you grow up in a home that makes you feel like you're not enough or makes you feel like you can't do any better, you grow accustomed to living like this and this becomes your normal. Therefore, when you get older, you might encounter relationships where you might get the feeling that you're not deserving any better, which makes you fall into abusive relationships, not recognizing the pattern...
83. Childhood Trauma and Abusive Relationships
August 25, 2022 05:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBOur childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to attracting toxic or abusive partners. When you grow up in a home that makes you feel like you're not enough or makes you feel like you can't do any better, you grow accustomed to living like this and this becomes your normal. Therefore, when you get older, you might encounter relationships where you might get the feeling that you're not deserving any better, which makes you fall into abusive relationships, not recognizing the pattern as a to...
Childhood Trauma & Abusive Relationships
August 25, 2022 05:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBOur childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to attracting toxic or abusive partners. When you grow up in a home that makes you feel like you're not enough or makes you feel like you can't do any better, you grow accustomed to living like this and this becomes your normal. Therefore, when you get older, you might encounter relationships where you might get the feeling that you're not deserving any better, which makes you fall into abusive relationships, not recognizing the pattern as a to...
82. Finding Liberation: Leaving a Narcissist
August 05, 2022 20:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about how hard it is to feel good about yourself if you are in an environment that is always holding you back and making you feel less than you deserve. I will go into why it is almost impossible to feel good about yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, but I also talk about the things that you could start doing while you are working on moving from the relationship. To get The Break Away Journal, go to thebreakawayjournal.com For more information, or if you a...
82. There's No Way You Will Feel Better About Yourself
August 05, 2022 20:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about how hard it is to feel good about yourself if you are in an environment that is always holding you back and making you feel less than you deserve. I will go into why it is almost impossible to feel good about yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, but I also talk about the things that you could start doing while you are working on moving from the relationship. To get The Break Away Journal, go to thebreakawayjournal.com For more information, or ...
There's No Way You Will Feel Better About Yourself
August 05, 2022 20:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBIn this episode, I talk about how hard it is to feel good about yourself if you are in an environment that is always holding you back and making you feel less than you deserve. I will go into why it is almost impossible to feel good about yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, but I also talk about the things that you could start doing while you are working on moving from the relationship. To get The Break Away Journal, go to thebreakawayjournal.com For more information, or if you a...
81. Emotional Abuse: Breaking Down the 7 Ways It Can Destroy You
July 28, 2022 18:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBIn today's episode, I talk about 7 different ways emotional abuse can break you down. Abuse is not just physical and there are different types of abuse, emotional abuse is just one type. Emotional abuse can be done when the victim doesn't even know is being abused. They use different techniques such as gaslighting to help change your perception about what is going on, which actually makes you a little bit confused and makes you feel like you're going crazy. This is just one of their tactics ...
81. 7 Ways emotional abuse breaks you down
July 28, 2022 18:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBIn today's episode, I talk about 7 different ways emotional abuse can break you down. Abuse is not just physical and there are different types of abuse, emotional abuse is just one type. Emotional abuse can be done when the victim doesn't even know is being abused. They use different techniques such as gaslighting to help change your perception about what is going on, which actually makes you a little bit confused and makes you feel like you're going crazy. This is just one of their ...
7 Ways emotional abuse breaks you down
July 28, 2022 18:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBIn today's episode, I talk about 7 different ways emotional abuse can break you down. Abuse is not just physical and there are different types of abuse, emotional abuse is just one type. Emotional abuse can be done when the victim doesn't even know is being abused. They use different techniques such as gaslighting to help change your perception about what is going on, which actually makes you a little bit confused and makes you feel like you're going crazy. This is just one of their tactics ...
79. Post-Separation Abuse
July 14, 2022 21:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MBWe tend to believe that the abuse ends the moment we step out of the relationship or the moment they decide to end it. The truth is the abuse does not end when the relationship ends and you need to be prepared for what is to come. It is still 100% better to be out of reach physically, even when they can still try to reach out. In this episode, I talk about 6 types of post-separation abuse. These can help you be ready and also know that it is normal. You are not alone in this either, ...
Post-Separation Abuse
July 14, 2022 21:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MBWe tend to believe that the abuse ends the moment we step out of the relationship or the moment they decide to end it. The truth is the abuse does not end when the relationship ends and you need to be prepared for what is to come. It is still 100% better to be out of reach physically, even when they can still try to reach out. In this episode, I talk about 6 types of post-separation abuse. These can help you be ready and also know that it is normal. You are not alone in this either, it's the...
79. Surviving Post-Separation Abuse: Navigating the Tactics
July 14, 2022 21:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MBWe tend to believe that the abuse ends the moment we step out of the relationship or the moment they decide to end it. The truth is the abuse does not end when the relationship ends and you need to be prepared for what is to come. It is still 100% better to be out of reach physically, even when they can still try to reach out. In this episode, I talk about 6 types of post-separation abuse. These can help you be ready and also know that it is normal. You are not alone in this either, it's the...
80. Why You Keep Forgetting The Abuse: Remember and Break Free
July 14, 2022 21:00 - 16 minutes - 11.3 MBHave you realized how you seem to forget abusive episodes in your relationship? In this episode, I talk about why this happens and the one thing you could do to keep this from happening. Our brains are made to protect us, therefore the abuse is stored differently in our brains and that is why we seem to forget it. The reality is that our brains stores it differently because it cannot make sense of a loved one hurting us. Go on a journey with me to understand why this information seems to d...